1 . I grew up with my identical twin. One thing about being a ________ is that it makes you an expert in spotting favoritism (偏爱). If his cookie was slightly bigger than mine, I was ________ although I wasn’t hungry.

When I became a psychologist, I began to ________ how much more we ________ the body than we do the mind. I spent nine years earning my doctorate (博士学位) in psychology, and I can’t tell you how many people look at my business card and say, “Oh — a psychologist. So, not a ________ doctor.” This favoritism we show the body over the mind can be seen everywhere.

I was at my friends’ house, and their five-year-old was standing on a stool (凳子), brushing his teeth. His skin on his leg was ________ when he fell from the stool. He immediately ________ for a box of Band-Aids to put one on his cut. This kid could ________ tie his shoelaces, but he knew he had to ________ a cut. We all know how to look after our physical health. But what about our psychological health? Well, nothing.

We ________ psychological injuries even more often than we do physical ones, injuries like failure or loneliness. However, we often ________ them. Even though there are scientific techniques to ________psychological injuries, we don’t. “Oh, you’re feeling depressed? Just ________; it’s all in your head.” Can you imagine saying that to somebody with a broken ________: “Oh, just walk it off.”

It’s time we made our physical and our psychological ________ more equal, more like twins.

2 . Delivery driver Alan Moncayo had his 5-year-old daughter Sabrina along with him when he took lunch to an animal shelter in Lorton, Va., on a recent Saturday.

As Moncayo approached the shelter, he ________ a sweet-looking dog staring at him through the window. The sight of the dog ________ him of his previous one, Rusty. “They’re ________,” said Moncayo. “Rusty was exactly the same build.” Although his daughter had been ________ him to get a dog, Moncayo said, “being a delivery driver, it’s not in my ________ to pay for a dog.” But this dog really drew him in.

Shelter staff introduced Moncayo and Sabrina to Jihoo, a 6-year-old 65-pound pit bull mix (比特犬混种). “Since big dogs were ________ more difficult to adopt out,” said Rebecca Cavedon, the manager, “Jihoo remained at the ________ for longer than usual. He’s just an amazingly gentle, sweet, kind boy.” It only took a few minutes for Moncayo and his ________ to feel the same way about Jihoo. Moncayo decided that the dog was ________ to be theirs. “It was like an ________ space in my heart that just needed to be made full,” Moncayo said. “Now it’s ________ so much love for our beautiful new dog.”

After ________ paperwork and completing consultation with shelter staff, Moncayo ________ the dog that day.

So far, Jihoo has been adjusting well to his new home and family. “He brought joy and ________ into our lives,” said Moncayo. “We feel like a(n) ________ family now,” he added.

3 . During Thanksgiving dinner, my grandmother would ask us to share a story of a person we were grateful to during the past year. And then she would ask, “Did you ________ that person?” She encouraged us to show our gratitude by our ________.

I will always remember the warm and happy ________ I had as a child, the miracle of being at my grandmother’s Thanksgiving table, eating her food, and listening to those I ________ tell what they were thankful for. I believe it made a big ________ in my life. It helped all of us shift from being ________ focused to being externally focused.

When I got married and Jesselie and I started our own Thanksgiving ________, a few memories ________. We used to live in Piedmont, California when our children were still young. To give Jesselie time to ________ the dinner without ________, I took the children over to San Francisco to look at the beautiful holiday windows. Our children have always remembered that ________, and Jesselie has never ________ that Thanksgiving dinner because as we sat down to a cornucopia (丰富) of ________, including Williamsburg sweet potato pudding and sausage stuffing, our children said, “Can we just go to get a hamburger instead?”

I hope all of us can start a new tradition — a tradition of assessing our lives and actions, ________ our unconscious biases (偏见), and committing to be more ________ and better appreciate our differences.

4 . When I was 15, my mother and I immigrated to a small town in Texas, America. My English was ________ even for simple conversations, making me struggle both socially and ________ at school. We lived below the poverty line and my American stepfather subjected my mother and me to a lot of ________, causing my mother to be hospitalized for severe depression. Not long after I turned 18, I ________ our small apartment. In the following months, I went to the small local ________, working part-time jobs to fund my studies. At night I couch surfed at friends’ places. I ________ worried about my next meal and where I was going to spend the night. Despite great hardship, I never lost ________, hoping for a bright future.

Finally, I could ________ my own life: When I was 19, I managed to transfer (转入) to a larger university, where my mother joined me. During a department social, I got to know something called ________. I contacted every professor in the department asking for a research ________ until one took me on. At age 20, I was excited to see the theories I learned in the classroom ________. Interacting with graduate students who seemed quite smart and knowledgeable inspired my own desire to pursue a ________ in research. I seized every opportunity to ________ research experience at various institutions and in a range of disciplines.

I’m now 6 years into my Ph.D. program and ________ what I’ve done. Reflecting on how I got here, I ________ that a desire to learn and willingness to put in the necessary effort can really make a difference.

7 . Dad had been a lumberjack (伐木工). As the years passed on, he became angry whenever he couldn’t do something he had done as a(n) _________ man. Four days after his sixty-seventh birthday, Dad had a heart attack and was_________ into an operating room. He survived. But his passion for life was_______.

My husband, Dick, and I invited Dad to live with us on our small farm. We hoped the fresh _________air would help him adjust. Within a week after he moved in, I_________. He complained at everything I did. I called a mental health center that recommended an article describing a group of patients under treatment for_________. Yet their health had improved greatly when given_________ for a dog.

I drove to the animal shelter that afternoon and back home with a dog.

When I reached the house, I helped my_________ out of the car and said “Dad! Look what I got for you!” Dad looked, then pulled a face. “If I had wanted a dog, I would have picked a better one. Keep it to yourself!” Anger rose _________ me. “You’d better get used to him, Dad. He’s staying!”

Dad just ignored me, when suddenly the dog__________ my dad and sat down. Then slowly, he raised his paw...Dad remained silent. The dog waited __________. Then Dad was on his knees __________the animal.

It was the__________of a warm and loving friendship. Dad and the pet were__________throughout the next three years. Dad’s bitterness__________ , and they made many friends.

10 . My daughter, Stella, had a surgery that left her with casts (石膏) on both legs and a bar between them. So it’s impossible for her to wear _________ pants. Doctors told me that she would have to wear long dresses for three months while she _________. But Stella didn’t like long dresses, so I _________ to make her a special pair of pants. Using a pair of brightly colored pajama (睡衣) bottoms, I took them apart. It was a simple _________, but it was a “game changer” for my daughter.

When the doctor saw what Stella was wearing, he was pleased and said to me, “Many parents ask us all the time what to _________ their children in, and you _________ solved that problem.” When I told my friend Joanne DiCamillo what the doctor said, she was shocked. She was just really _________ by that. She thought it was just something that was _________ from the market.

It was there that our company was _________. But with neither of us having __________ experience, we enlisted the help of a third mom: DiCamillo’s mother, who is a tailor. We three women worked together, eventually making our adaptive clothing after __________ with medical experts.

Our dream is that in five years, our adaptive clothes will be __________ in stores and be sold alongside traditional clothes. DiCamillo noted that __________ buyers are not limited to just children with disabilities, but adults with disabilities. Like any mother, I want my daughter to grow up to be __________. I made a promise to Stella to do anything in my __________ to give her that freedom—no matter what.