1 . For most of us, it's pretty easy to stand up for someone else.
·Define your boundaries
The definition of a boundary is a line that marks the limits of an area; it's both a line of containment (keeping you in) and a line of protection (keeping others out). Boundaries are not complaints, threats or demands.
The next time someone asks you for a favor, consider if you can afford to say yes. What I mean by this is, think about what this “yes” will cost you in terms of finances, energy, health and time. Do you have an excess of these resources that you can give after you've already cared for yourself?
·Stop people-pleasing
People-pleasing is often motivated by fear. It's easy to fall into the habit because you tend to get praised for it. People-pleasing pleases people. But its effects over a long period of time can be disastrous.
·Ask for what you want
It's not easy to figure out what you want. But the more time you spend getting clear on your own
desires, the easier it is to defend what you need. Your desires are the forces that lead you into life's unknown frontier.A.Get comfortable saying no. |
B.Think twice before refusing. |
C.They deserve attention, energy and respect. |
D.You will not end up exhausted and depressed. |
E.To break this habit, start leaning toward courage and inner strength. |
F.They are guidelines that help to clearly define what needs to be protected. |
G.But when the tables are turned, we often feel guilty for giving priority to our own needs. |
Sharing a room with a family member or a friend can be tough, but it becomes especially difficult when you're sharing it with someone you hardly know. Here are things you can do to help you deal with having a roommate, no matter who it may be.
First of all, you have to remember that you get what you give. If you are nice to others, then others will be nice to you as well. You also need to set boundaries for yourself and for the other person. So before your new roommate moves in, talk to him. Set the rules early on and discuss your expectations.
Remember that there are two things that make up any good relationship: trust and respect. The same thing applies to having a roommate. You have to respect each other. Suppose he has that new PS3 game that you've always wanted to try out, what should you do? Ask permission first. If he says no, don’t take it against him. If he lets you borrow his stuff, take care of the item and treat it as if it were your own. Make sure that you return it in the same condition as when you borrowed it.
For chores that can be shared, you may want to divide it equally so that you don’t do all the housework. Take turns in washing the dishes. You may do it every other day or you may split the task so that you only have to do it in the morning and your roommate only has to do it at night.
When it comes to food and grocery items, determine what can be shared. Don't be too mean when it comes to sharing food. The advantage of sharing food is that both of you can save on time and food preparation.
1. Before your roommate moves in, what should you two do? (no more than 10words)2. What is important for good relationship among roommates? (no more than 5words)
3. What does the underlined word “chores” in Paragraph 4 probably mean?(no more than 3 words)
4. What does the author suggest in Paragraph 4?(no more than 10 words)
5. What is the purpose of this passage?(no more than 20 words)
3 . Some people can begin a conversation with anyone ——even complete strangers.
A great way to start a conversation with the people around you is to simply comment on your shared surroundings.
Keep your comments positive——never mean-spirited or critical. You want the other person to feel comfortable getting in on the joke with you. You could follow up on your previous comment about your professor with something like, “I wonder where Hedwig is?”
If you don’t receive a positive response from one person, the method might work with someone else.
A.A little humor works great here |
B.Here are some ways to help you |
C.A good conversation really matters a lot |
D.But many others find it difficult to talk to a stranger |
E.Humor is difficult with someone you don’t know well |
F.The more you practice, the easier it will be to talk to a person you don’t know |
G.The more confident you are, the more chance to receive a positive response there will be |
Most students do an IQ test early in their school career. Even if they never see their results, they feel that their IQ is
While your IQ tells you how
5 . In today’s world, it can be challenging to stay motivated and positive. However, one powerful tool that we can use to overcome these challenges is encouragement. Encouragement can make a significant difference in someone’s life.
One of the most significant benefits of encouragement is that it builds strong relationships. Encouragement creates a positive environment where people feel valued and appreciated. When we encourage others, we are showing them that we believe in them and that we care about their well-being.
Another benefit of encouragement is that it creates a chain reaction.
In conclusion, the power of encouragement cannot be overstated. It has the potential to transform lives, build strong relationships, and create a ripple effect of positivity. By being intentional about our words and actions, we can use encouragement to build others up and create a better world.
A.Encouragement can change our moods. |
B.So how can we use encouragement to build others up? |
C.Why should we make every effort to encourage others? |
D.This strengthens the bond between people and promotes trust and loyalty. |
E.When we encourage others, they, in turn, are more likely to encourage others |
F.Let us use the power of encouragement and start building each other up today. |
G.When we encourage others, we give them the motivation and confidence they need to succeed. |
6 . How to Disagree Agreeably
Disagreeing can’t be avoided in our life. However, how things are handled, how you voice the disagreement and how the other party hears it, all make a difference.
● Pick your moments
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The starting point is to understand the other person’s point ahead of them understanding yours. For instance, active listening is one of the most important skills. It makes the speaker feel respected and valued. The key to listening properly is asking questions.
● Maintain emotional balance
When talking about topics that are important to you, it’s natural to feel strongly about them. However, when discussing your viewpoint, it is important to keep control over your emotions.
A.Be Open Minded |
B.Understand the other person first |
C.High emotions can make the situation even worse |
D.Non-verbal communication can show you are listening |
E.In this way, you can know exactly what you are disagreeing about |
F.Speaking your mind without losing your cool needs the skills below |
G.Being mindful about when to voice your disagreement is important |
7 . There are ways to make friends online while also keeping yourself protected. These are the top tips that you can follow to ensure this.
Choose the right apps
Don’t wait too long to figure out who your friend really is. If you find this person interesting and would like to continue chatting with him, you need to do a little background research.
Trust your feeling
This may seem like a rather old-fashioned idea but it is important.
Meet your “friend” in a public place
You can't completely trust someone that you haven't actually met before. If you do decide that it is time to meet each other, then you should set up the place at a busy restaurant or coffee shop.
A.Do some research |
B.Shorten your personal information |
C.When you are chatting with someone |
D.You should continue to remain in public areas |
E.There are many apps for you to look for friendship |
F.In such a situation, it is best for you to cut off all the contact with that person |
G.You should also be careful with the type of questions your online friends ask |
8 . Secrets, whether they’re juicy, shocking or just plain funny, nothing compares to the thrill of opening up or listening to a friend’s confession (n.坦白). When a pal bares his heart to you, you can’t help but feel trusted and special. In fact, you’re a lot more likely now to tell him something you wouldn’t tell just anyone. When you’re first getting to know a new friend, start with small secrets.
No secret is ever 100 water-proof, but you can take steps to prevent getting your feelings hurt. First, when something you’re telling a friend is a secret, always say so. Every time when you share something confidential (adj.保密的), tell her that this is “for your ears only.” Also, don’t assume (v.假定,认为) someone will keep your secrets just because you know some of hers. Some people just have a tendency to blurt things out, which is why it pays to get a feel for how good a secret-keeper your friend is. Finally, make sure you get a reputation as someone who takes secrets seriously.
It’s not worth breaking a promise to a friend, but if a secret is too big for you to carry alone, you have a responsibility to tell someone. There are probably a few details about your life that you don’t feel like sharing, even with your closest friends. If the secret isn’t hurting you or your friendship, silence is golden. If you’re hiding something big and constantly worrying about your secret being leaked, it may be time to just spill (v.溢出) your beans. Taking control of a secret that’s eating you up inside isn’t easy.
So it seems clear that knowing when to let the secret out and when to zip your lips will help you a lot.
1. What is the purpose of the writer to mention a pal in the text?A.To tell people when it’s okay to share a secret with someone. |
B.To tell people how to gain others’ trust. |
C.To tell people why he bares his heart to you. |
D.To tell people who is the right people to express your heart. |
A.Speak out without thinking. |
B.Badmouth somebody. |
C.Let out a secret. |
D.Keep a secret. |
A.Keep it silently. |
B.Let the secret out. |
C.Share the secret with your closest friend. |
D.Take control of the secret. |
A.Tips to know when to give away secrets |
B.It’s always okay to tell a secret you promised to keep. |
C.How to be successful with different secrets. |
D.When to spill secrets |
9 . Everyone carries a shield(屏障). Our shields protect what we don’t want others to see, from our embarrassing secrets to our unpredictable feelings.
Since shields encourage us to hide negative parts of ourselves, we can start to believe that we aren’t worth showing. We might fear how our friends will judge our struggles or how our families will view our ambitions.
However, we have to remember that we aren’t perfect, nor should we expect to be. We need to find and cure the wounds underneath our shields, but that means we have to let down our guard. We may even have problems we haven’t admitted to ourselves.
Knowing this takes bravery and patience, so it’ll be hard.
A.This is not a bad thing. |
B.We need to be understood. |
C.We shouldn’t expect to do any of it without help. |
D.In short, we have the power to change this phenomenon. |
E.Hence we decide to hide ourselves underneath our masks. |
F.If you can’t trust your partner, it won’t be easy to let them in. |
G.Maybe we’re hiding something from a friend or scared to admit an error. |
10 . Why is a compliment so impactful? One of the most important things to humans is to feel valued and respected by others, says Vanessa Bohns, a social psychologist, who has researched compliments. According to her research, people feel “significantly better” after both giving and receiving a compliment.
“You handled that situation so well.”
Bohns recently used her favorite compliment when she saw a server address a difficult situation with a customer at the bar. “I like it so much because you use it in anxious moments where the other person is often unsure of whether they handled a situation OK,” she says. In situations that call for a compliment, don’t second-guess yourself. Give your compliments generously.
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This compliment — one of Bohns’ favorites — works well among romantic partners and close family members. “It’s a beautiful way to highlight how their presence turns life into something meaningful, despite boring routines of our everyday lives,” she says. If you’re afraid that giving a compliment like this will feel strange, you’re not alone.
“Hey, great dress!”
Feel free to compliment strangers. In Bohns’ research, students on a college campus were told to approach a stranger of the same gender and compliment them-about, for example, their nice shirt. Before heading out, the study participants tended to underestimate their positive effect while overestimating how annoying it would be. Across all contexts, strangers are more likely to be pleased than confused. Plus, who knows?
A.I love the way you bring out the best in people. |
B.Respect is essential when you deliver compliments. |
C.One way to overcome this fear is to do a practice run. |
D.You make even ordinary moments feel extraordinary. |
E.You might make a new friend in addition to making someone’s day. |
F.With that in mind, we asked her to share some of her favorite compliments. |
G.People sometimes worry that they’re going over and will start to sound insincere. |