Romantic Attraction
Sometimes, it seems we are attracted towards people romantically in a puzzling manner. We see someone and our romantic side bursts out. However, it is not a mystery to science and people who study sociology. There are definite causes as to why people become romantically attracted to each other. These factors are, similarity, communication, and honesty.
Though people often say opposites attract, similarity often connects individuals in a romantic way. In fact, based on research done by the University of Colorado Boulder, we tend to choose partners who have a similar DNA to ours. Of course we cannot examine the DNA of others readily, but we can naturally “feel” if people are a genetic match for us.
Communication is another essential factor in the romantic attraction way. If we feel a deep connection to someone through the ease of talking with them, we are much more likely to be attracted to that person. It is difficult to be romantically involved with someone you can barely communicate with. And as a side note, there are people we are not attracted to each other in appearance, but after communicating with them for some time, we suddenly become romantically interested in them.
Friends often connect through noticing the honesty of others, but this also lends to romantic attraction. According to Kelly Campbell, PhD, “Chemistry occurs most often between people who are down-to-earth and sincere. This is because if a person is comfortable with themselves, they are better able to express their true self to the world, which makes it easier to get to know them, even if perspectives on important matters differed”. This adds to the perspective that easy communication between people contributes to romantic attraction.
Is Small Talk Necessary?
What’s the first thing you do when you enter a crowded room? You probably look around for a familiar face. When you can’t find one, you have two choices: you can stand alone, or you can walk up and speak to someone that you don’t know.
Starting a conversation with a stranger, though, is often uncomfortable and can be a little scary. Yet as you go through life, you’re sure to encounter strangers in many different situations, when a need to connect with others will hopefully outweigh your fears. In order to prepare, it helps to learn the art of small talk.
Small talk is the beginning stage of a casual conversation, which usually takes place between strangers or casual acquaintances. With small talk, two or more people search for common interests and points of connection. If one is discovered, the conversation usually begins to flow more naturally, often resulting in deeper discussion.
Mastering a few techniques will allow you to enter a room full of strangers with confidence.
When you walk up to a group, notice anyone trying to make eye contact with you because this is often a sign that the person is interested in talking. Begin by introducing yourself, and then, you should begin with one of three topics: talk about yourself, the other person or something you can both observe, like the weather.
Another way to begin a conversation is with a compliment. Your praise of someone’s scarf might lead to a discussion about favorite places to shop.
Radio host Terry Gross, who has interviewed thousands of people over the years, says one opening request works for her every time: “Tell me about yourself.” This approach gets the ball rolling because people enjoy talking about themselves.
Though small talk takes practice, it’s worth the effort and it’s the stimulus that can lead to deeper conversations.
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Secrets are bad for your health
I grew up in a Midwestern town where the popular wisdom was to only talk about what was pleasant and to keep secrets,if necessary,to make that happen.This meant staying silent when someone offended you,rarely
Many of us like to believe that sweeping unpleasant truths under the rug might make them
The truth can hurt. But in many situations,it s better to get it out and let the
"If the situations in your daily life are regular
4 . Gossip—all humans take part in some form of it. Whether its workplace chatter, the sharing of family news or group texts between friends, it's
People tend to think of gossip
In a 2019 study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, Robbins and a colleague found that, of the 52 minutes a day, on average, that the 467 subjects spent gossiping, three-quarters of that gossip was actually
Just a small portion of the conversations analyzed—around 15%—was considered to be negative gossip. So while it is true that people can spend a significant amount of time talking about their peers, oftentimes that chatter is quite
So, why do people gossip?
Some researchers argue that gossip helped our
Gossiping, Dunbar's work argues, gives humans the ability to spread
Some scholars view gossip as evidence of cultural
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A.approachable | B.friendly | C.present | D.reliable |
A.importantly | B.naturally | C.rapidly | D.secretly |
A.positive | B.independent | C.neutral | D.unusual |
A.amusing | B.critical | C.harmless | D.pointless |
A.ancestors | B.associations | C.customs | D.relatives |
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A.historically | B.legally | C.morally | D.strictly |
5 . Too much eye contact is instinctively felt to be rude, and in a business context, it may also be regarded as a purposeful intention to make “ the other” feel at a disadvantage. So unless you have in mind doing one of those things, it’s better to
Too little,
“Just the right” amount of eye contact---the amount that produces a feeling of mutual
And did you know these other facts about eye contact?
● We reduce eye contact when we are talking about something shameful or
● We increase eye contact when dealing with people we like,
● We avoid eye contact in elevators, subways, crowded buses or trains-in elevators we face the door, in the others we stare at our smartphones-because it helps us
● The biggest body language myth(错误观念)about liars is that they avoid eye contact. While some liars (most often, children) find it difficult to lie while looking directly at you,many liars actually try to “
Eye contact is so powerful a force because it is connected with humans’ earliest
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Embrace the rule of awkward silence
The rule of awkward silence is simple: When faced with a challenging question, instead of answering, pause and think deeply about how you want to answer. This is no short pause; rather, it involves taking several seconds (10, 20 or longer) to think things through before
At Apple, Tim Cook has engaged in the
Cook isn’t alone in embracing the rule of awkward silence. Steve Jobs once took almost 20 seconds to respond to a personal attack,
The rule of awkward silence has always been valuable as a tool of emotional intelligence because it allows you to
Why the rule of awkward silence is more valuable than ever.
We live in a world that
As in, think
Critical thinking calls for deep and careful consideration of a subject. It involves weighing and analyzing facts, and careful
None of this is possible without time.
And time has become the biggest luxury on the planet.
But when you embrace the rule of awkward silence, you steal back time. Time that used to be wasted on
So, the next time someone asks you a challenging question, or even what seems on the surface to be a simple one, resist the
Instead, embrace the rule of awkward silence, and think before you speak.
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Berlin: At nine most mornings the same scene is repeated in office buildings around the world. An employee walks into the elevator with his boss and apart from a mumbled “good morning” the junior is lost for other words. That’s an opportunity missed, says experts, who believe that such an
“Small talk can help establish a
As a matter of fact, the
Virtually every conversation begins and
Not everyone is good at small talk. It takes skill to
8 . Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellows the warm sunshine of praise.
Why-when one word can bring such pleasure? A friend of mine who travels widely always tries to learn a little of the language of any place she visits. She's not much of a linguist, but she does know how to say one word-"beautiful"-in several languages.
It's strange how chary we are about praising.
To give praise costs the giver nothing but a moment`s thought and a moment's effort-
So, let's be alert to the small excellences around us-and comment on them. We will not only bring joy into other people's lives, but also, very often, add happiness into our own.
A.Praise is particularly appreciated by those doing routine jobs. |
B.Comment is often made about activities which are relatively easy and satisfying, like arranging flowers; but not about jobs which are hard and dirty, like scrubbing floors. |
C.It's especially rewarding to give praise in areas in which effort generally goes unnoticed or unmentioned. |
D.Perhaps a quick phone call to pass on a compliment, or five minutes spent writing an appreciative letter. |
E.She can use it to a mother holding her baby, or to a lonely salesman fishing out pictures of his family. |
F.Perhaps it's because few of us know how to accept compliments gracefully. |
9 . When I had my first baby, after battling being unable to produce babies for three years, I received a gift at the hospital with a note: “To Jonathan-we're so glad you're here.” I've always remembered that note-and the person who sent it. My heartache and fear that I'd never have a child had been swept away and I felt a great joy. That little note made me feel that someone else understood my happiness, Oddly enough, she was not a close friend. But at that moment, we shared a special bond.
I learned that day that there's nothing like a personal note. In this age of impersonal technology, of computers and recorded voices on telephones, the hand-written note makes a human connection. And not just to the receiver, but to the writer as well. It feels good to express your sincere thoughts. When you put pen to paper, very important feelings slip out, feelings that you might ordinarily keep to yourself. This is especially true with emotions such as, “I love you,” or “You're important to me,” that may seem embarrassing to actually say.
Some of the best notes are written by children, precisely because kids are so open and honest. They're able to express powerful emotions in simple ways, as my young son did one Valentine's Day: “This comes from the heart, not from the store,” he wrote on his homemade card, anxious lest I mistake it for one mere money can buy. On another occasion, he scrawled, “Happy birthday—I'm glad you're my Mom!”
Notes from youngsters are very special, especially if the receiver is seriously ill. When a70-year-old man suffered a heart attack, his eight-year-old grandson wrote, “Please get well, Grandpa. Who else will play cards with me? Who will tell me stories? I love you, Grandpa.” Did this note help his Grandpa recover in record time? Doctors might not think so, but I do.
1. “A special bond” (in paragraph1) is brought about by ________.A.the author's first baby | B.the author's battling unproductiveness |
C.the person working in the hospital | D.the note the author received |
A.Children's notes are better than any of others due to their openness and honesty. |
B.Notes from youngsters are especially memorable to their parents and grandparents. |
C.To mark the special times of a life, nothing can take the place of a heartfelt note. |
D.It feels powerful to voice your genuine ideas by recorded voices on telephones. |
A.signed | B.wrote | C.answered | D.exchanged |
A.advise readers to use the hand-written note for human connection |
B.give readers some tips on how to choose words on hand-written notes |
C.encourage senior people to pay attention to kids' hand-written notes |
D.persuade readers to take pen in hand and express their happiness |
Children of One God
Bina and Adil came from neighboring villages.They went to the same school between the two villages.
Things went smoothly,
The villagers agreed.A fight started over this small issue.It got increasingly
Bina and Adil were terribly upset. Mr.Pillai,their history teacher, called them to his room.On entering his room,Bina burst into tears.”Why are people behaving like this?Are they mad?”
“Yes,”answered Mr.Pillai,”They are!But there is a medicine to cure them.And you children can help me.”The two children were prepared to do anything they
Next day,at the assembly,Mr.Pillai said,:You are all children of one God.You are the flowers in his garden.His garden will look ugly
Everyone wanted to participle in the play. Mr.Pillai made sure that every child had a part
The play was based on the Freedom Struggle
The play began.Many elders shed tears as scenes from the past flashed before their eyes.At the end of the play,the Headmaster of the school thanked the children and