My teacher picked up a piece of broken glass and asked ,“Who broke this window ?”

Thirty boys tried to think about not only what they had done , but also what our teacher may have found out. She seldom became angry , but she was this time.

“Oh,” I thought. I was the one who broke the window. It was caused by a mischievous throw of a baseball. If I admitted the guilt , I would be in a lot of trouble. How could I be able to pay for a big window like that? I didn't even get an allowance. “My father is going to have a fit ,” I thought. I didn’t want to raise my hand , but some force much stronger than I was pulled it skyward. I told the truth. “I did it.” It was hard enough to say what I had done.

My teacher took down a book from one of our library shelves and I had never known my teacher to strike a student , but I feared she was going to start with me.

“I know how you like birds,” she said as she stood looking down at my guilt-ridden face. “Here is that field guide about birds that you are constantly checking out. It is yours now. It’s time that we should get a new one for the school anyway. You will not be punished as long as you remember that I am not rewarding you for your misdeed, but I am rewarding you for your truthfulness.”

I couldn’t believe it ! I wasn’t being told off and I got my own bird field guide--the very one that I had been saving money up to buy.

All that remains of that day is my memory and the lesson my teacher taught me. That lesson stays with me every day, and it will echo forever.

Why we cry with happiness show: Responding with a negative reaction helps us deal with extreme joy. If you cry with happiness at weddings, you are responding to a happy experience with a negative reaction. The researchers believe the unusual reaction may help renew emotional balance in us and keep extreme emotions under control. The findings make it clear how people express and control their emotions, which could help improve their understanding of people’s mental(精神的) health.

Dr Oriana Aragon set out to explore the phrase “tears of joy”, which she said never made sense to her. But after studying a series of incongruous(不和谐的) expressions, she now understands better why people cry when they are happy. “People may be renewing emotional balance with these expressions,” she explained. “They seem to take place when people are struck by strong positive emotions. People, who do this, seem to recover better from those strong emotions.”

The report show various examples of responding to a positive experience with a negative emotion, such as, a crying wife seeing the husband returning from war again, and teenage girls screaming at a Justin Bieber concert. Examples also include a baseball player who hits a home run, only to be slapped(拍) on the back by teammates, as well as when people cannot help kissing babies’ faces who they consider lovely.

Dr Aragon and her team discovered that people, who expressed negative reactions to positive news, were able to moderate(缓和) strong emotions more quickly. There is also some evidence that strong negative feelings may provoke positive expressions. For example, nervous laughter often happens when people are faced with a hard situation. We’ve seen people smiling during times of extreme sadness.

“The findings affect our knowledge of how people express and control their emotions, which is importantly related to mental and physical health, the quality of relationships with others, and even how well people work together,” Dr Aragon said.

Everybody gets angry, but out-of-control anger isn't good for you or those around you. So here are five simple strategies to help you learn how to manage your anger:

• Relax. Breathe deeply, from your stomach.     41     Repeat it to yourself and visualize a relaxing time and experience.

• Change the way you think. When you're angry, your thinking can get exaggerated (夸大的).     42     For instance, instead of telling yourself, “Oh, it's terrible! Everything's ruined,” tell yourself, “It's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world.”

•     43     Statements like “This never works.” or “You're always forgetting things.” will make you feel your anger is justified (情有可原的) and there's no way to solve the problem. They might upset people who might be willing to work with you on a solution.

• Have a better communication. Angry people tend to jump to conclusions. If you are in a heated discussion, slow down.     44     And take your time before answering. Instead of saying the first thing that comes into your head, think carefully about what you want to say.

• Use humor. Psychologists say that highly angry people tend to think “things ought to go my way!” “Silly humor” can help you get a more balanced perspective. So, when you feel that anger coming the next time, picture yourself as a king or queen, walking around, admired by everybody, and getting your own way in every situation. The more detail you can get into your imaginary scenes, the more likely it is to put a smile on your face.     45