I often wonder how people can get so angry, so deep in their own belief that they become deaf to anything that may differ from their beliefs. I've often been told that I'm too open-minded, listening to others' viewpoints so openly that they become my own. Maybe that comes from my practice of actively listening to others. It means that I do really hear them instead of responding only out of politeness. Maybe it's because I was brought up by parents who didn't necessarily speak to me about respecting others but modeled it for me through their own actions. They treated everyone equally, from what I remember, never looking down upon others because they were different from us.
As I raise my daughters, I try my best to show them love and understanding in all situations. When they misbehave, talk back, or break the rules, I'll lovingly analyze the reasons behind their behaviour. I'll be tolerant (宽容的) towards their differing opinions and become open and curious about their ideas. And I'll be mindful of how I treat and speak to others, showing equal respect to everyone.
My expectation is that if I show my daughters unconditional love and acceptance, they'll learn to show the same love to others. I hope that they will not see difference as a threat, but as a way to add richness to their very existence. It's beautiful to live in a world filled with so many differences.
So, as I write this, welcoming my second daughter to my family, I'm fully aware that change begins with how I act and what decisions I make. Every generation carries its own set of problems. All we have control over is how we respond to those problems. This is what I will teach my girls: how to control their own emotional world; how to hold onto love as well as their beliefs and values; how to remember that hate and anger are never the answer and that tolerance and love will always take them further in life.
1. What makes the author different from other people?| A．Her deep understanding of belief. | B．Her negative views on social politeness. |
| C．Her reaction to different opinions. | D．Her confusing attitude towards her parents. |
| A．Encourage them to have different opinions. |
| B．Set them an example of love and acceptance. |
| C．Punish them heavily for their bad behaviors. |
| D．Teach them some useful conversation skills. |
| A．Love me, love my dog. | B．Don't put the cart before the horse. |
| C．Nothing seek, nothing find. | D．Music with different tones sounds beautiful. |
| A．The Importance of Love and Tolerance | B．The Art of Social Communication |
| C．The Ways to Effectively Listen to others | D．The Positive Attitude towards Hate and Anger |
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【推荐1】At any discussion of a job offer, money can be a deal breaker. Negotiating an attractive deal, however, can be hard for many job candidates because they lack the necessary skills or simply because they’re too concerned that pushing for a high salary can cost them the job.
These factors certainly can be hurdles (障碍), but it doesn’t mean that you give up trying to get the best deal you can get. Needless to say, if money isn’t a big factor in your decision, you still need to make sure that the deal you’re accepting is fair compared to what’s offered in the market. Selling yourself short once can impact your future salaries and set you back financially.
Here are common mistakes that many jobseekers commit in negotiating money.
Negotiate too early. Timing is of essence in any negotiation, and negotiating a salary too early in the process can cost you dearly. Many employers, in fact, rank this as one of the biggest mistakes job candidates make. The best timing to begin a salary discussion is after you and your future employer are nearly sure that you’ve been selected for the position.
Abandon professionalism. It’s common that people, after going through a long recruitment process, can be shocked that the salary offered is significantly below their expectations. If you find yourself in this situation, don’t abandon your professional attitude or throw a fit. This likely will get you nowhere except the door.
There’re two options to this situation: the first is that the employer is inflexible (不灵活的) about the budget, and in this case, you may just leave and make a graceful exit from the hiring process.
The second option is that there’s some negotiation room for the hiring manager with other decision makers in the organization. If this is the case, you may be surprised that a final push with a positive attitude and a well-delivered presentation about your skills and market price can get you closer to your expected salary. Still, if this is not acceptable, you don’t have to take it.
1. According to Para. 1, the discussion of money for most jobseekers is _______.| A．too difficult to handle | B．the first necessary step |
| C．in need of certain skills | D．a good chance to get a job |
| A．Solving big problems. | B．Asking for a low salary. |
| C．Looking for an ideal job. | D．Accepting a boring job. |
| A．Ask for a higher salary. |
| B．Immediately give up the job. |
| C．Just calm down and figure out the situation. |
| D．Try to prove you are the best candidate for the job. |
| A．To help people perform well in job interviews. |
| B．To tell common mistakes in our daily work. |
| C．To help employees get along well with their employers. |
| D．To offer tips on salary negotiation. |
【推荐2】When faced with a problem, people tend to select solutions that involve adding new elements rather than taking existing components away.
Adams, a social psychologist at the university of Virginia and her colleagues wanted to figure out why this was the case. They wanted to investigate whether, and to what degree, people actually overlook subtraction(减法)when they are tasked with changing things.
The researchers looked through a profile of ideas for improvement submitted to a university president, and found that only 11 percent of 651 proposals involved removing an existing rule or program. Similar results appeared across tasks about adjusting essays and plans. The vast majority of people chose to add rather than remove.
The team dug deeper by conducting eight experiments with more than 1,500 participants. In one experiment, people were asked to stabilize(固定)the roof of a Lego structure held up by a single block that rested on top of a cube-shaped base. The reward for completing the task was $ 1, and participants could add new blocks for 10 cents a piece or get rid of blocks for free. One group was reminded, “Each piece that you add costs ten cents but removing pieces is free, ” while another group was just told, “Each piece that you add costs ten cents. ”Almost two thirds of people who had been reminded chose to get rid of the single block rather than adding new ones, compared with 41 percent of those who had not been reminded.
These findings were published in Nature, suggesting that “additive solutions tend to come to mind quickly and easily. Subtractive solutions are not necessarily harder to consider, but they take more effort to find. While the tendency for businesses and organizations to choose for complexity rather than simplification was previously known, the novelty(新颖)of this paper is that it shows that people tend toward adding new features even when subtracting would clearly be better.
The team hopes that these findings will encourage more people to think about subtractive options that might often be overlooked.
1. What can we know about the researchers’ findings in their researches?| A．People added elements to deal with problems in any case. |
| B．People tended to add elements to solve problems. |
| C．People preferred subtraction options to additive options. |
| D．People refused to remove elements to avoid costs. |
| A．The experiment was carried out in the most advanced way. |
| B．The participants chose to add pieces whatever costs. |
| C．It was hard to choose between adding and removing. |
| D．The participants got rid of pieces when it was clearly to their advantage. |
| A．To encourage more people to do further research. |
| B．To get more participants involved in their next research. |
| C．To inspire more people to consider subtraction choices. |
| D．To get a handsome reward from businesses and organizations. |
| A．Adding New Features Is More Effective |
| B．Removing Features Is More Difficult |
| C．Subtraction Outweighs Addition |
| D．Our Brain Typically Overlooks Subtraction |
【推荐3】How to Remember What You Read
Reading is important. But the next step is making sure that you remember what you've read!
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If the plot, characters, or word usage is confusing for you, you likely won't be able to remember what you read. It's a bit like reading a foreign language. If you don't understand what you're reading, how would you remember it? But there are a few things you can do... Use a dictionary; look up the difficult words.
● Are you connected?
Does a character remind you of a friend? Does the setting make you want to visit the place? Does the book inspire you, and make you want to read more? With some books, you may feel a connection right away.
● Read it; hear it; be it!
Read the lines. Then, speak them out loud. And, put some character into the words. When he was writing his novels, Charles Dickens would act out the parts of the characters. He'd make faces in the mirror, and change his voice for each character.
● How often do you read?
If you read frequently, you'll likely have an easier time with remembering what you’re reading and what you've read.
| A．Are you confused? |
| B．Practice makes perfect. |
| C．What's your motivation? |
| D．Memory is sometimes a tricky thing. |
| E．Marking helps you remember what you read. |
| F．But other books require a bit more work on your part. |
| G．You can do the same thing when you are reading the text! |
【推荐1】Dad and I loved baseball and hated sleep. One midsummer dawn when I was nine, we drove to the local park with our baseballs, gloves, and Yankees caps.
''If you thought night baseball was a thrill, just wait, '' Dad told me. ''Morning air carries the ball like you've never seen. ''
He was right. Our fastballs charged faster and landed more lightly. The echoes of our catches popped as the sun rose over the dew-sprinkled fields.
The park was all ours for about two hours. Then a young mother pushed her stroller toward us. When she neared, Dad politely leaned over the stroller, waved, and gave the baby his best smile.
The mother stared at him for a second,and then rushed away.
Dad covered his mouth with his hand and walked to the car. ''Let's go, bud, '' he said. ''I'm not feeling well. ''
A month earlier, Bell's palsy(贝尔氏神经麻痹) had struck Dad,paralyzing the right side of his face. It left him slurring words and with a droopy eyelid. He could hardly drink from a cup without spilling onto his shirt. And his smile, which once eased the pain of playground cuts and burst forth at the mention of Mick Jagger, Woody Allen, or his very own Yankees, was gone.
As I slumped in the car, I began suspecting that our sunrise park visit wasn't about watching daylight lift around us. This was his effort to avoid stares.
It was a solemn drive home.
After that day,Dad spent more time indoors. He left the shopping, driving, and Little League games to Mom. A freelance editor,he turned our dining room into his office and buried himself in manuscripts. He no longer wanted to play catch.
At physical therapy, Dad obeyed the doctor: ''Now smile as wide as you can. Now lift your right cheek with your hand. Now try to whistle. ''
Only the sound of blowing air came out. My earliest memories were of Dad whistling to Frank Sinatra or Bobby McFerrin. He always whistled. He had taught me to whistle too.
Of the roughly 40,000 Americans suffering Bell's palsy every year, most recover in several weeks. Other cases take a few months to heal. But after nine weeks of therapy, the doctor confessed she couldn't help Dad.
''I've never seen anything like this,'' she told him after his final session. Then she handed him the bill.
Dad coped through humor. He occasionally grabbed erasable markers and drew an even-sided wide smile across his face. Other times, he practiced his Elvis impersonation, joking that his curled lips allowed him to perfect his performance of ''Hound Dog''.
By the time I entered fourth grade that September, Dad could blink his right eye and speak clearly again. But his smile still hadn’t returned. So I made a secret vow: I would abstain from smiles of any kind.
Nothing about fourth grade made this easy. Classmates were both old enough to laugh about pop culture and young enough to appreciate fart jokes. Kids called me Frowny the Dwarf. (I was three foot ten.) Teachers accompanied me into hallways, asking what was wrong. Breaking the promise I had made myself was tempting, but I couldn't let Dad not smile alone.
When I asked my PE coach, ''What's so great about smiling？''He made me do push-ups while the rest of the class played Wiffle ball. Then he called Dad.
I never learned what they discussed. But when I got off the school bus that afternoon, I saw Dad waiting for me, holding our gloves and ball. For the first time in months, we got in the family car and went to the park for a catch.
''It's been too long, '' he said.
Roughly a half-dozen fathers and sons lined the field with gloved arms in the air. Dad couldn't smile, but he beamed, and so did I. Sundown came quickly. The field's white lights glowed, and everyone else left. But Dad and I threw everything from curve balls to folly floaters into the night. We had catching up to do.
1. Why did Dad choose to play baseballs one summer dawn?| A．They could perform better in the morning. |
| B．Morning air was more suitable for playing baseball. |
| C．He tried to escape others' attention to his face. |
| D．The park was empty and they could enjoy themselves. |
| A．seek for | B．give up | C．recover from | D．break into |
| A．The boy lost his ability to smile. |
| B．The boy couldn't appreciate pop culture. |
| C．The boy must have suffered many wrongs. |
| D．The boy tried his best to make Father smile. |
| A．He had made a complete recovery. |
| B．He thought night baseball was a thrill. |
| C．He was instructed by the PE coach to do so. |
| D．He intended his son to return to normal. |
| A．Selfless and lucky. | B．Responsible and humorous. |
| C．Sensitive and stubborn. | D．Generous and determined. |
| A．Losing My Father's Smile | B．Making a Hidden Secret |
| C．Playing Baseball in the Morning | D．Recovering from a Face Illness |
【推荐2】Adnan, a 56-year-old father, wants to make it clear that it's not just mothers who can feel like failures in their home life. “I had the fairytale of what I'd be like as a dad,” he says. “When our first child was born, I had images of all this stuff we'd do together. It didn't include pictures of sleepless nights, or every item of clothing being covered in snot and yoghurt.”
He also says it doesn't get any easier with more children, because each child will have a different personality requiring different methods of parenting. “There's a fine line between child management, focusing on health and safety, and being a present dad, trying to listen to all their voices,” he says.
“No one explains that you're their protector as well as the person meeting their hygiene (卫生) factors, feeding them, listening to playground politics and building their confidence. You're the person who is the narrative in their head about how great they are.”
Adnan says that though he doesn't compare himself with other parents, he still finds it hard to shake the fairytale that is firmly in his head, compared with which he always comes up short. “The continuous refereeing (调解) and the delegate decision-making go beyond anything I've done in the workplace,” he says,
“I keep asking myself' Am I equipped to deal with this?' I'm a father, a counsellor (咨询师) and a coach. There's also something about being a parent in your 50 s: you don't have the physicality of your 30s.”
1. What was Adnan's “fairytale”?| A．To be a father of many children. |
| B．To raise the children with his wife. |
| C．To experience parenting hardships. |
| D．To enjoy the fantastic role of a parent. |
| A．Having more sleepless nights. |
| B．Meeting children's hygiene factors. |
| C．Tailoring parenting to fit children. |
| D．Focusing on kids' health and safety problems. |
| A．He thinks parenting affects work. |
| B．He does better than other parents. |
| C．He falls short of kids' expectation. |
| D．He finds being a dad quite challenging. |
【推荐3】Genealogy, also known as family history, is the study of families and the footmarks of their lineages(家系) and history. Genealogists use oral interviews, historical records, genetic analysis, and other records to obtain information about a family and to prove kinship(亲属关系) and lineages of its members. The results are often displayed in charts or written as descriptions.
The pursuit of family history and origins tends to be shaped by several impetuses, including the desire to carve out a place for one’s family in the larger historical picture, a sense of responsibility to preserve the past for future generations, and a sense of self-satisfaction in accurate storytelling.
In communitarian societies, one’s identity is established as much by one’s kin network as by individual achievement, and the question ＂Who are you?＂ would be answered by a description of father, mother, and lineages. New Zealand Māori, for example, learn genealogies to discover who they are.
In societies such as Australia or the United States, there was by the 20th-century growing pride in the pioneers and nation-builders. Establishing descent(继承) from these was, and is, important to such groups as the Daughters of the American Revolution(DAR).
Modern family history explores new sources of status, such as celebrating the rebirth of families that survived generations of poverty or slavery, or the success of families in combining across racial or national boundaries. Some family histories even emphasize links to celebrity criminals, such as the bushranger(绿林好汉) Ned Kelly in Australia.
The growing interest in family history in the media coupled with easier access to online records has allowed those who are curious to do so to start investigating their ancestry. This curiosity can be particularly strong among those whose family histories were lost or unknown due to, for example, adoption or separation from family, perhaps as a result of bereavement(丧失).
1. Which of the following is connected with genealogy?| A．The DNA tests. | B．Historical novels. |
| C．Political positions. | D．Education standards. |
| A．Results. | B．Drives. | C．Categories. | D．Exploitations. |
| A．To get achievements. | B．To learn their origins. |
| C．To change their identities. | D．To create their kin network. |
| A．DAR is a genealogy organization. | B．Organizations have their genealogy. |
| C．Australia is a pioneer in genealogy. | D．Genealogy inspires the love for nation. |
【推荐1】On a recent visit to the Museum of Modern Art with a friend and her daughter, wandering through the museum’s exhibits, I was struck by how often my friend's 13-year-old daughter asked us to take photos of her with her smart phone in front of the artwork. Then, she gazed at the photos which she would then post on Instagram, Snapchat and all the rest. She was not the only person who was doing this; it seemed everyone was busy taking photos of themselves “experiencing” the museum.
This is by no means a criticism of my friend’s daughter or anyone else. What was concerning, at least to me, was that in between being photographed and posting, my friend’s daughter had no interest in the artwork, a fact which didn’t seem to matter or have anything to do with wanting to post herself as someone enjoying the experience.
When I was her age. I had no interest in going to museums either. Having no interest in art at her age (and any age) is completely normal. But what is disturbing is how much of a young person’s energy these days goes into creating an image of the life they’re living and the character they “are” in that life. While creating a self-image has always been a big part of growing up and figuring out our identity, social media seems to have changed the rules of the game. Social media has not just increased the pressure and possibility of creating, a self-generated (自我创造的) self-image, but also distorted (歪曲) the process through which we become who we are. Young people now seem to be creating an image of who they are in place of becoming who they are, posting their life rather than living it. The effort that goes into creating an identity and getting it noticed or “followed” has replaced the effort of actually getting interested in the life that they are posting.
Social media has turned life and its experiences into an exercise in narcissism (自我陶醉). No matter what the experience is actually about, it becomes about you, the person who is living it. A concert is not about the music, a restaurant not about the food, and a sports event not about the sport; it’s all about you, the doer, and what the event says about you. Life experiences are not lived directly so much as they are used as chances of announcing what kind of person you are. Life now is a product through which you promote your image, but with little connection to whether that screen image accurately reflects the inside you.
As a result, the more we use life to create an identity, the more distant from life we feel. Instead of being part of it, we feel as if we have to keep generating new life material, which will announce and establish us. In the meanwhile, the gap between us and life grows wider and wider.
I hope the next time you post your story, pause for a moment and experience where you are, feel what it feels like to live what you ‘re living without using life for your benefit, or for anything at all. Just live, without the narrative (叙述). While you may feel this practice is a threat to your identity, causing you to miss a chance to prove your value, in fact, the benefit will far outweigh any loss it brings.
1. According to the author, the fact that her friend’s daughter was not interested in the artwork is ________.| A．worrying | B．unsurprising |
| C．unchangeable | D．unbearable |
| A．Their desire for being well known. |
| B．Their increased focus on life. |
| C．The influence of social media |
| D．The pressure from their family and friends. |
| A．prevent them behaving properly |
| B．stand in the way of leading a true life |
| C．cause them to depend more on the remarks of others |
| D．damage their creativity in producing life material |
| A．trying to take control of your feelings |
| B．facing the threat to your identity bravely |
| C．improving your self-image through writing |
| D．experiencing what you’re doing practically |
【推荐2】Some years ago I was offered a writing task that would require three months of travel through Europe. I had been abroad a couple of times, but I could hardly claim to know my way around the continent (大陆). Moreover, my knowledge of foreign languages was limited to a little college French.
I hesitated. How would I, unable to speak the language, totally unfamiliar with local geography or transportation systems, set up interviews and do research? It seemed impossible, and with much regret I sat down to write a letter begging off. Halfway through, a thought ran through my mind: you can’t learn if you don’t try. So I accepted it.
There were some bad moments. But by the time I had finished the trip I was an experienced traveler. And ever since, I have never hesitated to head for even the most remote of places, without guides or even advanced bookings, confident that somehow I will manage.
The point is that the new, the different, is almost by definition (意味着) scary. But each time you try something, you learn, and as the learning gathers, the world opens to you.
I’ve learned to ski at 40, and flown up the Rhine River in a balloon. And I know I’ll go on doing such things. It’s not because I’m braver or more daring than others. I’m not. But I’ll accept anxiety as another name for challenge and I believe I can achieve wonders.
1. Why did the author accept the writing task?| A．He had never travelled abroad before. |
| B．He hardly knew any foreign languages. |
| C．He was familiar with any other country in Europe. |
| D．He would learn something new and different by trying. |
| A．He used to be a wonder. | B．He thought little of travelling. |
| C．He’s ready to face any challenge. | D．He’s easy to be defeated. |
| A．Every garden has its weeds. |
| B．Life is about learning to dance in the rain. |
| C．Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. |
| D．All that glitters is not gold. |
| A．Ready to Try and Challenge. | B．An Interesting Trip Abroad. |
| C．My First Writing Assignment. | D．How to be Daring and Brave. |
【推荐3】My real love for poetry as an adult came when, as a participant in a writer's workshop, I heard a poet read her work aloud. I was there to study nonfiction, and every evening participants gathered to hear their peers and teachers read work from their selected genres. As I listened to Solmaz Sharif read her poem, I was overcome by it. It was just like a dance and I was invited to participate. I looked around the room to see if everyone else was as shocked as I was. I was in love and I think it was because she was in love.
After the writer's workshop, I began to try on different poets. I was desperate to find another connection to a poet like the one I had experienced with Sharif. I borrowed a collection of poems from our local library.
One afternoon as I sat on the couch browsing it, the feeling returned. As I reached the final line, my 8-year-old daughter walked into the room to see me spit joy and tears and grief all over the living room carpet.
“ What's the matter, Mom?” she asked.
"A poem, that's all," I said. She smiled, relieved nothing was wrong.“ Want to hear it?” I said.
We sat together, on the couch, and I read Kay Ryan aloud. When we were finished, my daughter ran up to her bedroom to grab a notebook so she could compose some of her own lines. She fell in love because I was in love. Those fifteen minutes spent on the couch together taught her more about poetry than any eight-week curriculum could have.
We didn't study poetry to tick the boxes of an imagined cultural syllabus. Rather, we leaned close to each other and fell in love with the words.
Part of teaching our children to love poetry is falling in love with poetry ourselves. Does that mean I don't worry about teaching them the different forms and skills? Certainly not. I mean, while it is true that great poems come as a result of a mastery of the craft, hard work, and patience, in the beginning I simply encourage my children to enjoy the words, and I cheer them on as they dare to write down their own lines.
1. What was the writer's purpose of attending a writer's workshop?| A．To make new friends. | B．To learn nonfiction works. |
| C．To meet much-loved poets. | D．To exchange reading notes. |
| A．She loved dancing. | B．She was too surprised. |
| C．She was touched by the reading. | D．She never heard this poem before. |
| A．To tell she was easy to be moved. | B．To prove her daughter also loved poems. |
| C．To show her daughter was talented. | D．To support her own opinion. |
| A．Teach them writing skills. | B．Ask them to write their own poems. |
| C．Act as role models for them. | D．Buy them collections of poems. |
