We can make mistakes at any age.Some mistakes we make are about money.But most mistakes are about people.“Did Jerry really care when I broke up with Helen?… ”, “When I got that great job,did Jerry really feel good about it,as a friend? Or did he envy my luck?” When we look back, doubts like these can make US feel bad.But when we look back.It’s too late. Why do we go wrong about our friends-or our enemies? Sometimes what people say hides their real meaning.And if we don’t really listen,we miss the feeling behind the words.
Suppose someone tells you “you’re a lucky dog”.Is he really on your side? if he says.“You’re a lucky guy” or “You’re a lucky gal”.That’s being friendly.But “lucky dog”?There’s a bit of envy in those words Maybe he doesn’t see it himself.But bringing in the ‘‘dog” bit puts you down a little.What he may be saying is that he doesn’t think you deserve your luck.
How can you tell the real meaning behind someone’s words? One way is to take a good look at the person talking.Do his words fit the way he looks? Does what he says square with the tone of voice? His posture(体态)?The look in his eyes? Stop and think.The minute you spend thinking about the real meaning of what people say to you may save another mistake.
1. From the questions in the first paragraph we can learn that the speaker _____ .A.feels happy,thinking of how nice his friends were to him |
B.feels he may not have “read” his friends’ true feelings correctly |
C.thinks it was a mistake to have broken up with his girl friend,Helen. |
D.is sorry that his friends let him down |
to show that ______.
A.the speaker of this sentence is just being friendly |
B.this saying means the same as “You’re a lucky guy” or “You’re a lucky gal” |
C.sometimes the words used by a speaker give a clue to the feeling behind the words |
D.the word “dog” shouldn’t be used to apply to people |
A.avoid mistakes about money and friends |
B.bring the “dog’’ bit into our conversation |
C.avoid mistakes in understanding what people tell you |
D.keep people friendly without trusting them |
A.to notice his tone,his posture,and the look in his eyes |
B.to listen to how he pronounces his words |
C.to check his words against his manner,his tone of voice,and his posture |
D.not to believe what he says |
A.be able to get the real meaning of what people say to you |
B.avoid any mistakes while talking with people who envy you |
C.not lose real friends who say things that do not please you |
D.be able to observe people as they are talking to you |
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Paint your intersection(十字路口). A street intersection is not something you think of as interesting. However, In Portland, people in some neighborhoods have made them really worth stopping for. Some paint, creative people and a bright design are all it takes to bring neighbors together and produce something the whole community can be proud of.
Make a poetry box. The idea is simple, really - create a box with a glass or clear plastic front. Put this box on a post. Write your own poem or print out your favorite classic and display it in the box for all your neighbors to see. You can also set up a drop box and encourage neighbors to write their own poems and drop them in the box. Display the poems from your neighbors as the poems come in.
Set up a tool library. How often do you need a leaf blower? Or a chain saw? And how often do you use that electric cake mixer? To01 libraries have space where neighbors can drop their hardly used tools to share. Check with a local business, community center or church group about space that can house a tool library.
Turn your front yard into your backyard. How often do you meet your neighbors in your backyard? Probably never. Moving your typical(典型的) backyard activities to the front immediately makes you more visible(可见的). You can create front-yard gardens, build community benches and even just barbecue in your front yard. They are all great ways to connect with your community.
With effort, you'll make your neighborhood a much better place.
1. How many ways are mentioned to build a better community?
A.Three. | B.Four. | C.Five. | D.Six. |
A.Writing poems is a good way to connect with your neighbours. |
B.Each family may have hardly used tools for others to share. |
C.In Portland, the intersections in some neighborhoods are very attractive. |
D.Move your backyard activities to the front yard and you'll have chances to meet your neighbors. |
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【推荐2】Next time a customer comes to your office, offer him a cup of coffee. And when you’re doing your holiday shopping online, make sure you’re holding a large glass of iced tea. The physical sensation (感觉)of warmth encourages emotional (情感的) warmth, while a cold drink in hand stops you from making unwise decisions—those are the practical lesson being drawn from recent research by psychologist John A. Bargh.
Psychologists have known that one person’s feeling of another’s “warmth” is a powerful determiner (决定因素) in social relationships. Judging someone to be either “warm” or “cold” is a primary consideration. Much of this is rooted in very early childhood experiences, Bargh argues, when babies’ understanding of the world around them is shaped by physical sensations, particularly warmth and coldness. Classic studies by Harry Harlow, published in 1958, showed monkeys preferred to stay close to a cloth “mother” rather than one made of wire, even when the wire “mother” carried a food bottle. Harlow’s work and later studies have led psychologists to stress the need for warm physical contact from caregivers to help young children grow into healthy adults with normal social skills.
Feelings of “warmth” and “coldness” in social judgments appear to be universal. Although no worldwide study has been done, Bargh says that describing people as “warm” or “cold” is common to many cultures, and studies have found those feelings influence judgment in dozens of countries.
To test the relationship between physical and psychological warmth, Bargh did an experiment which involved 41 college students. A research assistant handed the students either a hot cup of coffee, or a cold drink, to hold while the researcher filled out a short information form. The drink was then handed back. After that, the students were asked to rate (评估) the personality of the assistant . Those who had briefly held the warm drink regarded the assistant as warmer than those who had held the iced drink.
“We based on our physical experiences even when we think abstractly (抽象地).” says Bargh.
1. According to Paragraph 1, a person’s emotion may be affected by ______.A.the visitors to his office | B.the psychology lessons he has |
C.the things he has bought online | D.his physical feeling of coldness |
A.adults should develop social skills | B.caregivers should be healthy adult |
C.babies need warm physical contacts | D.monkeys have social relationships |
A.abstract thinking does not come from physical experiences |
B.physical temperature affects how we see others |
C.feelings of warmth and coldness are studied worldwide |
D.capable persons are often cold to others |
A.Drinking for Better Social Relationships. |
B.Physical Sensations and Emotions. |
C.Developing Better Drinking Habits. |
D.Experiments of Rating the Personality. |
【推荐3】It is necessary for students to learn some team skills like developing relationships, communicating well with others and solving problems. Here are two fun team activities.
Activity 1: Water Relay (接力赛)
Tools
●Two large buckets (水桶) to hold water.
●One small bucket for each team member.
Instructions
●Fill one large bucket with water.
●Make holes in the bottom of the small buckets.
●Have the team members line up between the two large buckets.
●Pass the water from one large bucket to the other, using small buckets. Try to keep as much water as possible.
Why It’s Fun
●It’s fun to work out a way to lose as little water as possible.
●It's water. Isn't it fun to get you wet on a hot summer day?
Activity 2: Truth and Lie
This activity will allow team members to learn about each other.
Instructions
●Have each team member think of three pieces of information about themselves, and one of them is a lie.
●Each team member tells the group all the three pieces of information. Let the other team members guess which is the lie.
Why It’s Fun
●Students love talking about themselves and this gives them the chance to do so.
●Members can learn about each other.
●Members will be surprised at what others think of them.
1. How many team skills does the writer mention in Paragraph 1?A.One. | B.Two. | C.Three. | D.Four. |
A.lose as little water as possible |
B.pass the water as slowly as possible |
C.get themselves wet |
D.pass the large bucket to the other team |
A.talk about themselves |
B.share love with each other |
C.tell lies to surprise others |
D.learn all the information about others |
A.a travel guide | B.a science book |
C.a news website | D.a school magazine |