1 . Eyes can speak

Much meaning can be conveyed, clearly, with our eyes, so it is often said that eyes can speak.     1    In a bus you may look at a stranger, but not for too long. And if he senses that you are staring at him, he may feel uncomfortable.

The same is true in our daily life. If you are stared at for more than necessary, you will look at yourself up and down to see if there is anything wrong with you.     2    Eyes do speak, right?

Looking too long at someone may seem to be rude and aggressive.     3    If a man stares at a woman for more than 10 seconds and refuses to look away from her, his intentions are obvious. He wishes to attract her attention and let her know that he is admiring her.

However, when two people are engaged in a conversation, the speaker will only look into the listener’s eyes from time to time to make sure that the listener does pay attention to what the former is speaking.     4    If a speaker looks at you continuously when speaking as if trying to control you, you will feel awkward. A poor liar usually exposes himself by looking too long at the victim. He wrongly believes that looking straight in the eye is a sign of honest communication.     5    

Actually, eye contact should be made based on specific relationships and situations.

3 . Making friends is a skill. Like most skills, it improves with practice. If you want to meet people and make friends, you must be willing to _______some action. You must first go where there are people. You won’t make friends staying home _______.

Join a club or group. Talking with those who like the same things as you do is much easier. Or join someone _______some activity.

Many people are nervous when talking to new people. _______all, meeting strangers means_______the unknown. And it’s human nature to _______a bit uncomfortable about the unknown.

Most of our fears about dealing with new people come from doubts about_______. We imagine other people are judging us, finding us too tall or too short, too this or too that, but don’t forget that they must be feeling the same way. Try to accept yourself as you are, and try to put the other person at ease. You’ll both feel more comfortable.

Try to act as self-confident even if you don’t feel that way when you _______a room full of strangers, such as a new classroom, walk tall and straight, look directly _______other people and smile.

If you see someone you’d like to speak to, say something. Don’t wait for the other person to start a conversation.

Just meeting someone new does not mean that you will ________friends with that person. Friendship is based on mutual(相互的) liking and “give and take”. It takes time and effort to develop. And there are things that keep a new friendship from growing.

5 . Friendship is a gift of God. But it may be taken for granted in some cases and not valued.     1    Say one has no child even after many years of marriage and the other has many children, more than they can manage. What do you think? Will the couple with many children value the children as much as the couple which has none? Everything is relative in life. We value what we don’t have and give less value to what is freely available to us.    2    

Why should we value friendships? What qualities does a good friend bring to our relationship that makes the friendship so valuable? Let us examine some of these.

Judgement——A good friend is rarely judgemental. We can be open in our behaviour with our good friends because we know that they will not judge us.     3     With other people our actions and behavior are always calculated and guarded and that takes away lots of pleasure from our life.

Share sorrow and losses ——A friend can be depended upon to share all our problems and sorrows.     4    Once I saw the image of a man left alone in a village after an earthquake. The whole village got killed except this man with whom, will this man share his sorrow? A friend gives us this gift.

Hope——During our times of trouble, only a friend comes forward and gives us encouragement and hope.     5