Teens love to argue their viewpoints.
Look at the person. You need to be in person and face-to-face for this to work well, no texting or social media.
Say “I understand how you feel". This starts the discussion off on a positive note. Be sincere in your desire to come to agreement, and admit the other person's right to an opinion.
Tell why you feel differently. Get your “ducks in a row", which means get everything properly organized and under control.
Give a reason. Be sure your reasons are sensible and you can support them with facts.
Listen to the other person attentively. Give the other person time to present his or her view.
Say “thank you for listening”. Sometimes you get what you want, and sometimes you don't, but at least you've had a chance to give your opinion and hear the other person's thoughts, too.
Make sure to practice several times before your child actually needs to use the skill. Over time, you'll find this skill calms things down in your house and equips your teens to navigate differences of opinion wherever they may be —— and that's a win-win for everyone!
| A．Use a pleasant voice. |
| B．Don't act before thinking. |
| C．And always think before you speak. |
| D．However, listen attentively at first. |
| E．Don't interrupt, look bored or argue. |
| F．Teach your teens to disagree properly! |
| G．Instead, wait till everyone has cooled down and is ready to listen. |
相似题推荐
【推荐1】Many people confuse hard-working people with workaholics(工作狂). How could a person tell that he/she is a workaholic? A workaholic works long hours, at the expense of personal relationships and health. When not working, they’re thinking about work. Work influences their mood: when work is going well, they’re up; when work is going less well, they’re down.
Working, or simply being busy, can be a hard habit to break. When workaholics aren’t busy working—or doing something to promote their work—they feel anxious and guilty. They hang onto jobs for dear life and do everything they can to make sure they’re essential.
There is a link between health problems and workaholism. Just because work itself is a respectable pursuit(追求) doesn’t mean that an addiction to it is any less damaging than other sorts of addictions. A number of studies show that workaholism has been associated with a wide range of health problems, such as anxiety and heart disease.
Besides health problems, being a workaholic brings other negative effects as well. A study published in the American Journal of Family Therapy found that working too much negatively influenced an employee’s marriage. This isn’t surprising, since if you’re married to your work, it can be difficult to be married to anything, or anyone, else. There have also been studies looking at the influence of workaholic parents on their children and the news isn’t good. Adult children of workaholic fathers experienced more depression and anxiety and a weaker sense of self.
However, there are also many positive aspects to working hard and to an increasing devotion to career. Hard work can bring great rewards. For many, it’s how they develop feelings of self-worth and confidence and purpose. If you have a workaholic in your life, you might point out the things he or she is missing out on while at work, whether it’s a child’s soccer game, a good book, or a yoga class. Seek to understand why the person feels the need to work so much and support them in finding a solution.
1. What can we infer about workaholics?| A．They put work in the first place. |
| B．They usually have life outside work. |
| C．They often get pleasure from work. |
| D．They win respect from their workmates. |
| A．Bad influences of workaholism. |
| B．Reasons for being workaholics. |
| C．How people deal with their addictions. |
| D．How hard-working people differ from workaholics. |
| A．Force them to join family activities. |
| B．Reward them for their hard work. |
| C．Help them find self-worth and confidence. |
| D．Try to understand and support them. |
| A．Doubtful. | B．Objective. | C．Negative. | D．Curious. |
“I’ll be the first millionaire in Coleford!” Richard used to boast.
“And you’ll be sorry that you knew me,” George would reply “because I’ll surely be the best lawyer in our town!”
After graduation, George never became a lawyer and Richard was anybody but a millionaire …. Instead, it happened that both men opened bookshops on opposite sides of Coleford High Street, while it was hard to make much money from books then, which made the competition between them worse. Eventually, Richard closed down his, dreaming of making a fortune elsewhere.
Now, with only one bookshop in the town, business was better for George. But sometimes he sat in his narrow old kitchen and gazed out of the dirty window, thinking about his former rival (竞争对手). Perhaps he missed him?
George was very interested in old dictionaries, and he had recently found a collector in Australia who was selling a rare first edition. When the parcel arrived, the book was in perfect condition and George was quite delighted. But while he was having lunch, George glanced at the photo in the newspaper that the book had been wrapped in. He was astonished — the smiling face was older than he remembered but unmistakable! Trembling, George started reading: “Bookends Company has bought ten bookstores from its competitors. The company, owned by multi-millionaire Richard Pike, is now the largest bookseller in this country.”
1. George and Richard were ________ at school.
| A．roommates | B．good friends | C．competitors | D．booksellers |
| A．He envied Richard’s good fortune very much. |
| B．He thought about Richard from time to time. |
| C．He felt unlucky with no more rival in the town. |
| D．He was unhappy of Richard’s disappearance. |
| A．a dictionary collector in Australia |
| B．one of Richard’s competitors |
| C．some rare edition of a dictionary |
| D．the wrapping paper of a book |
| A．Both George and Richard became millionaires by selling books. |
| B．Both of them realized their original ambitions, which were the same. |
| C．George established a successful business while Richard was missing. |
| D．Richard became a millionaire while George had no great success. |
【推荐3】Dossantos grew up among the banana trees of East Timor, a state in Maritime Southeast Asia, and never imagined he would work on Australian farms.
Last week he was picking pumpkins (南瓜) out of the rich red Ord valley soils of Ivanhoe Farms in Western Australia’s far north, working with five other East Timorese employees in Kununurra’s 381℃heat.
Dossantos is part of a group of 30 East Timorese in the area for six months as seasonal workers, laboring (劳动) on smaller fruit and vegetable farms that were part of Ord stage one, developed in the 1970s. The men are employed by happy farmers across the Ord valley, many of whom have struggled, in the past with their dependence on not always reliable backpackers to plant their crops on time and pick full-grown I fruit and vegetables.
Dossantos is typical of the group; he speaks little English, has worked on farms in East Timor and wants to earn an Australian salary (工资) for four to six months before returning home late this month as the wet season arrives, to build a better life.
“It’s a good job; hard work and hot but with good money,” Dossantos says. “I work for four months, send my money back to Mom and Dad and then go home; it’s enough to last me for the next six months and then I hope to come back here again to work next year.”
Itis music to the ears of Matt and Melanie Gray, who have had up to 12 East Timorese workers picking pumpkins on their Ceres Farm for the past few months.
Like many growers in the Ord, the Grays welcomed the opportunity this year to employ full-time visiing East
Timorese employees to do most of their continuous crop picking. “It has been a win-win situation; they seem really happy with the work, the money and opportunities it provides them with back home, while for us they provide us with reliability through the season and the likelihood (可能性) that 80 percent will want to come back again next year,” Melanie Gray says.
1. What are farmers in the Ord valley happy with?
| A．The good weather. | B．The dependable pickers. |
| C．The sale of their products. | D．The backpackers’ hard work. |
| A．It should pay more. | B．It is progressing slowly. |
| C．It is not easy but worthwhile. | D．It lasts too long in the wet season. |
| A．The big harvest. | B．The good money. |
| C．The laborer’s positive opinion. | D．The laborer’s returning to East Timor- |
| A．The farmers can offer full-time jobs. |
| B．The laborers can stay in Australia all year long. |
| C．The farmers can grow high-quality fruit and vegetables. |
| D．The laborers can find satisfaction in working in Australia. |
