【推荐1】Have you ever wondered why different people react differently to the things you say and do? Maybe you told your parents a story that made them laugh, but found that the same story was upsetting to the kids at school. What caused them to react so differently?     1    

Boundaries are the cut-off point between what a person finds funny and charming, and what they find hurtful and inappropriate.     2     You may not always share a person’s boundaries, but it’s still important to respect them.

    3     That’s why it’s especially important to be a good listener when you’re first getting to know someone. Listening will help you get a feel for the topics they are comfortable discussing.     4     If they become withdrawn when you bring up a certain topic, or they try to change subjects, you may be making them uncomfortable. Then it is better to pull back in the conversation, and let them take the lead for a while.

While many people won’t tell you directly that you’ve made them uncomfortable, some people will.     5     In that case, it’s always best to apologize and correct the offensive behavior. Failing to take a step back can create a lot of discomfort for the people around you. Most people can forgive a one-time slip, but you should avoid making the same mistake repeatedly, which can damage a friendship.

【推荐3】Researchers set up an experiment in which 5-year-olds were tested with their fellows under different circumstances of transparency (透明) and different audiences. They set up a sticker machine that in some settings was transparent, and other settings in which only the giver of stickers knew how many stickers he could give. They had children give out stickers in both settings. The results were striking: children were consistently generous only when the receiver and audience of the stickers were fully aware of the donation options. Children were notably ungenerous when the receiver of stickers couldn’t see the options.

The researchers said, “Children only showed consistently pro-social behavior in our study in the condition when they could see the receiver and their allocations (分配物) were fully visible; in all other conditions, children were statistically ungenerous, giving the receiver the smaller amount of stickers.”

They made the conclusions that at a very early age, children are learning how to position themselves socially. Well before they apprehend the sociology of their networks and what social reputation really means, they think strategically about giving as a function of how they can gain a reputation with a peer as a generous citizen or pro-social agent when the receiver observes them.

Children change their behavior in response to having an audience. Help children give to others in full view, delivering meals to families, and in private, dropping off treats or surprises for those who need support without signing their names. Also, children should be reminded that thank-you notes are lovely but unnecessary to receive. When we give gifts or lend help to others, try to help children remember why—to provide something for another. It really doesn’t have to be recognized. When a thank-you card doesn’t come, it doesn’t make a gift any less valuable or meaningful for those who were lucky enough to receive.

【推荐1】In China, there are so many different languages, cultures and foods as well—different things grow in different regions. Chinese travelers may not be able to travel internationally with ease these days, but they have no shortage of attractive destinations in their own backyard. The 2021 Hurun Report lists the top five domestic tourist destinations.

Sanya— the tropical (热带的) playground on the island of Hainan—is the most popular destination among wealthy Chinese travelers. Referred to as “Hawaii of China”, Sanya attracts visitors with its thick rainforest, sandy beaches, blue ocean and colorful villages of the Li nationality. There, travelers can swim, dive and surf.

Coming in second is Yunnan, whose name means “south of the clouds” . At tropical Xishuangbanna, visitors will lay eyes on rare flowers and herbs. In Dali ancient town, they will explore the unique architecture and culture. Tracing the fragrance of Pu’er, they can learn about how tea has affected Chinese people’s life.

The third and fourth destinations are Tibet and Xinjiang. As a travel destination, Tibet has a well-earned reputation for fantastic Himalayan scenery, ancient temples and Tibetan food. And Xinjiang, China’s westernmost region, is known for its ancient links with the Silk Road trade and Uyghur culture.

Sichuan, the southwest province in China, rounds out the top five. There, lovable pandas always melt visitors, hearts while delicious spicy Sichuan food challenges their taste buds. The traditional culture and a unique lifestyle of Sichuan welcome all visitors.

【推荐3】Are you daydreaming about your next big adventure? New Zealand could be just the place for you, as its amazingly beautiful natural scenery and huge choice of activities mean there’s something to suit everyone. Here are our top activities to inspire you!

One of the most famous glaciers in the world, the Franz Josef Glacier is an incredible sight and the perfect way to experience it is a guided hike. The cool, starry, icy landscape is something different and the ever-changing caves (洞穴), tunnels and expanses also offer some amazing photo opportunities.

Grab a wetsuit and go snorkeling (浮潜) with seals, an unusual way to see the islands from a different point of view. Seals swim in large groups, and are very powerful and graceful in the water, a complete contrast to when you spot them lying lazily on the beach.

A NZ tour would not be complete without seeing some of the jaw dropping landscapes from the famous Lord of the Rings films. The mountains, fields, forests and plains are on an unbelievable scale and certainly something to remember as you can spot over 100 locations used in the films

There’s no better way to ease those aching muscles after a horse ride or glacier hike, than a long dip in a naturally occurring pool. And the best part is that they are beautifully warm, heated by the natural heat below the islands. The water often contains minerals from the rocks it passes through as an added benefit to your skin.

【推荐2】Jeffrey has been homeless since his childhood. He desperately wanted to find a permanent job, but he would hear the same reason from potential employers. “Unless you are able to look neat and clean on the job, you can’t work here,” one employer told him.

Without family, Jeffrey would ask the workers at a local hamburger shop for their leftovers to survive. One day, Jeffrey was looking through the dustbin to look for food outside the hamburger shop when he found a wallet. From the identity card inside it, the wallet belonged to Alan, a small business owner who lived not far from here. Along with his card, driver’s license and some cash, there was also a check for $3000 inside the wallet. “This is life-changing money. ”Jeffrey said to himself. “I could get some fresh clothes, maybe rent a small apartment and finally get a job.”

Jeffrey sat down with the wallet in his hands and decided to think about it. He remembered having asked Alan for some money but was refused. Unlike most people, Alan told Jeffrey he had been sick lately, and that he needed to save money to pay for his operation. Jeffrey knew, he couldn’t live with the guilt of knowing a man would suffer if he took the money for himself. Jeffrey walked a long way to Alan’s house. As he answered the door, Alan was surprised at the visit.

“Hey, Alan. Don’t worry. I’m not here to ask for any money. You dropped your wallet in the trash outside the hamburger shop.” Jeffrey said as he presented the wallet to Alan. Alan began weeping as he held the $3000 check in his hand

“You’re a lifesaver, Jeffrey. My operation was scheduled for tomorrow, and I thought I couldn’t pay for it.” Alan said as tears ran down his face. To Jeffrey’s surprise, Alan gave him a big hug. It was the first hug Jeffrey had received in years.