Everyone needs to be safe, loved and to have a sense of belonging. These are inborn and natural basic needs. In an effort to have these needs satisfied, many of us tend to please others. And it works for a while. We find that we experience less conflict (冲突) with others, but the conflict within ourselves grows. Saying “ no ” produces feeling of guilt (内疚) and saying “ yes ” brings anger.
My father was in the military, so we often moved. Being shy, I didn’t make friends. What’s more, I grew up in a household where grades, image and how others saw our family were very important. In our household a “ C ” was unacceptable, a “ B ” should have been an “ A ” and an “ A ” meant the lesson was too easy. I was too thin, my sister was too fat and my brother’s lips and ears were too big for his tiny head.
To stop pleasing others is easier said than done. It’s a long process, one in which I am consistently working to perfect. The turning point for me came shortly after I got married. The very first thing that we did to end the cycle of pleasing others was developing our own identity as independent human beings and then as a couple. And then we developed a strong set of core (核心) values and a vision for our future. The third and one of the most valuable things we did during this process was developing our own personal influence on others and we valued deeply the opinions of the wiser and more successful people around us.
Besides, we should understand that sometimes helping people at once actually hurts them. The struggle is necessary to success. The struggle strengthens character, making people determined. So sometimes allowing people to struggle is the best thing you can do for them.
1. How are we likely to feel when pleasing others?A.Angry | B.Satisfied. | C.Guilty | D.Happy |
A.He grew up doing a lot of housework. | B.It was hard for him to adapt to the moving life. |
C.He realized the value of opinions from others. | D.His parents had great expectations of the children. |
A.What steps the author took to go on pleasing others. |
B.Why the author further developed his values and character. |
C.How the author stepped out of the cycle of pleasing others. |
D.When the author turned to others for their valuable opinions. |
A.Helping others at once. | B.Thinking twice before offering help. |
C.Refusing to help others. | D.Leaving someone in trouble alone. |
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【推荐1】Will people remember less with Internet users becoming more and more dependent on the Internet to store information? If you know your computer will save information, why do you store it in your own personal memory, your brain?
Professor Betsy Sparrow, together with her research team, has carried out some experiments in a recent study, wanting to know how the Internet is changing memory. In the first experiment, they offered people 40 unimportant facts to type into a computer. The first group of people understood that the computer would save the information. The second group understood that the computer would not save it. Later, the second group remembered the information better. People in the first group knew they could find the information again, so they did not try to remember it.
In another experiment, the researchers gave people facts to remember, and told them where to find the information on the computer. The information was in a specific computer folder( 文 件 夹 ). Surprisingly, people later remembered the folder locations better than the facts. When people use the Internet, they do not remember the information. Rather, they remember how to find it. This is called “transactive memory(交互记忆)”.
According to Sparrow, we are not becoming people with poor memories as a result of the Internet.
Instead, computer users are developing stronger transactive memories; that is, people are learning how to organize huge quantities of information so that they are able to access it at a later date. This doesn’t mean we are becoming either more or less intelligent, but there is no doubt that the way we use memory is changing.
1. Why does the text begin with two questions?A.To make a comparison. | B.To introduce the main topic. |
C.To show the author’s attitude. | D.To list some examples. |
A.The Sparrow’s team typed the information into a computer. |
B.The two groups remembered the information equally well. |
C.The first group did not try to remember the information. |
D.The second group did not understand the information. |
A.They remember how to find the information. |
B.They organize information like a computer. |
C.They change the quantity of information. |
D.They bear the information in mind. |
A.Negative. | B.Passive. | C.Objective. | D.Doubtful. |
【推荐2】Generation Z-people born in the mid-1990s and the early 2010s-are set to lead the next wave of China's digital development, said a recent report.
The report said Gen Z are consumers who are willing to spend big on digital products to explore the virtual world. According to the report by internet firm Sina, more than 63 percent of the Gen Z surveyed have a strong interest in metaverse, a term that has become a hot topic in recent months and shows a shared virtual environment in which technologies are combined to create a sense of virtual presence.
They are eager to experience the most advanced technologies like virtual reality and digital human in the metaverse. Up to 26 percent of them even want to keep a pet in the virtual world, the report stated.
"Generation Z is expected to become the new consumption (消费) power for the coming digital market. Their way of information acquisition, consumption and living methods have been fixed with great internet characteristics," said Qiao Yu, deputy head of the Artificial Intelligence Media Research Institute of Sina.
"People enjoy the convenience of fast technology development; they are also advocates of smart life. Generation Z has a richer experience with technology products and is more willing to buy and apply smart devices in daily life."
The report found that more than 55 percent of the Gen Z surveyed tend to use intelligent products in their homes while 44 percent would use smart wearable devices in their daily lives.
"For companies that want to find the next sweet spot in the digital world, Generation Z will be an important target group. Their growing desire to display their virtual avatars or assets will contribute to a huge market in the coming years," said Wu Shichun, founding partner of Plum Ventures.
1. What might the underlined word ‘metaverse’ be according to the text?A.A virtual world |
B.An advanced technology |
C.A digital product |
D.A new life style |
A.To produce cheaper products |
B.To target young people |
C.To display their virtual avatars |
D.To provide new experience |
A.They love to keep pets. |
B.They enjoy smart life. |
C.They are powerful. |
D.They like to spend money. |
A.Report shows Gen Z to ride digital wave |
B.Welcome to the virtual world |
C.The convenience of latest technology |
D.A generation of the young |
【推荐3】One of the important, but seldom-discussed, problems in healthcare reform is how to take care of our aging population as people continue to live longer. According to a new study from the Mac Arthur Research Network on an Aging Society, by 2050 Americans may live 3.1 to 7.9 years longer than the government expects. That would mean women would live 89 to 93 years and men 83 to nearly 86 years. The researchers base their conclusion on “rapid advances in biomedical(生物医药) technology that delay the start and progression of major deadly diseases or that slow the aging process.”
While this is good news, especially for the young, the life expectancy, which is in excess of(超过) the government’s estimates, would raise costs sharply for Medicare and Social Security. If the study’s predictions are accurate, the total cost for those two programs through 2050 could be between $3.2 trillion and $8.3 trillion higher than the US Census Bureau and the Social Security Administration currently expect.
And that’s only the beginning. With anticipated scientific breakthroughs in coming decades, people could eventually live to 150 years of age, says Dr. Steven Joyal, an official of the Life Extension Foundation (LEF), a nonprofit organization that promotes research on how we can live longer and healthier. The MacArthur paper, in fact, says that some experts believe the average life expectancy could hit 100 by 2060.
What’s more, Joyal says, overcoming disease and slowing down the aging process will lead to a sharp decline in disability, allowing people of advanced age to function as well as they did when they were much younger. “In other words, a 90-year-old person could have the same mental and physical capacity(能力) as somebody 40 or 50 years old.”
1. What does the new study show?A.Great progress has been made in the US in public security. |
B.Americans will live much longer by 2050 than they do now. |
C.Few people pay attention to the health care reform in the US. |
D.Fewer Americans suffer from deadly disease now than before. |
A.Social security. | B.Healthcare reform. |
C.Biomedical technology. | D.New research in health care. |
A.It will increase public costs for the government. |
B.The old will have some mental problems. |
C.It adds to the chance of being disabled. |
D.The aging process will speed up. |
A.Life for Senior Citizens in the US |
B.Disadvantages of Longer Life Expectancy |
C.The Longer Life Expectancy in the Future |
D.What Can Be Done to Support So Many Aged People |
【推荐1】Pei Ju was a government official who served during both the Sui (581-618) and Tang (618-907) dynasties (朝代), but he had very different reputations (名声) in these two periods.
According to historical records, Pei often flattered (奉承) Emperor Yangdi of the Sui Dynasty. He never disagreed with the emperor’s ideas even though he knew they might be wrong. Knowing that Emperor Yangdi was very warlike, Pei suggested fighting many wars. This, however, led to Sui’s downfall, as the wars cost too many human and material resources.
When the Tang Dynasty was set up, Pei started to work for the new government. He seemed to become a totally different person. Instead of flattering Emperor Taizong, Pei always spoke out against his wrongs and tried his best to help Taizong make the right decisions.
Why did Pei change? According to Chinese historian Sima Guang (1019-1086), Pei was affected by who he worked for. Emperor Yangdi hated to be criticized (批评), while Emperor Taizong loved to hear honest and direct advice. That made the difference.
In this story, Pei Ju may not be a perfect role model for us. He seemed to be a person who “trims his sail to the wind (见风使舵)”. What we can learn from this, however, is that our conditions make a difference. A good environment encourages you to do good acts, while a bad one may lead you to do bad things. That’s why people say “a fine bird rests only on a fine tree, and a virtuous minister only serves a virtuous master(良禽择木而栖,贤臣择主而事)”. We should also try to put ourselves in a good environment where we can meet good teachers and friends.
On the other hand, the story also shows that only those who are willing to hear criticism can benefit from it.
In 2012, President Xi Jinping told this story at the Party School of the CPC Central Committee. He said that government officials should be open-minded and welcome honest and direct advice.
This also applies to us. Do you want fake friends who only please you but don’t care about you, or true friends who can sincerely point out your mistakes? It’s up to you.
1. What was Pei like when he was an official during the Sui Dynasty?A.He always agreed with the emperor. |
B.He knew very little about the emperor. |
C.He fought many wars for the emperor. |
D.He never spoke in front of the emperor. |
A.Because Taizong treated him well. |
B.Because he enjoyed challenging others. |
C.Because Taizong could accept honest and direct advice. |
D.Because he didn’t like the new government. |
A.He was a perfect role model. |
B.He did many undesirable things. |
C.He was influenced by his environment. |
D.He should have chosen a better master to serve. |
A.We shouldn’t make friends with people like Pei. |
B.Being honest and direct with others can stop from making new friends. |
C.Criticizing others can help us improve. |
D.We should be open-minded and welcome honest and direct advice. |
【推荐2】The library of Pharaoh Ramesses II is said to have borne the inscription (碑文) “the house of healing for the soul”. Dylan Thomas, an English writer, reportedly liked to relax by reading Agatha Christie’s detective novels. As for the novelist Yiyun Li, it was War and Peace that helped her get through the toughest times; when she launched a virtual reading group of Leo Tolstoy’s masterpiece in lockdown, 3,000 people signed up.
In recent years, a growing body of research has backed up the idea that books not only entertain, but also help us recover and grow. They offer companionship to the lonely, insight to the anxious, and release to those who feel trapped.
This feature has motivated Ann Cleeves to turn her attention to the old long-lasting bibliotherapy. She then co-sponsored such a program in northeast England, working with public health teams. Bibliotherapy is an approach using books and other forms of literature to improve a patient’s mental health. A review of several studies found such programs have a long-term effect on people’s well-being.
But Cleeves has a broader idea in mind. Writing for The Guardian, she described how reading and writing fiction helped her understand her own response and allowed her to escape into a different world. The reading coaches will match their patients with appropriate poetry and novels as well as non-fiction based on patients’ condition, and will introduce them to librarians and other readers. After all, what’s uplifting to one reader will seem twee (花哨的) to another and what one finds unpleasant may be reassuring to the next.
For Cleeves, it is happy to see people seek self-discovery in the world of books. Some may respond to children’s classic The Secret Garden; others will recognize themselves in Toni Morrison’s novels. An ancient idea has found fresh resonance (共鸣).
1. What did Dylan Thomas and Yiyun Li have in common?A.They sought inspiration in foreign countries. |
B.They turned to books for spiritual comfort. |
C.They had a great influence on the world literature. |
D.They once launched a reading group during tough times. |
A.The healing power of books. |
B.The support from public health teams. |
C.The popularity of the program among people. |
D.The lack of such a program in northeast England. |
A.It can greatly improve public health. |
B.It can bring a boom in book markets. |
C.It can be used as a cure for depression. |
D.It can bring in diverse forms of literature. |
A.By suiting specific books to patients. |
B.By helping librarians sort out all kinds of books. |
C.By assisting readers in writing their own fiction. |
D.By recording readers’ response to different books. |
A.Virtual reading groups: the rising industry in lockdown |
B.An inscription: the house of healing for the soul |
C.Novel reading: two sides to mental troubles |
D.Bibliotherapy: an old idea finds new life |
【推荐3】Cleaning up the table, I caught sight of small round plastic pieces. I discovered they were the tops or covers of color markers I had kept on the table. The only difference was that someone got those covers and chewed them into shapelessness. On another part of the table, I saw the color markers dried up without covers. I was almost sure I knew who had done it and I could not understand the motivation behind his actions.
As I considered my discovery, my frustration and disappointment gradually went away when I remembered that as a child, I did several weird things that must have bothered my mother. I cut our shoes, I chewed pens and pencils, and I wrote and drew pictures on walls and destroyed many items at home. The mind of a child is curious and explorative, seeking to understand and test the limits of many things. Of course, it can be costly, but what is growing up if no mistakes are made?
We call it paying the school fees of life. If a child plays with a hot iron and it burns them, it is a given that they will not go near the iron again. Sometimes I watch the children in my neighborhood playing dangerous games. Occasionally, I have got myself involved and spoken up, but sometimes I let it pass. Until someone has fallen off their bike, they may not want to be told to stop riding with reckless abandon. Until a child has fallen down, they will not listen when asked to get down from the tree. However, wisdom shows that if the behavior is deadly, you should get involved in time.
Creativity is a valuable quality. And this is why we should encourage children to remain innovative rather than be simple recipients of everything they have known and seen. Allow children to make mistakes, but this must be followed with supervision (监督), monitoring, and correction.
1. What happened to the author’s color markers?A.They were stolen. |
B.They were destroyed. |
C.They were thrown away. |
D.They were cleaned by mistake. |
A.She was disappointed in herself. |
B.She got very regretful. |
C.She lost her mind. |
D.She calmed down. |
A.Mistakes are unavoidable for children. |
B.Children can learn from their mistakes. |
C.Children often put themselves in danger. |
D.Some lessons of life are too painful to bear. |
A.Children need to grow up through mistakes. |
B.How to help children grow up more quickly. |
C.How to deal with children’s mistakes. |
D.The significant impact of growing up. |