Secrets to Choosing Friends
For your long-term success, you must choose the right friends. Here are some secrets to doing so.
Choose friends with similar values. While diversity is great in many ways, when it comes to your general values and beliefs, it’s best to keep friendships with like-minded people.
Choose friends with common goals. I like to call these your purpose partners.
Choose friends that encourage you.
Choose friends that share the same interests. Friends with similar interests simply make life more fun. You can enjoy outings and activities together. Whether it’s sports, music, performing arts or food, when you share interests, you can get out and do things together.
| A．When you have friends with common goals |
| B．No one wants a friend that is negative or down all the time |
| C．Choose friends from higher levels |
| D．They will encourage you toward achieving them |
| E．You can respect others’ opinions and differences |
| F．You have someone to visit new places and enjoy new experiences with |
| G．Choose friends who can bring balance in areas where you are weaker |
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【推荐1】Anger is a natural feeling that everyone experiences in life. Some researchers believe the first sound a baby makes when born could be a sign of anger. Anger may be the first feeling we have and respond to. It’s in many cases a perfectly healthy feeling. Anger can cause people to make very positive changes in their lives. Sometimes we have to be angry at injustice (不公正), at wrong doings, or even at nature, before we can do what needs to be done to correct wrongs or make things better. But of course, that is not how we usually think of anger.
Most people think of anger as a feeling we must keep under control. Children are sometimes sent to their rooms or punished for expressing anger in an uncontrolled way. Parents tell a child to control himself when the child shows anger. We may be angry with friends or at work, but we know it’s not right to show it. Very early in life, we learn that anger is something that must be controlled.
We learn this for a good reason. Uncontrolled anger can lead to fights, car accidents, bad relationships with others, unacceptable social behavior, and many other problems. However, many experts say that if one suppresses his anger, he may suffer serious mental and physical health problems. So what can we do to understand and calm this feeling?
One solution is to talk about it with someone we trust, for example, a good friend. We can also try to walk away from a situation that causes anger, ask a doctor for advice, or just exercise more in our daily life. And of course we may have many other methods. Whatever solution we choose, as long as we are trying to find the solution to the problem, we have already taken the first step in the right direction.
1. According to Paragraph 1, anger can _____.| A．lead to justice | B．keep us healthy |
| C．help us tell right from wrong | D．help us make things better |
| A．We are taught to control anger. |
| B．Anger appears early in life. |
| C．We shouldn’t get angry at work. |
| D．Angry children should be punished. |
| A．holds in | B．takes in | C．expresses | D．understands |
| A．Excellent physical health. |
| B．A talk with a close friend. |
| C．Some exercises given by teachers. |
| D．A good relationship with others. |
| A．Anger shown by children is unacceptable. |
| B．Anger leads to deadly mental and physical illnesses. |
| C．Anger can be a healthy feeling and need be treated properly. |
| D．Anger builds up relationships with our friends or workmates. |
【推荐2】Tai chi has been studied scientifically in recent years. Evidence suggests that tai chi may offer numerous benefits beyond stress reduction. Wondering how to get started in tai chi?
A tai chi instructor can teach you some specific positions and how to control your breathing.
Under the guidance of the tai chi instructor, you may find it helpful to practice tai chi in the same place and at the same time every day to develop a routine.
If you want to reap the greatest stress reduction and other health benefits from tai chi, just find an instructor and practice it regularly!
| A．An instructor also can teach you how to practice tai chi safely. |
| B．Keep in mind that tai chi instructors don’t have to be licensed. |
| C．Some qualified web-based distance education is also an option. |
| D．Taking classes is one of the best ways to become a tai chi instructor. |
| E．You can consider seeking guidance from qualified tai chi instructors. |
| F．Eventually, you may feel confident enough to do tai chi on your own. |
| G．But if your schedule is flexible, do tai chi whenever you have a few minutes. |
【推荐3】Easy Ways to Get Over Your Laziness
Laziness appears for very specific reasons. Maybe we don’t know how to do the task.
Make sure you’re not overwhelmed(不堪重负的).
Sometimes we freeze up when we’re overwhelmed by everything we have to do--we freeze up and don’t do anything at all.
Check your motivation.
Similarly, if you’re not motivated it is very easy to slip into what looks like laziness.
Your environment and the people around you matter. Are you in a space that makes it easy to stay organized and productive? Do the people around you spend more time complaining than following their passions? If you surround yourself with people who love what they do, and are creative and motivated, their enthusiasm will rub off on you. Make sure that your space gives you everything you need to work well.
Value your time.
| A．Look at your surroundings. |
| B．To be productive we need to be motivated. |
| C．Make the most of the time you spend working. |
| D．So select just one thing at a time, do it, and ignore the rest. |
| E．Maybe we feel overwhelmed by everything we have to do. |
| F．We may procrastinate（拖延）because we are not sure what to do next. |
| G．Do you have realistic expectations on how much you are truly able to accomplish? |
【推荐1】How to support your friends when they are down
One of the greatest things about having friends is that they can be there for you when you’re feeling down.
Be an active listener. When your friends pause and look to you for a response, repeat what they just said.
Give your friend a hug, whether he or she shared anything with you or not.
Don’t use this as an opportunity to talk about yourself and your own problems.
| A．This is about your friend! |
| B．They can cheer you up, or even help you in a way. |
| C．Know the situation before you attempt to help your friend. |
| D．Don’t make your friend do anything he or she doesn’t want to. |
| E．Then tell them about some problems that have made you sad or angry. |
| F．But do it in your own words to show that you are really listening to him or her. |
| G．Sometimes, a friend just needs another friend’s touch to make him/her feel better. |
【推荐2】Among my oldest friends, I’m known as the mysterious one, the guy who rarely shows up, is always there not here. I had high school buddies, and I loved them all dearly though we boys didn’t say such things back then. Then life happened. Most of us left our hometown. Meet-ups become rare occasions.
One of those old friends, whom I had not seen since our high school graduation, reached out recently to say he’d be near where I am, and hoped we could meet up. He’d done the same thing about 10 years ago, and I’d begged off for some stupid reason related to my shyness, or rather, my introverted nature. I’m older and a bit wiser now, and I’ve been packing around some guilt over that missed opportunity for 10 years, so I agreed readily.
We met for dinner, perhaps two hours, and rarely had I felt at ease with other humans as I did with him. We talked and talked. About who we were then. Who we are now. And what made us the jerks (混蛋) we were then. We acknowledged that if not for each other, and the circles of good people we ran with back then, the good friends who kept us reasonably on track and in check, life could have easily gone south for either of us. Each of us recalled things the other had no memory of. Fragments of memories, scattered yet precious. We know we were tight then, and we value that friendship and shared experience still today.
People are fundamentally social beings and enjoy connecting with others. Maintaining social connections is good for our mental and physical health. However, despite the importance and enjoyment of social connection, people significantly underestimate how much others will appreciate being reached out to.
There’s something about the friends you make in youth that’s near impossible to recreate with friends you make later in life. I’m telling you this to remind you that your old friends would love to hear from you, maybe a simple text, a little hello, maybe even a phone call or a meetup.
1. The author refused the meet-up about 10 years ago probably because ______.| A．he was not a sociable man. | B．he was not clever enough. |
| C．he lived far away from his friends. | D．he felt guilty about his friends. |
| A．Anxious and nervous. | B．Excited and energetic. |
| C．Comfortable and relaxed. | D．Sad and regretful. |
| A．They could have easily been off the track in life. |
| B．They might have settled down in the southern region. |
| C．Their friendship could have easily turned sour. |
| D．They could have faced financial difficulties. |
| A．To describe the author’s re union with an old friend. |
| B．To reflect on the value of friendships formed in youth. |
| C．To encourage readers to reach out to their old friends. |
| D．To discuss the importance of social connections. |
【推荐3】Sally and I founded Armadillo & Co. almost 10 years ago. From the start, we’ve poured our hearts into making the business sustainable (可持续发展的). We only use natural or recycled materials, and every step of the dyeing (染色), spinning, weaving, and finishing process is done by hand using techniques that have been handed down through generations. As a result, each carpet is truly unique and full of soul, like a modern artwork.
The other concept of our company is social responsibility. We ensure our weavers are paid fair wages, and we’re a member of Care & Fair. For the last six years, we’ve also sponsored(赞助) a local primary school attended by many of our staff’s children. Each purchase of one of our carpets goes toward paying for the teachers’ salaries, uniforms, textbooks and regular health and eye checks. This year we’re launching a scholarship program to help the highest performing girls complete their secondary education. We’re as devoted to giving back as we are to making beautiful products.
I think the biggest challenge in my career is the balance between life and work. Many women struggle with this, especially mothers. My three children are so young, and my husband works and travels a lot, which is even more challenging. Meanwhile, time difference is a big challenge — our team is spread across the globe, which means long working hours on Skype or in the air travelling. It can also be difficult to switch off or draw the line when you see an opportunity to do more or do better, but it’s important to set aside some time for rest.
I’m fortunate to work with Sally because we perfectly complement (补足) each other. I’m all about the big picture while she’s much more into the finer details. I’m the accelerator(油门), and she’s the brake. Separately we’d be a disaster, but together it’s a really strong, symbiotic (共生的), and respectful relationship.”
1. What can we know about the products of the author’s company?| A．They are worth collecting. | B．They are made from wastes. |
| C．They are complex and priceless. | D．They are environmentally friendly. |
| A．Funding the top girl students. | B．Sponsoring the staff’s children. |
| C．Setting up a charity organization. | D．Donating money to the poor students. |
| A．Men are usually busier than women. |
| B．Work and rest should be combined properly. |
| C．Working hard is challenging for women. |
| D．We should balance between life and work perfectly. |
| A．Generous ad humorous. | B．Outgoing and determined. |
| C．Caring and responsible. | D．Shy and sensitive. |
