When I was a young boy, I lost my mother and father. As     1     a person without a father or mother life was difficult for me and I was often lonely. l lived in a home with other children and my bedroom was     2     empty with few toys or things to enjoy.

Although I married eventually and had my own children, I always felt sad thinking about my parents. One day I got a letter in the post. It said it was from my sister! I was     3     shocked to read this and as it had never been     4     told to me that had other family members. The letter said my sister would like to meet me and told me the time and place to go.

On the day I met her, l arrived at her home. It was a beautiful old house with blue walls and white     5     window coverings. As I went up the garden path, the door was flung open by a woman who looked just like my mother! At first I was     6     stuck in one place with shock but she     7     jumped into my arms and we hugged. It was such a special moment that I found myself     8     crying with joy.

My sister said she too was unaware that she had a brother but that she had     9     looked into our family history in the past year and found my name. Knowing that I have a sister gives me so much comfort as I have a connection to the past.

2 . To tease apart these features of emotion regulation, Varma designed an experimental situation in which they put participants into an “emotion induction (引导)” treatment. Participants read a story that was intended to cause a negative emotion such as a hit-and-run car accident or the death of your dog.

It is bad for your health to get angry in life, but how can you control your anger? Here are some ways to deal with it.

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If you expect too much and can't get it, you will be disappointed. So change what you want and need, and you are less likely to become angry.

Think of the other person—try and understand his or her position.

Why are they behaving like that? How would you feel if you were in their shoes? Can you agree to their reasons for being angry? Once you see things from their point of view, your anger many be replaced by concern (关心).

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When you get angry, take a deep breath and stop the thoughts that are making you angry. Think of something happy instead, something you like and enjoy. Your anger will gradually become less.

Surround yourself with positive people.

The more people around you show that they are calm and happy, the calmer and happier you become too.

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Imagine doing something terrible to the person who is annoying you and change your anger into your imagination. Then you are free to act calmly and reasonably on the surface.