It is bad for your health to get angry in life, but how can you control your anger? Here are some ways to deal with it.
If you expect too much and can't get it, you will be disappointed. So change what you want and need, and you are less likely to become angry.
Think of the other person—try and understand his or her position.
Why are they behaving like that? How would you feel if you were in their shoes? Can you agree to their reasons for being angry? Once you see things from their point of view, your anger many be replaced by concern (关心).
When you get angry, take a deep breath and stop the thoughts that are making you angry. Think of something happy instead, something you like and enjoy. Your anger will gradually become less.
Surround yourself with positive people.
The more people around you show that they are calm and happy, the calmer and happier you become too.
Imagine doing something terrible to the person who is annoying you and change your anger into your imagination. Then you are free to act calmly and reasonably on the surface.
| A．Change what you expect. |
| B．Think of something positive. |
| C．Read books about controlling anger. |
| D．Use your imagination, not your voice. |
