1 . Treat People with Respect

Respect in interpersonal relationship(人际关系) means honoring and valuing other people even if you do not agree with their views or actions. Being a respectful person is a valuable quality that will help you both personally and professionally. You might even find that acting respectfully towards others encourages them to treat you with more respect.

    1     If you want people to treat you with kindness, treat other people with kindness. If you want people to talk to you calmly, talk to others calmly. When you notice something you dislike in someone else, ensure that you don’t treat people in that same way. Instead, extend the kind of words and behaviors you’d like people to give you.

Put yourself into other people’s shoes. It can be hard to be respectful of other people’s views if you cannot relate to them. For example, if you’re in conflict with someone, imagine what it would be like to have their experiences and feelings. This can help you understand their point of view better.

    2     While your opinions are reasonable, people may not want your opinion on everything. Get into a habit of only giving your opinion when it is asked for. This means allowing people to make their own choices, even if you disagree with them,

Value other people’s opinions. Listen to people’s ideas, opinions, and advice with an open mind. Even if you don’t necessarily agree with them, consider their words without immediately disagreeing with them.

    3     If you constantly judge or criticize a person, they may not be open to your words, and instead feel as if you are bullying them. If you have something to say, do so in a way that encourages them.

It is bad for your health to get angry in life, but how can you control your anger? Here are some ways to deal with it.

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If you expect too much and can't get it, you will be disappointed. So change what you want and need, and you are less likely to become angry.

Think of the other person—try and understand his or her position.

Why are they behaving like that? How would you feel if you were in their shoes? Can you agree to their reasons for being angry? Once you see things from their point of view, your anger many be replaced by concern (关心).

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When you get angry, take a deep breath and stop the thoughts that are making you angry. Think of something happy instead, something you like and enjoy. Your anger will gradually become less.

Surround yourself with positive people.

The more people around you show that they are calm and happy, the calmer and happier you become too.

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Imagine doing something terrible to the person who is annoying you and change your anger into your imagination. Then you are free to act calmly and reasonably on the surface.