Twenty-five years ago, as a parent educator, I began reading about the dangers of praise. I was completely shocked by what I was learning: praise is not good for our kids. How could that be? So I spent years talking with experts, reading about the effects of praise, and finally decided to close the door on praise and focus on building an encouraging family.
Even today, with many studies available to parents, I still hear people say, “How can that be? How can saying ‘Good job’ or ‘You’re smart’ be bad?” I understand. It can be a difficult habit to break.
If we tell a boy “You are so smart!” when he brings home an A in his math test, how does he feel when he comes home with a D? If we’ve told him that he is smart, then he will more likely feel a failure when he struggles with homework — “I’m supposed to be smart. Why can’t I do this?”
Praise trains children to depend on constant feedback on what a “great job” they are doing. This dependency shatters rather than builds children’s confidence. Praise trains children to ask, “Do you like it?” “Did I do a good job?” “Are you proud of me?” They begin to believe that what others think is more important than what they think about their achievements and mistakes.
Praise breaks the relationship between parents and children. Without even realizing it, parents may be using praise as a tool to direct the child’s behavior. The message is clear — I approve of you when you … and I do not approve of you when you … Living with this kind of constant judgment can damage not only the child’s confidence but also the relationship.
The solution to the problem of praise is encouragement. Encouragement can be given at any time, to anyone, in any situation. It is a comment, an acknowledgment, a statement that focuses on effort, improvement or choice. Hearing “You are so smart!” can leave a child at a loss when they don’t do well in a test. Using “That took a lot of work to come home with an A in your test …” gives a child the chance to be something else.
1. What can be inferred from the first two paragraphs?A.Many parents can’t get on well with their children. |
B.The author never shows any approval to his children. |
C.It’s hard for many parents to believe praise is harmful. |
D.The author spent 25 years changing people’s opinion on praise. |
A.can lead to children’s being smart |
B.might have just the opposite effect |
C.is a good tool to educate their children |
D.helps them get along well with their children |
A.You are very good at math. |
B.You are the best artist I have ever seen. |
C.You have a problem and you have to fix it. |
D.You didn’t think you could finish in time, but you did. |
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【推荐1】A few examples of AI (人工智能) replacing humans are: saving or withdrawing money in or from banks; face recognition at supermarkets or airports; removal of junk mails; ridesharing (拼车) apps helping people find taxis and there are still so many more! The hot debate that has been bothering the education world for ages is whether AI will replace teachers.
The AI teacher, known as the robot teacher, is a computer or machine that can teach a student according to the level it is programmed to.
There is an ever-increasing demand for teachers today that is not being met. Additionally, human teachers do carry with them some disadvantages. Some teachers are self-interested; others can be too satisfied with themselves or with a situation, so that they do not feel any change is necessary; some can have a weak-headed character or not be as knowledgeable about particular subjects as they should be.
While the thought of a reliable (可靠的) computer teaching your child might seem potential, an Al teacher cannot read its students’ emotions (情感). It cannot further simplify (简化) problems that students are having unless it is programmed to do so. It also cannot inspire its students as a human teacher can.
AI cannot replace teachers. It cannot provide its students with what they need: love, communication, student-teacher friendly and harmonious (和谐的) relationship. However, this does not mean that the Al is not necessary. Al is wonderful in a classroom! It makes the human teachers’ job easier and helps them be more efficient.
1. Why does the writer give some examples of AI uses in Paragraph 1?A.To predict what Al will do. |
B.To explain what Al is all about to us. |
C.To introduce the topic of the text. |
D.To show us science is developing fast. |
A.Al should replace human teachers. |
B.Human teachers do have disadvantages. |
C.Al is closely related to human teachers. |
D.Human teachers are expected to be perfect. |
A.Using AI needs knowledge and technology. |
B.AI must be programmed to teach students. |
C.Human teachers can improve themselves by learning. |
D.Human teachers can communicate emotionally. |
【推荐2】Nature is like the mechanism in an enormous clock. Everything is neatly arranged and interconnected. Every individual has its place and its function. Take the wolf for example. As meat-eaters, wolves regulate the number of plant eaters so that they do not multiply too rapidly. All animals and plants are held in a delicate balance.
The wolves remind me of a story from my childhood when my grandfather gave me an old clock. The first thing I did was take the clock apart to find out how it worked. Even though I was convinced that I knew how to put it back together in working order, I couldn’t do it. After I rebuilt it, there were a few cogs (轮齿) left over and a grandfather who was not in the best of moods. In the wild, wolves play the role of such cogs. If we remove them, not only do the enemies of sheep and cattle disappear, but the mechanism of nature also begins to run differently, so differently that rivers change course and many local bird species die out.
And things can also go wrong when a species is added. For example, the introduction of a nonnative fish leads to a massive reduction in the local deer population. Because of a fish? The earth’s ecosystems, it seems, are a bit too complex for us to draw up simple rules of cause and effect. Even conservation measures can have unexpected results. Who knew, for example, that recovering crane (鹤) populations in Europe would affect the production of Iberian ham?
So it’s high time we took a good look at the interconnections between species both large and small. It’s important for us to realize that even small interventions can have huge consequences, and we’d do better to keep our hands off everything in nature that we do not absolutely have to touch.
1. What’s one of the wolf’s functions in the ecological balance?A.Organizing plant eaters. | B.Taking out plant eaters. |
C.Consuming plant eaters. | D.Casting out plant eaters. |
A.Every part counts. | B.Family love lasts. |
C.Never be too confident. | D.Clocks are delicate. |
A.A nonnative species means death of local ones. |
B.The interconnections in nature are complicated. |
C.Rules of cause and effect are obvious in nature. |
D.Conservation projects are too hard to complete. |
A.Have mercy on small animals. | B.Think twice before stepping in. |
C.Take a new look at meat-eaters. | D.Keep hands off in conservation. |
【推荐3】To be really happy and really safe, one ought to have at least two or three hobbies, and they must all be real. It is no use starting late in life to say “I will take an interest in this or that.” Such an attempt only aggravates the strain of mental effort. A man may acquire great knowledge of topics unconnected with his daily work, and yet hardly get any benefit or relief. It is no use doing what you like; you have got to like what you do.
Broadly speaking, human beings may be divided into three classes: those whoare toiledto death, those who are worried to death and those who are bored to death. It is no use offering the manual labourer, tired out with a hard week’s sweat and effort, the chance of playing a game of football or baseball on Saturday afternoon. It is no use inviting the politician or the professional or business man, who has been working or worrying about serious things for six days, to work or worry about trifling things at the weekend. As for the unfortunate people who can command everything they want, who can gratify every caprice and lay their hands on almost every object of desire — for them a new pleasure, a new excitement is only an additional satiation. In vain they rush frantically round from place to place, trying to escape from the avenging boredom by mere clatter and motion. For them discipline in one form or another is the most hopeful path.
It may also be said that rational, industrious, useful human beings are divided into two classes: first, those whose work is work and whose pleasure is pleasure; and secondly, those whose work and pleasure are one. Of these the former are the majority. They have their compensations. The long hours in the office or the factory bring with them as their reward, not only the means of sustenance, but a keen appetite for pleasure even in its simplest and most modest forms. But Fortune’s favoured children belong to the second class. Their life is a natural harmony. For them the working hours are never long enough. Each day is a holiday, and ordinary holidays when they come are grudged as enforced interruptions in an absorbing vacation. Yet to both classes the need of an alternative outlook, of a change of atmosphere, of a diversion of effort, is essential. Indeed, it may well be that those whose work is their pleasure are those who most need the means of banishing it at intervals from their mind.
1. What does “are toiled” in the 2ndparagraph mean?A.have hobbies | B.feel pleased |
C.work very hard | D.are busy |
A.Being late in life to attempt to cultivate hobbies adds to mental stress. |
B.Great knowledge irrelevant to the daily work can’t guarantee benefit. |
C.Those tired out for a week’s labour are reluctant to play football on weekends. |
D.Unfortunate people need discipline to help them build up hope. |
A.are very willing to work long hours in the office or the factory |
B.earn a large amount of money due to their hard work for a long time |
C.are keen to enjoy the pleasure when they are off duty |
D.usually enjoy themselves in the simplest and most modest forms |
A.The first class are lazy and the second class are bound to succeed. |
B.The second class never need holidays because their life is harmonious. |
C.The minority are more favoured by fortune because they never stop working. |
D.One really needs alternation for a change in order to work better. |
【推荐1】Some children do some housework, such as sweeping the floor, doing dishes, taking out the rubbish and so on.
The logic behind tying rewards to housework is clear.
Many people are in favor of this practice. They believe that getting rewards motivates kids to do housework, and it also teaches them real world lessons about how we need to work to earn money. “Our goal is to encourage kids to earn rewards,” says Chris Bergman, founder of Chore Monster. “
A.But some people think otherwise. |
B.Grownups get paid to do their jobs. |
C.Paying kids is sending a bad message. |
D.In exchange, they get some pocket money. |
E.However, other people subscribe to the view. |
F.Running any kind of household is a team effort. |
G.Kids need positive rewards to help motivate them. |
【推荐2】Cleaning up the table, I caught sight of small round plastic pieces. I discovered they were the tops or covers of color markers I had kept on the table. The only difference was that someone got those covers and chewed them into shapelessness. On another part of the table, I saw the color markers dried up without covers. I was almost sure I knew who had done it and I could not understand the motivation behind his actions.
As I considered my discovery, my frustration and disappointment gradually went away when I remembered that as a child, I did several weird(奇怪的)things that must have bothered my mother. I cut our shoes, I chewed pens and pencils, and I wrote and drew pictures on walls and destroyed many items at home. The mind of a child is curious and explorative, seeking to understand and test the limits of many things. Of course, it can be costly, but what is growing up if no mistakes are made?
We call it paying the school fees of life. If a child plays with a hot iron and it burns them, it is a given that they will not go near the iron again. Sometimes I watch the children in my neighborhood playing dangerous games. Occasionally, I have got myself involved and spoken up, but sometimes I let it pass. Until someone has fallen off his bike, they may not want to be told to stop riding with reckless abandon(毫无顾忌). Until a child has fallen down, they will not listen when asked to get down from the tree. However, wisdom shows that if the behavior is deadly, you should get involved in time.
Creativity is a valuable quality. And this is why we should encourage children to remain innovative rather than be simple recipients of everything they have known and seen. Allow children to make mistakes, but this must be followed with supervision(监督), monitoring, and correction.
1. What happened to the author’s color markers?A.They were stolen. |
B.They were destroyed. |
C.They were thrown away. |
D.They were cleaned by mistake. |
A.Mistakes are unavoidable for children. |
B.Some lessons of life are too painful to bear. |
C.Children often put themselves in danger. |
D.Children can learn from their mistakes. |
A.What is growing up without making mistakes? |
B.How to help children grow up quickly? |
C.How to deal with children’s mistakes? |
D.What really matters in growing up? |
Nowadays in real life, many people have all kinds of bad habits, but getting rid of them takes a bit more effort. Whether they’re “traditional (like biting your nails, snacking on junk food, gossiping, or twirling your hair) or more hi-tech (like texting), bad habits all have one thing in common: They’re hard to break. You can do it, though.
So if you’re ready, gather your willpower, follow these steps, and wave goodbye to that bad habit forever!
Step 1
Make a note every time you engage in your habit. Write down the time and where you are, as well as how you’re feeling. Are you bored, angry, or sad? The more you understand the reason behind your habit, the more control you’ll have over it.
Step 2 Pay attention to when your bad habit pops up.
Do you see any patterns in your journal? Do you always bite your nails before a test? Are you more likely to eat junk food, like chips or candy, when you’re doing your homework? If you notice a pattern of your habit,
Step 3 Replace your bad habit with a good.
Instead of biting your nails or twirling your hair, keep your fingers busy drawing or knitting. If gossip is your problem, challenge yourself to say nice things about people. Each time you substitute your new activity for your old one,
Step 4 Stay focused.
Write down a promise to yourself: “I will stop biting my nails” or “I will stop texting so much”. Make a list of the days of the week, and place a gold star next to each day that you don’t engage in your habit. If you can’t get through a whole day at first,
Step 5 Keep at it.
Maybe you’ve heard the expression “Old habits die hard”? Well, it’s true! It usually takes three weeks to a month to break a bad habit. So if you mess up one day, don’t give up!
Remember, if you put your mind to it, you can do anything—even break that bad, bad habit!
A.Keep a journal for a day (or two). |
B.He has the bad habit of biting his nails. |
C.Just go right back to trying again the next day. |
D.I want to stop, and sometimes I even quit for a day. |
E.you’ll be one step closer to breaking that bad habit. |
F.break each day down into smaller segments of time. |
G.start thinking about ways you can change the pattern. |