10 . Forgiveness (宽恕) is often considered as an important decision to let go of feelings of anger towards someone who you believe has wronged you. However, while you may be quite generous in your ability to forgive others, you can be much harder on yourself. 1 .
Accept the result of your actions
Forgiving yourself is about more than just putting the past behind you and moving on. 2 . Facing what you have done or what has happened is the first step towards self-forgiveness. It’s also the hardest step. If you have been making excuses in order to make them seem acceptable, it is time to accept what you have done.
Treat yourself with kindness and compassion (同情)
Forgiving yourself requires facing your actions, but it is important to reach this with self-compassion. 3 . Try to be compassionate instead of being self-critical (自我批评的).
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Making a correction is an important part of forgiveness, even when the person you are forgiving is yourself. One way to move past your regret is to take action to correct your mistakes.
Learn from the experience
Forgiving yourself often requires finding a way to learn from the experience and make an active effort to do better in the future. To do this, you need to understand why you behave the way you did and why you feel sorry. What steps can you take to prevent the same behaviors again in the future? 5 , rather than feel sorry about those past mistakes.
| A．Make a correction |
| B．Be aware of others’ feelings |
| C．It is about accepting what has happened |
| D．The following steps may help you learn how to forgive yourself |
| E．You need to tell yourself that thoughts are not facts |
| F．Remind yourself of what you learned to guide your actions going forward |
| G．The key is to treat yourself with the same kindness you show to another person |
