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For many parents, raising a teenager is like fighting a long war, but years go by without any clear winner. Like a     1     conflict between neighboring countries, the parent-teen war is about     2    : Where is the line between what I control and what you do?

Both sides want peace, but neither feels it has any power to stop the conflict. In part, this is because neither is willing to any responsibility for starting it. From the parents' point of view, the only     3     of their fight is their adolescents' complete unreasonableness. And of course, the teens see it in exactly the same way, except oppositely. Both feel trapped.

In this article, I'll describe three no-win situations that commonly     4     between teens and parents and then suggest some ways out of the trap. The first no-win situation is quarrels over     5     things. Examples include the color of the teen's hair, the cleanliness of the bedroom, the preferred style of clothing, the child's failure to eat a good breakfast before school, or his     6     to sleep until noon on the weekends. Second, blaming. The goal of a blaming battle is to make the other admit that his bad     7     is the reason why everything goes wrong. Third, needing to be right. It doesn't matter what the topic is--politics, the laws of physics, or the proper way to break an egg--the     8     of these arguments is to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong, for both wish to be considered an authority--someone who actually knows something--and therefore to     9     respect. Unfortunately, as long as parents and teens continue to     10     that they know more than the other, they'll continue to fight these battles forever and never make any real progress.

2 . Directions: Fill in each blank with a proper word chosen from the box. Each word can be used only once. Note that there is one word more than you need.

Old Friends, Good Friends

More than 30 years ago, when I took my first job in New York City, I found myself working with a number of young women. Some I got to know just in passing, but others gradually became my friends. Today, six of these women remain an important part of my life. They are more than simply friends, more even than close friends. They are old friends, as essential as sunshine and more dear to me than ever. These people share a long     1     history with me.   In fact, old friends are a lot like promises. They put     2     into the uncertainty of life and establish a link between the past, present, and future.

The attachment between friends who have known each other for many years is     3     to be complex. On occasion we are exceedingly close, and at other times one or both of us     4     step back. Rise and fall. Thick and thin. How smoothly and gently we negotiate these hills and valleys has everything to do with how well the friendship     5    

Sometimes events intervene (干预) in a way that requires us to rework the term of a relationship. A friend starts a second career. Let's say, and suddenly has less free time. Another remarries, adding someone new to the equation. Talk honestly and listen to each other to find out if the other’s needs are being     6    . Renegotiating pays     7     to life’s inevitable changes and says that we consider our friendships worthy of preserving.

Old friends are familiar with the layers of our lives. They have been there in the gloom (阴暗) and the     8    . Even so, there's always     9     to know more about another person. Of course, self-disclosure can make even old friends more vulnerable, so go slowly: Sharing the one world can open new doors, but only if we     10     first.

Time is the prime commodity between old friends --- by this I mean the time spent doing things together. Whether it's face to face over a cup of coffee, side by side while jogging, ear to ear over the phone, or via email and letters, don't let too much time go by without sharing your thoughts with each other.