Attachment Parenting is not Indulgent Parenting. Attachment parents do not "spoil" their children. Spoiling is done when a child is given everything that they want regardless of what they need and regardless of what is practical. Indulgent parents give toys for tantrums(发脾气), ice cream for breakfast. Attachment parents don’t give their children everything that they want, they give their children everything that they need. Attachment parents believe that love and comfort are free and necessary. Not sweets or toys.
Attachment Parenting is not "afraid of tears" parenting. Our kids cry. The difference is that we understand that tantrums and tears come from emotions and not manipulation. And our children understand this too. They cry and have tantrums sometimes, of course. But they do this because their emotions are so overwhelming that they need to get it out. They do not expect to be "rewarded" for their strong negative emotions; they simply expect that we will listen. We pick up our babies when they cry, and we respond to the tears of our older children because we believe firmly that comfort is free, love is free, and that when a child has need for comfort and love, it is our job to provide those things. We are not afraid of tears. We don’t avoid them. We hold our children through them and teach them that when they are hurt or frustrated we are here to comfort them and help them work through their emotions.
Attachment Parenting is not Clingy Parenting. I do not cling to my children. In fact, I’m pretty free-range. As soon as they can move they usually move away from me and let me set up a chase as they crawl, run, skip and hop on their merry way to explore the world. Sure, I carry them and hug them and chase them and kiss them and rock them and sleep with them. But this is not me following them everywhere and pulling them back to me. This is me being a home base. The "attachment" comes from their being allowed to attach to us, not from us attaching to them like parental leeches. Attachment Parenting is not Selfish Parenting. It is also not selfless parenting, We are not doing it for us, and we are not doing it to torment (折磨)ourselves.
Attachment parenting is not Helicopter Parenting. I don’t hover, I supervise, I follow, I teach, I demonstrate, I explain. I don’t slap curious hands away, I show how to do things safely, I let my child do the things that my child wishes to do, first with help and then with supervision(监督) and finally with trust, I don’t insist that my 23 month old hold my hand when we walk on the sidewalk because I know that I can recall him with my voice because he trusts me to allow him to explore and he trusts me to explain when something is dangerous and to help him satisfy his curiosities safely.
Most of the negative things that I hear about "attachment parents" are completely off-base and describe something that is entirely unlike Attachment Parenting. Attachment Parenting is child-centric and focuses on the needs of the child. Children need structure, rules, and boundaries. Attachment Parents simply believe that the child and the parent are allies, not adversaries, and that children are taught, not trained.
1. According to the author, what should parents do when their kids cry?A.Providing comfort and love. |
B.Trying to stop kids crying. |
C.Holding them till they stop. |
D.Rewarding kids with toys. |
A.Willing to give kids freedom of movement. |
B.Ready to play games with my kids. |
C.Curious to watch what games they play. |
D.Fond of providing a home base. |
A.Fostering their curiosity | B.Helping them do the right thing |
C.Showing them how things are done | D.Standing by and protecting |
A.How to foster love in children | B.Different types of parenting |
C.How to build child confidence | D.Parent-child relationship |
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【推荐1】There is a new coffee shop in London: Ziferblat. Here is some information about it.
Billing
You can stay for as long as you like in the Ziferblat coffee shop. You’ll be given a clock when you come in to keep timing. When you leave, you return the item and pay the bill. The cost is 3 pence(便士)per minute or £1.8 an hour.
Offering
The shop’s owner, Ivan Meetin, says, "Everything is free, except the time you spend here." Customers help themselves to coffee and cookies. They can also bring their own food to eat while accessing the Internet through Wi-Fi.
Atmosphere
Meetin’s customers clearly are not the types who rush to work with a paper cup to drink from at their desks. They are there for atmosphere. The new coffee shop’s atmosphere is relaxing. Informality is at the heart of Meetin’s concept. Meetin believes his coffee shop is a bit like "social media", Like minded people go there to socialise.
Reflection
The concept of coffee shops, where you pay for the time and not for the cup, has proved popular in Russia, Ziferblat is part of a Russian chain, As for London’s chain, only time will tell if the British will warm to the idea.
1. How much should a customer pay if he stays in Ziferblat for two hours?A.£1.8. | B.£3. | C.£3.6. | D.£6. |
A.Work with Meetin. | B.Enjoy their own food. |
C.Buy some clocks. | D.Cook different food. |
A.Worried. | B.Bored. | C.Surprised. | D.Relaxed. |
【推荐2】In our daily life, robots are often found to do work that is too dangerous, boring, difficult, or dirty. And we often see kids play with toy robots.
But what exactly is a robot? There are some important characteristics (特征) that a robot must have. These characteristics might help you to decide what is and what is not a robot. They will also help you to decide what you will need to build into a machine before it can be considered as a robot. A robot has these important characteristics:
Sensing. First of all, your robot would have to be able to sense the environment around it. It should have the following sensors (传感器): light sensors (eyes), touch sensors (hands), chemical sensors (nose), hearing sensors (ears) and taste sensors (tongue).
Movement. A robot needs to be able to move around its environment. It can move on wheels, walk on legs or be driven by small engines. A robot can move either the whole body or just parts of it.
Energy. A robot needs to be able to power itself. Some robots might power itself with sunlight, some might with electricity, while others with the battery (电池). The way your robot gets its energy will depend on what your robot needs to do.
Intelligence. A robot needs some kind of “smarts”. A programmar is the person who gives the robot its “smarts”. The robot will have to have a certain way to receive the program so that it knows what to do.
1. According to paragraph 1, what can robots do for people?A.Robots can teach children. |
B.Robots can learn by themselves. |
C.Robots can join in competitions. |
D.Robots can do some unpleasant work. |
A.The toy. | B.The characteristic. | C.The machine. | D.The engine. |
A.They can help robots to see. |
B.They can help robots to hear. |
C.They can help robots to smell. |
D.They can help robots to catch things. |
A.Two. | B.Three. | C.Four. | D.Five. |
A.To introduce the history of robots. |
B.To describe the movement of a robot. |
C.To tell what a robot can do in our life. |
D.To help people understand what a robot is. |
The young men of Japan have kite matches.When the kites are flying, the match starts.The young men try to break each other’s kite strings(细绳). The last kite left in the sky is the winner.
1. Most kites in Japan________.
A.look nice with pictures | B.are very small |
C.look like hats | D.are very large |
A.make their kites fly high |
B.draw beautiful pictures on their kites |
C.make very large kites themselves |
D.stop each other’s kites from flying in the sky |
A.fly over the sea | B.fly over the island |
C.return home | D.steal gold |
A.something about the kites in Japan |
B.how a kite match starts |
C.how to fly kites |
D.what the kites look like |
【推荐1】There have been big changes in the attitudes of most parents over the last few years. Physical punishment is banned(禁止)in schools in most countries, and in many countries, there are moves to ban all physical punishment of children even at home. However, many parents still believe that they have the right to use physical punishment to deal with certain misbehavior at certain ages.
It's easy to find reasons to allow physical punishment. One issue is that many parents find it very difficult to give up physical punishment completely. Parents argue that this is the way they were brought up and that it didn't do any harm to them. They believe that they have the right to punish the child in any way they consider fit, including using physical punishment. The other one is that physical punishment can be quick and effective. There is not much point reasoning with a screaming child in the supermarket.
However, there are several reasons why we should stop using physical punishment. One point is that most parents are not trained to deal with misbehaving children. They don't have enough resources or choices to handle the situation. As a result, they immediately react by hitting the child even if there are other solutions to the problem. Another point is that unless people are challenged or forced to change their belief, they may keep following negative habits. An example is the use of seat belts -now most people wear seat belts without thinking, while years ago the idea of using seat belts was strange to most people. In the same way, banning physical punishment will force people to change their habits.
In conclusion, parents have to change some of their beliefs and ideas about how children should be raised. It is possible to avoid the use of physical force, and doing so will help us move closer to the dream of removing violence from our society.
1. According to the first paragraph, many parents think ________.A.most of the children behave badly in their daily life |
B.they have changed their attitudes towards their children |
C.physical punishment is effective when educating their children |
D.they are free to use physical punishment on their children |
A.they are disappointed with their children |
B.physical punishment really works |
C.they were brought up just in the same way |
D.they don't know what to do with their children |
A.most people are used to wearing seat belts |
B.people won't change their old habits unless forced to |
C.seat belts are really very necessary and useful |
D.it's not difficult to change some negative habits |
A.talk about a ban on using physical punishment |
B.tell us we should educate our children in other ways |
C.advise parents to give up using physical punishment |
D.suggest physical punishment should be used only at home |
【推荐2】Have you ever considered buying or moving to a farm? Did you know that children farming and raising animals builds character?
You needn’t worry about your child spending all day inside playing video games.
When a child grows up on a farm, they learn the responsibility of caring for crops or animals. They discover how to understand and feel compassionate toward something that can’t communicate its feelings.
By growing up on a farm, your child learns about responsibility. They learn that they have duty and that they can enjoy their free time when those jobs are done.
Kids who grow up on a farm have a good knowledge of their environment in a way most others never will. They learn how to grow plants and raise animals. They can diagnose problems and come up with solutions. They understand how to use farming equipment and how to work with the weather instead of against it. Those skills open the door to allowing your child to live and thrive anywhere they want.
A.Survival skills |
B.The value of teamwork |
C.Here are some benefits of raising children on a farm |
D.This is a quality that will help them in any social situation |
E.And they get the opportunity to see the fruits of their labor |
F.It’s never too early to start thinking about your child’s future |
G.Instead, your child will be out on the farm working with plants or animals |
【推荐3】Given that most little girls love to dress up as princesses, it is difficult to imagine what might be wrong with that. But one author has written an entire book on how she believes the fairy tale fantasies send a dangerous message.
Jennifer L Hardstein is behind the recently-published Princess Recovery: A How-To Guide to Raising Strong, Empowered Girls Who Can Create Their Own Happily Ever Afters. The child and adolescent psychologist believes that children as young as two are taking away unrealistic ideals from fairy tale books and Disney cartoons that can affect their self-esteem later on.
In her book, Dr. Hardstein theories that traditional stories like Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella promote the idea that if a girl is pretty enough and has fancy clothes and shoes, she find love and popularity. The author refers to this phenomenon as the “Princess Syndrome”
These kinds of messages, she says, have a huge impact on a girl's self-confidence and make it hard for children to understand as they grow up, that intelligence, generosity and passion are more important value. During an appearance on CBS' Early Show, Dr. Hardstein explained: “Girls are getting this message everywhere that. … what their worth is based on is how they look and the things that they have and it's very superficial (肤浅的)”
Her book teaches parents how to let their toddlers (幼儿) enjoy the Disney moves and their teenagers watch figures in reality shows while encouraging a discussion about the messages projected by the media. Speaking on the show she said: “Parents think their kids will understand the messages that they receive all the time but actually they don't.”
As well as warning of the dangers of “Princess Syndrome” her book advise parents how to guide and empower their children from an early age. Dr. Hardstein warns of the influence of toys like Barbie dolls and teenager celebrities who might wear heavy make-up.
Princess Recovery, she assure parents, will bring “balance, confidence, and self-sufficiency into your daughter's life while giving her a modern, energetic childhood.”
1. According to Jennifer L Hardstein, the fairy tale fantasies _______A.are dangerous because girls in them greys up like princesses |
B.are difficult to understand due to people's wrong imagination |
C.enable girls to be strong and empowered like princesses |
D.contain unrealistic ideals affecting young kids' self-esteem later |
A.Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella should be abandoned totally |
B.girls find love and popularity with beauty and fancy clothes |
C.intelligence, generosity and passion are more important value |
D.it is superficial to look pretty and have fancy clothes and shoes |
A.Disney movie's and reality shows should be completely forbidden. |
B.Discussions help kids understand messages projected by the media. |
C.Young children should ' play with toys such as Barbie dolls. |
D.Heavy make-up is harmful for the health of teenager celebrities. |
A.introduce a new term called the “Princess Syndrome” | B.guide parents how to deal with the fairy tale fantasies |
C.introduce and advertise a new book on child raising | D.warning of the dangers of the “Princess Syndrome” |