If you've ever been to a social gathering, you might feel awkward and uncomfortable. While social gatherings can be very enjoyable, especially when you are surrounded by people whose company you enjoy, there are social events that you sometimes find yourself wishing you were someplace else. Such occasions can sometimes be the cause of much anxiety and self-consciousness. You may even feel like everyone else is having a good time except for you. Yet the truth is that everyone has felt shy and awkward on occasion. One of the best ways to overcome self-consciousness or get past your feelings of shyness at social gatherings is to focus on the people around you. If you can remember that other people might also be feeling awkward or shy, you might find the thought of speaking to them less overwhelming.
The next time there is a social event you feel nervous about attending, you may want to try this exercise: Spend some time with your eyes closed and breathe deeply. When you feel ready, create your own zone of comfort by visualizing yourself surrounded in a warm white light that is protective yet accepting of others. Imagine people at the event being drawn to you because of the open and warm feelings that you are showing. When you arrive at the event, take a moment to spread this same light of loving acceptance to everyone around you.
Smile and greet people warmly. Try going up to someone who is standing alone and introduce yourself. When you show acceptance and openness, people can't help but respond to you in kind.
Focusing on how we can make other people at a social gathering feel at ease can help us forget about our own insecurities. The next time you attend a social gathering, invite people to join you in your zone of comfort that you have so lovingly and intentionally created. Let yourself enjoy being encircled in the warmth of their friendships.
1. In the author's opinion, people feel awkward at a social gathering because| A．the atmosphere is unpleasant | B．they don't like the people there |
| C．they are too proud to talk with others | D．they may feel they are different from others |
| A．introducing | B．persuading |
| C．imagining | D．forcing |
| A．invite some friends | B．arrive ahead of time |
| C．talk with others nonstop | D．be open and warm to others |
| A．How to make a good impression on others. | B．How to feel at ease at a social gathering. |
| C．How to prepare for a social gathering. | D．How to make friends with others. |
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【推荐1】I lost my phone when I was on holiday four months ago. With no phone to use on my way back to Milan, I decided to buy a book at the airport before boarding the plane. There was a discount on Stephen Hawking’s Brief Answers to the Big Questions, and while not necessarily an easy read for the non-reader I was at the time, it touched on some of the subjects I’m most passionate about, so I decided it was worth £5.99. I paid for it. To my great surprise, I read the whole thing on that two-hour return flight and so my love for reading began. I was confused. Before then, I used to buy books fairly often, loping I’d read them, knowing months would go by and I wouldn’t even open them. So I wondered. What was different this time? After carefully analyzing the situation, I came up with an explanation.
Now I realize, most books on my reading list as a child came from one of three places: suggested books, school books, and “to read before you die” books. As a kid, I didn’t have much experience when it came to books or reading. So when I decided to pick up a book, I thought these were the ones I should read and I believed I would surely enjoy them. Then I ended up thinking of myself as someone that simply didn’t like reading.
It is obvious, in hindsight (在事后看来), that I actually really enjoyed reading. The few times I got to skim through a book that felt right, I would devour (如饥似渴地) the whole thing in a matter of hours.
Many people approach reading the wrong way, so they ultimately end up disliking it the way I did. Keep on reading books you don’t like, and you’ll eventually convince yourself it is reading you don’t like. So just make sure, you are reading books that touch on subjects you are actually passionate about—don’t be scared to create your unique bookshelf.
1. What surprised the author?| A．He lost his phone. | B．The book was very cheap. |
| C．The book was easy to read. | D．He finished reading the book. |
| A．Explore ways to create a reading list. | B．Introduce his special taste in books. |
| C．Explain why he used to be a non-reader. | D．Analyze how children’s books are classified. |
| A．Those that attract their interest. | B．Those that enrich their knowledge. |
| C．Those that are popular among readers. | D．Those that are written by best-selling authors. |
| A．A travel guide. | B．A magazine. | C．A book review. | D．A news report. |
【推荐2】How to be a great teammate?
First, being a great teammate is an attitude, not a skill.
Second, being a great teammate is a choice. It’s a choice between promoting ourselves and our needs or promoting the needs of the team.
Being a great teammate is not at all about skill. It is an attitude, a choice and it is what our long-term reputation will be determined by.
| A．And it’s not always easy. |
| B．No matter what we choose, do our best. |
| C．Being a great teammate is unrelated to our ability. |
| D．Being a great teammate doesn’t mean ignoring our own progress. |
| E．Rather, their memory of us will be based on how we treated them. |
| F．Third, never forget what our teammates will remember about us years later. |
| G．We may be the best in our team, but if we were a bad teammate, people will remember that. |
Make the most of networking opportunities
Get to those networking events and talk, talk, talk. “There is value in every conversation you have, you never know where your next piece of work may come from. Changing the mindset to professionalism and saying, ‘I am a graphic designer’ rather than ‘I am a graduate’ is very important, ” says Lydia Wakefield, education and training manager at the Association of Independent Professionals and the SelfEmployed.
Know your worth
It's hard to persuade people to pay for your work if you're willing to give it away. “Value your worth from the beginning. A lot of people feel the pressure to work nothing or charge a really low rate if they've been studying. Clients are willing to pay for the quality of the work that you do, ” says Wakefield.
Set up with the tools to get paid
Register for selfassessment and file those tax returns. “Make sure you have contracts and invoice templates(发票模板) in place, ” says Wakefield. It doesn't hurt to get some advice from a professional, says Jeff Skinner, of the Institute of Innovation and Entrepreneurship at the London Business School. “Find an accountant or someone doing something similar and ask them for commercial advice, ” he says.
Manage expectations
Know the limits to your capabilities. “You can feel the need to say yes to every project. Have a selfawareness of how much work you can take on at any time and manage expectations, ” says Wakefield.
Build resilience (韧性)
Wakefield highlights the importance of having a thick skin. “If you get a no, don't take it to heart. Keep going, you will find your next client, ” she says, “ask for feedback, you can always use it for testimonial.” And, remember that you're not alone. “It really is emotional highs and lows for any entrepreneur in early stages. But you're in a network with other people on the same journey as you, ” says Skinner.
Tips for New Graduates Who Want to Be Their Own
| Take | ●Every conversation is valuable as it may ●It matters a lot to change the |
Know your worth | ●If you cannot ●You can charge a relatively |
Set up with the tools to get paid | ●Register for selfassessment and file those tax returns. ●It is always helpful to consult |
Manage expectations | ●Be aware not to take on too much work |
Build resilience | ●Keep going instead of taking a refusal too ●It is not |
