1 . Feel exhausted after a party? Rather see one close friend than a group of acquaintances? Enjoy your own company? In our world, that makes you an introvert (内向的人). However, there’s another possible explanation — vertical attachment. If you are closer to your parents and family members than to your peers, you are vertically attached, which means you rely more on family for comfort.
If you are closer to your peers, then you are peer attached. We live in a peer-oriented world. We believe that having lots of friends means that we are well-adjusted. We put our kids in playgroups and daycare for peer interaction. We expect teenagers to want to hang out with their friends, thinking it is the natural way of things.
Result? Generations often feel worlds apart. We use different language, dress, and technology apps. Even if multiple generations are invited to the same party, the kids go to the basement playroom while the parents stay upstairs.
Vertically-attached individuals can feel out of place in this context, demonstrating the traces of introversion. Will they be exhausted after a party with same-aged acquaintances? Absolutely. Would they rather spend time with one close friend? Sure. Do they enjoy alone time? Yes, more than they enjoy time fitting in with peers.
It’s normal that many people need alone time to recharge. However, vertically-attached people often label themselves as introverted. They feel insecure that others have more friends and live richer lives. They claim that their family attachments arise from their loved ones being stuck with them.
If you feel these insecurities, know that there is nothing wrong with you, and you are not missing out on anything. Your attachment style is just different from the culture where you live. Have confidence in the strength of the relationships you have, whether it is with a mom who feels more like a best friend, or a grandmother with whom you can share anything. They are meaningful, enriching relationships, even if they look different from the cultural norm.
1. Who is vertically attached according to the text?A.Mike, who feels at ease with his teachers. |
B.Maggie, who enjoys film time alone at weekends. |
C.Tom, who feels burnt out after a family get-together. |
D.Lisa, who often turns to her dad when things are hard. |
A.Younger generations should be self-disciplined. |
B.Being sociable is a desired quality for their children. |
C.Their children need more friends than they themselves do. |
D.Different generations should have different circles of acquaintances. |
A.Be that as it may, just leave it as it is. |
B.Never underestimate your inner power. |
C.Hang out more with friends and adjust to it. |
D.Treat others the way you want to be treated. |
A.Biased. | B.Objective. | C.Unconcerned. | D.Critical. |
2 . How to Deal with a Colleague who Keeps Challenging Your Views
It can be difficult to develop an environment of teamwork when you continually run up against a colleague who challenges your views.
If a co-worker habitually challenges your ideas in a group discussion in a confrontational manner, don’t engage him or get into an argument. Pause for a moment, look the colleague in the eye.
There’s a time and place for everything, including professional disagreements. If a colleague interrupts you or talks over you in an effort to contradict your point or insert (插入) his own opinion, gently remind him that you still have the floor. If the colleague is challenging something you say before you have a chance to address the point, note that as well.
Agree to respect each other.If a particular colleague has a long history of disagreeing with you, you might be able to anticipate his arguments or objections. Prepare rebuttals to address anything your colleague might throw at you.
A.Hold your ground. |
B.Ask for peace-making. |
C.This will help you support your own arguments. |
D.And ask him in a calm voice to repeat what he said. |
E.Here are the ways to deal with colleagues of this kind. |
F.Just find ways to make peace and communicate with your colleague. |
G.The bottom line is, colleagues are not going to agree with each other all the time. |
3 . While everyone’s image of their dream home looks a little different, most people will agree that their ideal neighbourhood is filled with friendly faces. Getting to know your neighbours takes time and effort.
Nick Tebbey, national executive officer of Relationships Australia, says spring is the perfect season to start getting to know your neighbours. “When the weather starts warming up we’re all spending more time outdoors.” It makes sense that the best way to get to know a neighbour is to first make sure they actually know you’re neighbours.
To put yourself in the way of these opportunities, Tebbey suggests timing your outings to take place“when other people are out and about as well”. When it comes to actually introducing yourself to your neighbours, Tebbey notes it’s important to do what feels comfortable, whether that’s leaving a note on a building notice board or chatting to someone while you wait for the elevator.
Once you’ve introduced yourself to a neighbor, you can start conversations.
“It’s not about grand gestures or sharing everything about yourself with your neighbours.
A.In fact, it’s almost the opposite. |
B.It doesn’t have to require a lot of effort. |
C.It’s vital to ask questions and remember people’s answers. |
D.However, it can potentially be easier than you may expect. |
E.Should you start to feel uncomfortable, you could invite another. |
F.And the easiest way to do that is with short, repeated interactions. |
G.The less anxiety you feel, the more likely you are to commit to them. |
4 . “Just sign here, sir,” the deliveryman said as he handed Oscar Reyna a package.
The package consisted of a long, narrow box
Oscar was 16 when he first saw the
Oscar
Oscar talked his grandparents into going by Mrs. O'Brien's house on their way home. An elderly woman opened the door. “May I help you?” she asked. “I'd like to return it if it's yours,” Oscar said,
Years later, Oscar was staring at the finely carved handle of the umbrella as he remembered Mrs. O'Brien. It was in perfect condition, considering how
A.strictly | B.carefully | C.obviously | D.curiously |
A.After | B.When | C.Since | D.Although |
A.adapted | B.reserved | C.recognized | D.removed |
A.ordinary | B.unusual | C.simple | D.formal |
A.beauty | B.shape | C.size | D.history |
A.ordered | B.demanded | C.encouraged | D.persuaded |
A.laid | B.found | C.confirmed | D.searched |
A.putting up | B.referring to | C.picking up | D.holding out |
A.as if | B.as long as | C.due to | D.instead of |
A.wide | B.confident | C.confusing | D.shy |
A.patience | B.kindness | C.impression | D.determination |
A.officially | B.naturally | C.exactly | D.probably |
A.old | B.amazing | C.valuable | D.unique |
A.in turn | B.in return | C.in exchange | D.in answer |
A.professional | B.mean | C.selfless | D.wise |
5 . I'm a Russian. In my native country, people believe that those who always keep big smiles on their faces, if they don't have a real reason to do so, are not genuine(真诚的). For the last five years, I've lived in Kansas. What brought me to this country was my American husband, John. I work in a department store, where my coworkers show big smiles to me and pronounce my Russian name so sweetly. Every time I hear it, I feel as though my mom is embracing(拥抱)me.
Last year John encouraged me to go to see my mom back in Russia, and my manager even gave me a month of for the trip. When you live an ocean apart from your family, you need at least a month to visit them. I bought a plane ticket and packed my suitcase. Then came Covid-19. My mood became grey as I realized I couldn't go to see my mom.
A couple of weeks later, my sweet coworker Miss Donna asked me, “So what's happening with your trip to Russia?” I told her I had to cancel it and I wouldn't be able to see my mom this year.
Miss Dona didn't say anything at first. Then she put on a big smile and said, “Well, you can come to my home and see my mom!" “Oh my Lord!" I was at a loss for words. Imagine a mom for loan(借出)!I honestly don't know whether I would offer the same to someone in need of a mother's warmth, but my new people surely would do it for me.
I know that because of the virus, you shouldn't hug friends, but you can still embrace someone's heart. That's how my heart felt at that moment: hugged. So, yes, believe me, big smiles with no reason can be genuine.
1. What can we know from the first paragraph?A.The author believes big smiles are false. | B.The author works together with her husband. |
C.The author seldom wears big smiles in Russia. | D.The author gets along well with her coworkers. |
A.Because her mother's home was too far away. | B.Because the manager didn't allow her to leave. |
C.Because Covid-19 broke out unexpectedly. | D.Because she was invited to Miss Donna's home. |
A.She was happy. | B.She was touched. | C.She was confused. | D.She was uncertain. |
A.A Canceled Trip | B.Imagine a Mother for Loan |
C.The Outbreak of Covid-19 | D.Big Smiles Embrace My Heart |
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7 . A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile (敌意的) person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.
Mirrors have a very particular
When we see something beautiful such as a flower garden, that garden
Just as the “mirror” or other people can be a positive reflection, it is more likely that we’ll
Often when we
At times we meet someone
A.target | B.style | C.function | D.color |
A.medical | B.physical | C.chemical | D.mental |
A.so | B.then | C.nor | D.neither |
A.focuses on | B.applies to | C.works with | D.serves as |
A.reward | B.evaluation | C.reflection | D.example |
A.grows | B.translates | C.enters | D.falls |
A.Obviously | B.Strangely | C.Fortunately | D.Frequently |
A.known | B.supported | C.observed | D.recognized |
A.creating | B.lacking | C.sharing | D.comparing |
A.ignore | B.keep | C.take | D.notice |
A.In brief | B.In addition | C.For example | D.As usual |
A.crazy | B.anxious | C.upset | D.concerned |
A.time | B.mirror | C.garden | D.person |
A.less | B.amazing | C.more | D.valuable |
A.appreciate | B.dislike | C.describe | D.discover |
A.shouting | B.shining | C.speaking | D.pointing |
A.new | B.nervous | C.familiar | D.friendly |
A.If | B.Although | C.Since | D.Once |
A.terrible | B.noble | C.reliable | D.desirable |
A.figure out | B.take out | C.put out | D.give out |
8 . On a recent afternoon, some 60 years after they graduated from grammar school, Kathleen Rys, 72, and her sister Lorraine O’Kelly, 70, sat down and had a meal with a classmate, Bruce Smit, 71 for the first time.
In the 1950s, Lorraine and Kathleen Rys’ family moved from Chicago to Monee. As new kids at Monee Elementary School, they soon found themselves on the outs with other students.
“I would be with the other guys and see Kathleen walking down the hallway, her head down, holding her books, walking slowly. And all of us guys would be flat against the wall until she passed. Then we’d burst into laughter. How rude is that? It’s just crazy.” said Smit, a doctor whose wife, Tammy, organized the meeting.
The women said none of the teachers cared about it. “We just kept it to ourselves.” Lorraine said.
Over the years, Tammy Smit said, “Bruce would just start to cry at times. He’d wonder what happened to the sisters, if they landed OK.” One day a few weeks ago, Tammy took to the internet and found Mary O’Kelly, Lorraine’s daughter, and offered to set up a meeting. The idea of revisiting the pain was not well- received by Kathleen, who had never married, let alone gone on a date. It took some convincing, but Lorraine finally got Kathleen to agree to meet with Bruce.
Bruce broke into tears. “I’m so ashamed, so embarrassed,” he said. “But I’m so happy you’re still here and that I can finally apologize.” He said he hopes his apology will encourage others to seek forgiveness for the pain they make on others. Lorraine said, “This is a beautiful thing. It’s just wonderful that a person from 60 years ago can ask for forgiveness. It’s like a miracle to us. It’s a healing to us.”
1. What can we learn from the first three paragraphs?A.Kathleen made her classmates afraid of her at school. |
B.Kathleen was once hurt by her classmates at school. |
C.Bruce Smit asked his wife to organize the meeting. |
D.Bruce Smit spoke ill of Kathleen. |
A.The guys’ meeting. | B.Kathleen’s slow pace. |
C.The guys’ apology. | D.Kathleen’s suffering. |
A.Angry. | B.Excited. | C.Anxious. | D.Unwilling. |
A.Bruce was embarrassed for his apology. | B.The other guys apologized to the two sisters. |
C.Bruce and the two sisters felt a sense of relief. | D.Lorraine thought the apology came a little late. |
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10 . I don’t remember the exact date I met Marty for the first time. Like a lot of people who want to get through a checkout line, I found my thoughts on speed, nothing more. The line I was standing in wasn’t moving as quickly as I wanted, and I glanced toward the cashier, who was receiving money from customers.
He was an old man in his sixties. I thought, well, it probably took him a little longer to get the jobs done. For the next few minutes I watched him. He greeted every customer before he began scanning the goods they were purchasing. Sure, his words were the usual, “How’s it going?” But he did something different—he actually listened to people. Then he would respond to what they had said and talk with them briefly.
I thought it was strange, but I guessed I had grown accustomed to people asking me how I was doing simply out of a conversation without thinking. Usually, after a while, you don’t give any thought to the question and just say something back quietly.
This old cashier seemed sincere about wanting to know how people were feeling. Meanwhile, the high-tech cash register rang up their purchases and he announced what they owed. When customers handed money to him, he pushed the appropriate keys, the cash drawer popped open, and he counted out their change.
Then magic happened.
He placed the change in his left hand, walked around the counter to the customers, and extended his right hand in an act of friendship. As their hands met, the old cashier looked the customers in the eyes. “I want to thank you for shopping here today,” he told them. “You have a great day. Bye-bye.” The looks on the faces of the customers were priceless.
Now it was my turn. I glanced down at the name tag on his red waistcoat, the kind experienced Wal-Mart cashier wore. It read, “Marty.”
Marty told me how much I owed and I handed him some money. The next thing I knew he was standing beside me, offering his right hand and holding my change in his left hand. His kind eyes locked onto mine. Smiling, and with a firm handshake…
1. While the author stood in the checkout line, she felt ______.A.impatient | B.enthusiastic |
C.comfortable | D.embarrassed |
A.talk about unimportant topics | B.face communication problems |
C.remain calm while having a talk | D.develop a mindless conversation |
A.he expressed his sincerity while giving back the change |
B.he spent as much time as possible serving customers |
C.he was patient with all the questions from customers |
D.he showed particular interest in customers’ personal life |
A.Marty was a talkative man. |
B.Marty cared a lot about what he did. |
C.The author failed to get along well with others. |
D.The author was dissatisfied with such a waste of time. |