1 . Sometimes, you just have to let it all out. There is much to complain about these days. Venting (发泄) can be comfortable, bonding and even productive. Who needs toxic positivity (毒鸡汤) when you can unload your way forward?

    1     Complain to the wrong person and your hurt feelings and minor complaint become team gossip. Complain too often and you’ll affect the whole office with your complaints, making your co-workers to vent about you. Suddenly, you’re in trouble.

There’s a right way to blow off steam. If you must air your annoyances, do so carefully and consciously.

Don’t vent to your boss, or to colleagues below you in the organization. That will just spark fighting between teams.     2     This person should not be involved in the situation that bothers you.

Your complaint should be centred around yourself.     3     Keep your comments about co-workers and bosses objective. For example, instead of saying, “Bob was rude,” note that Bob interrupted you, and that made you feel like he doesn’t have confidence in your work.

    4     Anything written will always be risky. Play it safe and try venting to yourself first in a voice memo. Yell into your phone. Play it back privately. Ask yourself, “Do I sound ridiculous?” Then hit delete.

I used to complain about everything on my social-media accounts. I treated it like a diary. I kept getting involved in online arguments.     5     Exposing my deepest emotions to strangers only raised my anger. I quit social media. I rediscovered the joy of screaming in my bedroom and scrawling(乱涂乱画) in a journal. There’s a visceral ( 发自肺腑的) feeling of the anger translating out through my hands.