Think about that. If you are anything like me, you struggle to ask for help when you need it. It’s something a lot of humans battle with. You don’t want to be a burden on others. You are afraid to speak up, or want to prove that you can do it yourself.
You don’t ask for help when you don’t know how to do something or can’t manage it on your own, because you might be afraid of looking stupid or incompetent. You might pretend like you know what you’re doing when you’re really drowning. Perhaps you think asking for help is a sign of weakness; that if you ask for help you’re admitting you’re inadequate in some way; that you lack knowledge, skill or experience to do something yourself. You don’t want anyone to see that you’re struggling and you want people to think that you’re in control and can handle things.
There are tons of reasons you won’t ask for help, but not doing so can be a mistake. You get in your own way if you make asking for help mean something negative about you when it doesn’t. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re stupid or inadequate. It simply means you need help with something specific for a time.
Confident people often ask others for help. They do so not only because they’re secure enough to let it be known they need help, but they know that trying to do everything themselves is not always the best use of their time, skills or energy. They recognize it can leave them feeling overwhelmed and stressed and then they can’t do things properly. Confident people find someone who’s good at what they need to learn or get done and then ask for their help and guidance. They know that asking, “Can you help me?” shows respect for the other person’s knowledge and abilities. Otherwise, they wouldn’t ask.
1. What does the author tend to do when encountering difficulties?A.He is unwilling to turn to others for help. |
B.He will actively seek for diverse solutions. |
C.He will ask for help from his closest friends. |
D.He will refuse friendly help from others. |
A.To avoid making many mistakes. |
B.To cover up one’s lack of confidence. |
C.To reassure others about their own abilities. |
D.To prove that they have been striving. |
A.It is a very shameful thing to ask for help. |
B.Asking for help is the last way to improve one’s abilities. |
C.It is stupid to ask for help when one meets difficulties. |
D.Don’t hesitate to seek help when it is necessary. |
A.They respectfully call anyone better than themselves their teacher. |
B.They seek advice from people better than themselves in anything. |
C.They consider it as a way to show respect for knowledge and abilities. |
D.They strongly believe that asking others is lowering themselves. |
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【推荐1】For some kids, old photos and baby pictures are embarrassing. For others, they are valuable keepsakes(纪念品). But for thousands of children living in orphanages(孤儿院)worldwide, these records of the past simply don’t exist. Either the kids’ parents weren’t around to take photos, or the pictures have been lost. Whatever the reason is, the Memory Project is giving orphans a lasting document of their youth.
Over the last two years, the Memory Project has provided hand-painted portraits to more than 4, 000 children living in orphanages in poor countries. Ben Schumaker, 24, got the idea when he was visiting an orphanage in Guatemala in Central America. But he’s not creating the portraits(肖像)alone. Students in hundreds of high school art classes across the U. S. paint them using photos sent from the orphanages.
Schumaker believes that the artists benefit from the project as much as the orphans do. “There are two purposes of the Memory Project,” he said. “One is to offer a special gift to the child abroad. The other is to help open the eyes of the student who is painting.” Staring into the eyes of another person, Schumaker believes, it creates a real connection. This connection raises awareness in U. S. schools about the needs of the world’s poor children. “It’s about planting a seed,” he said.
Schumaker is also working on Books of Hope, a project in which students of all ages put together homemade books for children in Uganda and India. He hopes that one day children in Uganda and India will send books to the U. S. “It’s important to me to have it be a two-way exchange,” Schmnaker says.
1. Old photos and baby pictures are clearly unavailable to__________.A.the kids in rich families | B.the kids in common families |
C.the kids in expanded families | D.the kids without parents |
A.By hand-painted portraits that Ben Schumaker painted. |
B.By the photos the orphanage taken for them. |
C.By the photos taken by the U. S. students in high schools. |
D.By the Memory Project started by Ben Schumaker. |
A.The special gifts that the world’s poor children received. |
B.The benefits that the Memory Project brings. |
C.The need of the US schools. |
D.How to help the orphans. |
【推荐2】Giving generously and receiving gratefully make it easier to live happily with others.
Let me start with the idea of giving generously.
The good news is that when we lead our life being nice to others, our life runs more smoothly.
At the same time, we should remember to receive gratefully. I truly believe that you cant say “thank you” enough when you receive.
If you are looking for a way to improve your life, I can give you one: Give generously and receive gratefully.
A.So often we get lazy about expressing gratitude. |
B.Thus,saying “thank you” can bring us good luck. |
C.If you are generous, some people will use you. |
D.In return, we are to help others by giving them our time or money. |
E.I think people are unwilling to be generous to others for fear of being used. |
F.Yet,why do we have such difficulty achieving these things in our relationships? |
G.Words of appreciation make others feel good about themselves like nothing else. |
【推荐3】When I had my first baby, after battling being unable to produce babies for three years, I received a gift at the hospital with a note: “To Jonathan-we're so glad you're here.” I've always remembered that note-and the person who sent it. My heartache and fear that I'd never have a child had been swept away and I felt a great joy. That little note made me feel that someone else understood my happiness, Oddly enough, she was not a close friend. But at that moment, we shared a special bond.
I learned that day that there's nothing like a personal note. In this age of impersonal technology, of computers and recorded voices on telephones, the hand-written note makes a human connection. And not just to the receiver, but to the writer as well. It feels good to express your sincere thoughts. When you put pen to paper, very important feelings slip out, feelings that you might ordinarily keep to yourself. This is especially true with emotions such as, “I love you,” or “You're important to me,” that may seem embarrassing to actually say.
Some of the best notes are written by children, precisely because kids are so open and honest. They're able to express powerful emotions in simple ways, as my young son did one Valentine's Day: “This comes from the heart, not from the store,” he wrote on his homemade card, anxious lest I mistake it for one mere money can buy. On another occasion, he scrawled, “Happy birthday—I'm glad you're my Mom!”
Notes from youngsters are very special, especially if the receiver is seriously ill. When a70-year-old man suffered a heart attack, his eight-year-old grandson wrote, “Please get well, Grandpa. Who else will play cards with me? Who will tell me stories? I love you, Grandpa.” Did this note help his Grandpa recover in record time? Doctors might not think so, but I do.
1. “A special bond” (in paragraph1) is brought about by ________.A.the author's first baby | B.the author's battling unproductiveness |
C.the person working in the hospital | D.the note the author received |
A.Children's notes are better than any of others due to their openness and honesty. |
B.Notes from youngsters are especially memorable to their parents and grandparents. |
C.To mark the special times of a life, nothing can take the place of a heartfelt note. |
D.It feels powerful to voice your genuine ideas by recorded voices on telephones. |
A.signed | B.wrote | C.answered | D.exchanged |
A.advise readers to use the hand-written note for human connection |
B.give readers some tips on how to choose words on hand-written notes |
C.encourage senior people to pay attention to kids' hand-written notes |
D.persuade readers to take pen in hand and express their happiness |
【推荐1】If you have ever felt sick at the back of a bus or after a boat cruise, then you might have experienced motion sickness. The condition’s most common symptoms are dizziness, headaches, sweating and vomiting.
Humans haven’t always experienced this reaction. According to Fred Mast, a professor at the University of Bern, motion sickness began to affect us when we created vehicles for getting to places faster. “Our bodies were not prepared for it,” he says, explaining that human-made acceleration creates a disturbance between our vestibular system (前庭系统), which is responsible for controlling balance, and our vision. While travelling on a boat or in a car, you may not be watching the movement of the vehicle, but your vestibular system registers it. Since the human brain has not evolved enough yet to resolve that conflict, it leads to motion sickness. Motion sickness can also strike when there is simulated acceleration, such as in some video games or movie scenes in the theatre that make the viewer’s brain think it’s moving when it’s not.
While one in three people experiences motion sickness at some time, certain people are more easily affected. These include: children and young adults (according to a German survey, half of those under the age of 30 report being affected); patients; and women.
Sufferers can avoid motion sickness by making changes to how they travel. For instance, sitting facing forward at the front of a bus allows you to see the movement. Sitting in the middle of a boat or next to the wing of an airplane will reduce the amount of movement you feel. Staying away from alcohol and heavy meals ahead of car, boat or plane trips can also be helpful.
1. What does the underlined word “simulated” in Paragraph 2 mean?A.fake | B.sudden |
C.frequent | D.visible |
A.The symptoms of motion sickness. |
B.The cause of motion sickness. |
C.The function of vestibular system. |
D.The evolution of humans’ brains. |
A.The old. | B.The young. |
C.The male. | D.The hungry. |
A.Closing eyes to feel the movement. |
B.Sitting close to the bus driver. |
C.Filling the stomach before a boat trip. |
D.Choosing a middle seat in the airplane. |
【推荐2】History is written, read, told — but rarely ever is it smelled.
Historians and scientists across Europe have now gotten together with perfumers(调香师)and museums for a unique project: to reveal what Europe smelled like between the 16th and early 20th centuries. A European street today may smell like coffee, fresh-baked bread and cigarettes. But what did it smell like hundreds of years ago? As part of this three-year-long project called “Odeuropa”, the researchers want to find all the old scents(气味)of Europe — and even recreate some of this ancient smellscape: from the dry tobacco scents to the smelly canals.
To do this, they will first build artificial intelligence (AI) that will be trained to go through historical texts, written in seven different languages, for any descriptions of scents. The AI will also be trained to detect images of objects in the texts that might be scented. The team will then use this information to create an online encyclopedia(百科全书)of smells from Europe’s past.
The encyclopedia will include the meaning of certain scents and will trace the stories behind scents, places and related practices, according to project leader Angela Lee. “This database will become a library for the smell heritage of Europe, enabling future generations to access and learn about the scented past.” The encyclopedia will also include descriptions of people for whom smell was important.
The researchers will then work with chemists and perfume makers to recreate past smells and figure out how to display the smells in museums and other historical sites. With current technology, almost every scent can be produced. “The more difficult part of the project will be to find descriptions of scents, because people haven’t always talked or written about them,” Lee said.
Scent plays a central role in our everyday life, even acting as a powerful time machine into our own past with its ability to activate long-forgotten memories. But it’s also a key tool in telling the stories of others. “Scent gives us access to the past in a much more direct and emotional way than language and images,” Lee said.
1. Why did the researchers start the “Odeuropa” project?A.To rebuild a historical European street. |
B.To make perfumes of traditional scents. |
C.To find and recreate the smells of Europe. |
D.To reproduce the scented past of Europe. |
A.Collect smell-related data. |
B.Write interesting stories behind smells. |
C.Detect objects by smell. |
D.Describe smells in different languages. |
A.Scents of the past are hard to keep. |
B.Records of scents are rarely found. |
C.Technology to reproduce scents is poor. |
D.Display of smells in museums costs a lot. |
A.The application of past scents. |
B.The effect of scents on memory. |
C.The role of scent in story-telling. |
D.The value of understanding scent. |
【推荐3】It is hardly surprising that clothing manufacturers (生产商) follow certain uniform standards for different features of clothes. What seems strange, however, is that the standard used for women is the opposite of the one for men. Take a look at the way your clothes button. Men’s clothes tend to button from the right, and women’s from the left. Considering most of the world’s population — men and women — are right-handed, the men’s standard would appear to make more sense (更有道理) for women. So why do women’s clothes button from the left?
History really seems to matter here. Buttons first appeared only on the clothes of the rich in the 17th century, when rich women were dressed by servants. For the mostly right-handed servants, having women’s shirts button from the left would be easier. On the other hand, having men’s shirts button from the right made sense, too. Most men dressed themselves, and a sword (剑) drawn from the left with the right hand would be less likely to get caught in the shirt.
Today women are seldom dressed by servants, but buttoning from the left is still the standard for them. Is it interesting? Actually, a standard, once it is set, resists change. At a time when all women’s shirts buttoned from the left, it would have been risky for any single manufacturer to offer women’s shirts that buttoned from the right. After all, women had grown so used to shirts which buttoned from the left and would have to develop new habits and skills to switch. Besides, some women might have found it socially awkward to appear in public wearing shirts that buttoned from the right, since anyone who noticed that would believe they were wearing men’s shirts.
1. What is surprising about the standard of the clothing industry?A.It has been followed by the industry for over 400 years. |
B.It is different for men’s clothing and women’s. |
C.It woks better with men than with women. |
D.It fails to consider right-handed people. |
A.They tended to wear clothes without buttons. |
B.They drew their swords from the left. |
C.They were mostly dressed by servants. |
D.They were interested in the historical matters. |
A.customs are hard to change |
B.manufacturers should follow standards |
C.modern women dress themselves |
D.using men’s style is improper for women |
A.analyzing causes | B.making comparisons |
C.examining differences | D.following the time order |