“Sometimes I’m so envious of my friends, I hate them,” says Kimberly. “I was at dinner a month ago, celebrating a friend’s engagement. Suddenly I remarked that 50% of marriages end in divorce. I was upset about not having a serious relationship myself. My envy took over, and I became a different person.”
Envy is the desire for what someone else has and resentment(愤恨)of that person for having it. Kimberley was envious, but that doesn’t mean she is a bad person. “Everyone experiences envy,” explains psychologist Karen Peterson.
Envy doesn’t have to make us feel powerless and sorry for ourselves. Instead, it can motivate us to try to achieve what we want. There are effective ways for dealing with envy and turning it into something useful.
Kimberly’s envy caused her to make the unkind remark about divorce. If you have a similar desire to express your envy in a negative way, stop yourself. Instead, think about what it is that you are envious of. Kimberly admitted that when her friend announced her engagement, “it made me feel lonely and insecure.” Once you figure out why you are envious, it’s much easier to eventually grow from the experience. “Envy can be an excellent teacher,” states Peterson, “as long as you are open to learning its lessons.”
Lucy and her friend were both trying to get a better job at their company. Lucy thought that she would get the promotion, but things didn’t work out that way. Instead, her friend got the job, and Lucy became upset and jealous. Full of envy, she started saying hurtful things about her friend. “That wasn’t like me, but I couldn’t think straight,” she explains. Lucy said unkind things because not getting the job made her feel bad about herself, explains Peterson. Her reaction didn’t make her feel better, though. It just strengthened her negative feelings. If something similar happens to you, Peterson says that you should try to understand why your friend got the promotion. That way you can learn from the experience instead of reacting in a negative way.
1. Karen Peterson thinks envy ______.A.turns one into a different person | B.can make one feel powerless |
C.is connected with hatred | D.is normal in humans |
A.consult a teacher for help. | B.state your negative thoughts. |
C.find out what makes you envious | D.figure out what lesson you should learn |
A.What Envy Means to Friends? | B.Is Envy Hurting or Helping you? |
C.Why Do People Make Unkind Remarks? | D.How Can You Get Along with Friends? |
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【推荐1】How to Live a Happy
Happiness is what we need most with the increase of Pressure in modern life.
●Take exercise. Other than health benefits that are too numerous to mention, exercise makes you smarter, happier, improves sleep, and makes you feel better about your body.
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●Challenge yourself.
●Laugh. Laughter has similar effects to physical exercise. It increases blood pressure, the heart rate and the rate of breathing; it also works several groups of muscles in the face, the stomach, and the feet. It can even reduce the effect of pain on the body. Humor is a good way to cause laughter,
A.Spend time with friends and family |
B.Do something kind for the people you care about |
C.However, sometimes it seems far away from us |
D.Learning another language can keep your mind sharp |
E.Life is always full of hope |
F.It would be better if you take exercise in nature |
G.Just thinking about funny moments or things can help a lot. |
【推荐2】Ideas of making the first week of high school easy
Frank, Aged 21
I think almost every kid feels both nervous and excited before their first day of high school. You will probably love it. I know I did. You should join some sports or activities that will make your high school experience more enjoyable. Good luck!
Sharon, Aged 22
The most important thing to keep in mind when going into high school is to be yourself. Besides, I don’t know what your middle school was like, but high school teachers will not care about things such as how much homework you already have in one night. It’s best to learn to deal with things and manage your time wisely so you can achieve everything you need to do.
Eddie, Aged 20
When I started high school, I was really nervous too, especially since I had been homeschooled (家中教学) all through middle school and didn’t really know anyone. I suppose the best advice would be to just relax. The first couple of days can be a little bit hard, but things will become easier before you know it.
David, Aged 19
I’m not going to lie. The first day is kind of frightening. But you’ll get used to it. Don’t be afraid of anyone; upperclassmen (高年级学生) will pick on you more if you let them know you’re afraid. Just take it easy. Making some friends and staying with them will greatly help you get used to high school quickly. After the first week it’s really not bad at all. Don’t worry.
1. What can we infer (推断) from Sharon about high school?A.Teachers are quite strict. |
B.Students often stay up at night. |
C.Teachers provide much care for students. |
D.Students should make good use of their time. |
A.Bored. | B.Excited. |
C.Worried. | D.Relaxed. |
A.Frank. | B.Eddie. |
C.Sharon. | D.David. |
【推荐3】I’m often asked how to study English effectively. I think this means getting the most out of your study time, and that means variety.
Study Every Day
A Little Grammar, a Little Listening, a Little Reading, and a Little Writing
Make sure that you study a number of areas rather than focusing on just one. Study a little grammar, then do a short listening exercise, and then read an article on the same topic. Don’t do too much; twenty minutes on three different types of exercises is plenty!
Review Grammar as You Watch or Read
Give yourself one grammar goal when reading a new article or watching a new video.
Use Different Learning Methods
Don’t just use one way to study English. Use many kinds of methods which will make all the parts of your brain help you. For example, if you are learning new vocabulary, you can create a word map, describe a picture, make a list...
You can practice the exercises together, have conversations together (in English), and, as you study English together, help each other with exercises you may not understand.
A.Forget Grammar |
B.Find Some Friends |
C.It’s important to study English every day |
D.All of these methods together help with your learning |
E.Here are some basic ways to help you as you study English |
F.Here are some ways to help you make good use of your study time |
G.For example, try to write down each example of a form you are studying such as the present tense |
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And we need heroes today more than ever. Our modern society is terribly confused about the difference between a hero and a celebrity (名人). And the difference is significant. A celebrity is all about fame-temporary, superficial fame, usually for qualities that are easy to see: a pretty face, a great dance move.
Heroes, real heroes, are all around us. They truly hold our world together, through their unselfish devotion to helping others, supporting families, teaching children, protecting the environment.
Yet, young people hear a lot more about celebrities than about heroes.
Truth is, there is a potential hero, a future difference maker, in every young person. Each of them, from whatever background, is a large amount of untapped (未开发的) energy-a positive force who can do something to steer that communal boat that carries us all.
A.A hero, by contrast, is about character |
B.They don’t want fame, or glory, or even credit |
C.All of us-especially young people-need heroes |
D.All of us need to believe in our own abilities to help people in need |
E.Worse yet, young people are treated too often as just another target market by advertisers |
F.They have discovered that they can build on their own energy and ideals to do something truly great |
G.If young people believe in their own power and use it, they will discover that any person can make a genuine, lasting impact |
【推荐2】Does life seem to be full of impossible problems? How many times do you find yourself saying things like “I really don’t understand this maths problem”? Maybe it’s time to introduce yourself to the power of yet. By adding this simple word, you can change everything — “I really don’t understand this maths problem yet.”
I read about a school that has transformed the way it marks its students’ exams. The school recognized that the old pass/fail system wasn’t helping students’ motivation. If you passed, then great, but those students who didn’t pass often felt like failures. So now students who don’t get the score they need to pass, don’t see a big red “F” for fail on their exam papers; instead, they see a “Not yet”.
But don’t worry if you think that you have a fixed mindset. You can train yourself to develop a growth mindset. Stop believing that you can’t and realize that you just can’t yet.
A.Once you start doing this |
B.With a strong growth mindset |
C.Suddenly, the impossible becomes possible |
D.That way the students feel that they are on a journey |
E.They enjoy the challenge and believe they can change |
F.Anyone can make a big difference by doing the following things |
G.This kind of thinking is part of what experts call “having a growth mindset” |
【推荐3】When I was little, I liked to be silly with people I knew, especially with my parents and friends. One day my mother was cooking in the kitchen and my younger brother was playing near the window. I ran to my mother and said, “My brother fell down from the window!” She was very scared about my brother and then I said, “Don’t worry, just I’m joking.” And my mother shouted to me, “If you do it again, I’ll punish you.”
One day I went swimming with my friends in the sea. I wanted to be silly with my friends. In the beginning, I went swimming alone, and I called to my friends, “HELP ME!” All my friends tried to help me and in the end they knew I was joking. But the next time I wasn’t joking. I swam in a deep place and I couldn’t swim there. I almost drowned. I called my friends to help me and nobody helped me. In the end, they discovered I was telling the truth. They helped me by calling the police and took me to the emergency center. From that time until this moment, I don’t like to joke with anyone. I think this is the best lesson in my life.
1. What does the underlined part “I liked to be silly with people” mean?A.I was thought to be stupid. | B.I couldn’t understand other people. |
C.I often did wrong things. | D.I used to play jokes on people. |
A.Because they thought he was joking. |
B.Because they were angry with him. |
C.Because they depended on the police. |
D.Because they couldn’t swim to the deep sea, either. |
A.The writer is a serious person now. | B.The writer is good at his study now. |
C.The writer still enjoys telling jokes now. | D.The writer doesn’t swim any more. |
A.An unforgettable adventure | B.A good lesson in life |
C.A naughty child | D.Don’t be silly |