When someone has a sharply different viewpoint from our own, we naturally choose two common ways, either avoiding a conversation with that person or trying to convince (说服) them they are wrong. Research shows there is another way: using receptive (接纳性的) language, showing that we are truly interested in a new point of view.
Many of us try to avoid disputed (有争议的) discussions. We prefer to talk with someone with similar opinions. This happens because we usually think that talking to someone who has disagreements will be more unpleasant than it actually is. When we do have to talk with people holding different views, we typically try to convince them to give up their belief because we think we are right and try to “win” the argument. And the other side is likely to think the same way, which leads to even more difficult problems to walk through.
A more effective method is being conversationally receptive. Research shows that when we appear receptive to others’ different views, our arguments sound more convincing. Receptive language can also make those with whom we disagree more receptive in return. It makes us more likable, and others more interested in partnering with us.
Researchers suggested three tips that can help us improve conversational receptiveness in even the most heated disagreements.
Recognize the other person’s point of view. Say “I understand that…or”, “I believe what you’re saying is…” to show that you take an active part in the conversation and find value and even trust in their points.
Hedge your statements. When we talk, we usually hold the opinion that we should be strong and confident and express our views in a direct, forceful way. But if we show that we are not so sure about our belief, our views will be better received.
Express your arguments in an acceptable way. You might say, “Let’s consider the possible benefits of having fewer people working on the project “rather than”, “We should not add more people to the project.” The second sentence sounds unpleasant, showing that the speaker is not open to the possibility of further discussion.
By following these tips in our communication, we’ll be more likely to have an effective conversation and bridge the differences.
A.Why people dislike those with different opinions. |
B.How people convince others to give up their belief. |
C.How people communicate to deal with difficult problems. |
D.Why people use two common ways when facing disagreements. |
A.Effective communication. | B.Creative statements. |
C.Increased confidence. | D.Divided opinions. |
A.Explain your reasons clearly. | B.Raise your questions politely. |
C.Voice your ideas less forcefully. | D.Express your excuses more directly. |
A.To stress the importance of productive communication. |
B.To introduce a better way to deal with disagreements. |
C.To explain the reasons for using receptive language. |
D.To provide three effective tips to win an argument. |
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【推荐1】Teamwork Is the Key to Business Success
Today most businesses are looking for people who are good team players. The ability to work with and get on with other people is so important that many large organizations spend millions of dollars on finding the right people for their business.
At the recent Success in Business Conference, some of Europe’s most successful businessmen told us how they found good team players.
“A good team needs people with different skills and talents. It is good to bring new ideas into the organization. The best people can work with other people and develop ideas with a team. It is important that everyone uses their talents in the business. I look for people who have the skills and talents my business needs, but they must be able to work in a team.”(John Brown, Design Works)
“At interviews I like to bring a group together and look for people who work well in a group. A good team player is usually friendly and easy to talk to. They are also good at listening to other people. They are generous and happy to share their ideas. ”(Lee Chung, Computer World.)
“Most teams need a mixture of people. It is great to have people with ideas but you also need people who get things done on time. A team made up of people that all have the same skills would not work. You need to know what you are looking for.”(Jane Lin, Lin Electricals)
“I look for people who can bring out the best in other people. In a group you can see the people that know how to get a team working together. They understand teams and they can make them work. A good team is the key to success.”(Jim Khan, Northern Bank)
Everyone agreed that teamwork is the key to business success!
1. What’s the topic of this passage?A.Many businessmen are good team players. |
B.Teamwork is sure to make people rich. |
C.Teamwork can make business successful. |
D.Teamwork can make people beautiful. |
A.who are hard-working | B.who are good at sports |
C.who work well in a team | D.who studied well at college |
A.Two. | B.Three. | C.Four. | D.Five. |
A.developing new goods | B.opening up a new market |
C.training their employees | D.looking for suitable employees |
A.He is friendly and easy to talk to. | B.He can bring out the best in other people. |
C.He is hard-working but doesn’t like to talk. | D.He is a good listener and happy to share his ideas. |
【推荐2】① Sixty-eight cultural relics (文物) that were recently returned to China were warmly welcomed by Chinese people.
② The relics, which were smuggled (走私) to the United Kingdom in the past, arrived in Beijing on Oct 20. These relics include a number of fine works of art such as plates and teacups. Dating back to a time lasting from the Spring and Autumn Period to the Qing Dynasty (朝代), they come from many different provinces, including Fujian, Hebei and Guizhou.
③ Back in 1995, British police found these relies while investigating (调查) an international relic-smuggling group. After learning of the discovery, China set up a special working group to bring the items home.
④ However, a local buyer of the relics didn’t agree to return them, so British police held the relics for 25 years. But communication between the Chinese and British governments never stopped.
⑤ In January, the British police told China that the local buyer was missing and that the relics therefore had no owner. The UK offered to return the relics to China, Global Times noted.
⑥ In the history, it has not been easy to fight the crime of cultural relic smuggling, but this time it was successful. The return is a successful example of cooperation (合作) between China and the UK in fighting cultural relic smuggling under the 1970 Convention (公约) which requires its members to take action to protect relics.
⑦ Not only is the 1970 Convention helping cultural relics return to their countries, China is also taking action. Over the past 20 years, China has worked to protect and recover cultural relics. In recent years, it has become more common for people to purchase cultural relics and give them to museums for free. For example, a famous Chinese businessman Stanley Ho purchased Qing Dynasty bronze statues in 2003 and 2007 and then donated them to the National Museum of China.
1. According to the first three paragraphs, the 68 cultural relics ________.A.were sold online to the UK | B.arrived in Beijing on Oct 20 |
C.are fine works of art from two dynasties | D.will be returned to different provinces later |
A.保护 | B.制作 | C.购买 | D.发现 |
A.The History of Chinese Relics |
B.The Return of Smuggled Cultural Relics to China |
C.The Role of the UK in Protecting Cultural Relics |
D.The Famous Relics of the National Museum of China |
A.①②/③④⑤⑥/⑦ | B.①②/③④⑤/⑥⑦ |
C.①/②③④/⑤⑥⑦ | D.①/②③/④⑤⑥⑦ |
【推荐3】How does it feel when someone listens to you without stopping or giving their opinion? This is called active listening and it’s a great way to understand other people’s feelings and build trust between friends.
The meaning of active listening
Active listening means trying to understand how someone feels by listening carefully to what they’re saying and by paying attention to their body language (how their face and body express their feelings). The Week Junior reader Annie, aged 11, explains what it means to her. “When my friends tell me something important, I listen to what they’re trying to say. I can tell by their voices and the looks on their faces if they’re upset or happy. This makes me feel like I understand them better.”
The ________ of being active listeners
Listening closely to someone without stopping or giving your own opinion shows that you’re interested in what they’re saying, even if you don’t agree. This helps to avoid mistakes and arguments and can make friendship strong. Samaritans is a charity that supports people by listening to their worries. It says, “Really listening to people makes them feel valued and understood, and being able to listen well to others helps you be someone who others feel they can turn to and trust.”
The ways to be active listeners
Listen carefully to what your friend is saying, and avoid jumping in with your own thoughts and feelings. If you really want to talk, Samaritans suggests making a listening sign like nodding your head instead. Ask questions or say things that need more than a yes or no answer, like “Tell me more”. Try looking for more information about how they’re feeling in their faces and bodies too. “Active listening is a skill and it takes practice,” says Samaritans, “but don’t give up, and remember you can only do your best.”
1. The writer explains what active listening is by ________.A.telling a story | B.asking questions |
C.giving an example | D.sharing numbers |
A.reasons | B.feelings | C.language | D.support |
A.Express your ideas freely. |
B.Never ask questions or say anything. |
C.Nod your head when you want to share your opinions. |
D.Feel others’ feelings only by listening to what they say. |
A.travel | B.technology | C.business | D.life |
A. When You Believe tells you that when you meet difficulties in life, you can make it as long as you believe it. Whenever you want to give up, it provides you with strength and love. B. Sounds of Silence is a 1960s folk song sung by Simon & Garfunkel. The melody (旋律) is slow and the lyrics are beautiful. The song may comfort you when you’re helpless. C. Sugar is a song full of a sweet feeling of love. It gives its fans a pleasantly surprising gift, with its light music style and the wonderful MV by Maroon 5. D. Take Me Home, Country Road. Whenever it is sung, people are brought back to the beauty of their hometown as well as the happy old times. E. Auld Lang Syne is a poem at first, and later changed into a song. Students like to sing it at the farewell party to recall the old times and show their best wishes for the future. F. Don’t cry is a great song sung by Gun N’ Roses. It’s a well-known rock music for people to dance. The most special part is its exciting melody, which can greatly encourage people. G. Valder Fields is a folk song popular worldwide. Its soft and warm music might remind you of the wind of spring and make you joyful and happy. |
【推荐2】The moon is about 384,000 kilometers away from the earth. A plane can not fly to the moon because the air reaches only 240 kilometers away from the earth. But something can fly even when there is no air. That is a rocket.
Rockets can fly far out into space. Rockets with men inside have already reached the moon. Several rockets without men inside them have been sent to other worlds much further away. Chang’e III Lander (着陆器) and Yutu rover (月球车) have taken pictures of each other near midnight on Dec, 15, 2013, which marked the complete success of China’s III Lunar mission.
I am sure that you are asking “How does a rocket fly?” If you want to know more, get a balloon and then blows it up, until it is quite big. Do not tie up the neck of the balloon, and let it go. The air inside the balloon tries to get out. It rushes out through the neck of the balloon and this pushes the balloon flying off through the air very quickly. This is how a rocket works. Of course, the rocket is made of metal. The metal must not be heavy but it must be very strong. There is gas inside the rocket, which is made very hot. When the hot gas rushes out of the end of the rocket, the rocket is pushed up into the air. The jet velocity (喷射速度) is always faster than the flying speed.
Several rockets without men in them have flown to another planet much farther away than the moon. One day rockets may be able to go to any place in space.
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1. The underlined word “Lunar” in the passage means “_________” in Chinese.
A.绕太阳 | B.绕地球 | C.绕月亮 |
A.the jet velocity is slower than the flying speed |
B.the flying speed is slower than the jet velocity |
C.the jet velocity is due to the height of the rocket |
a. The air rushes out of the balloon.
b. The air is blown into the balloon.
c. Let the balloon go without tying up its neck.
d. The balloon flies off through the air quickly.
A.c-b-a-d | B.b-c-a-d | C.b-a-c-d |
A.Planes can not go anywhere without air, but a rocket can. |
B.Some rockets without men in them have flown to other planets. |
C.A balloon can fly when the air rushes into the balloon. |
A.The size of the moon |
B.The introduction of the rocket |
C.How to get to the moon |
【推荐3】The number of people worldwide who have died of COVID-19 has passed one million, researchers say, with many regions(地区) still reporting the growing number. The report by Johns Hopkins University shows that deaths in the US, Brazil and India make up nearly half of that. Experts warn that the true fact is probably much higher.
“Yet we don’t want to lose every single life, ” he said in a video message. “They were fathers and mothers, wives and husbands, brothers and sisters, friends and colleagues. The pain has caused so much serious situation by this disease.”
The disease has spread to 195 countries with more than 60 million confirmed cases. The economy(经济) of many countries has descended so much that millions of workers lost their jobs.
Meanwhile, many countries have developed an effective vaccine(疫苗) but the World Health Organization(WHO) has warned that the death toll(死亡人数) could hit two million before one is widely available.
Choose the right answer according to the passage.
1. We know that the death in the US, Brazil and India probably has taken up more than ________ in the real life.
A.10% | B.30% | C.50% | D.40% |
A.improve | B.reduce | C.succeed | D.fail |
A.disease | B.virus | C.economy | D.vaccine |
A.Fathers and mothers. | B.Wives and husbands. |
C.Sons and fathers. | D.Brothers and sisters. |
A.newspaper | B.guidebook | C.storybook | D.sports magazine |