Learning to forgive those who have “wronged us” may not always be easy, but it’s definitely worth it. Here’s why.
First, forgiveness has absolutely nothing to do with the other person at all. Forgiveness is about one thing and one thing only: it’s about how you feel. This is why it doesn’t matter if the offense was large or small. When you hold on to the anger, when you get stuck in blaming the other person and refuse to move on, you are hurting no one but yourself.
You may have been taught to “turn the other cheek”, which can be interpreted as letting those who have harmed you in some way walk all over you. Don’t fight back, and just let it happen. But is that really what we’re supposed to do? No. Forgiving is neither about playing the martyr (自我牺牲的人) or victim, nor about being a doormat (忍气吞声的人). You can forgive what others have done to you, but you should not sacrifice your own interests.
For example, should you let your colleague get away with taking credit for your work, while you sit in silence? No. First, you can choose to forgive his action so that you can calm down. Then you can calmly explain to your boss who actually did the work on that project, without seeming overly emotional or like you have any kind of agenda other than to set the record straight.
Of course, if it’s something trivial, you can just choose to forgive and let it go.
It’s important to note that this also (and especially) applies when it comes to forgiving yourself. Since thoughts of self-blame or self-hatred are the worst thoughts we can have, staying stuck in that vibration will cause more harm than any other emotion. Move into anger, stabilize there, and then move up the emotional scale until you gradually but consistently feel better. You owe it to yourself.
1. What is forgiveness mainly about according to the author?A.Controlling our own feelings. | B.Making ourselves feel better. |
C.Lessening the harm of an offence. | D.Repairing relationships with others. |
A.Turn the other cheek. | B.Calm down and let it go. |
C.Ask for help from others. | D.Fight back in a proper way. |
A.unimportant | B.unique | C.unusual | D.uninteresting |
A.The way to get along well with others. |
B.The importance of learning to forgive. |
C.The reason to forgive ourselves. |
D.The way to fight back against dishonest colleagues. |
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In the animal kingdom, weakness can bring about aggression in other animals. This sometimes happens with humans also. But I have found that my weakness discloses the kindness in people. I see it every day when people hold doors for me, pour cream into my coffee, or help me to put on my coat. And I have discovered that it makes them happy.
From my wheelchair experience, I see the best in people, but sometimes I feel sad because those who appear independent miss the kindness I see daily. They don’t get to see this soft side of others. Often, we try every way possible to avoid showing our weakness, which includes a lot of pretending. But only when we stop pretending we’re brave or strong do we allow people to show the kindness that’s in them.
Last month, when I was driving home on a busy highway, I began to feel unwell and drove more slowly than usual. People behind me began to get impatient and angry, with some speeding up alongside me, horning (按喇叭) or even shouting at me. At the moment I decided to do something I had never done in twenty-four years of driving. I put on the car flashlights and drove on at a really low speed.
No more angry shouts and no more horns!
When I put on my flashlights, I was saying to other drivers, “I have a problem here. I am weak and doing the best I can.” And everyone understood. Several times, I saw drivers who wanted to pass. They couldn’t get around me because of the stream of passing traffic. But instead of getting impatient and angry, they waited, knowing the driver in front of them was in some way weak.
Sometimes situations call for us to act strong and brave even when we don’t feel that way. But those are few and far between. More often, it would be better if we don’t pretend we feel strong when we feel weak or pretend that we are brave when we are scared.
1. When will people feel happy as the author has discovered ? (No more than 7 words)2. Why does the author feel sad sometimes in Paragraph 2? (No more than 12 words)
3. What did the other drivers do when they saw the flashlights? (No more than 6 words)
4. What does the underlined the sentence in the last paragraph probably mean?(No more than 5 words)
5. What can we learn from the author’s experience? (No more than 20 words)
【推荐2】In a new set of studies, researchers found that people showed greater goal commitment and performance when they told their goal to someone they believed had higher status (地位) than themselves. In these studies, higher-status people were those who the participants thought had more prestige (威望) than they did.
In one study, 17l undergraduate students were seated at computers and told they had to move a slider (滑块) on the screen to the number 50 as many times as possible within the given time. After counting how many times they successfully did this, they had to do it again, but this time they were told to set and write down a goal.
The experimenter then informed the participants that a lab assistant would come around and check on their goals. In some cases, the lab assistant was dressed in a suit and introduced himself as a doctoral student in the business school who was an expert on today’s study topic. For other participants, the same lab assistant dressed in casual clothing and introduced himself as a student at a local community college who was working part time at the business school. A third group of participants didn’t share their goals with the lab assistant.
Results showed that participants who shared their goals with the higher-status lab assistant reported they were more willing to achieve the goal they set for themselves than those who told the lower-status assistant. And participants who shared their goal with the lower-status assistant performed no better than those who told no one about their goal. “These findings provide evidence that refutes popular media recommendations that one should stay silent about a goal,” said Howard Klein, lead author of the new study.
“Contrary to what you may have heard, in most cases you get more benefit from sharing your goal than if you don’t as long as you share it with someone whose opinion you value,” Klein said. “You don’t want him to think less of you because you didn’t achieve your goal.”
1. Why did the lab assistant change his clothes?A.To act out roles of different status. |
B.To approach the students more easily. |
C.To work for different business schools. |
D.To avoid being recognized by the students. |
A.Deals with. |
B.Catches up with. |
C.Says no to. |
D.Relies on. |
A.We care about what he thinks of us. |
B.We get useful advice and support from him. |
C.We improve ourselves according to his opinions. |
D.We find a strong sense of purpose by sharing. |
A.Share your goals — but do use the right words |
B.Share your goals — but be careful who you tell |
C.Share your goals — and you’ll surely achieve them |
D.Share your goals — and you’ll get mentally strong |
The word “motivation” comes from the Latin term motivus, “a moving cause”. It is described as the force that drives us to pursue a goal, including the desire to continue pursuing meaning, purpose, and a life worth living. It fuels competition and boosts social connection. Its absence can lead to mental illnesses such as depression.
People often have multiple motives for engaging in any one behaviour. Motivation might be extrinsic. That means a person is inspired by outside forces—other people or rewards. Anything promised for completing the task or received as a result of completing the task are extrinsic motivators. Extrinsic motivation can increase motivation in the short term, but over time it may gradually decrease.
Motivation can also be intrinsic. Intrinsic motivation comes purely from within, with no expected reward, deadline, or outside pressure. For example, people who are intrinsically motivated to run do so because they love the feeling of running itself. Compared to extrinsic motivation, intrinsic motivation tends to push people more forcefully, and the achievements are more satisfying, since it is integrated into identity and serves as a continuous source of motivation.
To understand motivation, Abraham Maslow introduced the concept of hierarchy of needs (需求层次) in 1943. According to Maslow, humans are intrinsically motivated to meet physical needs, the most fundamental ones such as needs for food. Then they gradually satisfy several levels of needs from safety, to higher-order needs for love, belonging, and self-respect, and finally move to ward expressing their full potential—self-actualization, the desire to become the most that one can be.
Although the generality of Maslow’s theory has been challenged, many believe it reveals fundamental truths about human motivation. No matter where motivation begins, there are always ways to increase it — whether that be your own motivation or someone else’s. Sometimes you might feel completely unmotivated — and that’s OK. In that situation, allow yourself to feel the discomfort, hear the negative self-talk, and then take action anyway.
1. What is motivation?2. Why is intrinsic motivation more powerful?
3. Please decide which part is false in the following statement, then underline it and explain why.
▷According to Maslow, we are motivated by different levels of needs, starting at the lowest and the most basic level known as self-actualization needs.
4. In what way(s) do you think you can get motivated? (In about 40 words)
【推荐1】A large number of people enjoy listening to various types of music while they paint, write, or draw. Many believe that music helps creativity.
However, an international study conducted by English and Swedish researchers is challenging that opinion. Psychologists from Lancaster University, The University of Gävle, and The University of Central Lancashire say that their findings show music actually blocks creativity.
To come to their conclusions, researchers had participants(参与者) complete verbal insight problems designed to inspire creativity while sitting in a quiet room, and then again while music played in the background. They found that background music “badly affected” the participants’ ability to complete tasks related to verbal creativity.
The tasks were simple word games. For example, participants were given three words, such as dress, dial, and flower. Then, they were asked to find a single word related to all three that could be combined to form a common phrase or word. The single word, in this case, would be “sun” (sundress, sunflower, etc).
Participants completed the tasks in either a quiet room, or while exposed to three different types of music; music with unfamiliar words, instrumental music, or music with familiar words. “We found strong evidence of damaged performance when playing background music in comparison to quiet background conditions,” says co-author Dr. Neil McLatchie of Lancaster University.
To conclude, the findings challenge the popular view that music encourages creativity, and instead prove that music consistently disrupts creative performance in dealing with problems.
1. What’s the main idea of this passage?A.A new idea about music while working. | B.Music encourages creativity while working. |
C.Music does harm to creativity while working. | D.We’d better not listen to music while working. |
A.lift | B.strengthen | C.raise | D.limit |
A.By comparing. | B.By following time order. | C.By analyzing causes and effects. | D.By presenting the process. |
A.While working, we can listen to some familiar music. |
B.Music has no effect on our creativity while working. |
C.To improve our creativity, we should choose to work in quiet background conditions. |
D.Music does more good than harm to our health. |
【推荐2】There is new hope for the future of a population of endangered butterflies in the American state of California. Last year, a count of the orange-and-black Western monarchs reached a record low of about 1, 900. But this year, butterfly counters are reporting tens of thousands more Western monarchs. The insects live along California's central coast in winter.
The non-profit science group Xerces Society for Invertebrate Conservation carries out the official study every year. It just opened the first period of this year's count on November 13. But it says early reports are positive.
Sarina Jepsen is director of Endangered Species at Xerces Society. She says volunteer counters have reported the presence of as many as 50,000 monarchs in the last few weeks. Jepsen says the finding is "... not a recovery, but we're really optimistic and just really glad that there are monarchs here and that gives us a bit of time to work toward recovery of the Western monarch migration."
In the 1980s, millions of Western monarchs gathered in trees from northern California down to western Mexico. Now, their wintering sites are mostly on California's central coast.
Western monarch butterflies travel south from the Pacific Northwest to California each winter. They return to the same places and even the same trees, where they gather. The monarchs usually arrive in California' t the beginning of November. They spread across the country once warmer weather arrives in March.
The Western monarch-butterfly population has decreased by more than 99 percent since the 1980s. Scientists do not know why the population increased this year. But Jepsen said it is likely a combination of reasons, including better conditions on their breeding grounds (繁殖地). Pacific Grove, California, known as "Butterfly Town, USA",has worked for years to help the decreasing monarch population. The city holds a parade to celebrate the butterflies every October. It also bans human interference with the monarchs. The crime carries a $ 1,000 fine.
Monarch butterflies lack state and federal legal protection that could keep their grounds from being destroyed. Last year, the butterflies failed to gain federal protection. But the insects are now among the candidates for listing under the federal Endangered Species Act.
1. What is probably the main idea of the passage?A.Monarch butterflies migrated to western Mexico in the winter. |
B.An official study was carried out to protect Monarch butterflies. |
C.The population of Monarch butterflies is rising in California. |
D.People have raised awareness of protecting Monarch butterflies. |
A.Northern California. | B.Central coast in California. |
C.Western Mexico. | D.Across the country. |
A.Celebrations are held to promote the protection. |
B.Humans should help Monarch with their migration. |
C.Better conditions along the migration route have been provided. |
D.Scientists have known the reasons for Monarch's increasing population. |
A.More human activities need to be involved. |
B.Relative state and federal laws need to be passed. |
C.Federal Endangered Species Act needs to be improved. |
D.The grounds of Monarch butterflies need to be enlarged. |
【推荐3】Many of us are familiar with the anxiety that can consume us ahead of speaking or performing in public. Throats run dry, sweat drops, and it can feel like everyone hears your quickly beating heart. But scientists wondered: Is the anxiety driving the heart to beat faster or could an increased heart rate cause anxiety?
A new study published today explores this link in mice, showing that speeding up a mouse’s heart rate made otherwise calm animals act more anxious. The finding indicates heart activity can influence mental state — and finding ways to lower heart rate may be a way to treat mood disorders such as anxiety and depression.
The research team introduced ChRmine (泵状光敏感通道蛋白) into heart muscle cells of live mice whose torsos (躯干) were fitted with a vest equipped with a micro light-emitting bulb (电灯泡). Light from the bulb then shined the skin of the mice to stimulate ChRmine within the cells. The result: a small pacemaker made the animals’ hearts beat faster.
Because the team could just turn the light on and off, “we were now able to control heart rates using this wearable,” said Ritchie Chen, a bioengineer at Stanford and an author of the study.
In the future, Deisseroth and his team want to make periods longer than used in the current experiment to see whether increased heart rate over weeks or months can lead to an increase or worsening of anxiety or depression like behaviors.
If the findings can be copied in other settings, particularly with people, they could have potentials for treating mental health conditions. Current medicines are not foolproof and often take months to work. Going through the heart may be a quicker, more effective alternative. “Operating the heart is much easier than operating the brain,” Gogolla says. “We may actually unlock new treatment strategies for patients with anxiety or depressive disorder.”
1. What’s the purpose of the first paragraph?A.To prove previous theories. | B.To show the puzzle of the scientists. |
C.To highlight the importance of the findings. | D.To explain the background knowledge of the study. |
A.To see more clearly. | B.To relieve anxiety. |
C.To stimulate ChRmine in the cells. | D.To rid the fear of mice. |
A.Clarifying the purpose of the study. | B.Realizing the potential of the findings. |
C.Conducting research on human beings only. | D.Carrying out new strategies in the experiment. |
A.New Dawn on Mood Disorders | B.Links between the Heart and the Brain |
C.Mice Are More Sensitive than Human | D.A Newly-designed Vest Is on Sale |
【推荐1】On August 23, 2004, the Athens Olympic horizontal bar (单框)final was going on fiercely. Russian Nemov, 28, was the third to compete. He won the audience with the very difficult movement of rising high in the air and grabbing the bar, but when landing, he made a flaw—moving a step forward, so the referees only scored him 9. 725 points.
At this moment, in the history of the Olympic Games, a rare instance appeared: the whole audience kept shouting “Nemov”, “Nemov”, and all rose, waving their arms and booing (嘘) to the referees long and loud. The competition was suspended. The fourth player, American Paul Ham, though ready, could only stand on the spot in embarrassment.
Faced with such a circumstance, Nemov who had withdrawn stood up from his seat, greeted and waved to the audience, bowed deeply and thanked them for their love and support. Nemov's big-heartedness further stirred up the audience's dissatisfaction. More boos rang while some of the audience even threw out their fists with thumbs down making rude moves.
Against this enormous pressure, the referees were forced to score Nemov 9. 762 points. However, such a score could not quiet down the audience; boos sounded again.
Upon this, Nemov displayed his generosity and charm. He returned to the game and raised his right arm and deeply bowed to express his respect and gratitude to the audience. After that, he extended his right index finger to make a gesture for silence, and then pressed his hands down to request the audience to remain calm and give Paul Ham a quiet condition.
Nemov's tolerance set the interrupted game going on.
In that game Nemov didn't get a gold medal, but he was still a "champion"in the eyes of the audience; he didn't defeat the fellow competitors, but he won the audience with his own tolerance.
1. In which movement did Nemov make a mistake?A.Landing. | B.Grabbing the bar. | C.Rising. | D.Lifting his knees. |
A.Nemov's imperfect performance. | B.The referees' unfair judgement. |
C.Some people's continuous boos. | D.The American player's offence. |
A.managed to set the game going on | B.bowed to the audience to apologize |
C.appreciated the referees scoring 9. 762 points | D.tolerated the referees' inappropriate decision |
A.No pains, no gains. | B.Success belongs to the determined. |
C.A generous heart makes a real hero. | D.The best hearts are always the bravest. |
【推荐2】There’s a song by the great Jamaican singer Bob Marley called So Much Trouble in the World. Marley understood that part of the reason why there are so many problems in the world is the lack of tolerance between people. The UN understands this too — that’s why it made Nov.16 “International Day for Tolerance”.
But first of all, what is tolerance? French philosopher Voltaire (1694-1778) can give us some help. According to him, tolerance is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of frailty (脆弱) and error; let us pardon each other’s folly — that is the first law of nature.
Nobody’s perfect; when we’re tempted to criticize another person, we should perhaps remember our own imperfections first.
Very often, people don’t realize that they’re intolerant. This is because intolerance has a lot to do with ignorance. For example, the UN’s campaign is in part about the treatment of females by males. But often, the behavior of men toward women is intolerant because men don’t put themselves in the shoes of women.
It’s worth thinking a little about the words “tolerance” and “intolerance”. Are they the best words to describe the evils of which we’re speaking here? To agree to be “tolerant” of someone isn’t necessarily a very respectful thing. When someone is tolerated, it implies that there’s something wrong with them.
But it seems wrong that people should agree to “tolerate” people with black skin, for example. And should women think they have received the respect they are due when men agree to “tolerate” them?
Still, what Voltaire said stands: We humans are not perfect and this weakness is something that we all share. That’s the reason why we should be tolerant.
It’s a little like generosity. We can give things to another person, and we can also give our forgiveness. Bob Marley understood this. In the song mentioned above, he advised: “All you got to do: give a little.” Or, as this older piece of wisdom says: “Write your love on a rock so it stays for eternity; write your hate in the sand so the waves will wash it away.”
1. According to Voltaire, tolerance is _________.A.being willing to express your love to others |
B.trying to overcome your imperfections |
C.giving a hand to vulnerable groups |
D.accepting each other’s weaknesses |
A.Humans are advised to treat others better. |
B.Humans learned to find faults in others. |
C.Humans need to give something to others. |
D.Humans will change their attitudes to others. |
A.giving things to others |
B.forgiving others |
C.different attitudes toward love and hate |
D.the fact that humans are imperfect |
A.The origin of the International Day of Tolerance. |
B.The meaning and importance of tolerance. |
C.The philosophy behind Bob Marley’s song. |
D.Effective ways to show tolerance. |
【推荐3】In 2013, Deegan was trying to take control of her life after winning the fight against drinking. She did quit, but she was having difficulty reconnecting with people. Even looking someone in the eyes proved to be difficult. “I was sort of like a shell of a person and just didn’t really have many life skills or self-confidence,” Deegan said.
However, baking was something that always brought her joy as a child. One day while helping out in the neighborhood, Deegan picked up a handheld mixer and started baking. “My life was just out of control, but baking is such a controlled thing, where if you take the right steps and follow the directions, you’ll get a pretty exact result,” she said.
Deegan started bringing her homemade baked cookies to people’s homes, which helped her reconnect with people. “Feeding people is such a universal love language,” she said. However, she was still trying to figure out how to find a career at 27 years old. She had no real work experience and she couldn’t put ‘quit drinking’ ” on her resume.
Deegan’s life shifted in 2015. Encouraged by her friends, she challenged herself to see if she could sell just one pie. She sold dozens! She began baking out of her tiny apartment and eventually launched an official business in 2017. She spent four years developing a pie crust cookie recipe, which has since become the bread and butter of her business. “People have been walking, running and lining up to get cookies, and it’s just been so magical seeing that,” she said.
When she needs more help, Deegan says she looks for anyone who is just excited to work, even if they don’t have any experience. After her own struggle, she realized that the desire to work was better than having a certain skill set. And she became a second-chance employer, hiring women out of prison or the shelter system. “You just have to walk through the door and be ready, willing and able and excited to show up and work and you’ve got a job,” Deegan told the reporter.
1. What was Deegan mainly struggling with in 2013?A.Emotion management. |
B.Interpersonal relationship. |
C.Work-life balance. |
D.Alcohol addiction. |
A.Working previously in the baking industry. | B.Seeing people running to get cookies. |
C.Wanting desperately to gain total control. | D.Offering baked food out of goodwill. |
A.She achieved success through baking. |
B.She was ambitious about her business. |
C.She has an open-door employment policy. |
D.She only hired inexperienced workers. |
A.Creative and smart. |
B.Persistent and receptive. |
C.Honest and optimistic. |
D.Kind and easy-going. |