We often concentrate on building relationships with others but we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. That is the extremely important first step if we are to have good relationships with others.
Forgive yourself.
You may have made mistakes in the past, but is there anything you can do about them? I don’t think so, except learning from them. Maybe you are not perfect, but neither are we.
Focus on your strengths.
Write your success stories.
One reason why we may not like ourselves is that we are so focused on what we don’t have that we forget about what we have. So make a list of your achievements; write your success stories. They do not have to be big things.
Stop comparing yourself with others.
You are unique. You can never be like other people, and neither can other people be like you. The way you measure your success is not determined by other people and what they achieve. Instead, it is determined by your own life purpose. You have everything you need to achieve your life purpose, so it’s useless to compare yourself with others.
You don’t like other people lying to you, right? Similarly, you won’t like yourself if you know that you lie to yourself. Whether you realize it or not, that gives your mind a reason not to like yourself. That’s why it’s important to always be true to yourself. In whatever you do, be honest and follow your conscience.
A.Always be true to yourself. |
B.Accept things you can’t change. |
C.It’s normal to make mistakes. |
D.Here are some tips to being friends of ourselves. |
E.Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. |
F.There are a lot of small but important achievements in our life. |
G.You might be disappointed with yourself on why you could make such mistakes. |
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【推荐1】Because of Internet technology, people from different parts of the world can connect with one another, and get information about any and everything in the world.
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●If you’re a DIY (Do It Yourself) person, you should check for online resources (资源) that help you with this thing. From questions like how to paint a room, to questions like how to repair a broken car engine, all the answers can be found online.
●Practise your hobby on the Internet. Find information on what you like to do. Find the latest information on things of your interest.
●Listen to your favorite songs, watch your favorite movies, or listen to speeches by inspirational (激励的) speakers. Songs can help you feel relaxed.
A.Take part in fun activities that you enjoy. |
B.Movies can give you that much-needed break. |
C.Take academic courses and improve your skills. |
D.However, very few of us make real good use of the Internet. |
E.So, what type of productive thing would you like to do on the Internet? |
F.There are so many websites where we can discover ideas and gain knowledge. |
G.Also you can use the Internet to find answers for questions related to daily living. |
Here are some things that parents can do to help a child stay smoke-free.
Start talking to your teen about how bad smoking is for him early, well before his teens. Keep talking, too.
Work on self-esteem (自尊) and self-confident with your teen. Much of the attraction of smoking is to gain acceptance.
A.Young teens live in the moment, too. |
B.Play on your child’s desire to make his own choices. |
C.The answer lies in the develop-mental stage of your teens. |
D.Give your child the facts, but focus on the things he can relate to. |
E.Help your teen to feel good about himself without having to smoke. |
F.One discussion will not be enough to help your child not to smoke. |
G.They won’t be aware of how powerful addictive smoking is in a very short time. |
【推荐3】How to Maintain a Friendship
If you feel like you're drifting away from your friends or simply want to make an existing friendship stronger, there are some ways to strengthen your bond.
Text them regularly.
Shows your heart with an occasional gift.Gift giving isn't always necessary in a friend-ship but it will let your friends know that you're thinking about them.Get gifts for your friends on special occasions, like their birthday or anniversary.
Cherish your friendship and be there for your friends during their ups and downs.
A.Offer your help when they need it |
B.Even if you can't solve their problems at once |
C.You can help them out when they are in trouble |
D.When you see or experience something that reminds you of your friends |
E.If you regularly communicate and take proper steps to be a supportive friend |
F.You can also get gifts for your friends when they are going through a tough time |
G.When you have a regular communication with your friend and try to support him |
My name is Amy. I am 17 years old. I have a problem at school. Can you help me, Santa? Kids laugh at me because of the way I walk and run and talk. I have cerebral palsy. I just want one day when no one laughs at me or makes fun of me.
Love, Amy
At radio station WJLT in Fort Wayne, Indiana, letters poured in for the Christmas Wish Content. When Amy’s letter arrived at the radio station, Manager Lee Tobin read it carefully. He thought it wound be good for the people in Fort Wayne to hear about this special girl and her unusual wish. Mr. Tobin called up the local newspaper.
The next day, a picture of Amy and her letter to Santa made the front page of the “News Sentinel”. The story spread quickly. All across the country, newspapers and radio and television stations reported the story of the girl in Fort Wayne, Indiana, who asked for such a simple, yet remarkable Christmas gift—just one day without teasing.
Suddenly the postman was a regular at the Hagadorn house. Envelopes of all sizes addressed to Amy arrived daily from children and adults all across the nation. They came filled with holiday greetings and words of encouragement. Some of the writers had disabilities; some had been teased as children. Each writer had a special message for Amy. Through the cards and letters from strangers, Amy saw a world full of people who truly cared about each other.
Many people thanked Amy for being brave enough to speak up. Others encouraged her to ignore teasing and to hold her head high.
Amy did get her wish of a special day without teasing at South Wayne High School. Teachers and students talked together about how bad teasing can make others feel.
That year, the Fort Wayne mayor officially declared December 21st as Amy Jo Hagadorn Day throughout the city. The mayor explained that by daring to make such a simple wish, Amy taught a universal lesson. “Everyone,” he said, “wants to and should be treated with respect, dignity and warmth.”
1. Amy’s letter showed that______.
A.she wanted to win Christmas Wish Contest |
B.she is more independent than before |
C.she is often ignored in and out of class |
D.her schoolmates can’t understand her disability |
A.the disabled hate those who laugh at them |
B.the news media played a key role in helping Amy |
C.Amy will still be made fun of by her classmates |
D.there are few disabled people in Amy’s country |
A.to tell how bad teasing can make others feel |
B.to encourage people to hold their heads high |
C.to explain how brave Amy was by making her wish |
D.to call on the public to treat everyone properly |
【推荐2】Forgiving someone who has hurt you or let you down is never an easy thing. Several new studies, however, say that it could have a lot of health benefits. When you think of forgiveness, you probably don't think of it as being a health or medical problem. Studies from Stanford University, on the other hand, show that something like anger can change your well-being.When cartoon book characters like the Incredible Hulk get angry, they change colours and often gain special power. In the real world, anger is less obvious and may be more dangerous. That's why Professor Fred Luskin, founder of the Stanford Forgiveness Project and author of Forgive for Good, says holding on to anger and hatred can harm your physical and mental health. Two new studies seem to show the same idea.
The studies find that people who are able to forgive feel less stress, less back pain, and less depression(抑郁). They also have fewer headaches, lower blood pressure, and fewer problems on sleeping.
So it doesn't matter if your anger is caused by the traffic or other things. Learning to let it go is important. Techniques such as deep breath or thought can help. Or just ask yourself if it's worth hurting yourself by staying angry with someone else.
Forgiveness does not mean that you simply accept what happened and say it's OK. Instead, it's a way of making peace with yourself about what happened in the past.
1. The author of the passage tries to make his viewpoint clear______.A.by raising his own examples |
B.based on his own experience |
C.by mentioning some studies |
D.by mentioning some typical patients |
A.tell us that anger is more obvious and may be more dangerous in the real world |
B.support the viewpoint that anger and hatres harm physical and mental health |
C.let the readers know the different colours of cartoon faces |
D.show how to control one’s temper |
A.People who are able to forgive feel less stress. |
B.People who are able to forgive feel less depression. |
C.People who are able to forgive have fewer problems on sleeping. |
D.People who are able to forgive feel less tired. |
A.Forgiveness Is Good for Health |
B.Forgiveness Is Never Easy |
C.A Secret to Keeping Healthy |
D.Anger Is Bad for Health |
【推荐3】When your friends suddenly stop talking to you, it can leave you confused on what to do next.
Find out if they have shut all their friends out or just you. It’s important to figure out if your friends have moved on from everyone, or just you. If it’s just you, then you probably did something at some point.
Reflect on yourself. Have your friends been upset with you for a while? Would you get it if they were? Not all people yell or scream when they’re upset.
Communicate in a different way. There’s always the possibility that your friends haven’t shut you out completely, but they are bored with a certain form of communication, like texting or chatting online.
A.Give them a helping hand. |
B.So sometimes they take a break from it. |
C.If you feel it was something bad, apologize for it. |
D.Let your friends know you’re open to friendships. |
E.There are many reasons why your friends might shut you out. |
F.Your friends may not answer your calls or emails suddenly. |
G.Some people will talk to you calmly about something you did. |