Listening heals hurts and builds bridges. It gives us the ability to understand and view the world from our own point.
As it turns out, effective listening is actually a combination of two key communication skills: listening and confirming. As an effective listener, your goal is to hear and absorb what another has to say.
This is much easier said than done, so here are a few helpful tips:
•Give the speaker your full attention.
•Be patient.
Not everyone is a gifted speaker. Some people take longer to find the right word to make a point. Others are too worried to get their message across properly.
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If what someone is saying creates an emotional response in you, make an extra effort to listen carefully. When we' re angry, frightened or upset, we often miss key parts of what is being said.
·Hold your fire.
Don't jump to conclusions immediately.
A.Never hide your true emotion. |
B.Keep your emotions in check. |
C.Only then can you respond properly. |
D.Stop talking and remove all distractions. |
E.If necessary, ask the speaker to explain further. |
F.You can take a moment to stand in the other person's shoes. |
G.A good listener doesn't react until comprehension is complete. |
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【推荐1】In many countries, salt is used to remove dangerous ice from roads and walkways in the winter. But when the spring arrives, all that salt can really damage plants in the garden. That is because water is pulled from living cells, like plant roots and the healthy ground soil around them.
Rain can help by washing away much of the salt, so that some older plants survive. Salt can also be removed by pouring a large amount of water on the ground where plants are growing.
Some other things, of course, can be used in place of sodium chloride (NaCl). One is the chemical calcium chloride (CaCl2). It does less damage to plants and melts ice faster than salt.
Calcium magnesium acetate, also called CMA, has become a popular alternative. It is made by combining limestone, a type of rock, and vinegar. It breaks down naturally so it does not damage plants or soil. It stays on roads and does not hurt cars.
A.No method is better than the other. |
B.CMA does have problems, however. |
C.The best action is to simply use less salt. |
D.It proves highly efficient when the sun comes out. |
E.The best way to remove ice is through an integrated method. |
F.So, spring growth may show up lighter in color than normal. |
G.It also works when the temperature is below negative 17 degrees Celsius. |
【推荐2】How to Say Short-Term Goodbyes
Knowing when and how to say goodbye is often difficult, even in informal situations. But learning to say goodbye appropriately is a skill that will help you maintain(维持)your relationships.
Recognize when to leave. When you’re at any kind of party or gathering, or even in a one-on-one conversation, it can be difficult to get away. Learning to recognize good chances to leave will make a short-term goodbye much easier. Notice if the crowd seems to be decreasing.
Make plans to see each other again. Even saying “See you at school tomorrow” keeps the goodbye light and focused forward. If you haven’t already made plans, use it as a chance to make them.
Tell the truth. It can be tempting to come up with a “good excuse” when you’re ready to leave. You don’t need to.
A.Watch body language. |
B.Make your exit directly. |
C.It’s also easier than it seems sometimes. |
D.Even saying “See you soon” suggests just that. |
E.However, it is not a good idea to tell the truth immediately. |
F.If more than half the people have left, it might be a good time to leave. |
G.If you want to leave, just say, “I’m going to go now. See you later.” |
【推荐3】Many people do not fully understand what self-care means. So they may view self-care as a form of selfish behavior.
Take regular exercise.
It’s important to listen to your body and take a break.
Discover the source of your stress.
Make a list of things that cause your stress in all ways of your life.
Money matters can be a significant source of stress and anxiety. But practising financial self-care through planning and budgeting can help to lessen this burden. No, it’s not as fun as treating yourself on payday, but creating a budget and sticking to it can enable you to take control of your financial wellbeing.
A.Manage your finance. |
B.Perfect oneself by any means necessary. |
C.The next step is to do your best to avoid them. |
D.However, don’t let every day become a rest day! |
E.After completing these three steps, you can begin to make a plan you can work on. |
F.But in fact, the act of caring for oneself is an important part of a person’s wellbeing. |
G.Self-care is a lifestyle that enables you to ensure your wellbeing now and for years to come. |
【推荐1】For 85 years, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has tracked an original group of 724 men and more than 1,300 of their male and female descendants (后代) over three generations, asking thousands of questions and taking hundreds of measurements to find out what really keeps people healthy and happy.
Through all the years of studying these lives, one crucial factor stands out for the consistency and power of its bond to physical health, mental health and longevity: good relationships.
In 2008, researchers telephoned the wives and husbands of Harvard Study couples in their 80s every night for eight nights. Researchers spoke to each partner separately and asked them a series of questions about their days.
On days when these men and women spent more time in the company of others, they were happier. Like most older people, those in the Harvard Study experienced day-to-day rises and falls in their levels of physical pain and health difficulties. But researchers found that the people who were in more satisfying relationships were cushioned (缓冲) somewhat from these ups and downs of mood—their happiness did not decline as much on the days when they had more pain. Simply put, their happy marriages seemed to have a protective effect.
Elizabeth Gillespie, a therapist of couples, stated that although most of us found that our experience of relationships might be hard, and at times, impossible, it is essential to our well-being.
Today we live in much more complicated environments, so meeting our social needs presents different challenges. We might be sitting on a gold mine of vitality that we are not paying attention to, because it is hidden by the shiny appeal of smartphones or pushed to the side by work demands.
1. What’s the purpose of the Harvard Study of Adult Development?A.To study their lives over three generations. |
B.To reveal the secret to health and well-being. |
C.To track the descendants of an original group. |
D.To study the relationship between health and happiness. |
A.By working with other researchers. |
B.By tracking specific groups of people. |
C.By helping participants with social difficulties. |
D.By comparing the results from different people. |
A.To provide evidence for the bond of health and longevity. |
B.To introduce the concept of physical pain and health difficulties. |
C.To show the negative impact of unhappy marriages on older people’s mood. |
D.To support the positive impact of satisfying relationships on people’s lives. |
A.Having good social connections. |
B.Declining pains and difficulties. |
C.Overcoming ups and downs of mood. |
D.Experiencing rises and falls of physical health. |
【推荐2】The relationship between teachers and students has been hotly discussed in recent years in China,
First and foremost, make a good first impression on your teachers.
Finally, communicate with your teachers frequently after class.
In fact, kids who get along with their teachers not only learn more, but they’re more comfortable asking questions and getting extra help.
A.Always respect your teachers. |
B.As the saying goes, well begun is half done. |
C.Secondly, study hard and be active in class. |
D.for more and more attention is paid to education. |
E.In this case, you could make good friends with them. |
F.This makes it easier to understand new materials and do your best on tests. |
G.for a good teacher has access to children’s minds when they are eager to learn. |
【推荐3】In six months, I will be 50 but I already know what I’ll regret. This is the answer. “if anything had been different, I wouldn’t be who I am today.” Being like what I am today is so great that I’d never want to change it. But…
KIDS. I wish I had spent more time with my kids.
MONEY. I wish for 15 years or so I wasn’t so focused on money.
CREATIVITY. I began my career in my 20s doing things that were really creative that I loved. I was trying to write a novel. I was trying to do a TV show. I was always around people I loved so much. And I spent time with them because I loved them and not because I wanted anything else. I wish I had stuck with that. Now, in my 40s, I’m trying to catch up.
HUMILITY. When I first made some money, I became a bit too proud. I started investing in all of these horrible companies and having horrible friends.
DISAGREEMENT.
Anyway, if I had a time machine, would I go back in time? I’m not sure. It’s OK to feel regretful some times.
A.It's never too late, of course. |
B.I couldn't say “no" to people. |
C.Sure, I spend quality time with them now. |
D.It's the double-horrible that finally kills you. |
E.I used to disagree with others' unreasonable requests. |
F.I wish I could have done something differently in the past. |
G.I would have held my daughter's hand when she came home from school. |