1 . Meeting strangers is probably one of most people’s biggest fears, only second to speaking in front of a crowd. Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be an experience as scary as you might think.
Go out alone. Don’t always go to events with a friend or family member.
Don’t be embarrassed if you’re visibly nervous. If your voice cracks or your handshake is sweaty, laugh it off. If you’re an amateur comedian and can make it into a joke, point it out and get people laughing with you. If it’s something that makes you feel less confident, just ignore it. Everyone gets nervous sometimes, so push past and continue on with the conversation.
A.Start by introducing yourself. |
B.Encourage people to talk about themselves. |
C.People can come to you when you’re alone. |
D.By going alone, you’re forced to meet other people. |
E.Don’t let it embarrass you enough that you have to walk away. |
F.These few easy tips will help you talk with strangers more comfortably. |
G.If you get someone talking about their interests, eventually you’ll see their true personalities come out. |
2 . Think about that. If you are anything like me, you struggle to ask for help when you need it. It’s something a lot of humans battle with. You don’t want to be a burden on others. You are afraid to speak up, or want to prove that you can do it yourself.
You don’t ask for help when you don’t know how to do something or can’t manage it on your own, because you might be afraid of looking stupid or incompetent. You might pretend like you know what you’re doing when you’re really drowning. Perhaps you think asking for help is a sign of weakness; that if you ask for help you’re admitting you’re inadequate in some way; that you lack knowledge, skill or experience to do something yourself. You don’t want anyone to see that you’re struggling and you want people to think that you’re in control and can handle things.
There are tons of reason you won’t ask for help, but not to do so can be a mistake. You get in your own way if you make asking for help mean something negative about you when it doesn’t. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re stupid or inadequate. It simply means you need help with something specific for a time.
Confident people often ask others for help. They do so not only because they’re secure enough to let it be known they need help, but they know that trying to do everything themselves is not always the best use of their time, skills or energy. They recognize it can leave them feeling overwhelmed and stressed and then they can’t do things properly. Confident people find someone who’s good at what they need to learn or get done and then ask for their help and guidance. They know that asking, “Can you help me?” shows respect for the other person’s knowledge and abilities. Otherwise, they wouldn’t ask.
1. What is the author’s personality like?A.He shows great love to others. | B.He hesitates to ask others for help. |
C.He looks down upon other people. | D.He dislikes those who pretend to know. |
A.Indifferent. | B.Unqualified. | C.Determined. | D.Devoted. |
A.offer help to other people | B.respect others’ abilities |
C.promote their abilities | D.turn to others for help |
A.advise us to learn more knowledge | B.encourage us to bravely ask for help |
C.show our respect to the people around us | D.encourage us to be more confident in our life |
3 . If you’re not sure which relationships to prioritize (优先考虑), here are some types of people to keep close.
It’s essential that we can trust the people around us. Honesty is not just about someone refraining from lying or coming forward when they screw up. It’s also about finding a way to tell us truths that we don’t want to hear. It’s important to be around individuals who will call us out when we are wrong or heading down a path that they know is not leading to a destination we want.
People who make space for your emotions. Many people are good at having stimulating conversations but lack the emotional availability needed to make space for how we feel. We all need individuals who respect our feelings understand that sometimes all we need is to be heard.
People who model qualities you admire, understand and accept you, and show up authentically are also valuable.
Let’s remember to apply these criteria to every type of relationship in our life.
A.People who tell us lies |
B.People who tell us the truth |
C.People who encourage and support you |
D.Find people who are not satisfied with everything you do |
E.They will sit with us through the hard or painful moments |
F.Our time is valuable, so spend it with people who deserve it |
G.Find people who areas happy about your wins as they would be about their own |
4 . How to Manage Conflict
●Use neutral(中立的)language.
Neutral language keeps the discussion objective and non judgmental. Inflammatory(煽动性的)language only makes the conflict worse.
●Reflect on the situation.
Show all parties that you hear and understand their concerns. Often, conflict comes from one party feeling as though they’re not being heard or understood. Take time throughout your conversation to restate what the other person says.
●Work together to compromise(妥协)and find a solution.
●Make a resolution plan.
A plan defines each party’s responsibilities and prevents more conflict. After finding a solution everyone can agree on, sit down together and figure out what you’ll all do to resolve the conflict.
●Pick your battles.
Not all conflicts are worth holding onto at the cost of your energy. Some issues can’t be solved to the satisfaction of both parties, especially if one person rejects any negotiation. In those cases, ask yourself how much the issue at the core of the conflict matters to you. Are you willing to give in or keep dialoguing to reach a different resolution?
A.Is this conflict worth your time and energy? |
B.How will the immediate problem be fixed? |
C.Giving in doesn’t mean saying, ”You’re right, and I’m wrong. “ |
D.This will help you clarify your understanding of the situation. |
E.Focus on finding a solution rather than determining who is ”right". |
F.Cooperation encourages everyone to stop blaming each other. |
G.Instead, keep the discussion less emotional by using objective language. |
A. alert B. connected C. correspond D. dismiss E. embarrassed F. invaluable G. judgement H. piloted L. respectful J. urge K. wellbeing |
Are you listening? But are you really listening?
You’d think we’d be very good at listening, but do we deeply listen? Sometimes we quickly
Practicing deep listening means tuning into empathy(同理心), resisting the
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The project is also an opportunity for participants to feel the benefit of stepping outside their own “echo chamber (回声室)”. Echo chambers are created by our natural tendency to seek out people and opinions, in person and online, that we agree with, so we mainly see and hear information and opinions that
So, training young people with deep listening skills can encourage many more people to take part in challenging and
6 . Part of me has always wanted to be the kind of person who breaks the ice with a stranger. When I witness that kind gregariousness (合群) in others, I feel
I’m not alone. In a 2022 study, Gillian Sandstrom, a psychologist, noted that people are “remarkably
Eager to test her theory, I gave myself a week to reproduce Sandstrom’s assignment, which meant speaking to around 30 people. I had no
One of my missions was to speak to someone who was eating. “Is that cream cheese?” I asked a guy on a park bench who was eating stuff. It
Here’s a tip: asking strangers about the bonuses of talking to strangers can be an effective strategy. I used this
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A.sacred | B.distressed | C.disapproving | D.envious |
A.nerve | B.willpower | C.sympathy | D.vision |
A.masks | B.eases | C.inspires | D.taps |
A.informed | B.pessimistic | C.expectant | D.confused |
A.overstate | B.demonstrate | C.exploit | D.suffer |
A.identification | B.resistance | C.profile | D.scale |
A.at the mercy of | B.in contrast to | C.for the sake of | D.in line with |
A.excuse | B.means | C.authority | D.regrets |
A.set about | B.came out | C.stood by | D.ended up |
A.delightful | B.awkward | C.one-sided | D.initial |
A.Likewise | B.Therefore | C.Plus | D.Instead |
A.bonus | B.receipt | C.approach | D.patent |
A.unpredictability | B.resolution | C.discrimination | D.inaccessibility |
A.persistence | B.ritual | C.experiment | D.convention |
A.turns out | B.pays off | C.goes on | D.falls short |
7 . Most of us associate awe (敬畏) with something rare and beautiful: nature, music or a spiritual experience. But people can waken awe too, and not just public heroes. Research shows that we can be awed by our nearest and dearest — the people sitting next to us on the couch, chatting on the other end of the phone, looking back at us over Zoom.
Often, interpersonal awe is a response to life’s big, sweeping changes, such as witnessing a baby’s first steps.
Though we can’t make someone else behave in a way that’s awesome, we can prepare ourselves to notice it when they do and boost the emotion’s positive effects.
Question your assumptions. Do you believe your partner is insensitive or your sibling is selfish? There may be a little truth to that, but it’s never the whole tale.
Name awe when you see it. Speaking out “Wow, that was awesome!” is a simple way to help you identify and remember a special experience. Savor (品味) it in the moment and then tell others about it. This will reinforce your positive emotions.
A.Thank the person who awed you. |
B.And recall it or write about it later. |
C.Psychologists call this interpersonal awe. |
D.It’s easy to forget that it can be awesome too. |
E.But interpersonal awe does happen in smaller moments. |
F.Here’s why you should recognize those moments of interpersonal awe. |
G.The story you tell yourself gets in the way of catching people at their best. |
8 . Imagine you’re talking to someone and find a big piece of green thing in their teeth after lunch. Are you going to tell him/her? It can feel awkward to tell somebody they have something in their teeth, or elsewhere.
Beyond issues related to a person’s appearance, feedback is also vital for learning and growth.
Finally, we should still be careful about immediately or eagerly telling anyone and everyone how they can improve.
A.So what are proper ways to provide feedbacks? |
B.There’s no doubt many of us avoid giving feedback. |
C.Students need feedback so they can improve their grades. |
D.So why are we sometimes unwilling to provide feedback elsewhere? |
E.Constant and eager feedbacks have a significant impact on the receivers. |
F.Constructive feedback should be specific, actionable and delivered in a timely fashion. |
G.Therefore, we can see that many people are unwilling to provide feedback on account of their failing to appreciate its value. |
9 . Most people want to live a life that feels meaningful.
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If you want to have a meaningful life, the first step is to understand your own life story. When have you felt strongest and happiest? How you interpret the events of your life impacts how you see yourself. There’s a lot of power in being able to construct your own sense of meaning and purpose.
• Living with compassion (共情)
Compassion is key to leading a meaningful life. If you want to influence those around you in a meaningful way, try to develop a sense of compassion for others. Pay attention to the body language of those around you.
• Connecting with the world
Try to build positive, meaningful relationships with people who support you and build you up, like your friends and family.
• Giving back
A.Making lifestyle changes |
B.Figuring out who you are |
C.It can be difficult to make it |
D.This can give you insight into their emotions |
E.Pay attention to the needs of those around you |
F.Volunteering can be a great way to feel your life has meaning |
G.Meanwhile, self-expression is a great way to interact with the world |
10 . It’s important to be able to talk to people when networking and building strong relationships. If you work in a professional role, you probably need to make small talk sometimes. However, you may don’t know how to make small talk. Don’t worry.
Put your electronic devices away. The first step to making small talk is to put your devices away. This is a small but meaningful gesture in this digitalized world.
Listen first. In social situations, one way to show you are offering your full attention is to listen.
Ask open questions.
A.Respond enthusiastically. |
B.Here are some tips for you. |
C.They are some simple but useful methods. |
D.Behave properly in response to open questions. |
E.When you are talking with someone, listening is also important. |
F.When you ask about the person you are speaking to, ask open-ended questions. |
G.Putting your phone or computer away shows you focus on the person you are talking to. |