When you are communicating, you spend nearly 60 % of your time listening to other people, but most people only absorb 25 % of what they hear.
Be more present.
Do you find yourself looking at your phone or following a TV show during a conversation with a family member or a friend?
Be more inter active.
Being a good listener doesn’t just mean you only let the other person speak.
Train your emotional intelligence.
The way you are able to manage your own emotions influences your ability to listen to other people.
Make note of the conversation.
A.Listen to another person. |
B.And the good news is that you can train it. |
C.You also need to ask meaningful questions. |
D.What is the key message of the last discussion? |
E.Listening is not the same as waiting for your turn to talk. |
F.These absence of attention can have much big consequences. |
G.So how can you listen more and become the person people want to talk to? |
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【推荐1】Loneliness can cause health problems. Around the globe, about 1 in 4 adults says they’re lonely. How to deal with this kind of problem? Here are some tips to get going.
1. Be curious
It’s easier to connect with people if you have shared interests or experiences, so start paying attention to what’s on your mind. What are you thinking about? What motivates you? What excites you? Knowing yourself can be a first step to bonding with others. If you know what’s meaningful or fun for you, it may lead you to an activity or creative outlet.
2. Make something
3. Take a risk by having conversations
Share something about yourself.
4.
Whether it’s volunteering for a cause you believe in or playing frisbee or Scrabble, try to find others who share your interests. And if you follow your natural curiosities, you may find something new. Share your thoughts and feelings in creative ways with other people who have that interest. And, hopefully, in those interactions you can begin to reveal yourself and share the unique things that matter to you. Then, other people recognize that, share their story in return, and it’s like an electric circuit is connected.
5. Other people’s loneliness matters too
Loneliness can spiral. If the pangs of loneliness go unaddressed, people can end up in a world of hurt. If you see someone who’s experiencing loneliness, tolerate the risk of asking them how they’re doing. Be kind.
A.Everyone can be “Picasso”. |
B.Encourage people to get started on their own. |
C.Find a group that matches your interests |
D.It doesn’t have to be the biggest secret of your life. |
E.That certainly connects you to people who share your interests. |
F.Take the risk to share something about your own experiences of loneliness. |
G.Explaining what you’ve made may make it easier to open up about who you are. |
【推荐2】A fear of heights is a common feeling that is easy to understand. According to many psychologists, a fear of heights is one of the only two natural fears — the other is the fear of loud noises.
Fortunately, having an irrational fear of heights can be corrected.
It is important to remember that an inappropriate fear of heights is not unusual and can be treated.
A.Another way to overcome a fear of heights is to learn to control the physical symptoms. |
B.However, some people have an irrational (非理性的) and unhealthy fear of heights. |
C.One way to defeat your fear of heights is to do an activity that involves nothing but heights. |
D.There are a number of ways that can be achieved. |
E.John Adams, an English teacher, has an irrational fear of heights that makes his life very difficult. |
F.If you are on the edge of a cliff, it is useful to be a little afraid. |
G.Nearly everyone experiences some degree of anxiety when exposed to heights. |
【推荐3】Nowadays, students seem to be increasingly glued to their phones. Reading books is a great way to help fight that addiction, but how can students get a good reading habit?
You want to start reading and aren’t quite sure where to go.
Read step by step and consistently.
Longer pieces of text and thick novels may seem intimidating(令人胆怯的), but an important thing to remember is that you don’t have to read the whole thing in one day.
A.There are many websites with a variety of topics, ranging from animals to politics. |
B.Read it on the plane, in queues, instead of looking at your phone. |
C.What you have to remember to do is to be consistent. |
D.Where can you go to look for books? |
E.I recommend looking for things that interest you. |
F.Don’t read too difficult books. |
G.Read right books. |