Four Habits That Lead to Emotional Security
Can you become more emotionally secure by doing certain things differently?
● Be willing to apologize.
Do you know that refusing to apologize may actually increase your ego (自负)?
● Be willing to accept failure.
Emotionally secure people can recognize and accept failure. This may be why two top schools in England teach failure as part of their curriculum.
● Learn to manage self-criticism.
Self-criticism is a usual stumbling block (绊脚石). It may be the most common psychological hang-up (障碍) in existence.
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Taking a more objective viewpoint on your own life gives you access to the big picture. Emotionally immature people tend to lack thinking and make poor decisions, which will only create more problems to feel insecure about. One solution is to step back and consider the big picture before making decisions.
A.Learn to accept. |
B.Take a big step back. |
C.You need more help than this. |
D.Research suggests that yes, you can. |
E.It gives you a false sense of moral superiority (优越感). |
F.The critical inner voice is common and almost without exception. |
G.Losing or at least losing gracefully is a vital skill for students to learn. |
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【推荐1】If your child has mobile Internet access, it will be more difficult to monitor(监督)and control his or her Internet use. Kids are turning to the Internet for everything from hanging out with friends to shopping, which makes it harder for parents to keep track of their online activities. Fortunately, there are many choices for controlling what your kids see on their computers, laptops, and mobile devices.
Content blockers and filters are great tools to use for younger kids. They allow you more control over where they go and what they do online. A content blocker can block some unhealthy websites or limit a child’s search to the kind of sites. A content filter can scan sites and pictures and block those sites that contain certain words, key phrases, or contents.
Consider tracking software for older teenagers. This software enables you to see which sites your children have visited, tracking their path online. This tool gives young people more freedom to explore the Internet, but it also allows you to check that they are using the Internet responsibly. Let your teenagers know that you trust them, but that you will be regularly checking that they are visiting appropriate sites online.
Even if you use content blockers, filters, and trackers, you know that a lot of kids figure out ways to get around these, so it’s important to remain alert(警惕的). Remember that not all adult sites can be identified by blocker, filter, or tracker software. That’s why it’s important to talk to your kids about what to do when something inappropriate or scary comes up. Nothing can replace involvement and supervision(监督)by adults. Keep monitoring how your kids use the Internet on a regular basis without getting into the role of the Internet traffic police.
1. What is the passage mainly about?A.More and more kids have mobile Internet access. |
B.Some choices for monitoring and controlling kids’ Internet use. |
C.It is difficult to monitor and control kids’ Internet use. |
D.Kids are turning to the Internet for everything. |
A.With tracking software. |
B.With tracking software and content blockers and filters. |
C.With content blockers and filters. |
D.With filters and trackers. |
A.how to monitor and control older teenagers’ Internet use |
B.how to monitor and control younger kids’ Internet use |
C.tracking software |
D.content blockers and filters |
A.content blockers, filters, and trackers are useless |
B.lots of kids figure out ways to get around content blockers, filters, and trackers |
C.not all adult sites can be identified by blocker, filter, or tracker software |
D.nothing can replace involvement and supervision by adults |
【推荐2】Offered praise needs to be genuine or it will not have its desired effect of rewarding.
It is important that parents praise children more for their effort than for their success. However,working parents live in a competitive world where they are mostly rewarded only for their success
Even though Jamie may not have gotten an"A”or a"B”on the test,her effort towards studying are a vital foundation for her future success at math.Through her comment,Mom reinforced in Jamie's mind that her parents are aware of and approve of her effort.
Effectively used,praise should highlight positive things children do or the way children use the qualities or attributes they possess.Most importantly,praise should focus on children's effort and perseverance.Practice makes perfect.
A.How does an empty praise do harm to parenting? |
B.What does offering praise for effort look and sound like? |
C.Many kids will know when parents' praise is empty. |
D.This makes it more likely that Jamie will be willing to study in the future. |
E.The problems may result in less effort,and reduce their overall ability to succeed. |
F.A good basic rule is to make sure that parents offer a lot more praise and encouragement than correction. |
G.It is thus easier for parents to notice and praise the successful outcome of children's effort rather than their effort itself. |
【推荐3】Food pictures that you display on Instagram can look more stylish if you follow our tips.
·Post them accompanied by a story.
·Choose natural lighting.
Flash is not as beautiful as natural light. The latter makes pictures look much better. The only problem is that you can hardly find natural light in bars, cafes and restaurants.
·Pick your angle.
Choose the right angle. One of the best positions is shooting from the top down. This is how you’ll show the whole table. You might sometimes need to climb on a chair to take that perfect shot!
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Use various filters(滤镜) to make your shots more attractive. But don’t be restricted by them. Use special apps to keep your pictures bright. Experiment a bit and see which app is your favorite. Adjust the brightness. Try out a different contrast.
A.Adjust the size and brightness. |
B.Go beyond the Instagram filter. |
C.Eye level shots look irresistible. |
D.What you can do is to take your dish and walk over to a window. |
E.Next are some means to tell you how to take a good picture of food. |
F.There are a few ways to help you make your food shots more unique. |
G.Before you take a picture, think about what you want to tell your followers about. |
【推荐1】When you feel thankful for things you’ve received or something that’s happened, that’s gratitude. It’s impossible to feel it in a vacuum; others are always responsible, whether they’re loved ones, strangers or a higher power. “Gratitude is how you relate to others, when you see yourself in connection with things larger than yourself” says Willibald Ruch, a psychology professor at the University of Zurich.
Nowadays, too many people don’t stop to appreciate what they have, and much less express gratitude. Our instant-satisfaction lifestyle may be to blame. “With commercial and social media, everything is speeding the younger generation to make them feel that they’re the centre of the universe,” says Tamiko Zablith, founder of the London-based etiquette consulting firm Minding Manners. “If it’s all about them, why thank others?”
However, studies have shown that people who express gratitude increase their happiness levels, lower their blood-pressure levels, get better-quality sleep, improve their relationships, have a positive impact on their depression levels and are less affected by pain. And gratitude’s positive effects are long-lasting. Canadian researchers found that people who wrote letters of thanks or performed good deeds for a mere six-week period were able to improve their mental health, decrease their bodily pain and feel more energetic for up to six months.
What about gratitude recipients who receive messages of thanks? Research has confirmed that the recipients experience positive emotions when they’re singled out. “Those are happy surprises—you may not be expecting the favour to be returned,” says Jo-Ann Tsang, associate professor of psychology at Baylor University. When someone is the recipient of unexpected kindness or gratitude, he’s more likely to return the favour or pass kindness on. One study found that when someone is thanked, it more than doubles his chances of being helpful again, probably because he enjoys feeling socially valued. Zablith likes the reaction she got when she rewarded a stranger who held the door open for her at a coffee shop with his rightful place in line in front of her. “The look on his face was shock,” says Zablith. “He would be nicer to the cashier, the next person he would see at work. There’s a trickle-down effect.”
The give-and-take of gratitude can also deepen relationships. Studies show that when your partner regularly expresses gratitude, making you feel appreciated, you’re more likely to return appreciative, grateful feelings and stay committed to each other. One found that sharing gratitude with a partner makes you feel more responsible for his well-being and more satisfied with the relationship. “You feel closer to the other person, and they feel closer to you, Tsang says. “That creates an upward spiral.’
1. The author begins the passage by .A.giving a definition | B.making a comparison |
C.describing an example | D.quoting a famous motto |
A.The fast-paced lifestyle. |
B.Having fewer things to be grateful for. |
C.People’s self-centeredness. |
D.Being embarrassed to express appreciation |
A.To let people know that efforts pay off eventually. |
B.To encourage people to write thank-you notes frequently |
C.To inspire people to help people in need constantly. |
D.To show gratitude positively influences people for a long time. |
A.Sharing gratitude contributes greatly to personal achievement. |
B.Kindness can be passed on if the giver feels appreciated. |
C.The give-and-take of gratitude can determine relationships. |
D.Gratitude recipients actually expect the favor to be returned. |
A.Respect to others is highly encouraged. |
B.Gratitude benefits people’s well-being |
C.Unhealthy lifestyle is to blame for less appreciation. |
D.Kindness shouldn’t be a one-way matter. |
Then you began to try making the sounds you heard. And step by step you were able to make the right sound for one thing.
On that day you came to understand the secret of language. The secret is that a certain sound means a certain thing. One sound might be as good as another. But it is no good as a word unless everybody agrees on its meaning. Only when a group of people use the same set of sounds of things, can they understand each other. Then, and only then do these people have a LANGUAGE.
After you found the secret of language, you learned words. Some of the words meant things, such as BOOKS, CHAIRS and SHOES. Some words meant doing things, such as GO and SWIM. And other words describe things, such as GOOD and DIRTY. Soon you learned to put words together to express one's idea, such as "1 want to go out and play with my friends." This is language. By means of language people can communicate. So we say languages are means of communication.
1. can remember the day when___________.
A.One; he spoke his first word |
B.No one; he spoke his first word |
C.Most people; they spoke their first words |
D.None; they spoke their first words |
A.made sounds to let people know that you wanted to eat |
B.spent most of your time playing with your parents |
C.could not hear any sound around you |
D.spent most of your time eating, playing and crying |
A.one sound might be as good as another |
B.people can understand each other |
C.a certain sound is for a certain thing |
D.there is a special sound for each person |
A.before you knew what the language was |
B.after you knew what the language was |
C.if you knew the secret of the language |
D.when you were a baby |
A.to get everything one wants from others |
B.to say what one wants to know |
C.to share ideas, opinions, news, etc with one another |
D.to make oneself understood by others |
【推荐3】The International Day of Happiness, falling on March 20 every year, serves to remind people of the significance of happiness.
Sally Lyubomirsky, a researcher of positive psychology, provides a clear description of happiness.
People’s levels of subjective (主观的) happiness are influenced by both internal factors and external factors, according to the authors of the book Culture and Psychology.
From the perspective of economics, Ted Pettinger, said that factors affecting happiness can include income, quality of work and quality of consumption. Among them, proper income is key. He believes that at low levels of income, increasing income is generally agreed to increase happiness as it allows a person to buy necessary goods and services such as health care and education.
The truth is that happiness itself is different for everyone, so everyone defines it differently and pursues it in a variety of ways.
A.Several important factors contribute to a person’s happiness. |
B.In general, happiness is significant to people. |
C.With the income, people can have the food, shelter and necessary education. |
D.According to her, happiness can be described as the experience of joy or positive well-being, |
E.However, after certain income levels, rising income contributes little to overall happiness. |
F.More than that, experts in medical fields found that genes might influence happiness. |
G.But what exactly is happiness and how can one achieve it? |