Two of the saddest words in the English language are “if only”. I live my life with the goal of never having to say those words, because they convey regret, lost opportunities, mistakes, and disappointment.
My father is famous in our family for saying “Take the extra minute to do it right.” I always try to live by the “extra minute” rule. When my children were young and likely to cause accidents, I always thought about what I could do to avoid an “if only” moment, whether it was something minor like moving a cup full of hot coffee away from the edge of a counter, or something that required a little more work such as taping padding (衬垫) onto the sharp corners of a glass coffee table.
I don’t only avoid those “if only” moments when it comes to safety. It’s equally important to avoid “if only” in our personal relationships. We all know people who lost a loved one and regretted that they had foregone an opportunity to say “I love you” or “I forgive you.” When my father announced he was going to the eye doctor across from my office on Good Friday, I told him that it was a holiday for my company and I wouldn’t be here. But then I thought about the fact that he was 84 years old and I realized that I shouldn’t give up an opportunity to see him. I called him and told him I had decided to go to work on my day off after all.
I know there will still be occasions when I have to say “if only” about something, but my life is definitely better because of my policy of doing everything possible to avoid that eventuality. And even though it takes an extra minute to do something right, or it occasionally takes an hour or two in my busy schedule to make a personal connection, I know that I’m doing the right thing. I’m buying myself peace of mind and that’s the best kind of insurance for my emotional well-being.
1. Which of the following is an example of the “extra minute” rule?A.Start the car the moment everyone is seated. |
B.Leave the room for a minute with the iron working. |
C.Move an object out of the way before it trips someone. |
D.Wait for an extra minute so that the steak tastes better. |
A.abandoned | B.avoided |
C.lacked | D.taken |
A.join in the holiday celebration of the company |
B.keep her appointment with the eye doctor |
C.finish her work before the deadline approached |
D.meet her father who was already an old man |
A.The Two Saddest Words | B.The Most Useful Rule |
C.The Peace of Mind | D.The Emotional Well-being |
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【推荐1】My philosophy (哲学) professor was a typical eccentric philosopher, whose behavior was a bit strange. His disheveled (蓬乱的) appearance was highlighted by a wellworn tweed sport coat and poor-fitting thick glasses, which often rested on the tip of his nose. Every now and then, as most philosophy professors do, he would dig into one of those existential “what’s the meaning of life” discussions. Many of those discussions went nowhere, but there were a few that really hit home. This was one of them:
“Respond to the following questions by a show of hands,” my professor instructed.
“How many of you can tell me something about your parents?” Everyone’s hand went up.
“How many of you can tell me something about your grandparents?” About three-fourths of the class raised their hands.
“How many of you can tell me something about your great-grandparents?” Two out of sixty students raised their hands.
“Look around the room,” he said. “In just two short generations hardly any of us even know who our own great-grandparents were. Oh sure, maybe we have an old photograph stored away in a musty cigar box or know the classic family story about how one of them walked five miles to school barefoot. But how many of us really know who they were, what they thought, what they were proud of, what they were afraid of, or what they dreamed about? Think about that. Within three generations our ancestors (祖先) are all but forgotten. Will this happen to you?”
“Here’s a better question. Look ahead three generations. You are long gone. Instead of you sitting in this room, now it’s your greatgrandchildren. What will they have to say about you? Will they know about you? Or will you be forgotten, too?”
“Is your life going to be a warning or an example? What legacy (遗产) will you leave? The choice is yours. Class is over.”
Nobody rose from their seats for a good five minutes.
1. Which of the following can best describe the professor?A.Untidy but considerate. | B.Fashionable and helpful. |
C.Neat and responsible. | D.Odd but thoughtful. |
A.To share his own interesting stories. |
B.To suggest new ways to know the ancestors. |
C.To indicate people’s understanding of the ancestors are shallow. |
D.To prove they are good ways to know the ancestors. |
A.It went nowhere like the previous ones. |
B.It inspired our thinking about life. |
C.The professor was discontent with our answers. |
D.The professor offered us his answers to the questions. |
A.Our strange philosophy professor. | B.Our memorable and respectable ancestors. |
C.A gap among three generations. | D.A lesson about legacy. |
【推荐2】My 12-year-old son and I ride bikes to and from his school every day. I accompany him on the 20-minute ride through Manhattan, drop him off and return at the end of day to pick him up. We always ride together; sometimes he leads; sometimes I do. And as we ride, we communicate the ways to minimize the dangers: Don’t go too fast, and watch out for doors suddenly swinging out from parked cars and jaywalking pedestrians, etc. Some friends worry about the risk of riding in traffic, but is there a better way to let my son know how to deal with traffic dangers?
But recently he requested me to start hanging back a half block or so. This way he could enjoy the feeling of riding on his own, with the security of knowing that I was nearby in case he needed me. This is healthy, of course, as my son needs space to develop independence in preparation for his inevitable departure from home. However, that means soon he will want to ride to school on his own, and I will no longer have this wonderful routine. “Let your children go if you want to keep them.” I understand this and am trying to let my son go in age-appropriate phases, but I still suffer. It’s one of the most troubling experiences of parenthood — recognizing that your presence is becoming less welcome.
My dilemma as a husband mirrors the concern I feel as a parent. My wife has just left on a six-month mission to cover the situation in Libya. In the days leading up to her departure, we spoke openly about the possibility, however unlikely, that she might be killed. But while I influence her decisions, I do not control them. Finally, it was her decision. I know that letting go is the wisest path in this case too. As we travel through life’s phases, we must let go of so much. And I don’t think it gets easier with practice. But maybe just accepting that eventually we will have to let go is the secret to living a full life.
1. The writer keeps his son company on his daily ride to school to________.A.build up his strength | B.teach his son to ride in traffic |
C.tell his son the way to school | D.communicate more with his son |
A.a soldier | B.a politician |
C.a media person | D.an activist |
A.unavoidable | B.reasonable |
C.terrible | D.reliable |
A.letting go | B.Living a full life |
C.Father love is great | D.Practice makes perfect |
【推荐3】Are you the type of person who always says “yes”? I’ve come to learn that it is very important to learn to say “no”. It’s okay. People are still going to like you. They may even respect you more because they know you are honest.
I’m not saying to say “no” to someone who really needs your help. I’m talking about turning down that meeting that you really do not want to attend or that birthday party that you don’t want to be a guest at.
Think for a moment how you feel when you say “yes” to something that you really don’t want to do. If you’re like I once was, you can’t sleep at night and you think about it too much. It weighs on your mind. You try to find ways out. Whatever you’re saying to yourself, if you really wanted to go, you wouldn’t have all of these thoughts.
So, why not just say “no” from the beginning?Maybe you feel like if you don’t show up at the meeting (by the way, it is not one you must attend), your boss isn’t going to like you or your coworkers won’t respect you. Maybe you feel as if your mom, dad or sisters won’t love you as much if you don’t do everything for them what they ask every occasion.
If these people are your true friends, family members, or a good boss, they will like or love you the same no matter what. People treat you the way you teach them to, and if you’re someone who always says “yes”, then that’s what they’re expecting.
You need to do what is right for you. Of course we do have real obligations in life to fulfill, but we do not have to do everything others want us to do.
1. Which of the following statements would the writer agree with?A.We should try to do what our friends ask us to do. |
B.We should help others in need. |
C.Always saying “yes” means you are dishonest. |
D.Always saying “no” means you are brave. |
A.have a bad habit | B.have a kind heart |
C.have much concern | D.have obligations |
A.have the same relationship with them as before | B.have a loose relationship with them |
C.disappoint them | D.upset them |
A.Learn to Make a Right Choice | B.To Be Yourself |
C.Do What You Want to Do | D.Learn to Say “No” |
【推荐1】There is an old Chinese proverb that states “One generation plants the trees; another gets the shade,” and this is how it should be with mothers and daughters. The relationship between a mother and a daughter is sometimes confusing. The relationship can be similar to friendship. However, the mother and daughter relationship has unique characteristics that distinguish it from a friendship. These characteristics include a hierarchy (等级) of responsibilities and unconditional love, which preclude mothers and daughters from being best friends.
Marina, 27 years old, said, “I love spending time with my mom, but I wouldn’t consider her my best friend. Best friends don’t pay for your wedding. Best friends don’t remind you how they carried you in their body and gave you life! Best friends don’t tell you how wise they are because they have been alive at least 20 years longer than you.” This doesn’t mean that the mother and daughter relationship can’t be very close and satisfying. This generation of mothers and adult daughters has a lot in common, which increases the likelihood of shared companionship. Mothers and daughters have always shared the common experience of being homemakers, responsible for maintaining and passing on family values and traditions. Today contemporary mothers and daughters also share the experience of work and technology, which may bring them even closer together.
Best friends may or may not continue to be best friends, but for better or worse, the mother and daughter relationship is permanent, even if for some unfortunate reason they aren’t speaking. Sometimes this is not an equal relationship. Daughters don’t always feel responsible for their mother’s emotional well-being. But mothers never stop being mothers, which includes frequently wanting to protect their daughters and often feeling responsible for their happiness. The mother and daughter relationship is a relationship that is not replaceable by any other. Mothers always “trump (胜过)” friends.
1. What does the underlined word “preclude” in paragraph 1 probably mean?A.differ. | B.benefit. |
C.prevent. | D.change. |
A.Best friends will not spend money on her wedding. |
B.Best friends will not remind her of important issues in life. |
C.Her mother is wiser on account of her age. |
D.Her mother is anything but her best friend. |
A.Because they share advanced technology with each other. |
B.Because they work together to support the whole family. |
C.Because they experience the same values and traditions. |
D.Because they have common experience in life and work. |
A.The mother and daughter relationship can be replaced by a best friend. |
B.A mother’s love brings her and her daughter a close friendship. |
C.Marina has a troubled relationship with her mother. |
D.The mother and daughter relationship goes beyond best friendship. |
A.How to build a good mother and daughter relationship. |
B.A mother-daughter relationship is irreplaceable. |
C.Mothers want to be daughters’ friends. |
D.A daughter is a mother’s best friend. |
【推荐2】They were a happy family: four daughters all in the same school in different grades.The youngest, Janice, who was in my class, seemed to be glued (粘) to her mother's skirts.The three older girls took the bus to school every morning, but Janice was always driven to school by her mother.
One Friday, Janice's mother asked for a talk with me.She said in a soft voice, “My husband is going to Europe on business for two weeks, and he insists that I go with him.I have tried to explain over and over that Janice needs me here.But he thinks that she will be fine without me so I have no choice; I have to go.I have told the babysitter to drive her every morning.Will you please give Janice special attention and help her? I want to be sure everything goes well for her.”
I told her that we would make every effort to support Janice.I even volunteered to meet Janice at her car so she would see a familiar face.As a mother myself, I'd like to help.Janice's mother thanked me for our understanding.
On Monday morning, expecting a tearful, anxious child, I planned a special program of fun and games.I waited outside to greet Janice, but just then the bus arrived and not three, but four girls got off.Janice skipped along joyfully, saying “goodbye” to her sisters as she ran with two friends into the classroom.I walked slowly into the classroom and called Janice over to ask how the bus ride went.Impatiently she said, “Oh, I always want to take the bus with the other kids, but Mother needs to be with me.You see there won't be any more babies, so I have to be a baby a little longer.While she is away, I'll just ride the bus every day.I am five, you know.”
1. Why did Janice's mother want to have a talk with the author?A.To ask her to help Janice with her homework. |
B.To ask her to pick up Janice every day. |
C.To ask her to give Janice more attention. |
D.To ask her to meet Janice at her car. |
A.Plan a special program of fun and games. |
B.Wait for her outside the school. |
C.Greet her when she got off the bus. |
D.Ask about her bus ride. |
A.She was tearful and anxious. |
B.She was worried about her mother. |
C.She missed her mother very much. |
D.She was happy rather than sad. |
【推荐3】I never saw my father home from work late or ill, nor did I ever see my father take a “night out with the boys”. He had no hobbies but just took care of his family.
For 22 years, since I left home for college, my father called me every Sunday at 9:00 am. He was always interested in my life — how my family was doing. The calls even came when he and my mother were in Australia, England or Florida.
Nine years ago when I bought my first house, my father, 67 years old, spent eight hours a day for three days, painting my house. He would not allow me to pay someone to have it done. All he asked, was a glass of iced tea, and that I hold a paintbrush for him and talk to him. But I was too busy, for I had a law practice to run, and I could not take the time to hold the paintbrush, or talk to my father.
Five years ago, my 71-year-old father spent five hours putting together a swing set (秋千) for my daughter. Again, all he asked was that I get him a glass of iced tea, and talk to him. But again, I had laundry to do, and the house to clean.
The morning on Sunday, January 16, 1995, my father telephoned me as usual, this time he had seemed to have forgotten some things we had discussed the week before. I had to get to church, and I cut the conversation short.
The call came at 4:40 am. That day my father was sent to hospital in Florida. I got on a plane immediately, and I vowed (发誓) that when I arrived, I would make up for the lost time, and have a nice long talk with him and really get to know him.
I arrived in Florida at 1:00 am, but my father had passed away at 9:12 pm. This time it was he who did not have time to talk, or time to wait for me.
In the years since his death I have learnt much about my father, and even more about every single day.
1. We know from the reading that the father_____.A.had no friends around him | B.liked to paint houses |
C.thought of his family as his all | D.was not healthy in his youth |
A.could only afford a glass of iced tea |
B.spent eight hours working with her father |
C.could do nothing but hold a paintbrush |
D.was too busy to talk to her father |
A.had forgotten to discuss some things with her |
B.seemed to be a little different |
C.became interested in church |
D.had no time to phone her as usual |
A.Painting Houses | B.Daughter’s Family |
C.A Great Father | D.Father and I |
【推荐1】When we think of leadership, we often think of strength and power. But what are these really, and how do they operate?
Leadership today is not about forcing others to do things. If this is even possible, it is short-term, and tends to backfire. If you order someone to do something against their will, they may do it because they feel they must, but the anger they feel will do more harm in the long-term. They will also experience fear.
Fear causes the thinking brain to shut down, making the person unable to function at his or her best. If they associate you with this emotion of fear, they will become less functional around you, and you will have succeeded in not only shooting yourself in the foot, but possibly making a very good employee or partner unable to perform effectively. Fear has no place in leadership.
The way we influence people in a lasting way is by our own character, and our understanding and use of emotion. We can order someone to do something, which may be part of the work day; or we can employ them at the emotional level, so they became fully devoted to the projects and provide some of their own motivation (积极性). Today’s work place is all about relationships. Anyone works harder in a positive environment in which they’re recognized and valued as a human being as well as a worker. Everyone produces just a bit more for someone they like. Leaders understand the way things work. They know the pay check is not the single most motivating factor (因素) in the work life of most people.
The true strength of leadership is an inner strength that comes from the confidence of emotional intelligence---knowing your own emotions, and how to handle them, and those of others. Developing your emotional intelligence is the single best thing you can do if you want to develop your relationships with people around you, which is the key to the leadership skills.
1. The underlined phrase “shooting oneself in the foot” means _____ in this passage.A.throw or walk in a specific direction or towards a specific objective |
B.to injure or harm one's own interests |
C.to move or pass suddenly or swiftly |
D.to grow forth from the ground |
A.People tend to associate leadership with fear. |
B.Working conditions affect people’s physical health. |
C.Good relationship is the key to business success. |
D.Smart people are more functional in the work place. |
A.hide his own emotion of fear | B.provide better suggestions |
C.give his employees a pay raise | D.develop his own personality |
A.provide a variety of project for employees |
B.help raise employees’ living standards |
C.deal wisely with employees’ emotions |
D.give employees’ specific instructions(指导) |
【推荐2】I’d like to share a little story with you about something that happened when I was four. I remember it clearly. Our loving family dog was nearing the end of his life. My father picked him up and put him in a little bed we had made for him. Our dog, my companion, whom we had cared for, bit my father when he attempted to help him. How could he? Why? I couldn’t understand it. I didn’t like him anymore.
I hadn’t thought about that story for a long time but something that happened last week brought it back to me. I went to speak with a friend. When I knocked on the door, I met in an instant an angry look and a few harsh(尖刻的)words. When the door was slammed(砰地关上)in my face, I stood there shocked, and in a rush, I was reminded of my dog bit my father 20 years ago or so. What brought that story back was that same feeling of betrayal.
Both stories taught me something the next day. You see, when I got up in the morning and was told my dog had died, it became clear to me that he must have been in great pain. For him to have bitten a family member, he could not have been himself. Much the same for the other story when I learned that my friend’s wife had just left him.
We are all beings of our environments, our opinions and feelings. And all of those things can cause you to say and do things that can’t be understood by those who are not in the same situation with you.
If you meet someone either behaving out of character or acting in a way that doesn’t seem to fit the situation, put out your hand and be patient when you think it is least possible for him to do so. You may turn around a story that has a sad ending simply by your actions.
1. What is the influence of the incident mentioned in Paragraph 1?A.It hurt his father’s feeling deeply. | B.It has puzzled the author ever since. |
C.It left a deep impression on the author. | D.It made the author dislike dogs. |
A.He was ill-tempered. |
B.He was suffering the pain of losing his wife. |
C.He was bothered by an unexpected visit. |
D.They once quarreled and he couldn’t forgive the author. |
A.Misunderstanding should be removed in time. |
B.Sometimes one will be hurt without any reason. |
C.Many people think more of themselves and less of others. |
D.Many factors will affect one's behavior. |
A.Help those in need. |
B.Look before you leap. |
C.Respect for others is a kind of virtue. |
D.Learn to put yourself in others’ shoes. |
【推荐3】In ancient Egypt, the pharaoh (法老) treated the poor message runner like a prince when he arrived at the palace, if he brought good news. However, if the exhausted runner had the misfortune to bring the pharaoh unhappy news, his head was cut off.
Shades of that spirit spread over today’s conversations. Once a friend and I packed up some peanut butter and sandwiches for an outing. As we walked light-heartedly out of the door, picnic basket in hand, a smiling neighbor looked up at the sky and said, “Oh, boy, bad day for a picnic. The weatherman says it's going to rain.” I wanted to strike him on the face with the peanut butter and sandwiches. Not for his stupid weather report, for his smile.
Several months ago I was racing to catch a bus. As I breathlessly put my handful of cash across the Greyhound counter, the sales agent said with a broad smile, “Oh, that bus left five minutes ago.” Dreams of head-cutting!
It’s not the news that makes someone angry. It’s the unsympathetic attitude with which it’s delivered. Everyone must give bad news from time to time, and big winners do it with the proper attitude. A doctor advising a patient that she needs an operation does it in a caring way. A boss informing an employee he didn’t get the job takes on a sympathetic tone. Big winners know, when delivering any bad news, they should share the feeling of the receiver.
Unfortunately, many people are not aware of this. When you’re tired from a long flight, has a hotel clerk cheerfully said that your room isn’t ready yet? When you had your heart set on the toast beef, has your waiter merrily told you that he just served the last piece? It makes you as traveler or diner want to land your fist (拳头) right on their unsympathetic faces.
Had my neighbor told me of the upcoming rainstorm with sympathy, I would have appreciated his warning. Had the Greyhound salesclerk sympathetically informed me that my bus had already left, I probably would have said, “Oh, that's all right. I’ll catch the next one.” Big winners, when they bear bad news, deliver bombs with the emotion the bombarded (被轰炸的) person is sure to have.
1. In the writer's opinion, his neighbor was .A.friendly. | B.warm-hearted. |
C.not considerate. | D.not helpful. |
A.was mad at the sales agent. |
B.was reminded of the cruel pharaoh. |
C.wished that the sales agent would have had dreams. |
D.dreamed of cutting the sales agent’s head that night. |
A.Delivering bad news properly is important in communication. |
B.Helping others sincerely is the key to business success. |
C.Receiving bad news requires great courage. |
D.Learning ancient traditions can be useful. |