I go out of my way to say “thank you” to my partner frequently, and he’s the same way.We were both raised by parents who valued politeness, and more than that, I want to do all those little things that psychologists say help couples stay together. Expressing gratitude (感谢) is one of those things, so a quick “thanks” seems like an easy one.
But according to a recent study, we’re not at all typical. The study looked at over l,000 recordings of casual conversations among families and close friends.In only about one out of 20 times were expressions of thanks observed. Phrases that meant “thanks” but weren’t a direct translation of the word were counted, including physical gestures of thanks.
The researchers looked at a wide variety of people from different places, representing eight languages: Polish, Russian, Italy, English, Murrinh-patha (an Aboriginal language), Cha’palaa, Lao and Siwu.
The Brits thanked people close to them the most, about 14.5 percent of the time, and close behind them were the Italians at 13.5 percent. The Murrinh-patha came next at 4.5 percent and following them were the Russians, the Polish, the Laotians and the Siwu speakers.The lowest? Well, the Cha’palaa speakers of Ecuador don’t have a word for “thank you” at all.
As the linguists explained, “Expressing thanks, in some cultures, is more of a linguistic tradition than a true expression of feelings.In cultures where thanks are less often said, it’s because social cooperation is taken for granted, and ‘thank you’ isn’t really needed or necessary.”
The idea that you don’t need to thank others because it’s assumed that you’re appreciative is beautiful. But it is a bit hard for me to accept. So I’ll keep saying “thanks” as frequently as I do. But as a frequent traveler, I’ll keep in mind to watch the local custom and follow suit.
1. What might be psychologists’ opinion about expressing thank?A.It can show a person’s values. |
B.It is passed down from parents. |
C.It is a little and unnecessary thing. |
D.It can contribute to close relationship. |
A.They say thanks at any time. |
B.They seldom express thanks. |
C.They often show thanks using gestures. |
D.They often use indirect translation of thanks. |
A.The Cha’palaa. | B.The Polish. |
C.The Italians. | D.The Russians. |
A.People thank close friends and family less. |
B.Family members don’t need to thank each other. |
C.Close friends have different ways to express thanks. |
D.Different cultures have different ways to express thanks. |
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【推荐1】Maybe you’ve heard about the saying, “A bird with a broken wing will never fly as high.” I’m sure that T. J. Ware was made to feel this way almost every day in school.
By high school, T. J. was the most famous troublemaker in his town. He got into lots of fights. He failed almost every exam but was passed on each year to a higher grade level. Teachers didn’t want to have him again the following year.
When I showed up to lead the first training for a leadership retreat, a program designed to have students become more involved in their communities, the community leaders told me about T. J. Ware, the boy with the longest arrest record in the history of town. Somehow, I knew that I wasn’t the first to hear about T. J.’s darker side as the first words of introduction.
At the start of the retreat, T. J, didn’t readily join the discussion groups and didn’t seem to have much to say. But when his group started a discussion about positive and negative things that had happened at school that year, he joined in and had clear thoughts on those situations, and the other students in his group welcomed his comments. Suddenly, T. J. felt like a part of the group, anti soon he was treated like a leader. He was saying things that made a lot of sense, and everyone was listening. By the end of the retreat he had joined the Homeless Project team. He knew something about poverty, hunger and hopelessness. The other students on the team were impressed (打动) with his ideas and love for the homeless. They elected T. J. vice-chairman of the team.
Two weeks later, the Homeless Project team organized a communitywide service project—a giant food drive. Seventy students led by T. J. collected a school record: 2,854 cans of food in just two hours, enough to take care of poor families in the area for 75 days. The local newspaper covered the event with a full-page article the next day. T. J.’s picture was up there for doing something great.
T. J. reminds us that a bird with a broken wing only needs mending. But once it has healed, it can fly higher than the rest.
1. Which is the best title for the passage?A.Love Leads to Success | B.Love Changes Everything |
C.A Bird with Broken Wing. | D.A Broken Wing Mended |
A.He didn’t have a good teacher. | B.He was feeling hurt every day. |
C.He would graduate the next year. | D.He was not welcome in the school. |
A.The leadership retreat. |
B.The group discussion. |
C.The communitywide service project. |
D.The school record in the food drive. |
A.his words was meaningful | B.he was part of the group |
C.he joined the leadership retreat | D.his deeds were famous at school |
A.life on campus | B.cultural discoveries |
C.encouraging stories | D.training programs |
【推荐2】It was decades ago now, but it’s still one of the most memorable conversations of my life. On a long, slow train heading north, with nothing to do but watch the rain, the man sitting opposite began trying to talk to me. Like most young women who have learned the hard way to be careful of strangers, I was unfriendly. But curiosity took over when he said that he was just bored, and liked talking.
So that’s what we did for hours and hours as the man turned out to be quite talkative. When the train finally pulled in, we didn’t change numbers. However, I still think about it sometimes on long, boring journeys, before getting a phone out and scrolling silently like everyone else. It’s a rare person who can cheerfully break the social rule about not talking to strangers without any ill intention, but life would be more interesting if more of us knew how to do it.
And that’s why I can’t be as cynical as I probably should be about “Tube Chat” campaign launched to encourage Britons to talk to each other. All anyone is being asked to do is to start a conversation they wouldn’t otherwise have had — maybe with a friend from whom they’ve been apart or a neighbor they don’t know.
Obviously, it takes more than a bit of small talk over garden fences to unite strangers together. More people live alone than did so a generation ago, and the rise in freelancing(自由职业)means more of us work alone too. We socialize increasingly through screens, sending texts instead of bothering to call.
It’s true that the “Tube Chat” campaign of a few years back failed in its attempts to make Londoners talk to each other on public transport. But even city people who would normally die rather than make eye contact with strangers still happily gather in large numbers by the Thames for the New Year’s Eve fireworks. They would get a far better view at home on television — it’s not really about the fireworks, but about being part of something communal (公共的).
There’s no guarantee (保证) that this latest campaign to reconnect will succeed wherever others have failed. But if there ever a moment to stop social disbelief it may start a fire to warm a world that sometimes feels cold. Wherever my train friend is now, ________.
1. The author introduced her train friend to ________.A.share her most memorable but boring journey |
B.express her deep regret for losing touch with him |
C.show that talking to strangers can add interest to life |
D.explain why people are becoming indifferent |
A.doubtful | B.supportive | C.confused | D.disappointed |
A.“Tube Chat”, failed in its attempts to unite strangers together |
B.it’s hard to break the social rule about not talking to strangers |
C.people have a wish to be socially connected by nature |
D.“Tube Chat” made some difference to reconnecting people |
A.I hope he’s still talking | B.I hope he is still as interesting |
C.I will miss him forever | D.I will try to get in touch with him |
A.Keep our desire to connect. | B.Avoid talking to strangers. |
C.Show respect for social disbelief | D.Socialize with our friends. |
【推荐3】The word tolerance is widely used in liberal democracies (自由民主). It indicates a positive meaning. Politicians urge us to be tolerant towards minorities. Educators teach us to be tolerant towards the other. The press is full of references to the need to display tolerance when faced with individuals or groups espousing a different view or holding a different religious belief. A tolerant society is an objective sought after by anyone who believes in the values of democracy. A tolerant individual is connected with virtuous qualities.
The question we must ask is whether we have been using the word tolerance fully aware of its meaning and whether we have applied it correctly to reflect what we really wish to convey.
The word tolerance means to bear, or to bear with. If I tolerate something or someone, I basically say that I am ready to bear it or him. I can tolerate a bad smell or a noisy neighbour. The act of toleration forces me to desist from conveying my objection to the existence of a phenomenon, which I find difficult to bear. A bad smell or a noisy neighbour is considered by me to be an objectionable phenomenon. By tolerating either of them, I am not transforming the bad smell or the noisy neighbour into positive phenomena. Let's be honest: I don't have a different taste when it comes to bad smells. I simply dislike it and hope that it disappears. I don't respect the noisy neighbour. I would rather have him stop at once the noise he is making so I can live in peace.
The subject tolerating is by nature not equal to the object being tolerated. If I tolerate you, I essentially say that I am above you and am prepared, although unwillingly, to bear with your presence or with your practices or opinions. That may be true in the case of an individual who is ready to tolerate the other. However, this attitude by such an individual, though empirically true, is hardly a virtue. Certainly, the fact that an individual, in reality, may merely tolerate the other or his opinion does not justify a government or any official authority promoting tolerance as a virtue. One cannot tolerate an equal being. True equality involves respect, not toleration. To respect the other as a distinctive person is hardly to tolerate him. This is the true meaning of equality: diversity existing in a mutually-respectful socio-legal setting.
A tolerant attitude involves the grant of a favour, not a right. The question we should ask ourselves is whether we would ever wish a parliament to make laws considering us, as individuals and as part of a collective entity or a permission to pursue certain actions interpreted as a favour rather than a right? Indeed, would we ever wish anyone to listen to our views and accept us the way we are simply because he is kind enough to tolerate us?
1. The first two paragraphs are mainly intended to show that ______ .A.tolerance is a symbol of liberal democracies |
B.democratic society always advocates tolerance |
C.people's understanding of tolerance is one-sided |
D.tolerance can be applied to many situations |
A.the writer are fed up with them |
B.most people find them hard to tolerate |
C.the writer isn't prejudiced against them |
D.tolerating them isn't a virtuous act |
A.tolerance shows an unequal relationship |
B.most people promote tolerance as a virtue |
C.people should show respect for each other |
D.tolerance has nothing to do with respect |
A.Tolerance and Respect | B.What Is to Be Tolerated? |
C.Is Tolerance a Virtue? | D.Should People Be Tolerant? |
【推荐1】When Dekalb Walcott III was just 8 years old, his father, a Chicago fire chief, let him tag along on a call. Dekalb says a lot of kids idolized basketball player Michael Jordan when he was growing up in Chicago in the 1990s. Not him.
“I wanted to be like Dekalb Walcott Jr.,” he says of his father.
So when his dad asked if he wanted to go on that call with him when he was 8, Dekalb was excited. I’m jumping up and down,saying, “Mom, can I go? Can I go?”
The experience changed Dekalb’s life, he tells his dad on a visit to StoryCorps.“My eyes got big from the moment the alarm went off.” the younger Dekalb says. “This is the life that I want to live someday.”
Now 27, the younger Dekalb is living that life. He became a firefighter at 21 and went to work alongside his dad at the Chicago Fire Department. Before his father retired, the pair even went out on a call together-father supervising (监督) son.
“You know, it’s everything for me to watch you grow,”his father says. But he also recalls worrying about one particular fire that his son faced.
“I received a phone call that night.” And they said, “Well, your son was at this fire.” I said, “OK, which way is this conversation going to go?” Dekalb Walcott Jr. recalls.
And they said, “But he’s OK. And he put it out all by himself. Everybody here was proud of him.”
And the word went around, “Who was out there managing that fire? Oh, that’s Walcott! That’s Walcott up there! So, you know. moments like that, it’s heaven on Earth for a dad.”
Dekalb Walcott Jr. retired in 2009. The younger Dekalb says he’s proud of being a second-generation firefighter. “You know, it makes me look forward to fatherhood as well, because I’m definitely looking forward to passing that torch down to my son.”
1. The underlined phrase tag along in Paragraph 1 is closest in meaning to ______.A.put out fire |
B.watch basketball |
C.follow his father |
D.ask his mother’s permission |
A.8 | B.21 | C.27 | D.35 |
A.Go on with the conversation |
B.Put it out all by himself |
C.Supervise his son |
D.Go to the fire scene |
A.Dekalb Walcott Jr is proud to be a second-generation firefighter. |
B.Dekalb Walcott III wants his son to become a firefighter too. |
C.Dekalb Walcott Jr wants to pass the torch to Dekalb Walcott III. |
D.Dekalb Walcott III is proud that his son has become an excellent firefighter. |
A.Passing The Torch: A Firefighter Dad’s Legacy |
B.Putting Out Fire: A Challenging Job for Father and son |
C.Dekalb Walcott III: A Second-generation Firefighter |
D.Dekalb Walcott Jr. : A Chicago Fire Chief |
【推荐2】For 18 years after her retirement, Deng Xiaolan volunteered to teach music in a rural village in Hebei province. Her inspirational teaching and the enthusiasm and talent of her pupils made the 44 children from Malan village and neighboring villages in Fuping county sing the Olympic anthem in Greek at the opening ceremony of the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics on Feb 4.
Deng’s involvement with the rural children can be traced back to her parents. Her father Deng Tuo was the publisher of Jinchaji Daily, a newspaper which was based in Malan village in Fuping county, Hebei province, from 1939 to 1948. During the Japanese aggression, 19 Malan locals were killed for refusing to divulge information about the newspaper. Under the influence of her parents, who both had a passion for music, she learned the violin and singing when she was young. She joined the school band after entering Tsinghua University, and also taught her colleagues to play the violin after graduation.
In 2003, when Deng Xiaolan returned to the village to remember the persons who were killed by Japanese invaders, a group of local children also attended the ceremony. She wanted to sing a song together with the children in commemoration (纪念仪式), but none of the children knew the well-known songs she named.
“If the children couldn’t sing, then they wouldn’t know how to appreciate music. Life would be so pale if it doesn’t have music,” Deng said. “My parents lived and fought here when they were young, and they wanted the locals to live a happy life. So I thought if I had the chance, I must teach them to sing.”
Deng began to travel between Beijing and the village since 2004 to teach the children music. She collected instruments and also rebuilt the school houses by raising funds and using her own pension. As the children had no background in music, she had to teach them basic music theory.
Two years later, she established the Malan Band. Among more than 200 students taught by Deng, many left the mountainous village to receive university education, some of whom are studying art at university or have entered a career in art education.
1. What contributed to the 44 children sing at the opening ceremony?A.They have a good command of Greek. |
B.The Winter Olympics Committee chose them. |
C.Deng’s inspirational deeds and talent of her pupils. |
D.Deng Xiaolan taught them and helped them sign up. |
A.She was a publisher of Jinchaji Daily. |
B.She majored in music in Tsinghua University. |
C.Her father was killed during Japanese aggression. |
D.Her parents played an important role in her love of music. |
A.make up | B.give away | C.take on | D.put on |
A.devoted and caring. |
B.Competent and humorous. |
C.Creative and helpful. |
D.Enthusiastic and strict. |
【推荐3】On numerous drives with my mom through my childhood, she would suddenly pull over the car to examine a flower by the side of the road or rescue a beetle from danger while I, in my late teens and early twenties, sat impatiently in the car.
Though Mother's Day follows Earth Day, for me, they have always been related to each other. My mom has been ''green'' since she became concerned about the environment. Part of this habit was born of thrift(节俭). Like her mother and her grandmother before her, mom saves glass jars, empty cheese containers and reuses her plastic bags.
Mom creates a kind of harmonious relationship with wildlife in her yard. She knows to pick the apples on her trees a little early to avoid the bears and that if she leaves the bird feeders out at night, it is likely that they will be knocked down by a family of raccoons(浣熊). Spiders that make their way into the house and are caught in juice glasses will be set loose in the garden.
I try to teach my children that looking out for the environment starts with being aware of the environment. On busy streets, we look for dandelions(蒲公英)to fly in the wind; we say hello to neighborhood cats and pick up plastic cups and paper bags. This teaching comes easily, I realize, because I was taught so well by example. Mom didn’t need to lecture; she didn't need to beat a drum to change the world. She simply slowed down enough to enjoy living in it and with that joy came mercy and an instinct(直觉)for protection.
I am slowing down and it isn't because of the weight of my nearly forty years on the planet, it is just out of my concern for the planet itself. I've begun to save glass jars and reuse packing envelopes. I pause in my daily tasks to watch the squirrels race each other in the trees above my house.
Last summer, I planted tomatoes in my yard. With the heat of August around me, I enjoyed my tomatoes while sitting on my low wall. I immediately wanted to share with my mom.
1. Why does the author say Earth Day is connected with Mother's Day?A.Because Mother's Day falls shortly after Earth Day. |
B.To stress that all the older women are environmentalists. |
C.To stress how much her mother cares about the environment. |
D.Because her mother asks her to be kind to nature on Mother’s Day. |
A.Picking dandelions on busy streets. | B.Rescuing a beetle from some danger. |
C.Setting a caught spider free in the garden. | D.Saving glass jars and empty cheese containers. |
A.the author's mother is very impatient with her children |
B.The author's mother knows how to live in harmony with nature |
C.the author's mother knows how to keep the wildlife off her yard |
D.the author's mother used to lecture her to protect the environment |
A.doubtful—critical—positive | B.approving—doubtful—negative |
C.understanding—critical—approving | D.negative—understanding—approving |
【推荐1】It is amazing to live to 100 or beyond, isn't it? But what are these centenarians doing right? Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a researcher at Brigham Young University, did a series of studies of tens of thousands of middle-aged people. She looked at every aspect of their lifestyle: their diet, their exercise, how often they went to the doctor, whether they smoked or drank, etc. She recorded all of this and then she and her colleagues sat tight and waited for seven years to see who would still be breathing. And of the people left sanding, what reduced their chances of dying the most?
According to her study, the two strongest predictors (指标) of long life are two features of your social life First, your close relationships, people that you can call on for loan if you need money suddenly, who will call tie doctor an call on fora will take you to the hospital. Second, something called social integration, meaning how much you interact with people as you move through your day. How many people do you talk to? And these mean both your weak and your strong connections, so not just the people you're really close to, who mean a lot to you, but, like. Do you talk to the guy who every day makes you your coffee, the postman, the woman who walks by your house every day with her dog? Do you play bridge or poker, or have a book club? Those interactions are one of the strongest predictors of how long you'll live.
Now, this leads to the next question: if we now spend more time online than on any other activity, including sleeping, does it make a difference? Is it the same thing as being there if you're in contact constantly with your kids through text, for example? Well, the short answer to the question is no. Face-to-face contact releases a wave of neurotransmitters (神经递质),and like a vaccine (疫苗), they protect you now in the present and well into the future. So simply making eye contact with somebody, shaking hands, giving somebody a high-five is enough to release oxytocin, which increases your level of trust and it lowers your cortisol levels.
By comparing brain activities of people having live conversations and people listening to the same talks on YouTube, neuroscientists found that the brain show much higher levels of participation in the former (前者) situation.
Fresh evidence shows that these in person friendships create a biological force field against disease and decline (衰老). The power of such face-to-face contact is really why there are the lowest rates of dementia (痴呆) among people who are socially active. It's why women who have breast cancer are four times more likely to survive their disease than loners are. Why men who've had a heart attack who meet regularly to play poker or to have coffee or to play old-timer's hockey (曲棍球) are better protected by that social contact than they are by taking medicine.
1. How did the Holt-Lunstad carry out her research?A.By collecting and analyzing data. | B.By comparing findings of previous researchers. |
C.By observing people's behavior. | D.By carrying out experiments. |
A.Giuseppe Murinu, who lives alone in a small apartment. |
B.Giovanni Corrias, who has quit smoking and exercises regularly. |
C.Helen Walters, who lives with a big family and attends a poker club. |
D.Susan Pinker, who eats heathy food and has medical examinations regularly. |
A.It produces a vaccine. | B.It decreases cortisol levels. |
C.It builds a biological connection. | D.It reduces blood pressure. |
A.Exercise works better than medicine. | B.Coffee reduces risk of strokes. |
C.Playing poker is a treatment to stroke. | D.Social interaction works magic. |
【推荐2】Scientists from Tufts University have developed tiny groups of human cells that can move on their own-and in a lab experiment, these so-called “anthrobots” inspired sheets of human neurons to repair themselves when damaged. The researchers hope the collections of cells could one day be used to treat diseases or aid with healing in humans.
The study comes on the heels of earlier work from one of its authors, who produced tiny robots by stitching together frog embryo cells. These robots, known as “xenobots”, could assemble themselves, move across surfaces and travel through liquid.
Since they're not made from human cells, xenobots can't be used to treat humans, writes Matthew Hutson, a freelance science writer. But the anthrobots in the new study could theoretically. Each anthrobot started with a single cell from an adult human lung. It then grew into a multicellular biobot after being cultured (培养) for two weeks.
These lung cells are covered in cilia. But at this point in the research, the cilia were growing inside the clumps of cells. So, for the next week, the researchers grew the cells in a solution (溶液) that caused the cilia to face outward instead, enabling these structures to move the anthrobots, which could move in tight loops, travel in straight lines or wiggle in place. Their speed varied as well.
The researchers also tested how these robots might heal wounds. They mimicked (模拟) a wound by scratching a layer of neurons in a dish. Then, they introduced anthrobots to the site of the scratch, and within days, the neurons regrew, bridging the gap created by the wound. The findings show new structures that might have uses in biomedical settings can be developed without gene editing and without having to design the structures manually, the study authors write.
“Unlike xenobots, anthrobots don't require tools to give them shape, and we can use adult cells-even cells from elderly patients-instead of embryonic cells,” says Gizem Gumuskaya, the paper's lead author. "We can produce these robots in large amounts in parallel, which is a good start for developing a therapeutic tool.”
1. How are the advantages of the anthrobot highlighted in the text?A.By showing comments from users. | B.By explaining some terms. |
C.By making comparisons. | D.By listing the data of questionnaires. |
A.The weaknesses of the anthrobot. | B.The culture of the anthrobot. |
C.The structure of the anthrobot. | D.The application of the anthrobot. |
A.It can travel both on land and in water. | B.It requires no genetic modification. |
C.It can be applied in a controlled way. | D.It can develop from any cells of humans. |
A.Regenerative medicine. | B.New materials. |
C.Environmental protection. | D.Individualized education. |
【推荐3】If a shopper clicks “buy” for a product that costs $1,000 or more, it’s twice as likely to be a man than a woman. That’s one of the results revealed in a new NPR/ Marist poll about online shopping.
The poll found that 27 percent of online shoppers —regardless of gender — have bought big-ticket items ($1,000 or more). It’s the evolution of digital commerce from the Webs early days in the 1990s, when people worried about giving out their credit card information and whether products would even arrive. Today, many shoppers are willing to make even their most cherished and expensive purchases online, such as musical instruments, a diamond engagement ring……
Speed and convenience are two factors why many men eagerly make major purchases online, said Americus Reed Il, a marketing professor at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School. “What the research has shown is that men go to the store quickly, gather as much information as they can quickly and just buy it online, particularly because it’s just faster, Reed said. Other factors may also explain the discrepancy between men and women. On average, men have higher incomes. They also tend to be early adopters when it comes to technology, according to Sucharita Kodali, an e-commerce analyst with the research firm Forrester.
Bateman said that, early on, men lagged behind women in making fashion purchases online, but that’s changing. And the retailer’s analysis shows that click and buy is their customers’ method of choice. “We know that 65 percent of their fashion shopping is done online,” Bateman said. “That’s a phenomenal figure because that really defines them as being more digital creatures than physical in the shopping sense.”
1. What can we infer from the second paragraph?A.The most expensive purchases occur online. |
B.Online shopping was not popular in the 1990s. |
C.Today the majority of the people tend to buy online. |
D.Most online shoppers have bought big-ticket items. |
A.Why men tend to purchase online. |
B.What kinds of purchases will be done by men. |
C.Important causes for advanced shopping online. |
D.Factors for women to buy expensive items online. |
A.Similarity. | B.Responsibility. |
C.Distinction. | D.Sense. |
A.Doubtful. | B.Objective. |
C.Satisfied. | D.Disappointed. |