1 . When my daughter Sara was in the fifth grade, she came to me with a problem. “Marcy hates me!” she cried “Because Kathy is my friend, too. She wants me to be her friend and nobody else’s. You talk to Marcy. You tell her that I want to be her friend, but I can have other friends, too!”
Oh! I looked at her for a few moments, wondering how I got into this mess (困境), when suddenly an idea came to me.
Picking up two baskets from the living room, I explained, “When everyone is born, he or she has a little basket. This little one here is yours. The big one is mine. As you grow, so does the basket. You can see your little basket is inside mine because when you were born, there were too many things you couldn’t do for yourself. I did everything you couldn’t do on your own.”
She nodded.
“Well, as you grew older and began to do some things on your own, I began placing a few more things in your basket. When you learned to tie your shoes, that went in your basket.”
She said softly, “I can tie my own shoes.”
“Right. As you grow older, there will be more and more things you must do on your own.” As I spoke, I gradually took her basket out of mine and handed it to her. “You will finally carry your own basket with things only you can do.”
She looked up at me and said, “I understand. There are some things that I have to do by myself because they are in my basket.”
1. What did the author feel when she heard her daughter’s problem?| A．Angry. | B．Crazy. | C．Proud | D．Helpless. |
| A．She didn’t have a basket. | B．She didn’t want her own basket. |
| C．She couldn’t deal with (处理) her friendship. | D．Her mother was too hard on her. |
| A．gifts given by God when everyone is born | B．something that people use to keep vegetables |
| C．growing abilities as you grow up | D．friendship that needs repairing |
| A．would talk to Marcy herself | B．wouldn’t make friends with Kathy |
| C．was too young to deal with (处理) anything | D．managed to persuade her mother to help her |
2 . Meeting people is the first step to make friends. But how do you actually become friends with someone? Here are some useful tips.
1. Make small talk even if you don’t feel like it
Small talk can feel false and meaningless. But it does have a purpose. By making small talk, you show that you’re friendly and open to communicating. In that way, small talk helps you to make the first connection with potential new friends. If someone doesn’t make any small talk, we might assume that they don’t want to make friends with us, that they don’t like us, or that they’re in a bad mood.
2. Figure out what you might have in common
When you talk to someone new and realize that you have things in common, the conversation usually goes from stiff to fun and interesting. Therefore, make it a habit to find out if you have any mutual interests or something in common. You can do this by mentioning things that interest you and seeing how they react.
3. Don’t write people off until you know them
Don’t judge people too quickly. Try not to assume that they are shallow, boring, or that you have nothing to talk about. If everyone seems uninterested, it might be because you keep getting stuck in small talk. If you only make small talk, everyone sounds shallow.
4. Make people like being around you
When you try to make people like you, it will become easier for you to make friends. When you make sure that people like being around you, they will like you. If we are with someone with a positive experience, we like that person more.
1. What is the purpose of small talk?| A．To show that you are in a good mood. |
| B．To show you have something in common. |
| C．To show you are friendly and want to talk. |
| D．To show you are a potential new friend. |
| A．Because you don’t have a deep chat with them. |
| B．Because they have nothing in common with you. |
| C．Because you don’t make a small talk with them. |
| D．Because you don’t like to make friends with them. |
| A．To avoid being stuck in small talk. |
| B．To judge people by what they do. |
| C．To stay with people with a positive experience. |
| D．To make people willing to stay with you. |
“Jennifer, do you hike? It’s about three miles in total,” one of the women asked. Three miles. I wasn’t sure how long that was, partly because I didn’t actually hike. I was somewhat familiar with the area where they planned to go, but our family had just moved from Oregon to Arizona. I wondered if hiking could be much different from walking.
After this relocation for my husband’s career, making friends was not as simple for me as it was for him. He came to the community for a full-time position at a busy university. I was enormously grateful for the ease of the transition (过渡) for my family, but nervous for myself. I wondered if and when I would also feel a sense of belonging. So, when I received a hiking invitation from the women I wanted to befriend, I accepted it.
The next day, when I arrived at the appointed place a little earlier, another three women had been standing there waiting.
“Hey, Jennifer, I’m glad you came to hike,” the woman said cheerfully and hugged me. I was already sweaty. She offered me a lightweight backpack for my water and had brought me an extra bottled water. When the others joined us, we started walking to the park. We naturally broke into two groups of two and walked rapidly along the sidewalk to the base of the mountain in North Glendale. I was a little out of breath before we even started going uphill.
“So, where did you hike in Oregon?” another woman asked.
“Well, uh, I mainly walked a lot. We lived in the suburbs, so we were in a neighborhood in southwest Portland with sidewalks, and…”
Again, the woman saved me by saying, “There are all kinds of hikes around here. Hey, let’s do this one today…” And she led us on a path that I guess was about three miles. I later learned it was one of the easier paths. We hiked and talked about our families, jobs, and dogs. We shared concerns about our kids in school with sports, grades, or significant others.
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That day, I became a hiker and learned more about my new friends.
___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________I still hike with my “hiking friends” and they gave me lots of thoughts.
___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________4 . It’s common to assume that friendships just happen or develop automatically, but that isn’t always the case. While certain people do “click”, and there’s even some support for friendship at first sight, or “friendship chemistry” all relationships require time, effort, and follow-up.
●Stay true to your word and follow through on any promises made.
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●Gradually share pieces of important or personal information. The process of self-disclosure is how we build trust in relationships. That said, when pursuing a new friendship, don’t want to go overboard and spill your deepest, darkest secrets right away. Start small with stories or insights into your thoughts and feelings.
●Finally, make sure you’re both putting equal effort into the friendship. Good friendships are characterized by reciprocity (互惠) and equality. Close friends don’t keep score, and things tend to balance out overtime, but it helps to work toward and establish a balance early on.
| A．We only have so much to give |
| B．Make time for shared experiences |
| C．Above all, be kind to and patient with yourself |
| D．And be sure to show an interest in the other person |
| E．If you say you will call or offer to arrange plans, do so |
| F．There is no one-size-fits-all approach to making friends |
| G．Start small by greeting a familiar face and build from there |
5 . Have you ever had to wait in line at a store and found yourself avoiding eye contact, whether with employees or other customers? You may hope it is easier to meet new people or feel at ease at a party.
●Stop worrying about the outcome.
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Remember that being true to yourself is more important than what strangers think. Who you are is no less important than who anyone else is. Every person has their own story and journey, and yours is just as important as anyone else’s.
●Don’t share too much too quickly.
It can sometimes be easy to share a little too much information about yourself, especially if you are excited or anxious when engaging with strangers.
| A．Share your important stories. |
| B．This helps to advance your friendship. |
| C．Don’t care what strangers may think of you. |
| D．So be proud of yourself and be honest with yourself. |
| E．Learning to talk to strangers can be challenging but fun. |
| F．But oversharing information may lead to an uncomfortable situation. |
| G．A conversation is a common way to start a relationship with strangers. |
6 . When we think of a grocery store, we usually picture aisles of food and everyday necessities. But sometimes, it’s also where unexpected
Ellie Walker,
It was during one of these
This revelation
Edwin had lost his wife in 2006 after 45 years of marriage. His family, including a daughter and grandchildren, lived in Australia, making it
Upset about Edwin’s situation. Ellie decided to
“I thought, if it was my granddad and he was alone, I would want someone to talk to him.” Ellie’s invitation to Edwin was more than just a kind
From that memorable Christmas dinner, a beautiful friendship
Their relationship, which started with
| A．techniques | B．bonds | C．ideas | D．steps |
| A．candidate | B．participant | C．employee | D．volunteer |
| A．planned | B．meant | C．argued | D．anticipated |
| A．routine | B．positive | C．bitter | D．amusing |
| A．agreed | B．revealed | C．requested | D．debated |
| A．charged | B．outgrew | C．struck | D．overlooked |
| A．cautious | B．impossible | C．competitive | D．sympathetic |
| A．lonely | B．warm | C．shared | D．delightful |
| A．extend | B．command | C．discipline | D．assign |
| A．allow | B．beg | C．remind | D．create |
| A．fear | B．prejudice | C．gesture | D．temptation |
| A．conducted | B．stressed | C．blossomed | D．remembered |
| A．company | B．comfort | C．entertainment | D．leisure |
| A．delicate | B．casual | C．difficult | D．potential |
| A．put about | B．taken in | C．struggled for | D．grown into |
7 . When friendships fall apart, it can feel like it’s impossible to repair them.
Start by calling or writing a note to communicate one message: “Our friendship is valuable to me, and I miss you. Is there any way to settle what stands between us?” This simple step is a way to open the doors to reconciliation (和解). Set the ground to see if your friend is willing to seek solutions as well.
Forgive as best you can.
It’s tough to let go if you’ve been wronged. Feeling the need for revenge (报复) is natural. However, the problem with revenge is that it could become a bad cycle. How can you stop this? By forgiving.
Find out the problem.
Finding out what went wrong is important. Don’t pretend there is no problem.
Rebuild respect.
The final step is to rebuild respect.
| A．Say sorry honestly. |
| B．It puts an end to all. |
| C．Make meaningful contact. |
| D．Get to the bottom of it together and move forward. |
| E．Some broken friendships may just remain that way. |
| F．If hurt, think about your friend’s most admirable qualities. |
| G．Repaired relationships give us new ideas on our experiences. |
8 . For lots of kids, toddlerhood (幼儿期) is an important time for friendship. Studies show that the earlier kids learn to form positive relationships, the better they are at relating to others as teenagers and adults. Playing together also helps these kids practice social behaviors, such as kindness, sharing, and cooperation.
Even so, how quickly your child develops into a social creature may also depend on his temperament(性格). Some toddler s are very social, but others are shy. In addition, the way that toddlers demonstrate that they like other children is markedly different from what adults think of as expressions of friendship. Research at Ohio State University in Columbus found that a toddler’s way of saying “I like you” during play is likely to come in the form of copying a friend’s behavior.
This seemingly unusual way of demonstrating fondness can result in unpleasant behavior. Regardless of how much they like a playmate, they may still grab his toys, refuse to share, and get bossy. But experts say that this is a normal and necessary part of friendship for kids this age. Through play experiences, toddlers learn social rules. That’s why it’s so important to take an active role in your toddler’s social encounters by setting limits and offering frequent reminders of what they are. When you establish these guidelines, explain the reasons behind them.
Begin by helping your child learn sympathy (“Ben is crying. What’s making him so sad?”), then suggest how he could resolve the problem (“Maybe he would feel better if you let him play the ball.”). When your child shares or shows empathy(同理心) toward a friend, praise him (“Ben stopped crying! You made him feel better.”).
Another way to encourage healthy social interaction is by encouraging kids to use words- not fists-to express how they feel. It’s also important to be mindful of how your child’s personality affects playtime. Kids are easy to get angry when they’re sleepy or hungry, so schedule playtime when they’re refreshed.
1. What does it indicate when toddlers copy their playmates’ behavior?| A．They are interested in acting. | B．They are shy with the strangers. |
| C．They are fond of their playmates. | D．They are tired of playing games. |
| A．Design games for them. | B．Find them suitable playmates. |
| C．Play together with them. | D．Help them understand social rules. |
| A．Giving examples. | B．Explaining concepts. |
| C．Providing evidence. | D．Making comparisons. |
| A．How Children Adapt to Changes | B．How to Be a Role Model for Children |
| C．How Your Baby Learns to Love | D．How to Communicate with Your Kid |
9 . If you are struggling with social anxiety, and don’t know how to find good friends, you can use the following important ways to meet new people.
A bookstore is a great place to get to know people with a true sense of curiosity. Meeting new people in the bookstore is lovely because your conversations have depth. You can talk about the different stories you’ve read.
Go traveling
Traveling is one of the most adventurous ways to meet other people. People will be in a good mood, particularly when traveling for a vacation, which opens up chances to meet new people in a happy way.
Attend a music festival
If you love songs, attending a music festival is the perfect choice for you. In this way, you really can’t escape meeting new people since you’re surrounded by hundreds or even thousands of people in one place, enjoying the live music.
Take a course
There’s no better way of making new friends and meeting people than taking a course. You can take a course such as learning a skill.
| A．Visit a museum |
| B．When you travel |
| C．Go to the bookstore |
| D．By taking a course you’re interested in |
| E．If you are fond of exploring the world |
| F．And you can share your ideas about reading and books, too |
| G．The excitement of music festivals can create lasting friendships |
10 . Saying farewell to someone you love, even for a night, can be difficult, much less saying goodbye for a lifetime or forever in death. Juliet bid Romeo adieu (再见) for the evening with the words, “Parting is such sweet sorrow.” Sweet sorrow is an oxymoron. But this seeming contradiction is true in the context of relationships.
Relationships are based on feelings, emotions, and passion. Deep friendships and loving relationships are measured by the level of emotional attachment. Emotions intensify over time. People spend time with the people they like. The more one person likes another person, the closer the relationship becomes. Each person in the relationship receives an emotional benefit from knowing the other person.
Saying goodbye means separating from the people who make up a significant part of your emotional identity. Separation, even a temporary absence, from the people you have a deep emotional connection with can cause sorrow because you will no longer be able to enjoy their company.
The sweet side of saying goodbye is the emotional fulfillment of being in a close relationship. The time spent together is emotionally rewarding, especially if that person is seen as a soulmate. Humans are social beings. We seek the love and comfort of other people. Loneliness devastates the human condition and leads to sadness. Sad people will do anything they can to find fulfilling relationships. Likewise, happy people will do anything they can to maintain or enhance relationships. Herein lies the essential point of the emotional problem.
The more intense relationships become, the more devastating the emotional loss that is felt upon separation. The exhilaration of relationships cannot be truly measured without experiencing the overwhelming loss of a deep emotional connection.
Enjoy the company of the person you are with as long as you can; knowing the pain you will feel at the end of the relationship is the true measure of the relationship. If it doesn’t hurt to say goodbye, perhaps it wasn’t worth saying hello.
1. Which of the word group can create the same effect as “sweet sorrow”?| A．icy cold | B．clicking sound | C．deafening silence | D．endless speech |
| A．Saying goodbye is unavoidable in our daily life. |
| B．The companion of close friends can lessen sorrow. |
| C．A person’s identity is connected with relationship. |
| D．Separation is the sorrowful part of saying goodbye. |
| A．Making more communication with others. |
| B．Building deep emotional connections with others. |
| C．Comforting friends with love and intense feelings. |
| D．Being a thoughtful person by standing in others’ shoes. |
| A．Sweet sorrow is very common in close relationships. |
| B．The pain of separation is the measure of relationships. |
| C．Human beings are eager to get emotional fulfillment. |
| D．Happiness is meaningless without sadness to compare it. |
