In this world of email and text messages, you often don't have to actually talk to people,and you might have developed a fear of talking to new people.
Greet then when you see them again. You should use their name and say. "Good to see you again." Mention the previous conversation, and they will respond to you.
| A．Give them a lift to work. |
| B．This is a sign of social anxiety. |
| C．Ask them some simple questions. |
| D．You'd better remember their names. |
| E．Say hello to the people you see every day. |
| F．This is a good lifestyle many people want to have. |
| G．Doing like this can turn a stranger into a new friend. |
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【推荐1】Public health data signals a genuine crisis in adolescent mental health: rising rates of anxiety, depression, and hopelessness. But as we worry about tweens and teens who are struggling, we can’t ignore another mounting effect — the burdens that are shouldered by their friends and peers in an “always on” world.
We have studied teens and tech for over a decade. Their networks are ever-expanding, in no small part because there’s a sense that being nice means accepting fellow requests from acquaintances and friends-of-friends. And it’s not just staying connected — it’s keeping up with what others post, too.
Social media platforms thus make it technically possible to maintain more relationships than we are historically actually wired to track and manage. The result is an overwhelming wave of social information. It’s especially intense for adolescents whose developmental sensitivities drive them to care deeply about what their peers are doing and thinking.
Significant stress comes with trying to be a “good friend” in the age of social media. Friendship requires both public and behind-the-scenes support. Even before a social media post is made public, close friends can be pulled into photo selection, editing, and final examination. Besides, they need to respond in the right way and in the right amount of time, which differs from one relationship to another. Replying too quickly can be seen as over-eager, especially when the friendship is new or not close. But when it’s a close friend, too long a lag (延迟) can be hurtful.
The qualities that are key to building or breaking friendships are actually the same as they’ve always been: mutual (相互的) sharing of joys and sorrows, a give and take of acceptance and support, and an ability to weather and resolve conflicts. But technologies have transformed how friendships play out. Social media increases the burdens that come along with being a good friend. Too often, these dynamics hit teens hard in ways that are lost on adults. And that is what should be changed with the help of parents, schools and other parts of society.
1. What makes teenagers’ networks continue to expand?| A．The pressure to be nice. | B．The requests of their parents. |
| C．The need to meet more people. | D．The burden of living independently. |
| A．Exciting. | B．Challenging. | C．Money-saving. | D．Risk-taking. |
| A．The qualities of being a teen friend. |
| B．The conflicts between schools and parents. |
| C．The relations between parents and their teens. |
| D．The influences of social media on teen friendship. |
| A．Why more teens are addicted to social media |
| B．How teens nowadays gain long-standing friendships |
| C．How social media has made teen friendships more stressful |
| D．What makes teens become more sensitive to their peers’ needs |
【推荐2】Electric devices can seem like a “third party” in some relationships because some partners spent more time on them than with each other.
When Amanda Gao, a 26-year-old white collar worker in Beijing, went to a hotpot restaurant with her boyfriend on Friday night several weeks ago, she expected that they would have a good time together. To her disappointment, however, it did not turn out that later. As soon as they were led to their seats and she began to order dishes, he buried himself in his mobile phone.
“It seemed that his phone was making its way between us. A date that should have belonged to us turned into one where my boyfriend dated a third party and I felt left out.” Gao said. Some people, like her, have found electronics have been sabotaging(破坏) their romantic relationships.
A study, published in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture, in April, 2017, questioned nearly 200 college aged adults who were in committed(真诚的) relationships to report on their and their partner’s smartphone dependency. The results showed people who were more dependent on their phones were less sure about their relationships, and people considered their partners excessively(过度地) dependent on their devices were less satisfied in their relationship.
Lin Yuan, a relationship advisor in Beijing, noted that as more and more electronics come out and spice up people’s lives, they are at the same time becoming a third party in relationships, especially for young people.
Lin said she knew of some people who suggest that electronics should be kept out of bedrooms, which she considered challenging and hard to be put into practice for most couples. She recommended that if people are feeling neglected in their relationship, they need to respectfully let their partners know their feeling. “Communication is always the best and the most efficient way.” she said.
1. What is Gao’s feeling when entering the restaurant with her boyfriend?| A．Expectant. | B．Disappointed. |
| C．Annoyed. | D．Uneasy. |
| A．Gao’s boyfriend must be addicted to playing games. |
| B．Most couples can practice keeping electronics out of bedrooms. |
| C．Partners should communicate more to understand each other better. |
| D．Couples should restrict the use of electronics to avoid possible problems. |
| A．To explain who the “third party” is. |
| B．To stress the importance of electronic devices. |
| C．To make advisors know more about the matter. |
| D．To introduce peoples’ dependence on electronics. |
| A．A third party—electronic devices |
| B．Are electronic devices killing romance? |
| C．Do smart phones ruin partnership? |
| D．Couples and smart phones |
【推荐3】Imagine you made plans with a new friend to talk on the phone. You called but there was no answer-and you didn’t get a call back. What happened? Perhaps they got held up by a work obligation. Perhaps they didn’t want to meet but didn’t bother to cancel. Or perhaps they had a busy week and simply forgot to write down your appointment time.
In social situations like this, our minds can produce various explanations, ranging from ones that are more understanding to ones that put blame to the other party. Psychologists refer to this as our attributional style. Past research has found that individuals with a “hostile” attributional style tend to be less satisfied with their relationships.
According to a new study, they’re also less happy overall. The researchers can’t say for sure whether seeing people as hostile directly lowers our happiness, or whether unhappy people are just more likely to make hostile attribution in the first place. However, this study does suggest the possibility that giving people the benefit of the doubt is a practice to improve our relationships and well-being.
Dorota Jasielska, lead researcher of the study, suggests that we start by developing positive and trusting social relationships. When we find ourselves surrounded by warmth and support, it can help us see the social world in a kinder light. Another important strategy is to have open and direct communication. Instead of letting your anxieties get worse, it may be better to simply talk to people about their confusing behavior.
So the next time a friend cancels plans or forgets to text back, consider giving him the benefit of the doubt and waiting to hear his side of things before jumping to conclusions. Assuming others have good intentions will make the world seem like a friendlier place.
1. How does the author introduce the topic of the text?| A．By giving an example. | B．By asking a question. |
| C．By giving a definition. | D．By telling a story. |
| A．To show an understanding of one’s mistake. | B．To imagine a particular social situation. |
| C．To find out the cause of social phenomena. | D．To make assumptions on uncertain things. |
| A．Finding common interests with others. | B．Making positive excuses for others. |
| C．Improving social communication. | D．Being friendly to others. |
| A．Importance of reaching out and making friends. | B．Strategies for having effective communication. |
| C．Advice on handling confusing social behavior. | D．Methods for improving our social relationships. |
【推荐1】In December 2017, I attended a conference. Five successful women delivered speeches on the topic “Bouncing Back after Setbacks.” As I sat there listening to their many personal and professional mistakes and setbacks, I felt fortunate that I hadn’t made that many mistakes in my own life.
Those women had lost thousands in investments, started companies but failed, sold companies that later ended up being worth millions, and lost partners in the name of business. Despite knowing that they had, in fact, bounced back and were again doing very well, I was starting to feel sorry for them.
Then, as if someone whispered in my ear, I heard the words: “Don’t be so proud of yourself. You haven’t made any mistakes because you haven’t lived at all. Look how boring your life is.” Whose voice was this, and how dare it speak to me like that?
I think, for the first time, I heard my own heart speak. It shook me to my core, and it took all I had to keep from crying. I started thinking of the mistakes I had made. The voice was right. There weren’t many at all. I had followed a straight path for 38 years. I went to school, earned bachelor’s and master’s degrees with honors, and stayed at every job I’d had far longer than it was professionally beneficial for me to do so. In fact, at 38, I had only had three jobs. “The devil(魔鬼) you know is better than the one you don’t ” was my motto.
A quick review of my life made me realize that it was the actions I hadn’t taken that I was suddenly regretting. I hadn’t studied abroad. I hadn’t risked love. In fact, I was perpetually single. I hadn’t started a business. I hadn’t traveled enough. I had said “no” far more than “yes”.
The voice that whispered to me continued to the New Year. It was like it laughed at me. The thought of turning forty frightened me. It’s one thing to be unhappy and unsettled in your twenties, and perhaps even in one’s thirties. But was I going to start a new decade with the same boredom? I needed something to pick me up, some activity I could look forward to.
1. How did the author feel when first hearing stories from the 5 speakers?| A．Regretful. | B．Surprised. |
| C．Lucky. | D．Guilty. |
| A．she hadn’t lived her life to the fullest |
| B．she was deeply touched by the women |
| C．she had nothing to be proud of in her life |
| D．she had made a lot of mistakes in her life |
| A．The familiar devil is more frightening. | B．Saying “no” is better than saying “yes”. |
| C．It’s better to stay within the comfort zone. | D．You’d better change your job more frequently. |
| A．felt afraid of ageing |
| B．traveled abroad a lot |
| C．was married in her thirties |
| D．decided to do something new |
【推荐2】Active listening is a way of communicating that can increase understanding between a speaker and a listener. Its goal is to have an open sharing of ideas and feelings. It shows respect and consideration for the person speaking.
Active listening is very useful for family members. Family members often develop bad listening habits. They react to each other based on what they expect the other person to say rather than on what is actually said.
For example, someone is unexpectedly rude to their co-worker, or seems inconsiderate of their needs. The co-worker might feel hurt, or they might become angry and begin to dislike that person. Active listening can help resolve such problems.
It could be that the rude co-worker was going through a difficult time at home or on the job and was unaware of how bad his or her behavior was. By listening respectfully, another person might learn more about that co-worker’s situation.
Sometimes people do not communicate with those they are close to because they fear the other person’s reaction. Rather than saying, for example, “It really hurts my feelings when you behave like that way”, the partner might say nothing at all in order to avoid a fight.
| A．Active listening can also be useful in the workplace. |
| B．Active listening provides a way to break this pattern. |
| C．However, the hurt feelings remain and can build up over time. |
| D．So the family can be expected to be harmonious. |
| E．You can be sure that co-worker’s problems must all be solved. |
| F．It allows a person to say how they feel about their co worker’s behavior. |
| G．And he also gains that co-worker’s appreciation for their willingness to listen. |
【推荐3】“Have a nice day!” may be a pleasant gesture or a meaningless expression. When my friend Maxie says “Have a nice day” with a smile, I know she sincerely cares about what happens to me. I feel loved and secure since another person cares about me and wishes me well.
“Have a nice day. Next!” This version of the expression is spoken by a salesgirl at the supermarket who is rushing me and my groceries out the door. The words come out in the same tone(腔调) with a fixed procedure (步骤). They are spoken at me, not to me. Obviously, the concern for my day and everyone else’s is the management’s attempt to increase business.
The expression is one of those behaviors that help people get along with each other. Sometimes it shows the end of a meeting. As soon as you hear it, you know the meeting is at an end. Sometimes the expression saves us when we don't know what to say. “Oh, you may have a tooth out? I'm terribly sorry, but have a nice day.”
The expression can be pleasant. If a stranger says “Have a nice day” to you, you may find it heart-warming because someone you don't know has tried to be nice to you.
Although the use of the expression is an insincere, meaningless social custom at times, there is nothing wrong with the sentence except that it is a little uninteresting. The salesgirl, the waitress, the teacher, and all the countless others who speak it without thinking may not really care about my day. But in a strange and comfortable way, it's nice to know they care enough to pretend they care when they really don't care all that much. While the expression may not often be sincere, it is always spoken. The point is that people say it all the time when they like.
1. How does the author understand Maxie’s words?| A．Maxie shows her anxiety to the author. |
| B．Maxie really wishes the author a good day. |
| C．Maxie encourages the author to stay happy. |
| D．Maxie really worries about the author's security. |
| A．The salesgirl is rude. | B．The salesgirl is annoyed. |
| C．The salesgirl cares about me. | D．The salesgirl says the words insincerely. |
| A．try to be polite to you | B．express respect to you |
| C．give his blessing to you | D．share his pleasure with you |
| A．Have a Nice Day--- a Social Custom. |
| B．Have a Nice Day--- a Pleasant Gesture. |
| C．Have a Nice Day--- a Heart-warming Greeting. |
| D．Have a Nice Day--- a Polite Ending of a Conversation. |
