【推荐1】Kindness is something that leads you to do what can help other people. With kindness, you can show your willingness to contribute something good to the lives of others.     1    

Create a sense of belonging

The feelings of loneliness destroy a person’s mind. However, when you develop a habit of exhibiting kindness, you will be amazed to see how strong connections you have made and how these connections benefit a huge number of people.     2    

Reduce bad feelings

    3     Exhibiting kind manners results in good feelings. On the other hand, getting anxious gives a feeling to the mind like hitting a hammer on your body. It means that bad feelings can severely affect your mental happiness. When you get into an act of kindness, bad feelings like sadness, anger, and fear can be reduced.

Come back around

If you showed kindness towards somebody in the past, the particular person may remember you. The probabilities are high that he will help you in the future.

Encourage you to live life happily

The acts of kindness together can improve the feelings of happiness. Aiding others can make you live with confidence.     4     In the end, it uplifts (使振奋) everyone’s spirit.

Strengthen connections

    5     For most people, showing kind behaviors explores many possibilities to begin a social connection with somebody. Kind acts like helping your friends or relatives in their bad days can strengthen your connections with them.

【推荐2】Since the way you interact(交往) with your fellows is important to a happy and successful life, conversation is an art form worth studying and practicing. The first rule is very simple-listen!    1    . To have a good conversation, you should allow the other person to promote your new ideas and new trains of thought, and then hopefully do the same thing in return.

    2    . People are reading and analyzing your body language. So don’t cross your arm or look away when talking. Non-verbal encouragement can make a huge difference. This simply means that, if they are telling a funny story, smile, nod and laugh.

Try working on your voice.     3    . But no matter how interesting or smart you may be, if your voice is dull, the other person will struggle to focus on what you are saying. Notice how news readers or classical actors vary the speed and emphasis(强调) when they speak.

Having worked on how you look and sound, you should next consider what you say. Be interested in as many things as possible.    4    . Most people have a love for some topics, which is fine so long as you’re sharing the same interests.     5    . The wider and deeper your interests are, the more likely you are to have something in common with the other people at a dinner table.

【推荐3】False Memories or Parallel (平行的) Realities?

Here is a common situation: You’re talking with someone about an event, only to discover that you both remember things quite differently. Usually, you’d put it down to a poor memory, but what if it wasn’t just one person who remembered things differently? What if it was millions?

In fact, this isn’t a “what if” situation. It’s known as the Mandela Effect, and it was first noticed in 2009 by paranormal researcher Fiona Broome. Broome was chatting with people about the South African activist Nelson Mandela, and she commented how sad it was that he had died in prison in the 1980s.     1     Actually, he'd been released in 1990, become president of South Africa, and died in 2013.

Broome was so shocked at this that she started an investigation.     2     People have memories of movies that never existed, and famous words that were never spoken. There is even a group who clearly recall seeing maps showing that New Zealand was northeast of Australia (it’s southeast ). So what in the world is going on?

    3     In each reality, history is shaped by different events, and the Mandela Effect occurs when some of us shift from one reality to another. Therefore, those who remember Nelson Mandela dying in the 1980s aren’t wrong. They’re just remembering events from their original reality.

More likely, however, is that the Mandela Effect has to do with how our brains store information.     4     Many people remember Pikachu’s tail having a black tip on the end of it, when in fact it was always yellow. “Aha!” you cry. “Parallel realities!” Probably not. Consider instead that people often ignore unfamiliar details and transform information to make it more understandable. In the Pikachu example, his tail may not have a black tip, but his ears certainly do. Thus, both his ears and tail are misremembered as having black tips.     5    

All things considered, if you’re stuck arguing with someone about whose version of events is correct, it may indeed be easier to agree that neither of you is wrong. You just come from different realities.