Talking with Your Parents
Learning to deal with your parents as a young adult is a tough task. Sometimes, parents struggle to admit you have grown up and can care for yourself. Other times, they may simply have thought otherwise. No doubt, communication is the best way to solve the conflict. Here are some tips on that.
Choose a time when your parents can sit down and talk with you without being distracted. Try to talk with your parents alone at first. If you live away from home, call and ask what time would work the best for them.
Be straightforward and honest.
You are only as good as your words, so don't lie. Simply recount the events from your list and include your emotional reactions. If it is easier, you may ask your parents to remain silent until you finish with an initial 'list' of concerns.
When your parents get a chance to talk, respect them and listen carefully. This is your opportunity to try to understand where they are coming from. There is a possibility that the same event was viewed in two different ways.
Ask for advice.
Keep parts of the conversation positive by telling your parents about your goals for the future. Discuss your financial, romantic, or work plans and ask for their advice?
A.Pick a good setting. |
B.Choose a suitable time. |
C.Wait until they are finished and ask some questions. |
D.It's not healthy to hold thoughts and feelings inside. |
E.It's best to avoid a public place for a conversation of this type. |
F.You can also ask your parents for money to show respect for them. |
G.This lets them know that you value their opinion and will request it. |
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A.Use as many cards as you need. |
B.There is no “magic pill” for remembering. |
C.Try to make remembering a fun activity. |
D.Try to understand the information you must remember. |
E.Then work on remembering the information in each part separately. |
F.Try to bring a personal touch to the information you must remember. |
G.Form a picture in your mind of the information that you must remember. |
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If a story is accurate, if it is written with a nice attention to detail, it is likely to be fair. If a story is not accurate, it is not news in the best sense. Accuracy implies more than mere grammatical correctness. It means more even than the stating of every fact with precision.
A.Truthful, precise writing is the fruit of accurate observation |
B.Each witness is a reputable citizen and each thinks his version is the truth |
C.Take for example the conflicting statements of persons on the witness stand |
D.Then, and then only, can he gather and write news with the maximum of efficiency |
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【推荐3】Money Matters
Parents should help their children understand money. One of the wisest things you can possibly do is to choose the best time.
The basic function of money
Approach money lessons with openness and honesty. Tell your child why he can - or cannot - have certain things.
Wise decisions.
Begin at the grocery store with your child. Pick out two similar brands of a product. Permit him to choose between them.
A.Buying choice. |
B.Money lessons. |
C.So you may start talking about money when your child shows an interest in buying things. |
D.If he makes a more expensive choice. |
E.Begin explaining the basic function of money by showing how people trade money for goods or services. |
F.If he chooses the cheaper brand. |
G.If you must say no to a child's request to spend money. |
【推荐1】Unable to hold back my curiosity any longer, I opened the beautifully wrapped present. It was a shiny, new laptop. I had scored straight A’s for my examination and this was my reward. I had always envied (嫉妒) my friends who were always exchanging news about “chat rooms” or “e-mailing”, which I knew nothing about. Now I was going to find out.
It started out simply enough. I was searching for some information online when I came across a social networking site. Soon I became attached to my new-found electronic friend. I began to spend more and more time on YouTube and became controlled by Facebook and Twitter. Whenever I was not accessing these social networking sites, I would be going through gossip (八卦) or fashion websites.
As time passed, I would lock myself in my room during weekends, refusing to come out and take part in family discussions. I preferred to stay connected to the “friends” online whom I had never met. Soon I was spending the early hours of the morning surfing the Internet. Sleep became broken naps and my grades at school also began worsening.
It was about this time that my parents started voicing their disapproval. I was asked to reduce my usage of the Internet. Yet, however hard I tried, I was unable to pull myself away. I was thirsty for just another click, or just another look at message board. Then one day, my father took away my laptop. I cried, shouted and even begged but in vain. Dad had made up his mind.
Over time, I realized that Dad and Mum had always wanted the best for me. That was when I decided to take the big step—to quit my internet addiction. Quitting was harder than I expected. But with strong determination, I knew that I would be able to do it. I promised my parents that I would turn over a new leaf.
1. Why did the author’s parents buy her a laptop?A.To reward her for her excellent grades. | B.To let her make more friends easily. |
C.To meet her curiosity about chat rooms. | D.To help her set up a social networking site. |
A.She went out with new friends a lot. | B.She suffered from sleeplessness. |
C.She got anxious and lost her temper. | D.She ignored the people and things around her. |
A.Her father’s demand. | B.Her boredom with the Internet. |
C.Her worsening school grades. | D.Her parents’ love and expectations. |
A.It’s never too late to mend. | B.Action speaks louder than words. |
C.Behind bad luck comes good luck. | D.A bad beginning makes a bad ending. |
【推荐2】Kilimanjaro Climb : a Rite of Passage (成人仪式) for Father and Son
Climbing Kilimanjaro is a transformational experience for many people. The things that make the mountain hard are the very things that make it so powerful. In the case of my son Josh and I, the walk up Kilimanjaro proved a powerful symbol of his transition into manhood, and a great change in our relationship.
Day three on the mountain, Josh was hit with massive headaches. He told me every step felt like a nail driving into his head. And then, on the night we climbed the crater (火山口) rim, less than 40 minutes from the summit, Josh fell. I was walking ahead, and did not even see it. He was so tired out that he could not get up. He recalled our guides, debating whether or not they should take him straight down. Josh snapped out of it. He forced himself to his feet, shook the guides off. He set his face towards the peak and just kept marching. Near the summit he caught up with me and we reached the peak together.
“I’ve never been in so much pain and so happy at the same time... he said, as we sat side by side on the frozen rock and looked down over Africa. “You know, in the past when we’d go on camping and rafting trips, you guided and took care of me through it all. But on Kilimanjaro it was different. From the bottom up, I climbed it. I never felt like a kid, even when 1 was in pain. You never acted like a parent.”
“That’s not quite true,” I replied. “When you told me that on the summit you fell and I did not even notice, my first thought was, ‘Oh my God! I’m such an awful parent!’ But then it hit me, ‘He got himself up. He walked to the peak on his own. He didn’t need me to help,”
I realized as I spoke that two people had died that night on Kilimanjaro. A child and a parent. It was just two friends who walked down the mountain together.
1. From the second paragraph we know that ______.A.Josh had a slight headache. |
B.Josh reached the top of the mountain with the help of the guides. |
C.Josh overcame various difficulties on his way to the summit. |
D.Climbing Kilimanjaro was too hard for such a child as Josh. |
A.Cheered up. | B.Gave up. | C.Burst out. | D.Ran out. |
A.Josh felt quite good about his independence. |
B.Josh appreciated his parents’ company and care. |
C.The father felt guilty all the time. |
D.The father should have taken good care of Josh as usual. |
A.Because two people had lost their lives while climbing Kilimanjaro. |
B.Because the father and son had become friends. |
C.Because they had witnessed an accident of a father and son. |
D.Because two friends had misled him. |
【推荐3】A young family who has never camped in their life have sold everything they own to start a tour of Europe in a motorhome. Cheryl, 33 and Jason, 28, sold their house, quit their jobs and ditched a normal life for a year on the road.
With their eldest daughter Flora, five, just a year away from starting school, the couple decided it was time to go on a family adventure across the continent. Cheryl teaches Flora while they travel to prepare her for school next year. The family, which also include their four-year-old daughter Elsie, son Archie and dogs Poppy and Angus, have been on the road for a period.
Cheryl said, “nobody would describe us as typical travelers. We’d never even been camping before. We talked for a long time about wanting to see different parts of the world, but we never actually thought we were actually going to. Our eldest child is due to start school this August, so we put it off by one year. We thought, ‘if we don’t do it this year, we may never will.’ My mom and dad died this year and after that I started to feel life is too short. We thought there must be more to life than working, eating and sleeping every day.”
The mom-of-three still can’t quite believe they’re actually doing it. After all, it happened so fast. She said, “We decided it at the end of June, sold our house in July, and then when August came around we bought the motor house and set off.”
Despite being anxious at first, with the family sometimes quarreling, Cheryl thinks the trip has helped strengthen family bonds. She said, “If we have an argument there is nowhere to hide. You can’t go into your room and be angry. It means it has to be dealt with there and then, and its taught us to be more open with each other as a family. Every day is quality family time. We couldn’t get that if we were back home with work, school and nursery.”
1. What does the underlined word “ditched” in Paragraph 1 mean?A.gave up. | B.enjoyed. | C.experienced. | D.got tired of. |
A.It is too short. | B.It is too expensive. |
C.It is filled with quarrels. | D.It is worthwhile. |
A.To honor Cheryl’s parents. | B.To experience more about life. |
C.To prepare the kids for school. | D.To give Jason a break from work. |
A.They’re actually typical traveler. |
B.They have spent years preparing for the travel. |
C.They become closer as family members. |
D.They will hide away from each other when an argument happens. |