1 . Everyone, at one time or another, has experienced some challenges in friendships and relationships with family members. We might find ourselves frustrated(懊恼的) or angry with other people, or even find that we argue with them. The reality is that nobody is perfect and we need to realise that we should find ways to live happier and less stressful lives. Here are some tips on how to make relationships happier and healthier.
Respect other people and accept themThis is the most important point. If we want to show someone we love them, we need to first respect who they are and show them we accept them for who they are: Everyone is unique with different experiences and lives. By always remembering this, we will be able to develop and maintain strong relationships.
Be interested in others’ interestsWe might have friends who are crazy about sports, while we prefer reading. Or perhaps a parent’s hobby seems boring to us but it is something they love. If we want to keep our relationships strong and positive, we should at least take time to listen to them and talk about what matters to them. By doing this, we show them that we care about them and their interests
Apologise when you make a mistakeThis is the hardest thing for most of us to do, yet a simple “I’m sorry” can undo a lot of tension. By being humble when you make a mistake, you can fix any problem you may have caused and also show that you are a mature person
Stay connected through communicationGood communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. When you experience a positive emotional connection with your partner, you feel safe and happy. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out the disconnect. It may sound simplistic, but as long as you are communicating, you can usually work through whatever problems you’re facing.
So, try and follow the advice and you will find that you have happier and stronger relationships with your friends and loved ones
1. What can be concluded from Paragraph 2?A.We need to realise that others are often wrong in our dealings with them. |
B.Our friends and loved ones can cause us stress by being wrong. |
C.Everyone can be right and wrong at times and we need to remember that. |
D.We should accept the people we love and respect them. |
A.be positive and confident |
B.discuss our partner’s concerns |
C.put our friends’ interests first |
D.be familiar with our parents’ hobbies |
A.Ignore our friends’ preferences. |
B.Never apologize for our mistakes. |
C.Check in with our friends regularly. |
D.No need to be mature. |
A.Being mature and admitting our mistakes when we make them. |
B.Respecting the fact that others may not appreciate our hobbies and interests. |
C.Showing our love for others when they hurt us or disrespect us. |
D.Accepting that our friends will eventually grow apart from us. |
A.To offer some tips on making healthier relationships |
B.To remind us about the challenges in friendships and relationships. |
C.To help us maintain relationships with family members. |
D.To share ways to live happier and less stressful lives. |
2 . Tips to help you overcome people-pleasing
Considering other people’s feelings and treating them with kindness is something we strive to do.
When this happens, people-pleasing has crossed the line from kind and generous to self-abandonment — not being the authentic self because we’re afraid others will disapprove, criticize, or reject us. Here are tips for you to overcome such behaviors.
Self-care is a necessity, not a luxury. It’s not something you do if you have time or if you deserve it. Taking care of your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical needs keeps you healthy. Without it, you’ll get sick, stressed, and irritable. Try putting self-care activities (exercise, socializing, hobbies, etc.) on your calendar to ensure that self-care is a priority.
Not everyone’s opinion matters.
One big mistake people-pleasers make is acting as if everyone’s opinion matters equally. You don’t differentiate whose opinion matters more. Generally, the closer the relationship, the more you’ll value their opinion and want to please them. Thus, it’s natural to want to do things to make your loved ones happy.
Healthy conflict can improve relationships.
Most people worry that painful conflicts will destroy relationships.
A.Be aware of your inner needs. |
B.Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. |
C.This indicates that we’re People-Pleasers. |
D.It’s understandable and common to want to avoid them. |
E.But sacrificing our wellbeing to make others happy is not. |
F.However, you don’t need to please acquaintances in the same way. |
G.It results in greater understanding and ultimately strengthens the relationship. |
3 . Saying “thank you” when you receive an unexpected gift is all well and good, but how can you get a little creative with your appreciation? As it turns out, there are plenty of ways to express your gratitude to others while remaining gracious and sincere.
I appreciate this.
You’ve made my day! Show them that their gifts turned your day around. Telling someone that they made your day will make the giver feel that their gifts are much more meaningful and worthwhile.
It’s like you read my mind! Thank you. Compliment (恭维) their gift-giving skills.
A.I’m extremely astonished |
B.When someone gives you a gift |
C.If people choose to spend time with you |
D.It is impolite of you to say those words |
E.You may receive gifts from others in daily life |
F.Be specific about what you appreciate and why |
G.They’ll be pleased that they were able to make you smile |
4 . Have you ever struggled to understand how someone else feels? Building up your empathy (同理心) skills helps you connect with your friends.
What is empathy?
Empathy is a kind of capability that lets you step into someone else’s shoes and then figure out how they are feeling. For instance, if you can see your friend is upset after losing a football match and you support them by telling them some warm and motivating words, you are showing empathy. Miranda McKeamey set up an organization called EmpathyLab that builds empathy through reading.
Scientists say empathy isn’t something you are born with, it’s a skill you can acquire through learning. One way you can do this is by active listening. When someone is talking to you, listen closely and respond in a way that shows you understand their situations and emotions thoroughly. Reading, advocated by EmpathyLab, is also a great way to boost empathy, since stories can take you inside someone else’s mind and show you the world through their eves and emotions.
Put empathy into action.
A.How can you have more empathy? |
B.Who need empathy most in daily life? |
C.Besides, it also spreads kindness and inspires them to do the same. |
D.To find out more conducts you can do, log in EmpathyLab.UK.com. |
E.Only by putting empathy into action can you relate to others’ bad lives. |
F.She believes even small, supportive actions can have a positive impact. |
G.Miranda recommends going into the thick of people’s lives to show empathy. |
5 . Have you ever wondered why different people react differently to the things you say and do? Maybe you told your parents a story that made them laugh, but found that the same story was upsetting to the kids at school. What caused them to react so differently?
Boundaries are the cut-off point between what a person finds funny and charming, and what they find hurtful and inappropriate.
While many people won’t tell you directly that you’ve made them uncomfortable, some people will.
A.You aren’t sure of a person’s boundaries. |
B.Different people have different boundaries. |
C.The gateway to a healthy relationship is boundaries. |
D.They may tell you that you’re standing too close to them. |
E.Pay attention to the way they react to your ideas and jokes. |
F.A person tends to tell you directly if you’ve made a mistake. |
G.The answer has something to do with a tricky concept called boundaries. |
6 . It is so easy to just go home and shut your door without getting to know your neighbors. But being an active neighbor will turn your living place into a kinder and more caring neighborhood.
Then get out of your comfort zone and make efforts to know more about your neighbors.
Another way to show your neighbors that you care is by making your small acts of kindness a regular practice. This can be cleaning up the litter or even cleaning up after the pets have made a mess on your block.
Remind yourself that being connected feels good and boosts your mood in the long run. If you take the first step, your small acts of kindness can encourage others to pay that kindness forward.
A.Or if you have an amazing garden |
B.Remember, every small gesture counts |
C.If you want to be respected and cared by your neighbors |
D.For example, ask for their names and learn what they do for work |
E.Your attitudes towards your friends also set an example for your kids |
F.It doesn’t take a lot of money or a generous gesture to be an active neighbor |
G.In the end, more and more people in the neighborhood will feel much better |
7 . We’ve been there: in a lift, in line at the bank or on an airplane, surrounded by people who are, like us, deeply focused on their smartphones or, worse, struggling with the uncomfortable silence.
What’s the problem? It is possible that we all have compromised conversational intelligence. It’s more likely that none of us start a conversation because it’s awkward and challenging, or we think it’s annoying and unnecessary. But the next time you find yourself among strangers, consider that small talk is worth the trouble. Experts say it’s an important social practice that results in big benefits.
Dismissing small talk as unimportant is easy, but we can’t forget that deep relationships wouldn’t even exist if it weren’t for casual conversation. Small talk is the grease (润滑剂) for social communication, says Bernardo Carducci. “Almost every great love story and each big business deal begins with small talk,” he explains. “The key to successful small talk is learning how to connect with others, not just communicate with them.”
In a 2014 study, Elizabeth Dunn, Associate Professor of psychology at UBC, invited people on their way into a coffee shop. One group was asked to seek out an interaction (互动) with its waiter; the other, to speak only when necessary. The results showed that those who chatted with their server reported significantly higher positive feelings and a better coffee shop experience. “It’s not that talking to the waiter is better than talking to your husband,” says Dunn. “But interactions with peripheral (边缘的) members of our social network matter for our well-being also.”
Dunn believes that people who reach out to strangers feel a significantly greater sense of belonging, a bond with others. Carducci believes developing such a sense of belonging starts with small talk. “Small talk is the basis of good manners,” he says.
1. What phenomenon is described in the first paragraph?A.Addiction to smartphones. |
B.Inappropriate behaviours in public places. |
C.Absence of communication between stranger. |
D.Impatience with slow service. |
A.Showing good manners. | B.Relating to other people. |
C.Focusing on a topic. | D.Making business deals. |
A.Big business doesn’t need to have small talk. |
B.communicating with others is the most important thing. |
C.Small talk can benifit a lot. |
D.Silence is necessary in daily life. |
A.It improves family relationships. |
B.It raises people’s confidence. |
C.It matters as much as a formal talk. |
D.It makes people feel good. |
8 . We’ve all been in a position where life gets busy, schedules are difficult to coordinate and connecting with friends feels harder than ever. With some friendships, we may lose touch and want to reconnect. However,the more time that passes, the more uncertain it can feel if they want to hear from us.
A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology says it’s time to reach out. Researchers found numerous benefits when reaching out to friends and old acquaintances. Especially if you’re unsure of how well they’ll receive hearing from you. The study, led by Dr Peggy Liu, is called The Surprise of Reaching Out: Appreciated More Than We Think. In the study, researchers posed the question: Do people accurately understand how much other people value being reached out to by someone in their social circle? To answer this question, researchers carried out 13 experiments with more than 5,900 participants. In the experiments, researchers measured how much people estimated their friends or acquaintances would appreciate them reaching out versus how much those on the receiving end did appreciate it. They also examined different forms of communication-phone calls, texts, emails, notes or even small gifts—and their impact.
Over the series of experiments, experts discovered a similar trend: those reaching out significantly underestimated how much their friends would appreciate hearing from them. Plus, the more unexpected the communication was, the more the friend on the receiving end appreciated it. “People are fundamentally social beings and enjoy connecting with others,” the researchers wrote.
In fact, what made these moments of reaching out so impactful was the effort they showed—no matter the form of communication. Dr Amie Gordon, a social psychologist at the University of Michigan, emphasises the importance of small moments and making efforts in relationships in a Psychology Today article. “In a busy life, these little moments might feel just like that—little moments that don’t really matter ... But each moment we ignore is a missed opportunity to connect and build up an emotional bank of positive moments.”
The science is clear—people appreciate the effort we put into our friendships. And we greatly underestimate it. One phenomenon that may explain why those who reached out underestimated their positive impact is because of “the liking gap”. Psychologist Terri Apter writes in Psychology Today that the liking gap is a tendency to “how we often underestimate other’s responses to us”, and the reality that other people like us more than we may think.
1. In writing Paragraph 1, the author aims to ______.A.state some disturbing problems |
B.present the background of the following topic |
C.introduce the theme of his argument |
D.make comparisons between different opinions |
A.The way of communication matters in reconnecting with friends. |
B.An unexpected calling to an acquaintance will not be highly valued. |
C.People tend to appreciate hearing from friends more than reaching out to them. |
D.We are more well-liked and well-received than we expect in our friendships. |
A.To present the discovery of the study. |
B.To support the findings theoretically. |
C.To explain the causes of losing friendships. |
D.To make suggestions about the topic. |
A.Estimate Friendships in a Scientific Way |
B.Appreciate Being Reached Out to by friends |
C.Remove the Misunderstanding between Friends |
D.Don’t Hesitate to Reconnect with Your Old Friends |
9 . What do work relationships, personal relationships and diplomacy have in common? First, they best function when based on purely positive energy.
I developed a more remarkable ability to relate to the people in my life after taking multiple courses from an organization. The organization offers advice far more than anything I’ve ever experienced. As an example of the benefits of their teachings, my decade conflict with my mom has turned into loving relationship. This turnaround was critical since she is now in her late 70s. This renewed love was worth my investment in training or the organization. Had I continued down my former path, I believe my life today would be one of suffering.
They teach never to criticize, condemn, or complain. I have applied these principles to great success in all my relationships. And the rewards have been astounding, beyond my imagination. But in my role of management at work, I need to learn how to combine authority with positivity.
Recently, however, I found a solution. In other words, I discovered the secret to maintaining authority in the workplace while maintaining pure positivity. For the most part, I found it in Napoleon Hill’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. I found many of the same principles taught by the organization, but the guidelines were less optimistic in Hill’s book. For instance, Napoleon Hill’s advice on criticizing without offending suggests we start by mentioning the positives about the person and then follow up with criticism.
But, of course, the organization advises against all complaints and I’ve concluded that work relationships, too, shouldn’t have any criticisms. Instead, work relationships should focus on another of Napoleon Hill’s strategies: focusing only on the positives while using suggestions instead of criticism. In other words, say, “That looks great. Do you think this addition might make it even better?” instead of “Here’s what that is lacking.”
1. Why did the author take several courses from an organization?A.To mainly learn management skills. |
B.To enrich his technological knowledge. |
C.To deal with relationships in a positive way. |
D.To become more sociable as a successful diplomat. |
A.It did not come as a surprise. |
B.It had little to do with the courses. |
C.It was the result of his mother’s great efforts. |
D.It was very important considering her old age. |
A.Satisfactory. | B.Unexpected. | C.Unsurprising. | D.Imaginary. |
A.To show how powerful criticism is. |
B.To suggest replacing complaints with criticism. |
C.To show how to use suggestions instead of criticism. |
D.To advise readers to combine suggestions with criticism. |
10 . The word listen, as is shown in Longman Dictionary, means paying attention to what someone is saying or to a sound that you can hear. Listening is definitely an important skill in communication. “When people talk, listen completely.” Those words of Ernest Hemingway might be a pretty good guiding principle for many managers. After all, people like being listened to.
Some firms use a technique known as a “listening circle”. In such a circle, only one person can talk about the issues they face at a time and there is no interruption. A study cited in the Harvard Business Review found that employees who had taken part in a listening circle subsequently suffered less social anxiety and had fewer worries about work-related matters than those who did not.
Listening has been critical to the career of Richard Mullender, who was a hostage (人质) negotiator, dealing with everything from suicide interventions to international kidnaps (绑架). He defines listening as “the identification, selection and interpretation of the key words”. It is crucial to all effective communication.
Plenty of people think that good listening is about nodding your head or keeping eye contact. But that is not really listening, Mr Mullender argues. A good listener is always looking for facts, emotions and indications of the other person’s values. Another important point to bear in mind is that, when you talk, you are not listening. The listener’s focus should be on analysis.
Of course, a listener needs to speak occasionally. One approach is to make an assessment of what the other person is telling you and then check it with them. For example, you can check with the other person by saying “It seems to me that what you want is…”. That gives the other party a sense that they are being understood. The fundamental aim is to build up a relationship so the other person likes you and trusts you, Mr Mullender says.
1. What can we learn about a “listening circle”?A.A listening circle focuses on personal issues. |
B.In a listening circle, a speaker won’t be interrupted. |
C.A listening circle increases worries about work-related matters. |
D.Employees get rid of social anxiety by taking part in a listening circle. |
A.Critical. | B.Opposed. | C.Cautious. | D.Favorable. |
A.To be liked and trusted by the other person. |
B.To check our assessments with the other person. |
C.To make assessments of what the other person is saying. |
D.To have a sense of being understood by the other person. |
A.The Analysis of a Listening Circle |
B.The Tricks of Successful Listening |
C.The Misunderstanding of Listening |
D.The Necessity of Effective Listening |