【推荐1】How to Build Patience Abilities

What’s the purpose of building patience abilities? In a word, happiness. Better relationships, more success. But indeed it takes efforts to build them successfully.     1     Thus, when the big ones come, we will have developed the patience we need for hard times.

    2     We, human beings, are still constructed with our old reptilian (爬行动物的) brain that protects our physical and emotional survival. The urge to protect ourselves and what we consider valuable is absolutely habit-forming. So the first step in growing patience is to get in touch with the addictive quality of the opposite of patience—anger, impatience, blame and shame. We all have them, and we can grow beyond them.

Upgrade our attitude towards discomfort and pain.     3     We try to change the other person, situation or thing that we think is causing our discomfort. But the problem is that it is not the outside thing that’s the source of our pain, but how our mind is set. So the solution to pain is an inside job.

Pay attention when the impatience or pain starts. Most of us don’t really realize it when we are feeling even the smallest—but very present—painful feelings. We ignore the fact that we’re in pain and focus completely on fixing the problem.     4     Focusing on what’s actually happening, you can notice the worry of not wanting what’s happening, the resistance.

Practise positive self-talk. When you find yourself impatient, or angry with yourself, you can remind yourself that you are growing. You can say to yourself, “It’s true. I don’t like this.     5    ”

【推荐1】We all want to be happy. In the pursuit of happiness, we often purchase shiny things, visit new places, and change our appearances, but the truth of the matter is that these small bursts of high excitement cannot last long. We tend to let one simple human necessity slip away: conscious kindness.

Conscious kindness is an act of looking for opportunities to be kind to others and yourself. Usually acts of kindness are performed when the opportunity arises, such as holding the door open for someone and returning an item dropped on the ground to the person walking ahead of us. We call these “random acts of kindness”. In other words, there is no pattern, meaning or plan to focus on your act. Conscious kindness pushes you out of your comfort zone and sends you into the world to deliberately add moments of kindness to someone’s life.

A recent study set out to investigate the effect of a seven-day kindness activity on changes in subjective happiness. It was found that performing acts of kindness for seven days boosted the participants’ well being more than that of the control group who performed no acts of kindness. It’s no surprise that “a positive correlation can be drawn between the number of kind acts and an increase in happiness”. (Lee Rowland & Olive Scott Curry, The Journal of Social Psychology)

When you open your mind to changing the way you see the world, you begin to be consciously kind. To do this, you must begin with yourself. Being kind to yourself first and this is where goodness will be born; the goodness that comes from you can then be shared and spread to those around you. Speak gently to yourself. You become what you think about. Struggling with and dwelling on negative thoughts will only waste your energies.

Then move on to giving conscious kindness to those around you. Realize that behind every face you see on the street is a story you will never fully know. Understand that, overall, people are good, and they just want to live a happy life. Practice being a kind person, and you will be amazed at those who follow you and you will silently influence their lives.

【推荐3】Too many people want others to be their friends, but they don’t give friendship back.That is why some friendships don’t last very long. To have a friend, you must learn to treat your friend the way you want your friend to treat you. Learning to be a good friend means learning three rules: be honest; be generous (宽宏大量的); be understanding.

Honesty is where a good friendship starts. Friends must be able to trust one another. If you don’t tell the truth, people usually find out. If a friend finds out that you haven’t been honest, you may lose your friend’s trust. Good friends always count on one another to speak and act honestly.

Generosity (大度) means sharing and sharing makes a friendship grow. You don’t have to give your lunch money or your clothes, of course. Instead you have to learn how to share things you enjoy, like your hobbies and your interests. Naturally you will want to share your ideas and feelings. These can be very valuable to a friend. They tell your friend what is important to you. By sharing them you help your friend know you better.

Sooner or later everyone needs understanding and help with a problem. Something may go wrong at school. Talking about the problem can make it easier to solve. Turning to a friend can be a first step in solving the problem. So to be a friend you must listen and understand. You must try to put yourself in your friend’s place so you can understand the problem better.

No two friendships are ever exactly alike. But all true friendships have three things in common. If you plan to keep your friendships, you must practice honesty, generosity and understanding.

【推荐1】Holiday activities you won’t want to miss

Here are a few fun and festive ways to spend a day or night off around Los Angeles this holiday season with your friends or family.

Ice skate in Pershing Square

The Bai Holiday Ice Rink opens for business in Pershing Square in downtown LA Nov. 15 through Jan. 21. Attention, Wicked fans: Cast members of the Broadway musical will break the ice on Nov. 15 with a performance, and every following Wednesday will be dedicated to the show with Wicked songs.

Info: Tickets $9, skate rentals $5, lockers $3.

Gaze at the Mission Inn Festival of Lights

The Festival of Lights at the Mission Inn in Riverside attracts 250,000 people a year for a reason: It’s awesome. A fireworks display brings the festival to life on Nov. 23, when 5 million colorful lights lighten the grounds, there to stay through Jan. 6. Walk inside the hotel for more eye candy, which includes artificial snow and a 12-foot-tall gingerbread house.

Info: Free admission, $17 parking.

El Pueblo de Los Angeles Historical Monument

Local singers and dancers will celebrate the lighting of the tree on Paseo de la Plaza near Olvera Street on Nov. 30. Festivals start at 5:30 pm. Once the lights are on, enjoy children’s workshops, face painting and free champurrado (the beloved Mexican chocolate drink).

Info: Free.

Watch holiday movies in Marina del Rey

Catch live music and a holiday movie every Saturday Dec. 15 through 29 at Burton Chace Park. Festivities start at 4 pm. Expect 1950s-style music, followed by winter favorites The Nightmare Before Christmas and Frozen. There will be a heating station, but dress warmly.

Info: Free.

【推荐2】This Cheap Drone Might Be The Best Selling Gift Of 2021

Phone selfies are boring. People aren't doing them anymore and they've become unpopular.

First,there was the standard selfie, then the selfie stick, and now the next evolution of the selfie has arrived!

What Are We Talking About?

It's the new Drone X Pro, a brand new type of drone made so that anyone can fly it. It's perfect for making the ultimate selfies! The Drone X Pro was designed by two German engineers who love drones.They found that the drones they had were very big,heavy and difficult to travel with. So, they designed this ultra-compact, light drone.

How Does It Work?

You have to install an app (just scan the QR code in the manual). It's all very easy. Once you have done that, just plug in the battery, connect to your drone and start up the app. In less than 10 seconds you're ready to fly your drone! The controls are just superb and flying the drone feels natural.

Once you're in the air, it's time to use the built-in camera. You can take the most amazing pictures and videos from otherwise impossible angles and impress your friends with the coolest selfies!

What's the price and good?

They sell it for only $99 (link here),which is tremendously cheap for a drone of this quality! The main benefits of the Drone X Pro are its portability, price,camera and its ease of use.

【推荐1】The five-year trial, conducted by the researchers at the University of Connecticut, followed nearly 600 students from 12 schools in New Haven.

In schools with improved nutrition policies and programs, students had healthier BMI (body mass index) over time. By the end of the study they reported healthier behaviors than their peers in schools without the nutrition policies and programs. Students in schools with support for improved nutrition policies had an increase in BMI of less than 1%. However, the BMI of students in schools without improved support for these policies and programs increased 3% to 4% .

“These findings can provide guidance for schools and communities. Childhood obesity(肥胖)is a serious health threat, and schools are a vital way to reach children and their families to reduce risks and promote health,” said lead author Jeannette Ickovics.

The study is one of the first school-based policy guidance studies that followed students through middle school. “This is some of the most persuasive evidence we have to date that strongly proved that nutrition education and promoting healthy eating behaviors in the classroom and cafeteria can have a meaningful impact on children’s health,” said Marlene Schwartz, director of the Rudd Center and senior study author.

The nutritional guidance in the schools studied included ensuring that all school-based meals met nutritional criteria; providing nutritional directions for students and their families; school-wide campaigns to limit sugary drinks and encourage the use of water; and limiting the use of food or drinks as rewards for academic performance or good behavior.

In the study authors said that more than one in five American teenagers are currently obese, and as many as one in two are overweight or obese. Being overweight or obese early in life affects health across the lifespan(寿命),contributing to a range of chronic(慢性的)diseases that reduce productivity and shorten lifespan.

【推荐2】People think of cats as cute. But research published in a psychology journal calls them neurotic and unstable. Researchers from the University of Edinburgh in Scotland and the Bronx Zoo in New York compared the personalities of domestic house cats with those of four different types of wildcats.

To better understand their personalities, the researchers rated a number of animals’ behaviors on what psychologists call the Big Five human personality traits: openness, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism and extraversion.

Domestic house cats have similar personality structures to African lions. “It's what cats do pretty much on a daily basis, things like being anxious, being timid, being excitable, being aggressive toward humans, being aggressive toward each other," said Max Wachtel, a Denver psychologist who didn't participate in the study. “All of those are characteristics you see in those cute little house cats, and you also see them in lions.”

If you ever thought your cat was anxious, insecure, tense, suspicious or aggressive toward you, you aren't making it up, he said. If they were bigger, they probably would consider killing you.

But the news isn't all bad: Just like lions, house cats are also playful, excitable and funny. They just aren't very predictable. One moment cats will be enjoying belly scratches, and the next they will be biting you to make you stop.

“It is good to understand the personality characteristics of our pets,” Wachtel said. “Different cats have different personalities, but as a species, there are a lot of commonalities."

The researchers also studied personality traits of Scottish wildcats and some other animals. “Across the five species we assessed, personality structure was strikingly similar and also seemed to be related to other studies' findings, such as in tigers,” the researchers wrote in their study in the November 2014 issue of the Journal of Comparative Psychology. But house cats were most like lions, potentially because they live in semi-social surroundings and lions are the most social of cats.

“They're cute and furry, but we need to remember when we have cats as pets, we are inviting little predators (捕食者) into our house,” Wachtel said. “Cats can be fantastic, sweet companions until theyturn onyou.”

【推荐3】Lately, the concerns about bees being endangered have become widely noted among people all over the world, but how to take action about it has become scarce in this age. That’s why World Bee Day exists to educate people about the importance of bees and how they can help preserve them for the sake of the future. If you want to help save these fuzzy insects from extinction, then read down below to learn more about what World Bee Day is about!

World Bee Day corresponds (相一致) with an important influencer in the pioneering of beekeeping. Anton Jansa, who in the 18th century pioneered modern beekeeping techniques in his native Slovenia, was one of the first people to help bring about the importance of bees in the world environment. Since then, beekeeping has become a vital necessity in the world’s ecosystems and economic systems. However, not many people realize the importance of bees or know how to help save the bees, which led to the announcement of World Bee Day through the United Nations.

The United Nations set World Bee Day to raise awareness of the importance of bees. Because bees are under a continuous threat from human activity, including the introduction of invasive insects, pesticides and land-use change, which has continuously been destroying bee colonies (蜂群) over time. World Bee Day helps educate people about the importance of bees and what they do for the environment, which includes how they help grow 90% of the world’s wildflower plants, 35% of the world’s crops, and help build ecosystems all over the world. With these statistics, the United Nations has created various programs all over the world to increase awareness of protecting bees and what you can do to help this cause.

If you’re looking for a way to help raise awareness of bee endangerment, then share and spread the news about World Bee Day through social media. If you’re wanting to do more, find a charity that goes towards bee conservation and donates through there. Start a garden and place in a wide arrangement of fruits, vegetables, and flowers that you know bees would like.