I am a good mother of three children. I have tried never to let my profession stand in the way of being a good parent.
I no longer consider myself the center of the universe. I show up. I listen. I try to laugh. I am a good friend to my husband. I have tried to make marriage vows (誓言) mean what they say. I am a good friend to my friends, and they to me. Without them, there would be nothing to say to you today.
So here’s what I want to tell you today: Get a life — a real life, not a desire of the next promotion (提升), the bigger paycheck, or the larger house. Get a life in which you are not alone. Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not leisure (空闲), it is work. Pick up the phone. Send an e-mail. Write a letter. And realize that life is the best thing and that you have no business taking it for granted.
It’s so easy to waste our lives, our days, our hours, and our minutes. It’s so easy to exist instead of to live. I learned to live many years ago. Something really, really bad happened to me, something that changed my life in some ways that, if I had my choice, it would never have been changed at all. And what I learned from it is what, today, seems to be the hardest lesson of all.
I learned to love the journey, not the destination (目的地). I learned to look at all the good in the world and try to give some of it back because I believed in it, completely and totally. And I tried to do that, in part, by telling others what I had learned.
By telling them this: Read in the backyard with the sun on your face. Learn to be happy. And think of life as a deadly illness, because if you do, you will live it with joy and passion as it ought to be lived.
1. What can be inferred from the passage?A.The author is a success in personal life. |
B.The author didn’t try her best to work well. |
C.The author spent all her time caring for her children. |
D.The author likes traveling very much. |
A.make a living rather than live a real life |
B.work rather than enjoy life |
C.waste a lot in life |
D.forget the most important lessons in life |
A.Through social experience. |
B.By learning from her friends. |
C.Through an unfortunate experience. |
D.From her children and husband. |
A.Do it well to serve others. |
B.Earn enough money to make life better. |
C.Try your best to get a higher position and a pay raise. |
D.Don’t let it affect your real life. |
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【推荐1】As Chinese new Year approaches, many people go on house cleaning.
Decluttering is important but lacks urgency, so it’s easy to keep putting it off.
Be prepared with a place to put items for disposal.
Make time for weekly and daily decluttering.
A.Reorganize your space. |
B.Empty out all the things. |
C.Decluttering is only half the battle. |
D.Part of the cleaning process is decluttering. |
E.This could be a trash bag, a box or a plastic container. |
F.Schedule a time to do it when you have a few hours free. |
G.Many people just simplify their lives by removing things they don’t need. |
【推荐2】Wearing a face mask will keep you and others safer when you have to leave the house.
●Keep away from certain foods
Onions and garlic not only add flavor to many foods but also add smells that are not easily brushed away. The substances that cause their bad smells make their way into your bloodstream and travel to your lungs, where you breathe them out.
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Saliva (唾液) is the key ingredient in your mouth that helps keep the smell under control because it helps wash away food particles and bacteria. If you are not producing much saliva, try drinking water or chewing sugarless gum.
●Brush your teeth
You’d better brush your teeth at least twice a day to reduce harmful bacteria on your teeth. The sticky buildup on your teeth collects bacteria that cause bad breath, and trapped food adds to the problem.
●Brush your tongue
A.Avoid dry mouth |
B.Wash your hands |
C.That’s the good news |
D.Buy a proper toothbrush instead |
E.Bacteria don’t just live on your teeth |
F.But the experts warn against overdoing it. |
G.Avoiding those foods is the best way to get rid of the problem |
【推荐3】Challenges are part of life and something we can all expect to encounter at one point or another during our lifetime. We handle challenges differently;some of us choose to face them head-on, while others flee in uncertainty.
Educate ourselves. The reason why some issues prove challenging for us is that we aren’t familiar with them.
Be persistent. This is what is required to accomplish anything, especially when it comes to overcoming challenges. No matter how difficult our challenges might be, we must be willing to push through and try again and again until we achieve victory over them.
Ask for help. There are times when we can’t go it alone and need others to help us conquer whatever challenges we face.
A.Meet them head-on. |
B.Adapt a different strategy. |
C.It is said that two heads are better than one. |
D.If we give up, we allow the challenges to conquer us instead. |
E.Therefore, our knowledge and ability to conquer them is limited. |
F.Whatever our positions, we all wish to conquer them and move on. |
G.Some challenges can be overwhelming, making us question our ability to overcome them. |
Over time, he pieced together his idea of what the Island of Inventions was like. It was a secret place, where all the great wise men of the world would meet to learn and invent together. Access to the island was totally restricted. To join, you had to have created some great invention for humanity. Only then could you receive the special invitation — which came with directions to the island.
So Luca spent his youth studying and inventing. Every new idea he got, he made it into an invention, and if there were something he didn't understand, he’d seek others to help him. Soon he met other young inventors and he told them about the Island of Inventions. They too dreamed of one day receiving an invitation letter.
As years passed, the disappointment of not receiving their invitation made Luca and his friends work harder and co-operate more. They would meet in Luca's house, share their ideas and build new machines. Their inventions became known throughout the world, and improved the lives of millions.
But still, no invitation came.
They didn’t lose heart. They continued learning and inventing every day, trying to come up with more and better ideas. Fresh young talent joined their group, as more inventors dreamed of getting to the island.
One day many years later, Luca, already very old, was speaking with a brilliant young man named Roberts, who had written to him, asking him to join the group. Luca started telling the man of the wonderful Island of Inventions, and of how he was sure that some day they would receive an invitation. Surprised, the young inventor interrupted: “You mean this place isn’t the Island of Inventions? Isn't the letter you sent me the real invitation?”
It was only then that Luca realised that his dream had become true in his very own house. No island could exist which would be better than where he was now. No place of invention would be better than what he and his friends had created. Luca felt happy to know that he had always been on the island, and that his life of invention and study had been a truly happy one.
1. Why did Luca and his colleagues probably never receive an invitation to the island?
A.Their ideas were not considered worthy enough. |
B.They were too concerned with acquiring fame. |
C.The organization had already broken up. |
D.The island was not a real place. |
A.The island of inventions did not exist. |
B.He had wasted most of his life. |
C.He had unknowingly built his own dreamland. |
D.He finally would receive his invitation. |
A.Aggressive. | B.Trusting. |
C.Creative. | D.Easy-going. |
【推荐2】It was a cold May morning when I received an intriguing (有趣的) email from an old high school friend inviting me to join a 10-day all-girls surf trip. I knew I had to say yes.
The trip seemed simple enough. Ten women aged 30 to 45, all complete strangers, gathered on the coast of Portugal to try something new: surfing in the Atlantic Ocean.
I have always loved traveling, so I eagerly sent an email to my boss seeking permission from him to make the once-in-a-life trip.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over my past 33 years, it’s that adults typically spend their days mastering the things they’ve done before. It seems like we pride ourselves on becoming experts in whatever field we’ve fallen into, knowing more and more about less and less.
Now, in theory, this is a great strategy, as it allows you to become really, really good at one particular thing, but it also kind of ends up leaving some skills lacking.
I met my new surfing companions on the grass of the hotel lawn in a small surf town called Ericeira. Despite our different personalities and backgrounds, we were all united in a relentless desire to challenge ourselves, learn, tackle and grow.
The shores at Ericeira, where the beginners learn to surf, are shallow and covered with slippery rocks. They make for softer waves but are difficult to navigate.
Guided by our amazing coaches, together, we faced the waves. Sometimes, it poured with rain, and the waves crashed around us, but we were still out there. And with every slip and fall, words of encouragement filled the air.
Honestly, I probably spent most of my days frozen to the bone, but that didn’t matter because a new level of genuine joy and personal achievement had been unlocked. Learning a new skill taught me the humility that can come from doing badly at something new, and the pride that develops when you finally manage to grasp something you’ve been working on.
While surfing might not be my calling, trying it out inspired me to take more risks in life, to step outside of my comfort zone and to never stop believing in myself. You never know what you’re capable of if you don’t go out there and try.
1. What motivated the author to join the surf trip to Portugal?A.Her love for surfing and improving existing skills. |
B.Her desire to reconnect with a high school friend and make new friends. |
C.Her passion for embracing challenges and exploring new places. |
D.The chance to take a break in Portugal from work. |
A.It blocks creativity and exploration. | B.It is essential for career success. |
C.It disturbs one’s work-life balance. | D.It narrows one’s abilities. |
A.Tough but rewarding. | B.Relaxing but unpredictable. |
C.Difficult but interesting. | D.Tiring but meaningful. |
A.She discovered her true calling atter the trip. |
B.She used to lack confidence in herself. |
C.She became more willing to challenge herself. |
D.She went on to become an expert surfer. |
A.The need to seek professional training in all new skills. |
B.The value of pushing your limits and running the risk of something unpleasant. |
C.The benefit of exploring new places with unknown companions. |
D.The importance of being an expert in on field. |
【推荐3】Recently, I said something like this to my 13-year-old son: “I've told you a thousand times, just do your work and we can stop fighting. Why don't you just listen to me? I hate having to shout to get you to pay attention.”
Creating a peaceful relationship with our children is a huge test of emotional intelligence-and particularly empathy. In the above example, there are a number of emotional intelligence failures. I was angry, so I was reacting unconsciously instead of responding intentionally. Under my anger was a feeling of powerlessness and fear. I was scared that he is not self-motivated and won't do well. I reacted to the fear by attacking. I was trying to use my force of will to make him obey.
The first rule of emotional intelligence: When people feel pushed, they resist. I was blaming him, interpreting his lack of interest in homework as a kind of personal attack on me and implying that he was making me behave the way that I behaved. I was focused on what I wanted and my perspective.
I'd like to focus on this last point, because it turns out that this lack of perspective-taking—this lack of empathy—is the key to easing parent-child tension.
When I increase empathy and relook at the situation with compassion, I see a different story. Perhaps he was afraid, too. Perhaps he felt powerless, too. Perhaps he's learned the exact same pattern I've modeled: When you're afraid, attack.
That moment of curiosity is the doorway to empathy, and it's a game changer. Empathy is not actually a complex skill. It's a basic part of the social brain. That little pause of curiosity is a way to step out of the stress reaction, and step into being the person we choose to be.
Hopefully, I'll remember to take that all-important pause and ask myself :I wonder what's really going on for him right now.
1. What phenomenon is described in paragraph 1?A.The parent-child tension. | B.The poor emotional intelligence of parents. |
C.The peaceful communication. | D.The silent resistance from children. |
A.Lacking a sense of fear. | B.Forcing his/her son to give in. |
C.Making personal attacks. | D.Making intentional responses quickly. |
A.Parent-Child Conflicts | B.The Test of Emotional Intelligence |
C.The Doorway to Empathy | D.The Key to Easing Parent-Child Tension |
【推荐1】The key to happiness is how quickly you can get back your focus on what’s important.
—Anonymous
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here’s what happened. I jumped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car’s back end by just inches!
The driver of the other car, who almost caused a big accident, started yelling bad words at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. I said, “Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!” And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call “The Law of the Garbage Truck.”
Many people are like garbage (rubbish) trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of anger and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to throw it away. And if you let them, they’ll throw it away on you. When someone wants to throw their garbage away on you, don’t take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You’ll be happy with what you did.
I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets? It was that day I said, “I’m not going to do any more.”
Successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day. What about you? If you let more garbage trucks pass you by, you’ll be happier. Life’s too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So, Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don’t.
1. What happened one day when the author was taking a taxi?A.The taxi driver was injured. |
B.The taxi almost hit another car. |
C.The author scolded the driver of the other car. |
D.The author learned a lesson from the driver of the garbage truck. |
A.He yelled back at the driver. |
B.He sent the driver to the hospital. |
C.He dumped some garbage in front of his car. |
D.He was friendly towards the driver. |
A.Many people like to drive garbage trucks. |
B.Many people throw garbage away wherever they like. |
C.Many people tend to be very much depressed. |
D.Many people are warm-hearted to make others happy. |
A.Ignore them and go on with our own work. |
B.Try our best to persuade them not to do that again. |
C.Tell them to throw garbage away in the right place. |
D.Take over their work and carry the garbage to somewhere else. |
【推荐2】Yesterday after work, the boss told me I was fired. When I walked along a riverbed sadly, I suddenly realized it was New Year’s Day, a day to start afresh.
I passed by a man holding his son, one or two years old. The baby’s face was in pure joy, and his innocent eyes were full of wonder. The simple sweetness of the baby made me moved.
Walking on, I saw a young couple repairing their bicycle. They smiled at me and said, “Happy New Year!” I smiled and wished them the same. It was a simple thing, but for a moment it brought me a sudden joy.
I kept walking, enjoying the cheerful singing of birds. With people around laughing out loud, an old woman immersed herself in her sewing. She didn’t seem either happy or sad. A feeling of timeless peace flowed through me and all fear of what the future might bring disappeared. I thanked her in my heart, and moved on.
As I reached home, I was filled with great thanks and hope for life, which took me a long time to find. Actually, happiness could be simple and easy. Now I knew whatever the New Year would bring, there would be joy and enough love to help me through the hard times we all had to face.
“Happy New Year!” I said to myself.
1. What did the writer’s boss tell him after work?A.It was New Year’s Day. | B.He was fired. |
C.He needed a day to relax. | D.He had a day off. |
A.age | B.laughing | C.innocence | D.crying |
A.repairing their bicycle | B.waiting for the writer |
C.watching the passers-by | D.celebrating the New Year |
A.Lucky. | B.Hopeless. | C.Fearful. | D.Thankful. |
A.Greetings make people polite. | B.Happiness could be simple and easy. |
C.Walking makes people energetic. | D.Friendship lies in getting together. |
【推荐3】I’ve been teaching college for many years, long enough to note the steady relaxation of attention in matters of student dress. I’ve long been used to the torn jeans, shorts in the dead of the Maine winter, and ball caps worn backward. Still, I took note recently when one of my students showed up in sleep bottoms. I’m familiar with the school of thought that says how students dress is irrelevant, so long as they’re learning. But I also wonder about the wisdom of blurring(模糊) the line between bed and desk.
I smile when I think back on the occasions that my parents associated us with needing to look tidy and neat. Once, when I was 14 and my brother 12, my father announced that he was taking us into Manhattan (just a subway ride away) to see the film “2001: A Space Odyssey.” My brother and I were excited by the proposal, but were momentarily upset when my father directed us to put on our best clothes, including jackets and ties. “But why?” I begged, not wanting to change out of my comfortable jeans, T-shirt, and sneakers.
“Because,” he said, “we’re going to New York.”
I can still see the stars in his eyes as he said these words.
So yes, I’m all for freedom of choice in matters of dress, and yes, I do want my students to be comfortable. But I also want to pay my respects to those students who believe that appearance counts.
I think of the woman – a somewhat older student—I had in class a few years ago. She was someone to whom science did not come easily: She worked hard for respectable grades on every assignment. But I was struck by how tastefully she dressed, day after day. When the course ended, I took a moment to mention this to her. “You always looked so nice,” I remarked. “As if you were ready to take on the world.
She answered, as if it were obvious, “I’ve waited 12 years to return to school, and I dress up to remind myself to be serious about it.”
And, I might add, she seemed perfectly comfortable to me.
1. What kind of feeling is expressed in Paragraph 1?A.Excitement. | B.Curiosity. | C.Sympathy. | D.Discontent. |
A.He valued a sense of ceremony in life. | B.He liked wearing comfortable clothes. |
C.He always thought highly of himself. | D.He was a regular movie-goer. |
A.She achieved high grades easily. | B.She showed great talent for science. |
C.She pursued knowledge at an old age. | D.She attached great importance to her dress. |
A.You are what you wear. | B.Never judge a man by his appearance. |
C.You are never too old to learn. | D.Treat each day like a special day. |