Knowing how to get the conversation started is important, however, keeping it going is even more important. Here are some conversation skills that make people like you.
Invite people to share their lives
The most important conversation skill is to invite people to talk about their lives.
Ask open-ended (开放式的) questions
Open-ended questions require more than just a yes-or-no answer. Ask open-ended questions that encourage other people to start discussing a topic in detail.
Wait for your turn to talk
Whatever you do, don’t interrupt. Instead, wait patiently for your turn to talk. Interrupting is one of the quickest ways to shut down a conversation and make other people uncomfortable. Show that you value what others are saying.
Request advice
Asking for advice shows that you value someone else’s opinion. Just because you ask for advice doesn’t mean you have to follow it.
| A．Almost everyone enjoys talking about themselves. |
| B．You can ask for advice on both simple and serious things in life. |
| C．This shows that you are listening and helps clarify what you have heard. |
| D．If a person appears uncomfortable sharing something personal, change the subject. |
| E．If someone is talking about something you don’t understand, ask for an explanation. |
| F．Truly listen to what is being said rather than try to think of what you will say next. |
| G．For example, ask, “What made you decide to pursue nursing?” or “How did you like living in Hawaii?” |
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【推荐1】How to read more and learn more
Today, more and more Chinese people enjoy sending and receiving messages on the phone. It can help them to get the latest news and communicate with friends. But I think I should read more books besides the textbooks, the more, the better. It can open my eyes and improve my language skills.
◆ Clear your purpose for reading
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No matter what you are reading, it is important to enjoy what you read. Your friends may tell you the books they love, but those books might not necessarily be the ones you enjoy.
◆ Give up books that you don’t enjoy
You may have chosen books that you are interested in, and they are right to your purpose. But while you are reading them, there may still be some books that you don’t enjoy reading. Whenever you realize that you aren’t enjoying the book you are reading, give it up.
◆ Set a reading goal
It is interesting that I read the books borrowed from libraries faster than those I bought. The reason is the books I bought don’t have a due date! I don’t need to return those books.
| A．Read only what you are interested in |
| B．Read the books borrowed from others. |
| C．Remember reading shouldn’t be a chore (烦恼事). |
| D．Of course, it also can help me to get good grades. |
| E．We need to get the latest news and communicate with friends. |
| F．Before you start reading, ask yourself why you are reading this book. |
| G．Having a reading goal helps you work out how much reading you need to do in a week or even a day. |
【推荐2】Learning often requires taking different risks, whether it’s the willingness to try something new or keep trying after a failed attempt. For children, it’s this process of learning how to take risks and becoming comfortable with failure that can help them grow and develop.
According to the research, children who viewed their parents as being supportive and reliable were more willing to take risks while learning. “
Here is what you, as parents, should remember.
Creating a supportive learning environment for your children often includes identifying what they struggle with and what they need.
One way to create reliability is to develop routines with your children.
| A．That is what they expect from their children. |
| B．Those routines should be developed by children themselves. |
| C．That consistent and positive attention can make a big difference. |
| D．Children from more stable backgrounds perform better in learning. |
| E．One way to do that is to track certain behaviors over time, looking for patterns. |
| F．The routines are less about how big or time-consuming, and more about their predictability. |
| G．However, encouraging children to take these risks can be an extremely difficult task for parents. |
【推荐3】If your loved ones need a bit more help with day-to-day activities, it can be difficult to know how to help. Thankfully, there are lots of really simple things you can do to make things easier for them.
Get to know their neighbours
It’s a great idea to introduce your loved ones to some of their neighbors. If you don’t live nearby, it will give them the comfort(安慰) of knowing there are people who can help them if they need help.
Sign them up to a meal delivery(递送) service
Introduce them to online clubs
If your loved ones are able to get out and join in-person activity groups, fantastic. However, being unable to leave the house doesn’t mean missing out on socializing.
Meditation(冥想) and mindfulness apps are useful to most of us. Dealing with illness or spending more time alone in later years can cause stress and anxiety. Apps including Calm and Headspace have simple ways that can relax people’s mind or help them sleep more easily. It only takes a few minutes per day. Help your loved ones choose one app on their phone, and show them how it works.
| A．Show them how to use social media |
| B．Help them through a meditation app |
| C．There are lots of online groups you can find now |
| D．Here are some useful ideas to help you and them |
| E．Meal subscriptions are helpful to all kinds of people |
| F．Make sure they always have the medicines they need |
| G．It will make them feel more connected to their community |
【推荐1】How much free time do you need to be happier? Feeling overwhelmed(不知所措的) by your to—do list can certainly make you unhappy, but new research suggests that more free time might not be the magic elixir(灵丹妙药) like many of us have dreamed.
Researchers found that people with more free time generally had higher levels of subjective well—being(幸福) —but only up to a point. People who had up to two hours of free time a day generally reported they felt better than those who had less time. But people who had five or more hours of free time a day generally said they felt worse. “While too little time is bad, having more time is not always better,” said Marissa Sharif, an assistant professor of marketing at The Wharton School. For example, some adults struggle with the “retirement blues”, which can be due to a lack of stimulation and structure, among other things. They conducted several smaller online experiments. In one they asked participants to imagine having 3.5 to 7 free hours per day. They were asked to imagine spending that time doing “productive” things (like exercising) or to imagine doing “unproductive” activities (like watching TV).
Study participants believed their well—being would suffer if they had a lot of free time during the day—but only if they used it unproductively. “In other words, how people use their free time matters,” Sharif said. “Of course, what feels ‘productive’ is up to you. Free—time activities like knitting, reading, cooking or gaming are also known to put people in a state of flow. In cases when people do find themselves with excessive amounts of spare time, such as retirement or having left a job,” Sharif said,” our results suggest these individuals would benefit from spending their newfound time with purpose.”
1. What is the finding of the new study?| A．Adults tend to feel happy in their free time. |
| B．Being too busy threatens people’s physical health. |
| C．More free time does not definitely mean more happiness. |
| D．More and more people have little spare time. |
| A．The requirements of the experiment. | B．The significance of the experiment. |
| C．The consequence of the experiment. | D．The purpose of the experiment. |
| A．明显的 | B．过多的 | C．合理的 | D．有益的 |
| A．Taking good advantage of free time will help bring people happiness. |
| B．Attending too many activities may damage people’s health. |
| C．Spending spare time with friends often benefits people a lot. |
| D．Having little free time may result in anxiety. |
【推荐2】With so many pressures can any of us be truly happy? As we welcome in a coming new year, Rachel Kelly, author of Walking on Sunshine ,suggests small changes to your life can make a big difference to your state of mind.
Slow down
Be mindful
Build a "mindful" activity into your day. It can be any routine activity you perform during the rush of the day ,like hand washing. Slow down and give the task your full attention.
Perfectionism is a fantasy, but the seeking of it is real and can have damaging consequences. So read just your thinking. If a friendship ,relationship ,work project is 800/0 right, then you're doing well.
Breathe
When things get too much, try the one-finger-on-the-nose breathing trick. Press a finger against one side of your nose. Then just breathe through the other nostril.
Exercise
Breaking a sweat, ideally first thing in the morning, releases endorphin（内啡肽）and sets you up for the day.
| A．Redefine failure |
| B．Follow the 800/0 rule |
| C．By halving the rate at which you breathe |
| D．We are human beings, not human doings |
| E．Lack of exercise can leave you feeling tired |
| F．You'll soon start appreciating these small moments of stillness |
| G．It's all about creating the right conditions for your body to feel relaxed and able to sleep |
【推荐3】Managing your time is a lot like managing your money.
Step No. 1:
Estimate (估计) the amount of time per week you spend on each activity, such as class time, athletics fitness, socializing with friends and other hobby time and so on.
Step No. 2: Assess your use of time.
a) Add together the total time you will use per week.
b) Now subtract (减去) the total time from 168 hours.
If the number you get is negative, you have used more time than there is in a week. You should cut back in certain areas.
If you have time left over, ask yourself what choices can be made.
Step No. 3: Determine a goal and plan of action for better time use.
What would you most like to do to better manage your time? You should consider using a calendar or planner (备忘记事本).
Some tips: Color-code your calendar or planner by the activities listed above, and once you make a schedule, do your best to stick with it.
Step No. 4:
You'll want to take a look at this again at the start of each term, if you get a job, or if you notice any changes in your physical or emotional condition.
Besides, it is advisable to make a long-term goal in the first year and work towards it in the very beginning.
| A．You are in trouble. |
| B．This is a good start. |
| C．Repeat, when necessary. |
| D．Do you have time for more sleep? |
| E．Figure out how you use your time each week. |
| F．Once you spend it, it's gone, so you have to make it all count. |
| G．It can help you keep track of time, projects, tasks and be more efficient. |
