Dr Tamara Scully, a psychologist who works with children, young people and adults, shares how grandparents can help children’s well-being.
It is difficult to search for the answer to the main mental health challenges facing children. Over the past two years, there has been an increase in child and adolescent mental health difficulties. In particular, there has been a significant increase in anxiety and eating disorders, both of which are the consequence of the COVID-19. Young people are also reporting a much higher level of solitude (孤独), which may arise from spending too much time on cellphones, televisions and computers.
All these will deeply affect how they behave in their daily life. And it’s absolutely normal for young people to move up and down the mental health curve (曲线). “We get concerned when we notice big changes in their behavior that don’t pass in a few weeks. For example, grandchildren stop meeting friends, stay in their bedroom or lose interest in things they used to enjoy.”
So what role can grandparents play in ensuring their grandchildren’s well-being? According to Scully, the most important thing grandparents can offer is simply themselves, just being there, listening and accepting. There’s a lovely saying that it takes a village to raise a child. Relationships are the biggest predictors of happiness and success throughout the whole life. Strong positive relationships build resilience (抗逆力) in our young people.
Grandparents should also be present and give their time. They can give their time directly to their grandchildren and to their own children. A parent who is allowed time to refuel will show up as a better parent. They can help their grandchildren by being on their team and sitting with them when times are tough. All children benefit from something called relational wealth and this is a grandparent’s most important contribution to the growth of their younger generations.
1. Why do young people suffer from increasing loneliness?A.They have less non-screen time. |
B.They prefer enjoying various take-out. |
C.They fail to conquer emotional disorders. |
D.They concentrate more on ups than downs. |
A.Children should form great resilience. |
B.Children should learn to predict their success. |
C.Children should be brought up by all villagers. |
D.Children should grow up in a harmonious relationship. |
A.Disapproved. | B.Favorable. |
C.Tolerant. | D.Skeptical. |
A.How to accept the youth of today. | B.How to be a qualified grandparent. |
C.How to help grandchildren’s welfare. | D.How to tackle the mental health challenges. |
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Mother of all relationships should not be overbearing
When a controlling mother finds that her rebellious son wants to free himself from her clutches and start his own life, what happens? Well, she might just lose it and swallow him.
This happened in Bao, the Chinese-centric film that claimed Best Animated Short at the 9lst Oscar Awards. Directed by China-born Canadian director Domee Shi, Bao tells the story of a Chinese steamed bun, or baozi, that comes to life and cries like a baby just before a woman is about to eat it. The lonely Chinese housewife, whose husband is always busy with work, regards the baby baozi as her substitute son. As time passes, it grows up and decides to leave home with its blonde girlfriend. That’s exactly when the controlling mom swallows it up whole out of frustration.
The short film actually reflects the condition of the director herself and of most Chinese families.
In China, "widow-style childcare" describes many Chinese mothers’ ending in recent years. The term describes a bitter social reality: Once the child is born, the father disappears. He would work, drink all night, or do anything except help his wife take care of their child. As a result, the mother would throw herself completely into raising the child, without having a life of her own. She needs to know where her child is every moment, what he or she is doing whenever possible— even if the child has attained adulthood. She can be bossy, anxious and seemingly unreasonable. She represents many Chinese mothers of today.
Believe me, such an unnatural relationship can harm both mother and child. When one grows up, he or she may find it difficult to fit in with society. As for the mother, she would feel lonely as long as her child is not around, which may lead to depression and other psychological problems.
Then what is the best model for mothers and children to get along? I’d proudly introduce my mom. When I was a child, she cared for my safety, studies and daily life like every other mother. But her love wouldn’t drown me. After I grew up and went to college, she wouldn’t interfere in my life—because she had already taught me to distinguish good from bad. I don’t need to worry about her as she has her own life—loves yoga, cooking, and even started to learn English when she was 40. Now she hangs out with her foreign friends from time to time just like teenagers.
I believe this is a healthy mother-child relationship—as the two are independent individuals. Indeed, the mother needs to take care of her child. But instead of providing the fish, it is more important to teach one how to fish. Thus when the child grows up, both have their own life, and do not become attached to each other. A mother is not supposed to control her child for life. By doing so, she would only be pushing her son or daughter away from her because nobody wants to live in a prison made of love.
But the film has a happy ending. The woman finds that it was only a nightmare. I do hope that all mothers who lean too heavily on their children wake up from this dream, so that they would live happily ever after.
In the movie: Bao | the father | He |
the mother | She regards baozi as her substitute son. | |
the end | The frustrated mother swallowed up baozi. Luckily, it is nothing but a | |
In | the father | He tends to be |
the mother | She | |
The possible harms | for the child | It will be difficult for the child to get |
for the mother | When the child is not around, | |
Conclusion | Mothers and children should have their |
【推荐2】Last month my mother moved into a nursing home. This came after years of witnessing the worsening of her cognitive abilities and changes in her personality, all thanks to life-sucking frontotemporal dementia (FTD).
My mom is going to lose her ability to speak, have trouble forming complete thoughts and sentences, and eventually forget how to do things she loved, like cook and read.
But despite all of her inabilities, when I walked in on her having dinner with the rest of the women that make up the dementia floor of the nursing home, I didn’t think she belonged.
It wasn’t until I spent three days there bonding with those women that I realized what scared me the most-she did fit in.
If you were an outsider looking at these women, you’d pity them. You’d think it was cruel that our bodies could turn on us in this way. You’d think it was sad that their families have put the burden of taking care of them on someone else. You’d want to intervene.
You’d want to give the lady eating mashed potatoes with her hands a spoon, you’d want to peel the orange for the lady who’s eating it like an apple, you’d want to scold the lady who forgets to flush the toilet and wash her hands after using the bathroom.
I did all those things to my mother. But when I see her in an environment that lets her be herself, it somehow seems okay.
Learn to love them unconditionally. It’s easier said than done, but if she loved me after giving her hell for making me come home by 10 p. m. on Fridays, I can love her even if she forgets my name.
1. What frightened the author most?A.Her mother adapted to the nursing home. |
B.She had to look after her mother. |
C.Her mother suffered from FTD. |
D.She lived with those women at the nursing home. |
A.Amaze. | B.Interrupt. |
C.Permit. | D.Explore. |
A.She let her mother alone. |
B.She took care of her mother at home. |
C.She sent her mother to hospital. |
D.She let her mother stay at the nursing home. |
A.Mean. | B.Selfish. |
C.Grateful. | D.Honest. |
【推荐3】What is a family? Why does it matter? What does it teach us that we can’t learn on our own? These questions seem especially relevant in the holiday season when it is often our tradition to gather as families and celebrate together.
My mother was one of twelve children. As they grew up, married and had children of their own, most of them lived near enough to gather for holidays at my grandparents’ home in a small town in the mountains of North Carolina.
I don’t recall getting many gifts from them .I remember the sense of belonging, of being part of something that assured me I was loved and not alone.
I delighted in the laughing, playing and fighting with my crazy cousins. I watched my granddad and uncles sit on the porch, rain or shine, smoking and joking, arguing about politics and trying to solve the problems of the world. I listened to my grandmother, mother and aunts stir (搅拌) pots on the stove and talk about their lives, hopes, dreams and disappointments, and gossip about any sister who failed to show up.
The food was always plentiful and delicious-country ham, sweet potatoes, green beans, biscuits and my grandmother’s banana pudding. But for me, the food was never the highlight. The highlight was simply being together. A family.
However, they’re all gone now. My parents and grandparents, my aunts and uncles have left this world for the next. My cousins are scattered here and there. And yet the memories linger, along with the love that we shared.
I treasure those memories and the things they taught me. They told me that families aren’t perfect, but they prepare us to find our way in an imperfect world. They made me realize that all families are crazy in their own particular ways.
My husband and I are growing a new family, while keeping close to the surviving members of the families. It’s a beautiful blend (混合) of kindness, traditions, nurturing (养育) and friendships, which grows year after year.
I hope this holiday season will fill you with lovely memories of the family that raised you, and surround you with all the people who mean “family” to you now.
1. What do we know about the author’s family according to the article?A.She didn’t get on well with her cousins. |
B.Her grandpa and uncles were politicians. |
C.Her family delighted in their gatherings. |
D.The female members liked to show off. |
A.there was a lot of inviting food |
B.special gifts were selected thoughtfully |
C.they brought the family closer together |
D.she got to see relatives who seldom visited |
A.Disappear. | B.Remain. |
C.Increase. | D.Fade. |
A.Good families should live together. |
B.Imperfect families may help us adjust to the world. |
C.Memories of perfect families deserve treasuring. |
D.It’s necessary to create crazy family traditions. |
【推荐1】The government of Singapore has created a highly developed system that turns wastewater into drinking water. The system involves a network of tunnels and high-technology treatment centers.
Reused wastewater can now meet 40 percent of Singapore's water demand. The country's water agency says it expects to meet 55 percent of Singapore's water demand by the year 2060. Most of the water is used for microchip manufacturing centers and cooling systems in buildings. But some of it is added to the country's drinking water supplies. The system helps reduce ocean pollution, as only a small amount of the treated water is sent into the sea.
The United Nations estimates that 80 percent of the world's wastewater flows back into the oceans without being treated or reused. Singapore has few natural water sources. The island nation has long had to depend mostly on supplies from neighboring Malaysia.
Low Pei Chin is chief engineer of the water reclamation department of the Public Utilities Board. She told reporters with Agence France-Press, "Singapore lacks natural resources, and it is limited in space, which is why we are always looking for ways to explore water sources and stretch our water supply." One major plan is to "collect every drop" and "reuse endlessly," she added.
The Changi Water Reclamation Plant on Singapore's eastern coast is the main part of the country's recycling system. Parts of the water treatment center are underground. Wastewater enters the center through a 48-kilometer tunnel that is linked to sewers. The center contains a large system of steel pipes, tubes, tanks, cleaning systems and other machinery. It can treat up to 900 million liters of wastewater a day. In one building, a network of air flow systems has been put in place to keep the air smelling as fresh as possible. Waste that arrives at the plant goes through a cleaning process before powerful pumps send it flowing to areas above ground for more treatment.
There, the treated water receives additional cleaning. Bacteria and viruses are removed through highly developed cleaning processes and disinfected with ultraviolet radiation.
Singapore is also in the process of expanding its recycling system. The country will add another underground tunnel and a major water treatment center to serve the western half of the island. Officials expect work on the center to be completed by 2025. By the time the expansion is finished, Singapore will have spent about $7.4 billion on its water treatment systems.
1. What does the passage tell us ?A.The water resources of the Singapore |
B.Singapore Turns Wastewater into Drinking Water |
C.the importance of drinking water |
D.wastewater of the Singapore |
A.how the cleaning system works |
B.the measures taken by the Singapore |
C.the importance of the drinking water |
D.the future of the wastewater treated |
A.drinking |
B.pouring into the sea |
C.microchip manufacturing centers and cooling systems in buildings |
D.reducing ocean pollution |
A.through highly developed cleaning processes and disinfected with ultraviolet radiation. |
B.through a special kind of chemical. |
C.with ultraviolet radiation. |
D.purifying water by itself. |
【推荐2】Look carefully and you’ll find musicians at the top of almost any industry. The television broadcaster Paula Zahn(cello) and the NBC chief White House correspondent Chuck Todd (French horn) attended college on music scholarships; Both Microsoft’s Mr. Allen and the venture capitalist Rogar MeNamee have rock bands. Lorry Page, a co-founder of Google, played saxophone in high school. The former World Bank president James D. Wolfensohn has played cello at Carnegie Hall.
The connection isn’t a coincidence. I know because I asked. I put the question to top-flight professionals in industries from tech to finance to media, all of whom had serious (if often little-known) past lives as musicians. Almost all made a connection between their music training and their professional achievements.
Will your school music program turn your kid into a Paul Allen, the billionaire co-founder of Microsoft (guitar)? Or a Woody Allen(clarinet)? Probably not. These are outstanding achievers. But the way these and other visionaries (有远见的人) I spoke to process music is interesting.
But the key question is: why does that connection exist? Paul Allen offers an answer. He says music “establish your confidence in the ability to create.” He began playing the violin at age 7 and switched to the guitar as a teenager. Even in the early days of Microsoft, he would pick up his guitar at the end of marathon days of programming. The music was the emotional analog (类比) to his day job, both of them show his different creativity. He says, “something is pushing you to look beyond what currently exists and express yourself in a new way.”
For many of the high achievers I spoke with, music functions as a “hidden language,” as Mr. Wolfensohn calls it, one that enhances the ability to connect different or even opposite ideas. When he ran the World Band, Mr.Wolfensohn traveled to more than 100 countries, often taking in local performances (and occasionally joining in on a borrowed cello), which helped him understand “the culture of people”.
Consider the qualities these high achievers say music has sharpened: cooperation, creativity, discipline and the capacity to coordinate (协调) conflicting ideas. All are qualities obviously absent from public life. Music may not make you a genius, or rich, or even a better person. But it helps train you to think differently, to process different points of views - and most important, to take pleasure in listening.
1. The reason why the author quote so many outstanding people as examples in the first paragraph isA.to prove the popularity and the charm of music |
B.to prove all winners are musicians before |
C.to encourage kids to choose school music program |
D.to prove the connection between success and music |
A.Are success related to music or not? |
B.Why do you choose music training? |
C.What’s the benefit of learning music? |
D.Why do you give up the career as a musician? |
A.Everybody knows those well-known people are musicians before. |
B.Musicians exist in all industries. |
C.Music can certainly make you become a better person. |
D.Music helps Mr. Wolfensohn have a better understanding of the different culture. |
A.many musicians are found at the top of almost any industry |
B.music plays an important role in achieving success |
C.music can provide a new way to express yourself |
D.music is an absolute necessity for everyone |
A.by classification | B.by comparison | C.by example | D.by process |
【推荐3】Obesity (过度肥胖) may damage the brain’s ability to recognize the sensation of fullness and be satisfied after eating fats and sugars, a new study found.
Further, those brain changes may last even after people considered medically obese lose a significant amount of weight — possibly explaining why many people often regain the pounds they lose.
The study, published Monday in Nature Metabolism, was a controlled clinical trial in which 30 people considered to be medically obese and 30 people of normal weight were fed sugar carbohydrates (glucose), fats (lipids) or water (as a control). Each group of nutrients were fed directly into the stomach via a feeding tube on separate days.
The night before the testing, all 60 study participants had the same meal for dinner at home and did not eat again until the feeding tube was in place the next morning. As either sugars or fats entered the stomach via the tube, researchers used functional magnetic resonance imaging (功能性磁共振成像) and single-photon emission computed tomography (单光子发射计算机断层扫描技术) to capture the brain’s response over 30 minutes.
In people with normal weight, the study found brain signals in the striatum (纹状体) slowed when either sugars or fats were put into the digestive system — evidence that the brain recognized the body had been fed. At the same time, levels of dopamine (多巴胺) rose in those at normal weight, signaling that the reward centers of the brain were also activated.
However, when the same nutrients were given via feeding tube to people considered medically obese, brain activity did not slow, and dopamine levels did not rise.
Next, the study asked people with obesity to lose 10% of their body weight within three months — an amount of weight known to improve blood sugars, reset metabolism and boost overall health.
Tests were repeated as before — with surprising results. Losing weight did not reset the brain in people with obesity.
Much more research is needed to fully understand what obesity does to the brain, and if that is triggered by the fat tissue itself, the types of food eaten, or other environmental and genetic factors.
1. What aspects did the researchers focus on in the study?A.Blood sugars and metabolism. |
B.Brain activities and dopamine levels. |
C.Nutrients and the digestive system. |
D.Food types and environmental factors. |
A.The results were the same to people with different weights. |
B.Brain signals slowed when nutrients were fed to overweight people. |
C.Losing weight helped reactivate brain signals in overweight people. |
D.Dopamine levels increased when nutrients were fed to people at normal weight. |
A.Positive. | B.Neutral. | C.Unfavorable. | D.Uncertain. |
A.A science journal. | B.A sports newspaper. |
C.A tour guidebook. | D.An entertainment magazine. |