【推荐1】Remarkable Ways to Push Yourself Harder

Deep inside us, we know that hard work is the key to success.     1     Here are the rules that you can also apply to make yourself work really hard.

    2     Therefore, if you want to be a hard worker, you must practice working hard. Practice waking up early, practice doing a lot of work, and practice working more hours. One day you will wake up and realize that you are a hard worker.

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Many hard workers always have a large purpose that forces them to work. Don’t just think of buying a car or a big house because this is not a purpose strong enough to push you forward. An example of a big purpose is deciding that you are working hard so that you bring change in the lives of your friends, family, and neighborhood. A strong purpose always involves bringing a large positive change in any particular setting.

    4     But if you surround yourself with hardworking people, you will find yourself working hard towards your goal. Avoid friends who just want to have fun all the time. This type of friends will always discourage you when you attempt to work hard. Therefore, always surround yourself with go-getters.

You can also push yourself harder through reading and watching inspirational material.

    5     These materials make you work hard because they remove discouragement and assure you that you will never fail if you push yourself to the limit.

【推荐3】How to Quiet a Complainer(抱怨者)

Have you ever suffered your mother’s complaints about her aches and pains? Lengthy complaints will ruin the quality of your time together.     1     Actually there are some ways to get a complainer to stop without starting an argument.

Change the subject. Some complainers will switch topics if you shift the conversation in a direction that interests them. If your neighbor is complaining about the phone company, tell her about an unexpected call you received from an old friend. If your coworker is complaining about your boss, ask whether he met the new employee.     2    

Summarize the complaint. If your complainer keeps repeating himself, he may stop if you show that you’re listening.     3     Using “I” statements rather than “you” statements show that you’re interested rather than trying to shut the person down. Avoid saying the word complaining. Saying you hear their dissatisfaction gets the points across.

Try to be honest. When you have things to do, tell the complainer that you must cut the conversation short.     4     You can simply be honest, even saying you need to move on so the conversation doesn’t bring you down – especially if it’s someone who’s complained to you many times before.

    5     When it’s someone very close to you–your partner, sibling, or best friend–who stresses you out with a lot of negativity, it’s important to talk about the problem with an open heart. Otherwise, if you bottle up your feelings and continue listening to repeated complaints, you may grow angry or start avoiding the person.