1 . A heart-to-heart talk refers to an honest conversation between two people. When sharing a heart-to-heart talk, people will generally share innermost (内心最深处的) thoughts and feelings. This talk usually takes place without other people being present.     1     Some people also refer to this type of conversation as a heartfelt talk, or speaking from the heart. Here are tips on having a heart-to-heart talk.

Share personal stories.     2     When you share a personal story with someone, you put yourself out there in a brave way. Hopefully, the person will follow suit and be receptive to your sharing. Make sure that your disclosure (披露) is proper for the level of relationship you have with the other person. And remember not to push yourself too hard.     3    

Listen to understand. Being an active listener is important during a heartto-heart talk. When you actively listen to what another person is saying, he is more likely to open up.     4     Instead, try to listen to really understand what the other is trying to communicate.

    5     When you’re trying to get someone to open up and go deeper in conversation with you, you are expected to avoid questions that close off the discussion. For example, you might immediately start trying to learn the person’s likes and dislikes by asking “What’s your favorite color/food/season?” The problem with such a question is that it doesn’t promote (促进) a more detailed answer because it can be answered with only one word (e.g. “Purple. Pizza. Summer.”).

5 . Being a people-pleaser(讨好型人格)is second nature to many people. We tend to calm those around us, often regardless of our own needs. Actually, it is unhealthy to do so.     1     Here are some tips one can follow.

Be sure of your own value.

You were created differently from every other human. Overcoming people-pleasing starts with clearly knowing the value of your thoughts and actions, and that your presence matters. By pleasing people at the cost of your own desires, you’re forgetting that you are here for a reason.

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When something goes wrong, it’s quite natural for me to say sorry. It is pretty true of you if you’re a people-pleaser too. However, before words of apology trip from your lips, stop and look at the situation. Apologize sincerely and timely on condition that it’s really your fault. Otherwise just let it go.

Keep saying no.

    3     Indeed, getting over people-pleasing requires people to understand that you can say no and mean it. Saying no may be hard, but the more you say it, the more you understand how important it is to say.

Speak up.

People-pleasers like to agree with the masses. We are quiet, listening, waiting to agree on whatever decision is reached. Many times, I simply stayed quiet and agreed, even when I really didn’t like the plans at all. And bitterness surged when I was asked to deal with what I didn’t want.     4     Even sometimes you have to shout so as to be heard.

Without any doubt, it’s difficult to go against the nature that you tend to please everyone around you.     5     It’s the same with me. The best part is we get the grace of a new day to try all over again.

7 . Would you like to visit Britain one day?     1    

Overseas travel can be dear.     2     We hope that we can give you some good ideas.

When to come?

    3     There will be smaller numbers of visitors. British weather is pleasant from April to the end of September.     4     Many places, such as large houses and castles (城堡), are closed early in winter. However, if you are interested in museums, art galleries or theaters, winter may be a good time to visit.

Be prepared. If you are a student, it’s a good idea to apply for (申请) an International Student Identity Card (身份证).     5     You can get the card from your local student travel office, and you can also call (44)-08708-413224 to get it. To get the card, you need to show that you are a student, get a passport photo, and pay a little money.

8 . It is natural for us teenagers to feel upset.     1     Here I am offering some useful suggestions.

•Move your body.

    2     Have you ever noticed that you feel happier and have a sense of achievement after a good workout? That’s because working out creates endorphins — body chemicals that make us feel happy. No matter how low you are feeling, your mood will get a well-deserved boost (改善) after a workout. Exercise also helps you keep your heart in shape, makes you stronger and helps you stay at a healthy weight. And exercise is totally fun — and it’s great for your self-esteem, too.

•Talk about it.

    3     Friends’ ears can be a great source of support since you’re all in the same boat. And don’t forget your mom — she was once a teenager as well and may understand more than you realize. Even talking to your pet can help — just saying things out loud can help you see things differently and calm you down.

•Laugh a lot.

Humour can rescue you from an upset moment or make you feel better when you’re in an unpleasant mood. No matter what’s going on, the ability to laugh at yourself and your situation is really important.     4     It’s true! Using your smile muscles tells your brain to make more endorphins and that boosts your mood.

•Cry — it’s okay!

Sometimes the only way to get out of your feelings is to cry — so go ahead! Shut yourself in your room and cry your eyes out! No one says you have to be happy all the time.     5    

9 . This page provides information and guidance about hands-only CPR and CPR with rescue breaths for children over one year old.

Hands-only CPR

To carry out a chest compression (压缩):

Place the heel of your hand on the breastbone at the centre of the person’s chest.

Place your other hand on top of your first hand and interlock your fingers.

Position yourself with your shoulders above your hands.

Using your body weight (not just your arms), press straight down by 5-6cm (2-2.5 inches) on their chest.

Keeping your hands on their chest, release the compression and allow the chest to return to its original position.

Repeat these compressions at a rate of 100 to 120 times per minute until an ambulance arrives or you become exhausted.

CPR with rescue breaths

For children over one year old:

Open the child’s airway by placing one hand on the child’s forehead and gently tilting their head back and lifting the chin. Remove any visible obstructions from the mouth and nose.

Pinch their nose. Seal your mouth over their mouth and blow steadily and firmly into their mouth, checking that their chest rises. Give five initial rescue breaths.

Place the heel of one hand on the center of their chest and push down by 5cm(about two inches), which is approximately one-third of the chest diameter. The quality (depth)of chest compressions is very important. Use two hands if you can’t achieve a depth of 5cmusing one hand.

After every 30 chest compressions at a rate of 100 to 120 per minute, give two breaths.

Continue with cycles of 30 chest compressions and two rescue breaths until they begin to recover or emergency help arrives.

10 . Today’s workers are suffering from a burnout. The danger of this is that burnout is linked to under performance and feelings of hopelessness. Would you know how to fight burnout?     1    

Find out the cause.

    2     Think back a little and find out when these feelings developed. The added workload can cause early work days and late work nights, which could leave you tired.

To fight burnout, you may have to get rid of anything that weighs you down. Remember, the less you have on your plate, the better you may feel.

Separate work from home life.

When you stop working at the end of the day, leave your “office hat” in the office. And while we’re talking about balance and relaxation, make sure you schedule real days off from work. No work emails, no work text messages, and no wok phone calls—a day devoted entirely to you, your family and rest.

Set realistic goals.

Maybe you have short-term and long-term goals for your life. Goals are an excellent motivator.     3     You may feel that accepting every additional assignment at work will help you achieve your goal faster. However, there is only one of you and if you don’t pace yourself, you may crash before reaching the finishing line.

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The best solution to burnout is seeking out rich interpersonal communications, and continual personal and professional development. Find coaches and mentors who can help you identify positive relationships and learning opportunities.

Take short breaks during the day.

When you’re working throughout the day, schedule short 10-minute breaks every hour or every hour and a half.     5     Ten minutes may not seem like a lot, but this refresher could be the thing that keep you sane.