Regret is a very real reaction to a disappointing event in your life, a choice you made that can’t be changed, something you said that you can’t take back.
As with other negative emotions, it doesn’t work to avoid, deny or try to destroy regret.
You can help release these feelings of regret by practicing self-compassion (自我同情).This means reminding yourself that you are human, you are doing the best you can and you can learn from past decisions and grow.
Noticing, acknowledging and then forgiving your thoughts are a powerful step towards overcoming regret.
| A．Dealing with regret is even more difficult. |
| B．Regret is not only unpleasant, but also unhealthy. |
| C．There are basically two ways to experience regret. |
| D．But regret related to the inaction path is harder to fix. |
| E．Seeing the situation in a different way may help reduce regret. |
| F．In the long run, these strategies only increase negative feelings. |
| G．Showing this compassion to yourself can help you accept and move past the regret. |
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【推荐1】After over a decade of faithful service my old desktop computer finally died. It simply wouldn’t start. With no computer repair places open my daughter talked me into purchasing a new laptop to replace it. What followed was two days of pure frustration. It was like going from driving an old Model T Ford to flying the Space Shuttle.
After my daughter set it up, I looked for the old e-mail program I used to use, only to find that it wasn’t on this model. When I tried to download the older version again it wouldn’t work. I also had a terrible time downloading my old word processing program again. Then there were some difficulties of transferring all of my old stories that I had saved on a jump drive. The laptop computer’s fancy new programs were an icon minefield that I had to navigate. Each time I accidentally touched one of them it changed everything on my screen and I had to work hard to figure out how to change them back. In the end I had screwed up the settings so badly that I asked my daughter to do a reset so we could start over. Finally after two days I think we have set up the new computer to do the few simple things I need it to do so I can ignore the thousand other functions that I have no use for. I only hope it will work as long and faithfully as my old desktop did.
One thing I did learn from all of this is that when it comes to computers and life I want to keep things simple, simple, simple. Life is simple. Love is simple. It is we who make things complicated. Take some time today then to turn off your electronics and turn on your heart. Be a person, not a program. Be yourself, not your “Selfie”. Fill your days with purpose, your years with happiness, and your life with love.
1. What was the author’s old computer’s problem?| A．It was slow to function. | B．It crashed completely. |
| C．It was out of date. | D．It kept restarting. |
| A．She couldn’t forget her old computer. |
| B．She regretted not repairing her old computer. |
| C．She didn’t buy a more advanced computer. |
| D．She had difficulty using the new computer. |
| A．Useful. | B．Unnecessary. |
| C．Disappointing. | D．Challenging. |
| A．To explain her requirements for computers. |
| B．To stress the importance of technology. |
| C．To show the development of electronics. |
| D．To express her attitude to life. |
【推荐2】Is patience still a virtue in our world? In our fast-paced world it often seems so easy to get what you want right away that when you have to wait even a little bit, it can seem like you are waiting forever.
We used to be happy to wait the 10-15 minutes it would take to reheat food in the microwave oven (微波炉).
Sometimes you have a difficult moment because you need to grow in ways you didn’t realize. It’s not always obvious when that is happening, but with patience you will soon see clearly why something occurred when it did and what you were meant to learn from it.
| A．However, we’re impatient now. |
| B．We all feel impatient sometimes. |
| C．To succeed, we’d better be patient. |
| D．Take your time to think about your actions. |
| E．Patience plays an significant role in one’s development. |
| F．More and more it seems that impatience dominates (主导) our lives. |
| G．Actually the benefits of patience go beyond just heating up your food. |
【推荐3】Jack threw the papers on my desk. “Next time you want to change anything, ask me first,” he said. I had changed a long sentence and corrected its grammar — something I thought I was paid to do.
Several days later, he made me angry again. I went to his office, prepared to lose my job if need be, but not before I let the man know how I felt. “What?” he said nervously.
Suddenly I knew what I had to do. “Jack, the way you’ve been treating me is wrong. And it’s wrong for me to allow it to continue,” I said. “I want to make you a promise. I will be a friend.” The next day I brought some cakes to Jack’s office. Every time I saw Jack in the hall, I smiled at him. After all, that’s what friends do.
One year after our talk, I was told that I had breast cancer . When I was in hospital, my friends tried to find the right words to say, but no one could. The last day of my hospital stay, the door opened and Jack walked over to my bed. “Tulips (郁金香),” he placed some bulbs beside me and said, “If you plant them when you get home, you’ll be there to see them when they come up.” Tears filled my eyes.
In a moment when I prayed for just the right words, a man with few words said the right thing. After all, that’s what friends do. Now, I have seen those tulips push through the soil every spring for over ten years.
1. Why did Jack throw some papers on the author’s desk?| A．She gave him the wrong papers. | B．He thought her report was very bad. |
| C．He wanted her to check them again. | D．He didn’t agree with her correction. |
| A．She would work harder from then on. | B．She would treat him like a friend. |
| C．She would bring him some cakes. | D．She would treat him the same way. |
| A．love | B．honor | C．hope | D．thanks |
| A．Friends must help each other to correct mistakes. |
| B．Friends should give advice to each other at the right time. |
| C．Friends should do anything for each other. |
| D．Friends should treat each other with respect and kindness. |
【推荐1】Anger is a natural human emotion. Frequent feelings of anger have been linked to higher risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, depression and difficulty sleeping. Fortunately, you can learn to understand, process, and release your anger in healthy ways.
Develop an “anger plan”. Because it can be very hard to come up with ways to reduce your anger in the heat of the moment, try coming up with an advance plan to help you calm yourself in the event that you get angry.
Restructure your thinking. Cognitive (认知的) restructuring can help you experience anger less frequently.
Get enough sleep. A lack of sleep can do a variety of damages to your body, including causing physical stress and increasing your risk of developing a mood disorder such as depression or anxiety.
Share your experiences with the person who angered you. For example, if someone hurt your feelings by ignoring you at a party, calmly talking to that person and explaining why you felt hurt may help them understand how their behaviour affected you. It may also help you feel more in control of the situation.
| A．Approach situations with flexibility. |
| B．Anger can cause a variety of physical problems. |
| C．Be as direct and clear as possible about your desires and needs. |
| D．Poor sleep or too little sleep can also cause anger or mood swings. |
| E．Anger often leads to overstating your response to events or experiences. |
| F．Having this plan in mind will help you manage your anger productively. |
| G．It’s vital to wait until you’ve processed your anger to talk with the other person. |
【推荐2】Fifteen years ago, I took a summer vacation in Lecce in southern Italy. After climbing up a hill for a panoramic(全景的) view of the blue sea, white buildings and green olive trees, I paused to catch my breath and then positioned myself to take the best photo of this panorama.
Unfortunately, just as I took out my camera, a woman approached from behind, and planted herself right in front of my view. Like me, this woman was here to stop, sigh and appreciate the view.
Patient as I was, after about 15 minutes, my camera scanning the sun and reviewing the shot I would eventually take, I grew frustrated. Was it too much to ask her to move so I could take just one picture of the landscape? Sure, I could have asked her, but something prevented me from doing so. She seemed so content in her observation. I didn’t want to mess with that.
Another 15 minutes passed and I grew bored. The woman was still there. I decided to take the photo anyway. And now when I look at it, I think her presence in the photo is what makes the image interesting. The landscape, beautiful on its own, somehow comes to life and breathes because this woman is engaging with it.
This photo, with the unique beauty that unfolded before me and that woman who “ruined” it, now hangs on a wall in my bedroom. What would she think if she knew that her figure is captured(捕捉) and frozen on some stranger’s bedroom wall? A bedroom, after all, is a very private space, in which some woman I don’t even know has been immortalized(使……永存). In some ways, she lives in my house.
Perhaps we all live in each others’ space. Perhaps this is what photos are for: to remind us that we all appreciate beauty, that we all share a common desire for pleasure, for connection, for something that is greater than us.
That photo is a reminder, a captured moment, an unspoken conversation between two women, separated only by a thin square of glass.
1. What happened when the author was about to take a photo?| A．Her camera stopped working. |
| B．A woman blocked her view. |
| C．Someone asked her to leave |
| D．A friend approached from behind. |
| A．enjoying herself |
| B．losing her patience |
| C．waiting for the sunset |
| D．thinking about her past |
| A．The rich color of the landscape. |
| B．The perfect positioning of the camera. |
| C．The woman’s existence in the photo. |
| D．The soft sunlight that summer day. |
| A．the need to be close to nature |
| B．the importance of private space |
| C．the joy of the vacation in Italy |
| D．the shared passion for beauty |
| A．a particular life experience |
| B．the pleasure of traveling |
| C．the art of photography |
| D．a lost friendship |
The lead author, Dr Bette Liu, now at the University of New South Wales, Australia said: "Illness makes you unhappy, but unhappiness itself doesn't make you ill. We found no direct effect of unhappiness or stress on mortality, even in a ten-year study of a million women."
As in other studies, unhappiness was associated with deprivation, smoking, lack of exercise, and not living with a partner. The strongest associations, however, were that the women who were already in poor health tended to say that they were unhappy, stressed, not in control, and not relaxed.
The main analyses included 700 000 women, average age 59 years, and over the next 10 years these women were followed by electronic record linkage for mortality, during which time 30 000 of the women died.
After allowing for any differences already present in health and lifestyle, the overall death rate among those who were unhappy was the same as the death rate among those who were generally happy. The study is so large that it rules out unhappiness being a direct cause of any material increase in overall mortality in women.
This was true for overall mortality, for cancer mortality, and for heart disease mortality, and it was true for stress as well as for unhappiness.
1. The word “mortality” in the passage means .
| A．richness | B．relaxation |
| C．death | D．morality |
| A．Unhappiness will definitely make a person ill. |
| B．Unhappiness doesn’t necessarily make you ill. |
| C．Unhappiness is not associated with lack of exercise. |
| D．The death rate among those unhappy people is greater. |
| A．unhappiness itself is not associated with increased mortality |
| B．there is no direct link between unhappiness and mortality |
| C．ill health directly causes unhappiness and stress |
| D．ill health directly results from unhappiness and stress |
| A．disappointing | B．indifferent |
| C．subjective | D．objective |
