Life isn’t fair. Some people just seem blessed with the ability to effortlessly charm (吸引) anyone they meet. Well, it might seem like a magical power, but in fact there are a number of factors at work.
But first, the bad news. People at first judge each other according to physical appearance. With just a glimpse of a face, people make quick judgements about each other’s likeability, trustworthiness and confidence. How should we deal with this?
What other tricks might we have?
So we’ve looked at body language, but of course what you say is hugely important too, unless you want to just stand there smiling foolishly. The golden rule of friendship is if you make people feel good about themselves, they’re going to like you. In other words, you should not talk about yourself and all your wonderful achievements.
Finally, finding common ground helps form a connection. Charming people are particularly skilled at seeking out shared interests or experiences to bond with others.
A.Instead, you need to show interest in them. |
B.So, can you learn to develop superhuman charm? |
C.There’s one surprisingly simple tool: your smile. |
D.Shared interests are the key to making connections with others. |
E.Asking where someone’s from allows you to find areas in common. |
F.Our brains often survey the environment for friend or enemy signals. |
G.What good tricks might we take advantage of to become charming? |
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【推荐1】Let’s be honest: it can be hard to get motivated to do your schoolwork even in the best of times. So finding the motivation, while you’re learning from home, is extra challenging. Here are a few tips that could promote your motivation.
Guard Your Time
You do not need large amounts of time to be productive.
Determine How Much Work Is Needed
Break Large Projects into Smaller Ones
Breaking big projects into smaller and more manageable tasks allows you to achieve the greatest efficiency and effectiveness.Your given tasks should follow a logical order.
Set Goals
Set goals related to effort. For example, plan to spend 60 minutes at a specific time of the day studying a pre-determined concept. Also, set goals related to the completion of specific tasks or projects.
Identify the Rewards
It pays to clarify the rewards at the end of each term, whether those rewards are internal (内部的), such as the feeling of achievement that comes from understanding a difficult concept well, or external (外部的), such as getting a good grade.
Work to build good habits and strategies now.
A.It will certainly pay off in the future. |
B.Remember to work as quickly as possible, |
C.Write down the work you need to achieve, |
D.Therefore, you can choose how to make good use of your own time. |
E.Also, making a list and crossing things off that list is really satisfying. |
F.Instead be focused in short blocks when you can work without interruption. |
G.For instance, finish reading a specific article for a certain paper you must write before a certain time. |
【推荐2】With everything going on in the world, it’s no wonder so many of us are struggling to sleep.
Get an hour of sunlight each day. Morning sunlight is important for good sleep. To get more rays, aim for 15 to 30 minutes of direct light in the morning.
Skip salty snacks before bed. In a Japanese study, researchers followed 321 patients with high-saltdiets and sleep issues for 12 weeks.
A.Avoid arguments with your family. |
B.Handle your troubles before dinner. |
C.Next,take two 15-minute outdoor breaks during the day. |
D.It contributes to good health when exposed to light. |
E.It’s normal to wake up at night,especially as you age. |
F.A used one in the past can cause neck pain and restless sleep. |
G.When people cut them down,their average toilet trips decreased. |
【推荐3】No matter what type of business you run, it has to deal with things that go wrong from your customer’s point of view. Complaints can be a great source of information for organizations to make corrections as well as further improvements.
Secondly,
Thirdly, talk with the client and discover the best means to resolve his problem.
In this case it’s important to let your customer know an estimation of how long it will take to take action on his complaint.
Fourthly, a simple “Thank you”is one way to let the customers know you appreciate the time and effort they’ve taken to inform you about a problem of your company’s service or product that you need to know about.
Finally, create a procedure for recording different types of customer complaints.
A.Listen to your customer’s complaints and you can improve your service. |
B.There will be times when you’ll be unable to resolve the issue immediately. |
C.When receiving a complaint, you should apologize for the failure the customer has identified. |
D.They are a valuable source of information to determine various root causes that need to be addressed within your company. |
E.So it’s important to learn to deal with customers’ complaints efficiently. |
F.Don't feel ashamed of the failure in your service or product. |
G.You should also show your customer that you do understand him by giving full attention. |
【推荐1】Life can bring us down from time to time. At some point,you may find yourself in what you will consider as your darkest hour. As you try to find your way out of that bad situation,you should try to remind yourself that there is always still a reason to be grateful.
If you look at your situation now and compare it with that of someone else who is in much deeper trouble than you,I am sure that you'll find something to be thankful for. We all have our share of problems. But complaining about them only makes us blind to the fact that there are miracles happening around us every day.
When all your needs are met,then you should be content and happy. If you have a roof over your head,some decent(像样的)clothes to wear,enough food on the table,a comfortable place to sleep in,clean water to drink and you are free to make your own choices,then you should be happy and grateful. Many people around the world,especially those who are at war or those in very poor countries would give anything to be in your shoes.
Even if you lose all your possessions and your heart is broken for some reason, as long as you are still alive and energetic, then every material thing you have lost can be regained. If you have a few good friends to support or help you, then be glad because true friends are hard to find. As long as you have someone to love and someone to love you back, then you are a very fortunate person. Remember to be patient and trust that things will get better.
1. What are we advised to do when life lets us down?A.To try to keep calm. |
B.To imagine a better future. |
C.To realize things could be worse. |
D.To fight against the bad situation bravely. |
A.Ignoring something good. |
B.Creating a far worse situation. |
C.Taking everything for granted. |
D.Failing to share the pain with others. |
A.In your honor. | B.On your behalf. |
C.In your situation. | D.In touch with you. |
A.Patience is a virtue |
B.Why you should be grateful |
C.How to deal with hard times |
D.A friend in need is a friend indeed |
“I come out here to tell them that God loves them and I love them and that someone is concerned about them,” Chase said.
Chase has given away cash and blessings every Sunday at the same corner for 24 years. Several hundred people wait for him every week.
He makes a point of coming on Thanksgiving and Christmas, too, but this is the first year he spent his birthday in the downtown neighborhood where people live mainly in shelters and on dirty sidewalks.
“It’s the place that makes me the happiest.I just love it,” said Chase. “I look forward to coming here.”
The money comes from donations he receives from rich and famous people he met during his work as assistant to the president of Loyola Marymount University.
The crowd broke into choruses of “Happy Birthday” several times. Some people presented him birthday cards, to his delight.
Travis Kemp, a 51–year–old disabled man with long black hair, was one of the lucky 20 to receive $ 100. He said he had no special plans for spending the money. “He has a lot of respect from me,” Kemp said. “I know I couldn’t do it.”
1. Which of the following makes Chase feel the happiest?
A.Celebrating his birthday with his neighbours. |
B.Working in Loyola Marymount University. |
C.Celebrating Christmas with the people he has helped. |
D.Going to Los Angeles’ gutter to help people there. |
A.All his savings. |
B.His earnings as a Catholic priest. |
C.Donations from the wealthy and celebrities. |
D.Donations from Loyola Marymount University. |
A.he was the luckiest person on that day. |
B.the disabled need to be taken care of. |
C.Chase is greatly appreciated by the needy. |
D.even old people came to celebrate Chase’s birthday. |
A.Every recipient could get $100 in cash from Father Maurice Chase. |
B.Father Maurice Chase gave the cash away not only on his birthday but also on other occasions. |
C.Although Father Maurice Chase gave the cash away on his birthday, he didn’t receive anything in return. |
D.Father Maurice Chase earned a lot of money as assistant to the president of Loyola Marymount University. |
【推荐3】How do people respond when you have a talk with them? Maybe they brush your emotions aside or never listen to you.
Use confident body language. This type of body language can increase your self-respect and help you earn people’s respect. Confident body language can include good eye contact and appropriate postures (姿势). Keep your eyes forward instead of down.
Improve your listening skills. Good listeners often come across as sympathetic and caring, which are admirable qualities. A skilled listener can make others feel valued and appreciated.
Avoid oversharing. It’s common to talk too much and start rambling (瞎扯) when you get nervous or want to make a good impression. But to gain others’ respect, you can’t ramble or talk too much about yourself.
A.Keep calm and your anger in check. |
B.There’s no need to fill every silence. |
C.Therefore, he may be respected in return. |
D.Try to make your message as clear as possible. |
E.You might feel that you just don’t matter to others. |
F.Don’t leave your arms crossed or hands in your pockets. |
G.Instead, you need to slow down and find some common ground. |