【推荐3】We are all social emotional beings and throughout our lives, we will continue to shape our behaviors and relationships. However, for lifelong well-being, the development of social emotional skills should be shaped wisely as a child opens its eyes to the world. Here are some strategic actions that will help you guide your child in improving their social emotional learning skills.

    1     If they are crying, tell them “You look sad” or “It looks like you are mad right now.” This way you can reflect their emotions to them with words and help them understand and express their emotions too.

Identify with your children’s feelings. Instead of saying “Stop shouting and calm down, it’s not a big deal” try to say “I know you are really angry right now but we can talk about it.”     2    

Give your kid some space and let them experience uncomfortable feelings. Everyone feels alone or bored sometimes.     3     This will help them tolerate (忍受) upsetting feelings and the similar situations will be settled in the future.

Accept emotions & correct behaviors. It’s okay to feel angry sometimes. Eventually, we need to feel that anger in some specific situations.     4     Teach your children that the feeling is normal, but they shouldn’t be screaming loudly in a public area just because they are feeling an emotion as this may make other people uncomfortable.

Support other cognitive (认知的) skills.     5     Scientific educational brain games apps developed by academicians like those at MentalUP are beneficial sources to improve cognitive skills.

Every parent should keep in mind that all kids can shape and develop their social and emotional skills differently. Trying to find ways that suit your kids’ needs, interests and according to learning styles is always a better solution than blaming yourself or the kids.

【推荐1】It is said that a person’s high school years are some of the most important they will experience，and are often seen as a critical and life­shaping time.I coudn’t agree more.

My high school life has been filled with many ups and downs, whether it was social or academic.Even though my current high school was not my first choice, I never regretted attending Southside High School.“Since you have chosen it, then it is the best for you，” said my parents.

Up until the junior year I did not realize my capabilities (能力) as a student.Being in the IB Program, I was told that my junior year would be the toughest in all the years of high school.With this “little” piece of information, I walked into my junior year, scared of my grades.As weeks went by, I started to believe that the junior year was not as hard as everyone had said, but I was wrong.My grades were rapidly declining (下降) and by the end of the first term I had had five Cs in seven of my classes! I could not believe it — I did not want to believe it.I tried my best to get my grades up myself without any help from anyone, but my pride just made my grades worse.And I had to miss out on one of the most important speech and debate competitions all year：States.I was heartbroken.I realized that I could not survive my junior year on my own, so I had to get help fast.

Once I got a tutor, my grades went from Cs, Ds, and even some Fs, to nothing but As and Bs.I slowly started to gain my confidence back in all of my classes and even myself.By the time the third and fourth quarter came around, I had been on the honor roll twice, and I was receiving awards from speeches and debates, tennis and school.

Southside has taught me to always keep my head up and never give up on myself no matter what life throws at me.I am proud to be a Southside Tiger.

【推荐2】A new study looked at more than 9,000 12-to-13-year-old students of 139 UK secondary schools taking part in “separated” maths and English classes which are set up by children’s ability. Researchers found that not only is there a “worrying” self-confidence gap between students in the top and bottom sets, but, for those in maths sets, the gap in general self-confidence in fact widens over time.

The study has potentially important meanings for social justice, with the growing gap risking enlarging existing inequalities rather than reducing them. Students with low ability are being ill-served in schools that apply setting, and they are shown to be disproportionately (不成比例地) populated by pupils from low socio-economic backgrounds and from particular racial groups. The results have important meanings for measures directed at addressing disadvantage in education.

The analysis shows that there was a general trend that students had higher self-confidence in the subject area of mathematics or English if they were placed in the top set and a significantly lower self-confidence when placed in the bottom set in mathematics when compared with an average student in the middle set. This trend in self-confidence remained for general self-confidence in mathematics and those in the top set in English. In other cases, the trend was reduced, though in no case was reversed (逆转). Researchers added that the labels associated with ability-based classes impact children’s self-perception (自我认知) as learners in relation to their learning, subject identification, and feelings about themselves and their place at school.

Researchers do not think it unreasonable to suppose that these trends in self-confidence likely impact on pupils' associations with schooling, and in turn on pupils’ perceptions of their futures. The “ability set” label snowballs as it builds motivation and impact through the various practices, understandings and behaviors on the part of the pupil, on teachers, parents, peers, and therefore the school and its practices. The report acknowledges more research is now needed to further understand how self-confidence impacts children’s futures, and recognizes that there may also be a range of different psychological factors and processes which can balance the effects between the receipt of an “ability label” through tracking and self confidence in learning.

【推荐1】The most common problem that worries all of us today is the fear of insecurity. Life has become so competitive that every now and then we are struck by the fear of the unknown. With every new turn of events our self-confidence takes a blow. The biggest challenge before every person today is not to lose confidence in one’s ability.

There are several reasons that affect a person’s self-confidence. The most important reason is lack of success. Not being able to succeed affects one’s self-confidence greatly. This is when one begins to doubt his own ability. In many cases one’s self-confidence is low when he feels rejected by society. For example, a person who loses his job gives a wide berth to other people for fear of being questioned about his work. However, this isn’t right at all. One needs to think along positive lines in spite of failures. After all it is your life and you have every right to live your life as you wish.

The challenge lies in not allowing your self-confidence to decrease. It’s very important to believe in yourself. Self-belief is the secret to success. When success doesn’t come to you, you should not allow your self-belief to be affected. Always keep in mind that success is sure to come in time. So, there is nothing wrong with your ability. Whenever lack of success causes you to doubt your ability, don’t forget to remind yourself that quick success does not last long. Also remember not to compare yourself to others. These tips will do a world of good to your confidence.

In order to be self-confident, you need to have a lifestyle that is right for you. Create one and live a life as you want to. Leave others to themselves.

【推荐2】The poverty line is the minimum income that people need for an acceptable standard of living. People with incomes below the poverty line are considered poor. Economists study the causes of poverty in order to find solutions to the problem.

As the general standard of living in the country rises, the poverty line does, too. Therefore, even with today’s relatively high standard of living, about 10 percent of the people in the United States are below the poverty line. However, if these people had stable jobs, they could have an acceptable standard of living. Economists suggest several reasons why poor people do not have jobs.

For one thing, more than half of the poor people in the United States are not qualified to work. Over 40 percent of the poor people are children. By law, children less than 16 years old cannot work in many industries. A large number of poor people are old. Many companies do not hire people over 65 years old, the normal retirement age.

Some poor adults do not look for jobs for a variety of personal reasons: they are sick, they do not have any motivation, they have family problems, or they do not believe that they can find a job.

Other poor people look for a job, but cannot find one. Many poor adults never went to high school. Therefore, when they look for jobs, they have few skills that they can offer.

At the present time, the government thinks it can reduce poverty in the country in the following ways:

First, if the national economy grows, businesses and industries hire more workers. Some of the poor who are qualified to look for jobs may find employment. Then they will no longer below the poverty line.

Second, if society invests in the poor, the poor will become more productive.

If the government spends money on social programs, education and training for poor people, the poor will have the skills to offer. Then it is more probable that they can find jobs.

Finally, if the government distributes society’s income differently, it raises some poor people above the poverty line. The government collects taxes from the non-poor and gives money to the poor. These payments to the poor are called welfare.

Some economists are looking for better solutions to the poverty problem. However, at the present time, many people depend on welfare for a minimally acceptable standard of living.