Anger often makes us uncomfortable. When you find your anger too uncomfortable to process, please let it go. But remember to create a healthy anger in your children is to practice creating a healthy anger in yourself. Once you're better at experiencing anger and expressing it in a healthy way, you'll be able to model a good style of anger for your kids.
Some kids deal with anger by creating a "false self": a child who is perfect for their parents. People who have developed a false self are often passive aggressive and seem shallow because they've hid away all the feelings with depth and character.
How do we keep kids from creating false selves? We need to raise them in an environment where it's safe to express feelings. Once you feel more comfortable with your own anger, you can teach your children why anger is a helpful emotion. When your kid expresses anger, help them examine what it is that has made them angry. Why did it make them angry? How did it do that? Then, you can teach them that while emotions are never wrong and are always valid, our expressions of our emotions are within our control.
People who are afraid of their own anger will never learn how to listen to what their anger is trying to tell them. Instead of teaching our kids that their anger is wrong, that "happy families" are never angry, or that all feelings of anger lead to violence and fear, we can teach our children that anger is OK. Anger is natural, it is normal, and it can be experienced and expressed in a healthy way.
1. What is the main idea of the first paragraph?A.Anger makes us uncomfortable. |
B.Anger is difficult to deal with. |
C.Parents often lose their temper at home. |
D.Parents should model a good anger style. |
A.Polite and optimistic. |
B.Perfect and helpful. |
C.Negative and indirect. |
D.Rude and dishonest. |
A.To give tips to create healthier anger. |
B.To suggest ways to avoid anger. |
C.To show the harm anger does to kids. |
D.To stress the importance of expressing anger. |
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B.Psychology & Health |
C.Life & Entertainment |
D.School& Education |
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A stage play involves drama and action as its most pure actions.
Start with characters. Plays are characterdriven pieces of writing. Since it's basically going to be a lot of talking between people, your characters need to be as believable as possible. In great plays, the inner tensions between characters enact themselves in external ways.
Understand the limitations of the stage.
Always be moving forward. In the early drafts, you'll probably write a lot of scenes that wander without really going anywhere. That's OK. Sometimes you need to have the character spend a long awkward dinner conversation with their brotherinlaw to find out something that gives you a whole new perspective on the drama. Great!
A.Consider the setting. |
B.Be sure to include why the setting is how it is. |
C.Remember: you're not writing a movie. |
D.All you've got to work with is characters and language. |
E.That means you're writing successfully. |
F.It's important to see new plays if you're going to write new plays. |
G.They need to have problems that show up in their behavior. |
It is rightly pointed out by various intellectuals that the lifestyle of today is vastly different from that of the earlier times especially in terms of its pace. Lifestyle of today is remarkably fast paced and so in order to catch up with such a pace of life, the adoption of smart and time saving methods is of real significance. Well, the highways have certainly contributed in this direction and have made our lives a lot easier. Thanks to the modern flyovers and expressways, a single route can be accessed by twice the number of vehicles at the same time.
These facilities and supplies have made our lives double free but it needs to be realized that designing and constructing it is a very complex and a long process. You have to hold firmly to the various rules of designing, government standards and most importantly, their safety and usability for the people. In the end it is a joint effort of a number of skilled engineers, scientists and statisticians. The material that is used in the construction is finalized after it undergoes certain tests for evaluating their qualities like hardness, roughness, thickness and all that is required.
Some of the points you have to take care of while laying an infrastructure design are as follows:
The basic layout (布局)of the road — At this level of planning, various civil engineers have meetings to figure out the basic requirements of the road like thickness of the asphalt(沥青),the size of lanes, distance to be covered, degree of curves and much more. These fundamental points help them decide the further line of action.
The prior steps 一 Before any work is stated over the basic plan layout, there are various preparations to be made like placing road signs, the removal of trees that may prove to be dangerous in the event of a storm or other natural causes, the positioning of fire hydrants (?肖防栓)based on special designs to be useful when required, etc.
Inclusion of safety barriers 一 The safety barriers are placed on almost all roads and highways that are made over or near to rivers and cliffs. These barriers keep the vehicles from moving into the traffic in instances of accidents. These should also be designed in advance of placing them on a road and the design should be such that it makes minimum impact upon the people sitting in the car. These include supplies like side rails and light poles.
Asphalt pavement marking — It is the process of using a reflective material to indicate various important points on the road like lanes, turns, passing areas, two-way and one-way roads.
Though the smooth and wide highways constructed in big cities seem to be very attractive for the drivers, the ease of use is also the cause of accidents. Cars rushing at extremely high speeds and insecure change of lanes are a common sight on the highways. With the help of novel infrastructure can make the best possible use of highways, It these are designed properly and number 6f accidents can be avoided.
The basics of infrastructure design | |
Reason for construction of infrastructure | Infrastructure must |
Challenges of design and | Various rules, standards, safety and usability should be taken into careful |
Materials must be | |
Points to follow | Various engineers meet to make sure about fundamental requirements of the road. |
Preparations must be done beforehand in | |
Safety barriers should be carefully placed to | |
Material that can | |
Conclusion | Smooth and wide highways may cause accidents despite the |
With highways properly designed and sign boards reasonably placed, accidents can be better avoided. |
【推荐3】Here's why Disney World doesn't have mosquitoes(蚊子)
There is a lot that goes into making Disney World the "Most Magical Place on Earth”. Considering Walt Disney World is in Central Florida, and has various amusement parks at Walt Disney World, there is one thing missing from the huge property that you may not have even noticed: mosquitoes.
Naturally, this is due to efforts from Walt Disney World staff to ensure health among guests and a uniform consumer experiences.
Occasionally, Disney has had to close certain sections of their park during the busiest times.
A.So, how do they manage to do it? |
B.Mosquitoes are found throughout the world. |
C.The warm damp air attracts a lot of mosquitoes. |
D.Additionally, Disney keeps chickens throughout the parks. |
E.It is to search for mosquitoes and revise events by moving outdoor equipment inside. |
F.Across the numerous parks at Disney World are more than 60 CO2 catching devices. |
G.Though mosquitoes haven't been completely swept away, they are really hard to find. |
【推荐1】For 18 years after her retirement, Deng Xiaolan volunteered to teach music in a rural village in Hebei province. Her inspirational teaching and the enthusiasm and talent of her pupils made the 44 children from Malan village and neighboring villages in Fuping county sing the Olympic anthem in Greek at the opening ceremony of the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics on Feb 4.
Deng’s involvement with the rural children can be traced back to her parents. Her father Deng Tuo was the publisher of Jinchaji Daily, a newspaper which was based in Malan village in Fuping county, Hebei province, from 1939 to 1948. During the Japanese aggression, 19 Malan locals were killed for refusing to divulge information about the newspaper. Under the influence of her parents, who both had a passion for music, she learned the violin and singing when she was young. She joined the school band after entering Tsinghua University, and also taught her colleagues to play the violin after graduation.
In 2003, when Deng Xiaolan returned to the village to remember the persons who were killed by Japanese invaders, a group of local children also attended the ceremony. She wanted to sing a song together with the children in commemoration (纪念仪式), but none of the children knew the well-known songs she named.
“If the children couldn’t sing, then they wouldn’t know how to appreciate music. Life would be so pale if it doesn’t have music,” Deng said. “My parents lived and fought here when they were young, and they wanted the locals to live a happy life. So I thought if I had the chance, I must teach them to sing.”
Deng began to travel between Beijing and the village since 2004 to teach the children music. She collected instruments and also rebuilt the school houses by raising funds and using her own pension. As the children had no background in music, she had to teach them basic music theory.
Two years later, she established the Malan Band. Among more than 200 students taught by Deng, many left the mountainous village to receive university education, some of whom are studying art at university or have entered a career in art education.
1. What contributed to the 44 children sing at the opening ceremony?A.They have a good command of Greek. |
B.The Winter Olympics Committee chose them. |
C.Deng’s inspirational deeds and talent of her pupils. |
D.Deng Xiaolan taught them and helped them sign up. |
A.She was a publisher of Jinchaji Daily. |
B.She majored in music in Tsinghua University. |
C.Her father was killed during Japanese aggression. |
D.Her parents played an important role in her love of music. |
A.make up | B.give away | C.take on | D.put on |
A.devoted and caring. |
B.Competent and humorous. |
C.Creative and helpful. |
D.Enthusiastic and strict. |
【推荐2】My grandma passed away last week. My mum began the painful yet necessary task of sorting through her belongings.
“Is there anything you want from grandma’s flat?” Mum texted me.
“Her aloe (芦荟), please.” I required zero thinking time.
Sometime around 1975, Grandma, always believing good things would happen in the future, received this plant as a gift, which she appreciated and placed in her doorway. It came from the local butcher. Five years later, my mum married the butcher’s son and had me. Grandma revealed to me this particular plant was a living relationship between the two families. And so was I.
Recently, whenever we visited Grandma’s flat, I attempted to fix this concept in my children’s minds. “That was a gift your great-grandma bought your other great-grandma! It’s older than me!” Then my kids would nod and ask Grandma for a sweet.
Numerous times, Grandma gave me cuttings or clippings of the plant, hoping I might raise my own and continue the legend. Yet, every time, my new branch died with my awful gardening skills. But that didn’t used to matter, because I could turn to Grandma, who would wait and accept my disturbance without becoming upset. Then I got another clipping and tried again. But now I can’t. So, I decided that the plant will go and live with Ann, my mother-in-law, who is a genius with a greenhouse.
The plan is for Ann to keep hold of the original plant. In time, she can teach me how to deal with its cuttings properly, and then maybe one day I can settle the plant in my place.
In the meantime, Ann will allocate (分配) clippings among my relatives, as Grandma used to do. My wife’s two sisters, for example, are both better at tending plants than I am, so it is quite imaginable they, too, will offer cuttings of the plant to their partners, spreading this loving plant across my entire extended family.
1. Why did the author want his grandma’s aloe?A.He wanted to pass it down to others. | B.He showed a preference for gardening. |
C.He had a pleasant memory of the plant. | D.He received it as a gift from his grandma. |
A.Optimistic and patient. | B.Generous and helpful. | C.Honest and fashionable. | D.Humorous and skillful. |
A.display his skills in gardening | B.have the plant better cared for |
C.announce his grandma’s death | D.protect the plant from dying out |
A.Aloe: my family bond | B.Aloe: a mysterious plant |
C.Grandma: my life coach | D.Grandma: a lovely gardener |
【推荐3】If you thought helicopter parents were too much, wait till you learn about “lawnmower (割草机) parents”. These are the next generation of helicopter parents, who take over-parenting to the next level. Rather than staying overhead in the air, these parents actively prepare the way for their children to succeed, cushioning every bump along the way.
Their goal is to create a soft, even surface onto which their child will proceed, free from harm and worry. They get involved before problems reach their child, sometimes even going to immoral lengths, such as writing college papers for a child who’s running out of time.
One teacher told the Irish Times: “These days you would often hear from a mother or father insisting their child be put in the top math class, for example. Self-esteem (respect) is the buzzword (popular word). They feel it would harm their child’s confidence. The irony is their self-esteem would be damaged far more by sending them into a class where they can’t catch up with others.
It’s not children who are out of control. It’s parents. There will come a point when these children won’t have parents on which to depend, and then how are they going to function? It’s frightening, too, to imagine these children becoming adults and attempting to raise families of their own. They would hardly be capable of teaching independence, confidence, work ethic, and discipline to their own children if they’ve never learned it themselves.
At the end of the TIME article, Gibbs shared a wonderful quote from writer D.H. Lawrence, written in 1918: “How to begin to educate a child. First rule: leave him alone. Second rule: leave him alone. Third rule: leave him alone. That is the whole beginning.
1. Which of the following would the author agree with about “Lawnmower parents”?A.They are children of helicopter parents. |
B.They always stay over their children’s head in the air. |
C.They want to win over helicopter parents. |
D.They do much more for children than helicopter parents. |
A.That children belong to the ordinary class. |
B.That children are put in the top maths class. |
C.That children can’t catch up with the class. |
D.That children don’t do well as expected. |
A.Letting children be is the last thing to do in education. |
B.We must allow children enough freedom in their development. |
C.Gibbs must have been an expert in children education. |
D.There is no definite answer to how to educate a child. |
A.Very appreciative. | B.Quite surprised. |
C.Much worried. | D.A little disappointed. |