As a people-pleaser, you care about pleasing other people so much because you want to be liked and don't want other people to think ill of you. It's a bad, never ending way of life, because people are always going to ask things of you.
Here's how you can stop being such a people-pleaser:
Wait!
Next time someone texts or emails a request, wait to reply. Wait up to 24 hours if you can! Show people how to treat us. And train them on what to expect from us.
Provide a choice
For those who want to say no in a gentle way, instead of giving an excuse, you can provide a choice. It's more useful too! Something like," I'd love to help you pick out a new sofa but not this weekend. Lucy has an excellent eye for sofas." is much more helpful.
Realize you have a choice
More times than you think, you can say no. Stop for a second when a choice comes up that feels uncomfortable. Then decide if, finally, a yes or no feels like freedom--and choose that.
K(no)w it gets easier
Saying no needs practice. The more you do it, the more used to it you become and the less people expect from you. Once you say you are unavailable a few times, people stop asking so much from you.
Recognize you can't please everybody
Other people will always control our lives if we let them. You can't please everyone. And a rich, wonderful life has lots of those "yes" moments--as well as plenty of loving "nos".
1. The passage is written for the people ________.A.who like satisfying everyone |
B.who always make requests |
C.who need to buy sofas |
D.who want more freedom |
A.Pretend not to see it. |
B.Give an immediate answer. |
C.Teach him a good lesson. |
D.Avoid giving a quick reply. |
A.less helpful |
B.more important |
C.less believable |
D.more acceptable |
A.Lose touch with you. |
B.Leave you immediately. |
C.Stop asking you so much. |
D.Consider you to be impolite. |
A.3. | B.4. |
C.5. | D.6. |
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Friends in your life are like pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up and sometimes they lean on you. Sometimes it's just enough to know they’re standing by. Friendship doubles your joy and divides your sorrow. A friendship is priceless and should be developed.
●Remembering the golden rule
Without a doubt, the greatest human relations principle is to treat other people like you want to be treated. When you show respect for your friends and gratitude for their friendship, you’ll be blessed in untold ways.
Whatever the cause of others’ rudeness, you don't have to accentuate (突出) the problem. A kind word or a gentle, understanding smile may help the person more than returned rudeness would.
● Considering enemies as friends
A friend looks after your own good. On the other hand, a foe (敌人) is someone who isn't interested in your well-being.
Yet some students view their teachers as enemies. However, a student's success in school partly depends on the teacher's effectiveness in the classroom. Instead of being an enemy, a teacher who corrects you and helps you to achieve can be the best friend you ever had.
So change this kind of thinking and adjust yourself a little, both of you are better off.
● Making friends by being an optimist
Do you enjoy being around a pessimist, someone who is generally described as being able to brighten up a room just by leaving it? The answer is obvious. Most people have a preference for being around people who believe that tomorrow is going to be better than today, rather than people who believe that today is even worse than yesterday.
● Capturing the pleasing personality
How do you develop a pleasing personality? Here are some steps you can take:
Smile when you see someone. You don't have to give a wide grin - just a pleasant, friendly smile.
Speak in a pleasant, upbeat tone of voice. Talk to people as if they are good friends, even if they don't really fall into that category yet.
Take a course in public speaking. The ability to express yourself attracts favorable attention from many sources.
Develop a sense of humor. Pick up a couple of joke books. This makes you a little more outgoing and friendly.
● Don't criticize unjustly
Instead of criticizing others all the time, take the humane(人道的) and sensible approach. Look for the good in others. Encourage them. Build them up.
To conclude, most people seldom think through each situation completely and consider the other person's point of view. If you take the time and effort to do this, you'll end up befriending more people.
Passage outline | Supporting details |
Introduction to friendship | Friends in your life are like pillars on your porch. Sometimes friends share each other's |
developing friendship | ● Remembering the gold rule Treat others like you want to be treated. Don't have to accentuate the problem even though they are |
● Considering enemies as friends | |
● Making friends by being an optimist Most people | |
● Capturing the pleasing personality *Give a *Speak in a pleasant, upbeat tone of voice. *Take a course about speaking *Develop a sense of humor. | |
● Don't criticize unjustly * *Look for the good in others. | |
Make an effort to do this and you'll make more friends in the end. |
【推荐2】You probably love your dog more than you love some humans. The level of love and trust you feel toward your pet is probably not different from what you feel toward any other family member. But is the feeling mutual(相互的)?
ⅰ.He/She learns your routines.
Trust is understood differently for humans and animals.
ⅱ.His/Her eyes say it all.
When dogs and their owners stared into each other's eyes during a 30minute period, both of their oxytocin levels increased. Oxytocin has also been called the love hormone and the cuddle(拥抱) hormone.
ⅲ.
Typically, dogs sleep in a place that they are comfortable, so sleeping in an owner's room could certainly be an indication of comfort. The environment can affect whether your dog settles down in your room or on your bed. However, you may want to carefully weigh your pros and cons before you invite him/her into your bed.
ⅳ.He/She doesn't see you angry often.
A.He/She sleeps in your room.
B.Don't be angry with your dog.
C.He/She enjoys comfortable places.
D.It's normal to get annoyed at your dog.
E.Here's how to tell if your dog trusts you.
F.It's used to help mothers bond with their babies.
G.Pets rely on routines to feel normal and have happy lives.
【推荐3】New Year’s resolutions have a bad reputation, at least in part, because people tend to grade themselves pass or fail when, in reality, they’ve made key improvements in various areas of their lives by mostly sticking to a resolution, experts say.
Make a detailed plan for achieving your goal.
Choose a goal you’ll enjoy. You’re more likely to succeed if you pick something you like to door if you can find a way to make it more fun. Research shows that people have more success achieving goals if they use a method known as “temptation bundling.”
Forgive failures. Don’t define success as pass or fail.
A.Set your New Year’s resolutions at the right time. |
B.Give your New Year’s resolution a cheerful start. |
C.A survey showed that about 4 in 10 made New Year’s resolutions. |
D.Other holidays, birthdays and even Mondays can be fresh starts. |
E.This includes thinking through ways to get over potential difficulties. |
F.Celebrate small successes even if you don’t achieve 100-percent success. |
G.If your goal is to get more exercise, do it with your favorite music on. |
Consider what your goals are. Do you want to gain experience for or try out a future career path, do something you enjoy, or simply make money for future college expenses?
You also should consider your specific state’s labor laws. This will help you determine age limits as well as the number of hours you can expect to work per week.
It’s also important to consider the requirements or experience needed for the position as well as the location and schedule. Aside from typical part-time jobs like working as a barista (咖啡馆服务员), delivering pizzas, serving in a restaurant, or working for a fast-food chain, here are some other part-time job ideas for teens: Babysitter, Catering staff, Grocery store stocker or cashier, Receptionist or customer service representative, etc.
Pros and Cons of Part-Time Jobs for Teens
When determining whether or not a part-time job is right for you, it can help to weigh the pros and cons before making a final decision. You also should consider your personality as well as your existing time commitments.
Pros | Cons |
Learn to manage money | Have less time for studying |
Gain experience | View workplace negatively |
Have less time for risk-taking | Interfere with activities |
Build life skills | Might create stress |
Acquire work skills | May lead to drug abuse (滥用) |
Signs a Teen Is Ready for a Job
Aside from having the time and the drive to find part-time employment, there are some additional characteristics that may indicatethat you are ready for a job as a teenager:
*Good time management skills;
* Strong communication skills;
* Sense of commitment and good follow through;
*Willingness to be a team player.
1. What can we learn from the text about seeking a part-time job?A.You needn’t keep your purpose in mind. |
B.You shouldn’t ignore the law. |
C.You don’t have to notice the requirements. |
D.You can’t rely on your experience. |
A.have some risky life experience |
B.gain more skills for future living |
C.taste the pressure of life earlier |
D.consume less time on school work |
A.Arriving late for school activities frequently. |
B.Being nervous about communicating with others. |
C.Struggling to follow through on projects. |
D.Being able to work together with others. |
By the time the children reach high school, something remarkable has happened. A survey found that those who as four-year-olds had enough self-control to hold out generally grew up to be more popular, adventurous, confident and dependable. The children who gave in to temptation(诱惑)early on were more likely to be lonely, easily frustrated and inflexible.
Actually, the ability to delay reward is a sign of emotional intelligence which doesn’t show up on an IQ test.
The hardware of the brain and the software of the mind have long been scientists’ concerns. But brain theory can’t explain what we wonder about most, like the question why some people remain upbeat in the face of troubles that would sink a less resistant soul.
Here comes the theory of Daniel Goleman, writer of Emotional Intelligence: when it comes to predicting people’s success, brain ability as measured by IQ may actually matter less than the qualities of mind once thought of as “character”.
EQ is not the opposite(相反) of IQ. What researchers have been trying to understand is how they work together; how one’s ability to handle stress, for instance, affects the ability to concentrate and put intelligence to use. Among the ingredients(要素) for success, researchers now generally agree that IQ makes up about 20%; the rest depends on everything from social class to luck.
While many researchers in this relatively new field are glad to see emotional issues finally taken seriously, some few fear EQ invites misuse.
1. The experiment with the four-year-olds makes it clear that .
A.the age of 4 is a proper time for scientific experiment |
B.emotional intelligence won’t show up until adolescence |
C.the ability of self-control plays a role in personal success |
D.candy can be used to measure a person’s emotional intelligence |
A.kind | B.floating | C.excited | D.cheerful |
A.To amuse both the children and readers. |
B.To prove the scientist’s wisdom. |
C.To introduce the topic of the text. |
D.To show us how to do an IQ test. |
A.Information about famous people with high EQ. |
B.Examples showing the opposite voice about EQ. |
C.Some reasons why EQ is a relatively new field. |
D.Strong demand for basic emotional education. |
【推荐3】The Internet of Things (IoT) has become especially important as our daily life and business have become more complex, from bill payment to healthcare issues, where we have gradually explored deeper into finding solutions to improving the effectiveness of processes.
According to a report by GlobalData, the global IoT market will reach up to 1.1 trillion dollars by 2024, with an annual growth rate of 13% during that period. Therefore, this area will play an important role in maintaining competition among companies.
The IoT is a digital interconnection of everyday objects with the Internet. The IoT allows The IoTis a digital interconnection of everyday objects with the Internet. The IoT allows systems to be remotely sensed and controlled through the existing network. This enables greater integration (融合) between the physical world and computer-based systems, which represents greater efficiency and cost-effectiveness.
Among the main applications of the technology are cost optimization (最优化) tor industrial and transportation companies through remote monitoring of devices and vehicles, data collection for real-time production analysis, and tracking of final cargo (货物) delivery.
Other IoT applications are wearables, which are a set of electronic devices that are incorporated (合并) into some part of our body interacting continuously between us and other devices. Wearables represent the boom of the last few years, as they register what we eat, our heart rate, warn us if we are sick or stressed. They come in the form of smartwatches and GPS-enabled running shoes, to name a few.
On the other hand, the healthcare sector is also undergoing changes brought about by the IoT. The medical sensors market is expected to reach a turnover of $ 27. 7 billion in 2026 with a growth over the next few years of 9. 9% according to Transparency Market Research.
In this sense, IoT has come with a promise for people in their daily lives but also for investors, who consider it an excellent opportunity to invest. IoT will increase the productivity of companies, in addition to progressing towards the growth of telecommunications, data analysis and the arrival of intelligent machines.
1. What do we know about the IoT?A.It has limited applications. | B.It is a highly promising industry. |
C.It makes daily life more complex. | D.It makes companies less competitive. |
A.The definition of IoT. | B.The development of IoT. |
C.The origin of IoT. | D.The inventors of IoT. |
A.They can relieve stress. | B.They can treat the disease. |
C.They can instruct what to eat. | D.They can closely monitor health. |
A.It controls cargo delivery remotely. | B.It brings a rapid growth for companies. |
C.It improves the efficiency of companies. | D.It encourages interaction among companies. |
【推荐1】Dragon boating is a team sport that has its root in ancient China. The boats are decorated with a dragon head and tail. In recent years, cancer survivor groups have got involved in the sport to help make friends and help rebuild their lives.
On a recent Saturday morning, a group of 20 women were on a boat in the Anacostia River in Washington DC. They moved their paddles(船桨)in rhythm to the call of a coach. The women belong to the dragon boat team GoPink! DC, which trains weekly. It also races against other breast cancer survivor teams in dragon boat festivals. As a result, GoPink! DC won medals in this Washington dragon boat festival.
Lydia Collins joined five years ago after finding out she had breast cancer. “I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was demoralized because of my illness - I lost all interest in life and wouldn't even get out of bed to eat. But now I love the team spirit. I just love everything about it. It is like a floating support group on the water.”
The paddlers are breast cancer survivors and their supporters. Annette Rothemel helped establish(建立)the group in 2006. She is a researcher with the National Institutes of Health as well as a breast cancer survivor. “It is sort of an easy entry sport because on the same boat people at different levels can be doing the same sport.” But Ms Rothemel says dragon boating can be physically demanding, especially for someone who is sick and getting treatment for cancer.
“It’s hard but I think you have to challenge yourself in life. This is something I look forward to. I get to be out here with my sisters and supporters that understand what I’m going through and help motivate me. So it makes me stronger and it makes me feel better,” another cancer survivor Rhonda Hartzel said.
Annette Rothemel says the cancer survivors feel a sense of sisterhood and share good times when they paddle together. She says both feelings are treasured by the team.
1. What do the underline words demoralized In para.3 probably mean?A.depressed | B.anxious | C.astonished | D.awkward |
A.she helps establish Go Pink !DC |
B.she tries to find a cure for the cancer |
C.she benefits from the dragon boat race |
D.she gives up hope because of her illness |
A.forget their tough experiences |
B.recover physically and mentally |
C.get rid of the pains of their cancer |
D.enjoy their rest life without sufferings |
A.she is an expert in studying the cause of the cancer |
B.she helps the cancer survivors in financial difficulties |
C.she believes there is a healthful result from the dragon boat race |
D.she thinks it unwise for the patient to join in the dragon boat race |
【推荐2】Simple Ways to Give Great Praise to Motivate Everyone on Your Team
*Recognize a project hero.
Did someone on your team go the extra mile on a recent project? Is there anyone who was critical to their success?
*Notice your unsung(被埋没的)heroes.
The best way to have high performance at all levels of your team is to, “Create heroes in every role. Don't forget your unsung heroes. Make sure every role performed at a level of excellence is treated as a respected profession.” Maybe they are the lowest paid, or the ones that do the most repetitive work.
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As your team grows, it becomes harder and harder to keep a close eye on the work of everyone on your team. What you see can be very different from the things they actually do behind the scenes.
It’s easy to catch a problem in someone’s project. Unfortunately, if you only focus on what’s wrong, you can discourage your team.
*Praise any improvement in the work.
When you’re trying to turn around an underperformer, or just coach up someone’s weakness, praise can make all the difference. It takes hard work and focus to improve at something you're struggling with.
Think about when you were a kid trying to learn to ride a bike, throw a ball, or learn to read.
A.Don't let them go unnoticed. |
B.Tie their efforts to a great purpose. |
C.Dig into their work and find something you like. |
D.You had to fail many times before you succeeded. |
E.Even the most junior person on your team deserves praise. |
F.When you’re working with your team, keep your role in mind. |
G.Actually, what you should do is more than look for what's wrong. |
The situation became so extreme that the vegetables got totally fed up and decided to use up all the water in the ground so that the tree would dry up. The tree answered back by refusing to give the vegetables shadow from the hot midday sun, so they both began to dry up. Before long, the vegetables were really thin and the tree’s branches were drying up.
Neither of them thought that the gardener, on seeing his vegetable field becoming worse, would stop watering it. When he did that, both the tree and the vegetables really learned what thirst was. There seemed to be no solution, but one of the vegetables, a small courgette(小胡瓜), understood what was going on, and decided to deal with it. Despite the little water and the unbearable heat, the little courgette did all he could to grow, grow...He managed to grow so big that the gardener started watering the field again. The gardener wanted to enter that beautiful big courgette in some gardening contest.
And so the vegetables and the tree realized that it was better to help each other than to fight. They should really learn how to live in harmony with those around them, doing the best they could. So they decided to work together, using both the shadow and the water in the best combination to grow good vegetables. Seeing how well they were doing, the gardener now gave the best of care to his vegetable field, watering it better than any other field for miles around.
1. What is the problem between the tree and the vegetables?
A.They looked down upon each other. |
B.They didn’t leave water to each other. |
C.They couldn’t stand each other. |
D.They didn’t know how to protect themselves. |
A.They grew taller and stronger. |
B.They were both drying up. |
C.The tree defeated the vegetables. |
D.The vegetables defeated the tree. |
A.making peace with the tree | B.working together with other vegetables |
C.entering the gardening contests | D.growing big enough |
A.We ought to live in harmony with others. |
B.We ought to save as much water as possible. |
C.We ought to learn from each other in some ways. |
D.We ought to learn to respect each other. |