1 . Do you think you need to shout at yourself to force yourself to finish your homework? If so, think again.
Self-compassion is the practice of being kind and supportive to ourselves. The opposite is being self-critical and mean to ourselves when we make a mistake.
A 2017 study found people who practice self-compassion tend to handle stress better. Their bodies have less of a stress response when, for example, they meet with difficulties at work or school.
With practice, we can learn to treat ourselves with kindness and unconditional love — not tough love.
A.So how do we develop self-compassion? |
B.It may be more effective to be kind to yourself. |
C.It includes letting go of your strict self-criticism. |
D.Mindfulness is the key to practicing self-compassion. |
E.But this approach does not make us feel or perform better. |
F.They have more confidence to look for areas where they can improve. |
G.Also, show ourselves kindness in ways that nourish (滋养) our spirit and body. |
2 . We have all heard that if you talk to yourself, you’re crazy,
My first exposure to positive self-talk was reading The Little Engine That Could. Do you remember that book from your childhood? While trying to make it up a big hill, the little engine keeps saying to himself, “I think I can, I think I can.” And of course, he makes it.
Positive self-talk is one of the most valuable tools you can use to keep yourself physically and mentally balanced. Many Olympic and professional athletes use it every time they practice or compete.
Positive self-talk can also help you calm down from anxiety and feel less sad. There was a period of time when I felt upset. Every morning, I woke up and said to myself, “Hi, Barton. You’re going to have a good day today.”
A.In fact, that’s not always the case. |
B.Much to my surprise, I was just fine |
C.It’s a valuable lesson for us to learn and remember. |
D.Instead, there are several different types of self-talk. |
E.You know, I was programming my brain to feel good. |
F.When it comes to positive self-talk, the simpler, the better. |
G.That was an opportunity for me to try something challenging. |
3 . Speaking of self-improvement, perhaps you want to become more productive, read more books, take regular exercise or learn something new.
Observe your emotional reactions.
Our emotions can often overwhelm (击败) us and make us behave in ways we’d rather not. The first step in dealing with your emotions is to recognize your current feelings.
Develop a way to express your emotions.
Chris Martin, the singer-songwriter and frontman of the band Coldplay, once said, “You've got to express yourself in life, and it's better out than in. What you reveal, you heal.”
Sometimes emotions can be overwhelming even if you undertake all other steps to manage them. In this case, the only left option is to find a therapist (治疗师). Many successful, respected people like J. K. Rowling, Emma Stone, and Michael Phelps all promote therapy’s benefits. Turning to these professionals is one of the best ways to improve yourself. These trained professionals can provide guidance and support when it comes to coping with your emotions.
A.Work with a licensed therapist. |
B.Receive professional training as therapists. |
C.This can feel incredibly uncomfortable at first. |
D.There are so many ways to let out your emotions. |
E.Remember you can’t manage what you don't know. |
F.It will help you improve your concentration. |
G.Have you thought of learning to control your emotions? |