At its core, social media is about advertising, but not just in terms of the products. Users are advertising themselves, making themselves look special and happy, no matter how many filters (滤镜) it takes. This can actually be damaging, especially to younger people. Because they traditionally look to their peers (同龄人) to help them determine what’s normal and who they should desire to be, and they particularly fear the social exclusion that comes from not fitting in with their peer group’s expectations.
With social media, their peers appear light years ahead in terms of wealth, beauty, and access to the kind of overall resources most of us can only dream of. The problem is that most of them achieved their fabulousness (难以置信的美好) through pure luck.
That’s why the core of our advice, for both adults and kids, begins with learning to accept what you can and can’t control, especially during those times when making things better isn’t really possible. And the one thing you can control when life sucks (令人不愉快) is knowing your standards for being a good person and living up to those standards regardless of how you feel or look or what other people think.
Being a good person isn’t about being perfect or ultra-unselfish; you don’t need to work in a soup kitchen or donate a kidney in order to qualify. In part, that’s because helping others must always come second to doing the smaller things required every day to take care of your own responsibilities and live up to your own values.
After explaining these ideas to their kids, parents can ask them to think about what they can and can’t control given how often life is just plain unfair. They can also ask their kids to think about the qualities they admire in people they believe to be good. This way, parents aren’t lecturing their kids about the importance of real values but encouraging them to make up their own minds about the values they find important. After all, people of any age are much more likely to make smart decisions if they’re asked to think through issues carefully and determine the right thing on their own, rather than being pushed in that direction.
1. Why are kids more likely to be harmed by social media according to paragraph 1?| A．They lack self-discipline. |
| B．They cannot distinguish good from bad. |
| C．They often have unhealthy online habits. |
| D．They tend to compare themselves with their peers. |
| A．Accepting reality. |
| B．Finding a role model. |
| C．Ignoring others’ opinions. |
| D．Having an optimistic attitude toward life. |
| A．To suggest how we can be a good person. |
| B．To state that helping others makes us perfect. |
| C．To explain the importance of living up to our values. |
| D．To clear up possible misunderstandings about being a good person. |
| A．Parents should have regular communication with their kids. |
| B．Parents should motivate their kids’ inner drive. |
| C．Children should be taught about real values. |
| D．Children should make clever decisions. |
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【推荐1】Hundreds of millions of people watched on television on July 20, 1969, when American astronauts Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin became the first humans to land on the moon. Back then, businesses sold many products connected to the event and many such products are now on sales again — in celebration of the moon landing’s 50th anniversary.
A limited number of Omega’s gold Speedmaster watches — the same kind that Buzz Aldrin wore on the moon — will be sold at $34,600. Omega Speedmaster watches have been an important part of space travel since NASA chose them for its moon landing in 1965. Other watches had failed required tests. Omega gave its gold Speedmasters to the astronauts at a dinner in 1969 before the landing. Another less costly type of silver Speedmasters will be sold at $ 9,650. It carries a picture of Aldrin stepping down from the moon lander.
Something for children-as well as adults — is the NASA Apollo 11 moon lander set. Made by Lego, it is a group of small pieces to put together to make a model of the moon lander.
Other things for sale include the anti-gravity Fisher Space Pens, developed just for the Apollo 11 mission. They work even when writing upside down. Now Fisher Space Pen Company has a limited-edition pen for sale at an out-of this-world price: $700, with real material from the Apollo 11 spacecraft.
Back in 1969, companies were quick to show their Apollo 11 connections with media and advertisements. The food company Stouffer’s made sure consumers knew it provided food for Apollo 11 astronauts once they returned to Earth. It started the ad campaign “Everybody who’s been to the moon is eating Stouffer’s”. Fifty years later, the company is celebrating with a media campaign to share some recipes from 1969.
Marketing experts David Meerman Scott says, “Since 1972,we’ve gone around and around the earth many times, and it is not interesting to people any more. I’m not sure whether they can accept such crazy prices. Now NASA has had plans to go to Mars in the 2030s and marketing efforts for a NASA Mars mission should be in development.”
1. What can we learn about the gold Speedmaster watch?| A．It will be sold at $34,600. | B．NASA bought itats9,650. |
| C．It has Aldrin’s picture inside. | D．It was chosen by NASA in 1969. |
| A．Extremely fair. | B．Surprisingly high. | C．Really low. | D．Truly worthwhile. |
| A．It is a waste of money to go around and around the moon. |
| B．People will be interested in the products connected to Apollo. |
| C．Since 1972,governments have lost interest in moon explorations. |
| D．The event of going to Mars will be another good chance to advertise. |
| A．To show how to design the best advertisement. |
| B．To forecast the sales of the products in the text. |
| C．To introduce some of the products connected to Apollo 11. |
| D．To celebrate the 50th anniversary of the first moon landing. |
【推荐2】We’re getting more used to chatting to our computers and smart phones through all kinds of voice assistants.
Some think voice could soon become the main way to interact online. They believe online interaction would soon depend mainly on the spoken web.
Building the spoken web-web-to-voice and voice-to-web — is by no means an easy task. For software, to answer simple questions about the weather and play music for us is easy.
Using voice interaction makes people feel much kinder than surfing the net in the old way.
| A．Yet who can use the spoken web? |
| B．It is also possible to help teachers give lessons. |
| C．But what are the challenges of moving to the spoken web? |
| D．The voice of the assistant makes us feel like talking to a real person. |
| E．Out of these voice assistants, Siri is the most well-known spoken web. |
| F．The benefits of using voice obviously depend on the situation you are in. |
| G．However, to have a conversation with users on different kinds of topics is a long way off. |
【推荐3】Looking at his pile of unpaid bills always makes Giuseppe Del Giudice feel uneasy. Sometimes he incurs (招致) late fees, but in many ways the emotional toll (代价) is worse. “The longer the bills go unpaid,” says Del Giudice, 58, “the more my anxiety increases.”
At the end of the day or month, most people get their tasks done on time, but around 20 percent are chronic procrastinators (慢性拖延者) at home and at work. One big factor for them is fear of failure, of not living up to expectations. Kelli Saginak, a 57-year-old functional health coach from Wisconsin, procrastinated about looking for a new job for years. That inability to take action only confirmed her belief that she would never do any better. “If I don’t take the risk, decide, or commit, I don’t have to face the judgment,” says Saginak.
Some people accept procrastination, believing that they make progress under pressure. But researchers have disproved that view. “I did an experiment several years ago, putting procrastinators under restrictions of time,” says Joseph Ferrari, a psychology professor at DePaul University. “They did worse than nonprocrastinators, but they thought they did better. They made more errors. They took longer.”
Whatever the motivation, delaying a diet or exercise program may increase your risk of heart disease. Not having seen the doctor when your illness was easier to treat may shorten your life. Just thinking about what you haven’t done may cause discomfort. “Procrastinators experience higher levels of stress, both from leaving things to the last minute and from their own negative and self-critical feelings about their procrastination,” says Fuschia Sirois, a psychology lecturer at the University of Sheffield.
One of the most commonly procrastinated activities is going to bed. “You can put your lights on a timed dimmer switch to encourage a consistent bedtime,” said Joel Anderson, a philosophy researcher-lecturer at Utrecht University, who performed an experiment on this and found it worked on most of his subjects. “They formed an intention,” Anderson says. “One of them said, ‘When the lights start to dim, I’ll start going to bed.’ Then, reward yourself for each step you take toward your goal. But don’t try to convince yourself it will work the other way around! ”
1. What prevented Kelli Saginak stepping into the job market again?| A．Her old age. | B．Her lack of skills. |
| C．Her fear of judgment. | D．Her past failure. |
| A．Procrastinators tend to misjudge their abilities. |
| B．It’s hard for people to succeed under pressure. |
| C．Procrastination is part of the human condition. |
| D．Pressure usually leads to better performance. |
| A．Different forms of procrastinating. | B．Negative effects of procrastinating. |
| C．Common excuses for procrastinating. | D．Specific suggestions for procrastinating. |
| A．They can use lighting as little as possible. |
| B．They can first ask themselves about their intentions. |
| C．They can read some boring research papers. |
| D．They can try sending themselves signals to inspire action. |
【推荐1】A century ago, the immigrants from across the Atlantic included settlers and travelers. Along with the many folks looking to make a permanent home in the United States came those who had no intention to stay, and 7 million people arrived while about 2 million departed. About a quarter of all Italian immigrants, for example, eventually returned to Italy for good. They even had an affectionate nickname, “uccelli di passaggio”, birds of passage.
Today, we place more restrictions on immigrants. We divide newcomers into two categories: legal or illegal, good or bad. We acknowledge them as Americans in the making, or identify them as aliens to be kicked out. That framework has contributed a great deal to our broken immigration system and the long political paralysis over how to fix it. We don’t need more categories, but we need to change the way we think about categories. We need to look beyond strict definitions of legal and illegal. To start, we can recognize the new birds of passage, those living and thriving in the gray areas. We might then begin to solve our immigration challenges.
Crop pickers, violinists, construction workers, entrepreneurs, engineers, home health-care aides and physicists are among today’s birds of passage. They are energetic participants in a global economy driven by the flow of work, money and ideas. They prefer to come and go as opportunity calls them. They can manage to have a job in one place and a family in another.
With or without permission, they straddle (跨越) laws, jurisdictions and identities with ease. We need them to imagine the United States as a place where they can be productive for a while without committing themselves to staying forever. We need them to feel that home can be both here and there and that they can belong to two nations honorably.
Accommodating this new world of people in motion will require new attitudes on both sides of the immigration battle. Looking beyond the culture war logic of right or wrong means opening up the middle ground and understanding that managing immigration today requires multiple paths and multiple outcomes, including some that are not easy to accomplish legally in the existing system.
1. What does the underlined phrase “birds of passage” in Paragraph One indicate?| A．People immigrating across the Atlantic. | B．People staying in a foreign country temporarily. |
| C．People leaving their motherland for good. | D．People finding permanent jobs overseas. |
| A．It needs new immigrant categories. | B．It has loosened control over immigrants. |
| C．It should be reformed to meet challenges. | D．It has been fixed through political means. |
| A．They should be treated with legal tolerance. | B．They should be treated with economic favors. |
| C．They should be treated as faithful partners. | D．They should be treated as powerful competitors. |
| A．Come and Go: Big Mistake | B．Living and Thriving: Great Risk |
| C．With or Without: Great Risk | D．Legal or Illegal: Big Mistake |
【推荐2】Female role models are having a moment. In the United States, there is a female vice president. The women’s soccer team is fighting a public, uphill battle for equal pay. Women are even making their way into what had seemed a permanent men’s club: the senior operation ranks of the armed forces.
Role models inspire people by showing what is actually possible. Research supports that it works: these pioneers not only help us imagine where we might go but also map out the path there. Role models have also been shown to have a bigger impact on women and underrepresented communities—those who have not easily achieved their goals. Seeing more women in the world of science, girls of today are more likely, when asked to draw a scientist, to draw a woman than those in past decades. Even one role model can benefit a child, helping them perform better in school and maintain a positive attitude.
However, the idea of “good role models” needs an update, especially when it comes to girls; otherwise the endless stream of shining snapshots of achievement they see can actually lead to self-doubt. In addition to role models, our work on girls and the process of building confidence has found that what girls really need are “work in progress” models. Girls tend to judge themselves harshly and suffer from perfectionism. They need to see the struggles and failures in their role models, as well as great perseverance. Anything that suggests success effortlessly achieved can be discouraged rather than inspired, playing into girls’ worst self-doubt thinking patterns.
Helping girls see the extraordinary in the seemingly ordinary is a good solution to unrealistic expectations. “Everyday heroes have a special impact,” said the child psychologist Bonnie Zucker. “Take a young girl who has to shoulder-the-responsibility for raising her brothers or sisters for some reason. She might not have attractive social media presence, but her bravery, devotion, and emotional labor are, in fact, heroic.”
1. What is Paragraph 1 mainly talking about?| A．Some jobs suitable for females. |
| B．Some influences of female role models. |
| C．Females’ challenges at the workplace. |
| D．Females’ achievements in different fields. |
| A．They give us realistic guides to success. |
| B．They help us know more outstanding people. |
| C．They are preferred by female groups. |
| D．They show us the value of keeping learning. |
| A．Broadening their minds. |
| B．Inspiring them to dream big. |
| C．Driving them to work harder. |
| D．Making them doubt themselves. |
| A．They make them achieve success quickly. |
| B．They help them accept their imperfect selves. |
| C．They teach them to be strict with themselves. |
| D．They encourage them to follow their dreams. |
| A．Many girls’ expectations are unrealistic. |
| B．Girls have a strong sense of responsibility. |
| C．Girls can follow heroic examples in daily life. |
| D．Social activities are of great importance to girls. |
【推荐3】Many parents set rules for their children’s online activity, such as limiting (限制) the amount of time they can spend online. But some children in the US and UK are saying that they’d like to make rules for parents, too. Their main complaint? That their parents share too many photos of them online.
In a 2016 study, it was found that parents in the US share an average of 116 photos of their kids after they are born. Most were taken before the child turned 8 years old. Many of the photos showed kids in embarrassing situations, like having food all over their faces, Quartz reported.
Parents do like to share their child’s progress as he or she grows up. But their kids don’t like it as much. In a survey of UK children between the ages of 12 and 16, 70 percent said they felt their parents didn’t respect their online privacy (隐私), according to Digital Parenting magazine.
In addition, many kids said that other students at school sometimes picks on (捉弄) them after their parents post photos online, CBS News noted. In one case, a girl was bullied (欺负) by boys at school after they found her moms’ blogs, which had many family photos.
“Each time a photo or video is uploaded, it creates a digital footprint of a child, which can follow them into adult life, “a spokeswoman for a leading children’s charity in the UK said. “It’s always important to ask children for their permission (允许) before posting photos or videos of them.”
What is sharenting?
There’s a new word English to describe it when parents post pictures of their online—“sharenting”, or a combination of the world “share” and “parenting”.
1. According to the first paragraph, what do kids in the US and UK complain about?| A．Their parents setting rules for their online activity. |
| B．Their parents limiting the amount of time they spend online. |
| C．Their parents posting too many photos of them online. |
| D．Their parents setting high expectations for their schoolwork. |
| A．care too much about their progress in school |
| B．forget to set good examples for them |
| C．don’t care enough about their online safety |
| D．don’t respect their online privacy |
| A．Parents should ask kids for permission before sharing their photos. |
| B．UK kids don’t mind that their photos are shared by their parents. |
| C．Sharing photos online helps kids live a better adult life. |
| D．Kids don’t get bullied at school when their photos are shared online. |
| A．Nature Today | B．All about Space |
| C．Philosophy for Life | D．Society and Culture |
Chinese students have tended to come to the UK at a younger age in recent years, which means they come to Britain not only for higher education, but also for high school or even primary school. Asian investors (投资者) have followed this trend, and started to buy independent schools to serve this demand.
An article carried by the Times of London on October 17 reported that last year Chinese-owned company Achieve Education bought Chase Grammar, a boarding and day school in Cannock, Staffordshire. Chase Grammar includes a program that offers extra support for pupils from China. “This trend is very good and I am not at all surprised,” Barnaby Lenon, chairman of the Independent Schools Council, told the Global Times, adding that Chinese people like the English education system. “We welcome Chinese investors in British private education.” “Chase Grammar School is small, and the classes are small. It gives the school a family atmosphere,” Jackie Medhurst, principal of Chase Grammar School, said in a welcome note on the school’s website.
Small class sizes, personal care, good exam result, and entry to world famous universities are features that are most attractive to Chinese students. But many parents are also worried that foreign investors might expand the proportion of international students, and that might undermine the British tradition.
It seems that Chase Grammar does not intend to hide their attempts to attract Chinese families. It has set up a China office in Shanghai to facilitate Chinese parents’ communication with the school. Tong Zhou, a director of Chase Grammar, told the media that the school does not intent to change the ratio of local students and international students.
Some international branches of British boarding schools are very popular in Asia. In recent years, the Chinese passion for the British boarding school system has led some of the best-known schools such as Harrow and Wellington to set up satellite schools in Beijing, Shanghai and Hong Kong. And the trend continues.
It seems that the rising wealthy class in Asia is not satisfied with international branches in their own countries. They want to send their kids to the original British boarding schools to be surrounded by English people and immersed in the British culture. To support their children studying in the UK, Chinese parents are buying houses in Britain. According to a survey by UK Property Weekly, houses near universities and outstanding primary and secondary schools are the most preferable location for Chinese buyers.
Compared to the independent school system, universities are more open. It is reported that China remains the leading source of international students for London.
1. Which of the following can we know from Barnaby Lenon’s words?| A．He was surprised at the present current trend. |
| B．English universities are better than those in China. |
| C．The English education system is welcomed by the Chinese. |
| D．There will be fewer investors in private education. |
| A．The small size of classes. |
| B．The entry to world-famous universities. |
| C．Good exam results. |
| D．Good living conditions. |
| A．weaken | B．strengthen | C．follow | D．overcome |
| A．invest more money |
| B．support their children’s education |
| C．show off their ability |
| D．compete with other parents |
【推荐2】A majority of men are emotionally blocked.
To men it seemed as if their emotional problems were evident at birth. A few weeks ago, I spent an afternoon with a seven-month-old baby boy and his mother. I found myself fascinated by the little boy’s expressiveness. His face was constantly in motion, reflecting everything that was happening in him and to him. A hunger feeling, the comfort of being held, and the fear and relief he felt—all of these sensations and emotions appeared instantly on his face. He didn’t hide his thoughts or feelings.
Most babies are allowed to be free with their emotions until they are around one year old. Then about the time they begin to walk and talk, their parents start to make them repress their feelings. The degree to which parents repress their children varies from household to household. We tend to discourage so-called “negative emotions” such as fear, sadness, and anger. We believe that if we can make our children act happily and well behave, they will become truly happy and well-adjusted adults.
To some degree this management of emotions applies to both sexes. When boys or girls show feelings that their parents think inappropriate or threaten to reveal the abnormal nature of the family, their parents find some way to stop them. Parents do this in a variety of ways. Depending on their parenting styles, they may ignore their children; shame them; educate them; bribe(贿赂) them; distract them; punish them or physically abuse them.
It is rare if a child doesn’t suffer from some form of parental repression. But as a rule, little boys are required to restrict even more of their emotions than little girls. Men in this society are assigned two traditional roles: providing and protecting. In order to fulfill those roles little boys are required to repress more of their emotions. Boys are raised according to a masculine(阳性的) code, a complex set of beliefs that influences how they think, feel and behave. The masculine code is not taught through formal means. Society’s goal is not to cause emotional injury to the boys but to harden them to face the difficulties men have always had to face.
1. The author’s experience about the seven-month-old baby boy shows that ________.| A．people are born to be crazy or frightened |
| B．people will surely be lonely for all their lives |
| C．men are emotionally whole when they are born |
| D．men’s emotional problems are various at birth |
| A．Press something for a second time. |
| B．Make others understand something. |
| C．Put pressure onto something soft. |
| D．Try not to show an emotion or a feeling. |
| A．“Please stop crying, honey. Do you want a cookie?” |
| B．“Did that big dog scare you? Look, there’s a cute cat!” |
| C．“How dare you look at me that way! Go to your room!” |
| D．“When you cry like that, you sound like your baby sister.” |
| A．parental repression on children is common in society |
| B．parental repression has more effects on girls than on boys |
| C．the masculine code is meant to cause mental injuries to men |
| D．the masculine code is rarely educated through informal means |
| A．When boys find it hard to express their feelings. |
| B．Why boys are used to controlling their emotions. |
| C．Difficulties men have to face to be successful. |
| D．Roles men have to play to be competitive. |
【推荐3】Everyone knows about straight-A students. We see them frequently in TV situation comedies and in movies like Revenge of the Nerds. They get high grades, all right, but only by becoming dull laborers, their noses always stuck in a book. They are not good at social communication and look clumsy while doing sports.
How, then, do we account for Domenica Roman or Paul Melendres?
Roman is on the tennis team at Fairmont Senior High School. She also sings in the choral group, serves on the student council and is a member of the mathematics society. For two years she has maintained A's in every subject. Melendres, a freshman at the University of New Mexico, was student body president at Valley High School in Albuquerque. He played soccer and basketball well, exhibited at the science fair, and meanwhile worked as a reporter on a local television station. Being a speech giver at the graduation ceremony, he achieved straight A's in. his regular classes, plus bonus points for A's in two college-level courses.
How do super-achievers like Roman and Melendres do it? Brains aren't the only answer. “Top grades don't always go to the brightest students,” declares Herbert Walberg, a professor of education at the University of Illinois at Chicago, who has conducted major studies on super-achieving students. “Knowing how to make the most of your innate abilities counts for more. Much more.”
In fact, Walberg says, students with high IQ sometimes don't do as well as classmates with lower IQ. For them, learning comes too easily and they never find out how to get down.
Hard work isn't the whole story, either. “It's not how long you sit there with the books open,” said one of the many straight-A students we interviewed. “It's what you do while you're sitting.” Indeed, some of these students actually put in fewer hours of homework time than their lower-scoring classmates.
The kids at the top of the class get there by mastering a few basic techniques that others can readily learn.
1. The underlined word “nerds” can probably be __________| A．dull bookworms lacking sports and social skills |
| B．successful top students popular with their peers |
| C．students with certain learning difficulties |
| D．born leaders crazy about social activities |
| A．Most TV programs and films are about straight-A students. |
| B．People have unfavorable impression of straight-A students. |
| C．Everyone knows about straight-A students from TV or films. |
| D．Straight-A students are well admired by people in society. |
| A．they are born cleverer than others | B．they work longer hours at study |
| C．they make full use of their abilities | D．they know the shortcut to success |
| A．The interviews with more students. | B．The role IQ plays in learning well. |
| C．The techniques to be better learners. | D．The achievements top students make. |
| A．IQ is more important than hard work in study. |
| B．The brightest students can never get low grades. |
| C．Top students certainly achieve all-around developments. |
| D．Students' with average IQ can become super-achievers. |
